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The art of deception
March 22 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm really 50 😊 it's the new black 💋💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
i have to say have never felt better in all aspects of my life! Maybe that's why I don't need to lie... Looking forward to joining the 'fab & 50 club' too Rubenesque😉
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RHP User
11 years ago
I tried really hard to convince my friends and family that I was going bounce back and forwards between 40 & 39, no-one would have it though, so I guess I'm 41 after all. I also update my photo's regularly and even changed my weight to (gulp) "a little extra padding" after gaining a few kilo's after 4 weeks of laziness, comfort food and drinkies. That's me though, personally I don't see a point in lying, I'd hate to be left standing at a meet because I'd misled someone. I haven't actually met anyone that I believed to be stretching the truth too far, maybe a year or two but I have caught a few out through chatting and photo exchanges before meeting. Hmmm there is no way that head and thick, pasty neck was matching up with that tanned and toned torso.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have been a couple of years and filled in my correct birth date when I joined and damned if the site doesn't keep updating my age. Most people I have chatted to or met seem to have been basically honest about their appearance and and age. The main deception I have come across on here is the self delusion that I'm god's gift to women, and I am expecting to be snowed under with messages sometime soon!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Liars can get fucked. Just not by me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Really? Bring it on! I'll be 50 in a couple of years (turning 48 in May), and I find I'm actually looking forward to it. My twenties was wasted on me, and probably was for most women, because I didn't appreciate just how sexy and powerful I was. I hope it's different for my son's generation of women. I spent my thirties bemoaning the fact that I was 'so old'. What a joke! Then at 40, I turned a corner and it has been the most wonderful decade. Hoping that my fifties will be similar :) But I'm off topic here, apologies OP. To answer the question, I find lying a turn off too. I can't see the point of misleading someone... surely it would lessen your chances of getting what you want whatever that may be, once your lie is exposed? Maybe it doesn't matter so much if its just about the sex. But I'm looking for the connection as well as the sex, so it does matter to me. As Meander put it so succinctly: "Liars can get fucked. Just not by me" Much love, Elle xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
As soon as you meet a person, its pretty obvious. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't think women on here quite realise how hard it is for men to get a rise out of them, and I worked out pretty early on that every year counts. So yeah, I shaved off a few. It was also partially motivated by wanting to enhance anonymity. Repercussions wouldn't be huge if work colleagues found me on here, but I'm a private person and like to keep it that way. Of course, I could have enhanced anonymity by adding a few years, but I'm a liar, not an idiot... A good percentage of the women I've met on here are also fudging their ages a tad. Old photos are also pretty common, although I genuinely believe that's usually because people post them when they first put up a profile and never think to change them. Now that I think of it, mine're almost a year old now. The rest of my profile is legit (except I'm not really called Rick Blaine (and I don't run Rick's Cafe Americain in Morrocco)), but it also obviously omits a hell of a lot info about me. For me, lying about relationship status is an issue, and photos and age would be an issue if they seriously misrepresented someone. But generally I don't consider what someone puts in their profile on RHP to be an iron-clad indicator of their real world trustworthiness. Girding myself for your slings and arrows...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'simple_desires' As soon as you meet a person, its pretty obvious. - Posted from rhpmobile As soon as you meet a woman, it is definitely not always obvious how old they are, and generally very dangerous to guess
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RHP User
11 years ago
... its not always obvious that someone's lying about where they live or whether they're married. My bullshit radar is pretty finely tuned these days but got caught out recently by a lovely man who forgot to tell me he was married with a very young child. I found out through a mutual friend which was embarrassing for him, he's now fearful I might spill the beans about his escapades...Karma at its best 😈
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RHP User
11 years ago
As a female its obvious - soooooo whatever - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
This past week.I met a man who lied about his first name...I became a little suspicious when he looked uncomfortable every time I called him Dan..Finally he admitted that his name was actually Ken.....he seemed rather sheepish about it .He also bent the truth about his marital status cxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
I it was that easy to see through someone's lies, we wouldn't have dozens of forums started by people who were deceived.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I get disappointed when meeting people who are not the age they state, even more disappointing when they use old pics, I don't get why they do it, I'm actually quite proud of my age and condition im in. I'm always enjoying the outdoors and extremely active and fit. I keep thinking they must do it because of insecurities.... Tip
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RHP User
11 years ago
...of a lush, tropical island with an imaginative lover engaging in hours of hot, unbridled sex. I really wanted that beach turfed down to the waterline. That sand shit gets in everything. But i put that up because i didn't want to hurt my chances with the beach lovers. My bad. ; )
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RHP User
11 years ago
A teenage girl pretending to be a middle aged man. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
But deception is really ugly. I would rather say "I'd rather not say" if someone asked me something I didn't want to answer, such as where I work. I have had a few guys give a false name but like Ken, they couldn't hold the lie.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Was that your opinion or just slamming mine? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not in the habit of slamming opinions, but you're right, I should have added "I think" to mine. Sorry for going off topic, OP.
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aussian43
11 years ago
I could change my profile to say athletic and photo shop some pictures. It might improve my chances to meet a lady, but the only action I would end up with would be a slap across the face. (And no, that is not one of my turn one).Better to be honest, even with the age. Cheaters would be a bit more difficult to detect. If they are lying to their wives, they will have no qualms about lying to someone over the internet. And as Meander commented, many ladies on here have been caught up in their drama. I prefer to be honest, even though it cuts down on my chances. Long term will be happier and less stressed.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Elle67' Really? Bring it on! I'll be 50 in a couple of years (turning 48 in May), and I find I'm actually looking forward to it. My twenties was wasted on me, and probably was for most women, because I didn't appreciate just how sexy and powerful I was. I hope it's different for my son's generation of women. I spent my thirties bemoaning the fact that I was 'so old'. What a joke! Then at 40, I turned a corner and it has been the most wonderful decade. Hoping that my fifties will be similar :) But I'm off topic here, apologies OP. ...\I wish my teenage daughters were reading this... must tell them ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
You addressed us specifically, so you werent refering to me? Confusing but ok. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just looked at a new profile claims to be recently seperated and being a financial doctor. I think its a play on words not a doctor maybe a loan broker. Also the female products on the bathroom basin is a bit of a give away. When will some men realise that as women we notice the smaller details. You dont have to be rich or a doctor, just be honest and genuine about your interest.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_silk' the female products on the bathroom basin is a bit of a give away. When will some men realise that as women we notice the smaller details. You dont have to be rich or a doctor, just be honest and genuine about your interest. Some people have daughters.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm sure the financial doctor has a perfectly good explanation for female products in his bathroom Ms Silk, and if he doesn't, he can always make one up 😏
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ElleWould
11 years ago
I don't like being lied to...it throws absolutely everything into question. And yes, if he's lying to his wife who he loves then I can't believe he'd tell me the truth about anything. Oh course...Elle isn't my real name. 😱😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Really? That's a thing? I'm new but I'm surprised people lie cos you're supposed to meet. Won't you be found out then!? Ah well there's plenty of people out there :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
with the obvious things like age, body type and marital status you've gotta be honest. As for area and star sign that's not such a big issue. Some people might be a little paranoid and want to avoid getting spotted by someone they know. It may cause some issues if it's an ex. Just a thought. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
been able to lie but i sort of get why people do since i don't like having to tell my sad, sad story. If i was to put my best foot forwards it would be an ugly, but humble and honest foot. Others simply lie about the foot, making it a size 15 in a windsor smith, when really its an 8 in a $2 pair of thongs. I imagine lots of people think its about getting that foot in the door and then later you can make up for the fact that its got toenails like cashews and a fungus problem (that metaphor just got grosser and grosser as it went along didn't it? ). I've asked before (my first ever post in fact) if my shortcomings are complete dealbreakers and was surprised to find that most of you said they weren't, but I'm still hesitant to own up to them, its embarrassing and i don't imagine it makes a great impression. I guess some who are also uncomfortable with their negatives try to show them in the best light or just straight up lie to cover them. i imagine the pressure on women is even worse, especially with the amount of products available to help maintain the lie.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I read on a friends Facebook status that he was feeling less than a good father because he didn't take his kids to places as they're a farming family.... My response to him was simply this:- "Quality vs quantity.... For some quality means sitting down on the riverbank dropping in a fishing line. For others it's about how much money you spend on the materialistic memories... Everyone is different in what they see to be quality time; so let others choose how their needs are met instead of trying to give them the quality that you think they want, because that's removing a very basic need that everyone deserves. Choice!!!" My point being that there are some that think that they have to be conforming to a mould that the other person expects.... Problem is those that do that are trying to assume the other party's viewpoint....which seems to endlessly fail... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'll be 52 this year. Dont see any point in lying. I have described my body as average because it isn't perfect, I have wobbly bits and wrinkles, so no shocks or surprises when the clothes come off. I haven't met anyone who has lied about their age or had fake photos on their profile but if I did it would be disappointing and I probably wouldn't see them again because I value honesty. .
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think on adult sites such as this, there are some who are not being deliberatly deceptive, but wary - especially in their profile. My info is skewed, because of experiences I've had, where people have found me, and also running into ex's and clients. Who knew Sydney could be so small. Also I never put my real DOB in any website - even facebook. I'm younger than my stated age - I'm sure that's very disappointing. I would agree with a couple of posters above, that age isn't always easy to tell. Sun exposure, genetics, diet and smoking can make marked changes to skin and the appearance of 'age'. Then, there is botox as well. Dastardly stuff
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have had problems with someone attempting to steal my identity. Fortunately they weren't sucessful, but it still took months of me having to proove myself with my banks and a number of government departments. There is no way in hell that I will put my real birthday on any web site. Let alone an adult dating site. I will never list my address or even my exact suburb on any internet dating site. I will list a nearby suburb instead. And I will not put up a photo. As most photos have the date, time and location embedded. My brush with identity theft has made me almost paranoid about my personal data. But be assured that if we meet it will be the real me.
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Forus1234
11 years ago
Were amazed at the amount of liars on this site of late. We always check profiles by doing a google search, of their profile name, most aren't smart enough to change their profile name on other sites, so you can view them on other sites. We made a discovery of a couple that contacted us, the male half straight on this website & bi on the other website & of course their ages different! If they can't be true to others why would you want to be with them! We assume the ones that lie are professional at it & probably aren't people that have been real successful in their lives!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't lie.....well only a little one. I don't give out the exact suburb as to where I live. I don't invite people to my house so it is not an issue. I did have someone attempt to pinpoint my place through the nearby location. I had no idea it was turned on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Profiles are the sales pitch, they need to be fairly accurate but of course poetic licence is going to be used to get noticed. Safety and privacy is an issue, this isn't exactly the place you want your neighbours to see you is it ? and as someone said above, people google you to find out everything about you - nice one. How about you find someone that is attrtactive and then converse with them, assume you know nothing and you have to find out everything thats important. Guess what, your subject suddenly feels good, you are interested in them !!! For the record my profile is 100% accurate and anyone that would like to buy me a coffee can check me out against my photos :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes good idea. 'Find someone attractive and converse with them' I assume you mean physically attractive...The thing is that doesn't do too much for me these days, I find honesty attractive and someone who is open enough to lay it all out on the table attractive..if you're lying upfront how do I know eveything else you say isn't a lie...
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