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The dangers of "just" saying "Hi"
October 02 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
dodged a bullet. I really don't get the cavalier attitude of some women.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Be grateful she demonstrated who she is upfront! NEXT!.........- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yep, what they said.... Although, we are assuming she.... Is a she. You've vented.an up and get on with life...... And say NEXT!!!!! ;-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
PS..... A simple 'hi' is a weak first contact.. It relies on the other person to make more effort in relpying than you did in establishing that contact..... Can you see the irony there? You're a man.... of experience in years.... be unapologetic for being a man who decides to contact someone! DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Never just send a Hi. Or how was your weekend.... It's bloody boring and as a woman how am I supposed to respond to that? I am sick of taking the lead with guys. For me it's an instant no and i send the template response back. As no the women he is referring too is not me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I see a woman who is completely frustrated from receiving messages from guys that appear careless, and without any effort or thought. I hear ya sister!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
we need to look beyond the obvious...as women we can be a bit precious,if a man sends me a message I will reply..flirts I take almost no notice of....you are right OP ''Hi'' can be the beginning of a conversation but may I suggest a simple...''Hi,I loved your profile,particularly xyz''...it tells her that you have actually READ her profile and gives her the opportunity to develop the conversation...or not..Women claim that they are inundated with messages ...some are some aren't..but there is not much sympathy here for the single male who sends out those messages and just how dispiriting it can be to hardly ever get a response.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If all you have to say is "HI", how much should you really expect from the ladies? I hope not much, I don't respond to messages like that, either. A personal greet, with correctly spelled words and proper punctuation catch my attention.That said - you don't deserve having your head served to you on a platter either.I think both of you got it wrong.Hit "Block" and move on!AC x
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RHP User
12 years ago
degenerated into pretty juvenile dribble. Simple 'Hi' messages are boring. I used to get them all the time. I replied with a 'hi' once. His reply was 'whatsup?' I wrote 'You tell me'. He then said his cock. I guess I asked for that.Moral to the story, .... NEXT!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nuthin if not obvious!
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RHP User
12 years ago
That a simple Hi is a weak first contact. I get why you might not want to put in heaps of effort, and a one-liner can be OK if you want to be brief - just make sure it's personalised and relevant to the profile. I agree with others that you dodged a bullet also :) If you can, perhaps don't take it personally. The person is clearly bitter and frustrated by not getting what she (he?) wants from here and maybe even life, and just decided to take it out on you. It's there issue, not yours.
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RHP User
12 years ago
:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
What is a "start a banter going conversation"??To me Banter means taking the piss out of each other?Women do not want just a "Hi" or piss taken out of her straight up.I know it is hard for men on here sending out first contact, it's hard work and does blow the ego.Best suggestion is to read and reread a profile and work from that, and write something in first email about that.FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
I sometimes do that as well. The response usually puts me to sleep. In 3,5 years I think I may have snapped at 3-4 guys. But seriously sometimes it does your head in, and thrown in some wacko hormones and watch out ! ☺️- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
She didn't express it in a very considered, thoughtful or respectful manner but truthfully I think the same thing when I get those hi messages. Somewhere inbetween is about right. There's a thread somewhere about good first messages. In a nutshell- short, sweet and personal... If they say they like to eat out ask what sort of food they like... That sort of thing... Say what you liked about them, why you're contacting them - (they sound fun, you like their arse, you love curvy girls, whatever). You seem like a nice guy so HTH. Good luck!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi is the lamest message ...I agree with DG and the others you are inviting her to what? ....I once sent a message back to a guy whose message was HI.....I asked him to at least put his best foot forward or something to that effect He sent back the rudest message of I am here to fuck not chat so are you up for it?So now if someone sends me hi or can I see your PG I dont respond.......not worth it.And men who want to say its too hard to put in the effort well exactly as I say you get out what you put in. Lessoned learned from the forums not because we have the majority but because if men just have no direct interest it is really apparent.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ok lads...... The women in here are TELLING you how they like to be approached...... they're giving you insights into what they need, and why. OP.... What have you taken on board from this topic and replies to it? ....DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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Beachlover1999
12 years ago
NOTHING......cut off without explanation........just a stone wall and de friended (and I knew this guy real time over months!!!!)........where is there common decency and respect in that I ask........ That's the trouble with online stuff.......anyone can be rude or deletable as they like..........very cruel and unkind......I would never speak (or not) to people like that.....I don't get such rudeness and lack of respect....... DG I think we can all learn........
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your "Hi" will sit in their mailbox with a dozen others, stand out if you want to be at the top of the queue.If you have done your homework you will have read her profile, pick something out of it that interests you and push the button, no need to write a tome, just spark some interest.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yawn. You've been trawling through the pie for hours, waiting, just hoping someone will notice you, even notice that you've looked through your profile, and look back. Something, anything. It's 1am & all thoughts of a burgeoning & intrepid romance have long lost their lustre. Something catches your eye, and yet, any energy for articulate intellectuality and life affirming banter have gone to bed long ago, and your body should have followed. And yet, just a peep escapes. A precious, unpretentious, wholehearted, uncalculated genuine peep. You have done the hard work when you were feeling vital, it shows. Surely she will see the man I am, and the man I am capable of being in my profile. It's is late, I just want to be meek, humble, kind to a fellow human and them to me. Enter stage left, machine gun wielding nymphomaniac. LOL Nothing wrong with saying hi. It's just not common to get too much of a response. Especially one like that :-/
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RHP User
12 years ago
But yes, a message that says just Hi is time wasting. Even if you had said Hi, I really liked your profile and as you are a guest, I thought sending this brief would be a way of opening up a conversation if you like what you read in my profile. I've had guys start a conversation with hi and trying to get more than a 3 word response was like trying to pull teeth. Other times I have said, thanks for your message, please tell me more about yourself and what you are looking for and what appealed to you about my profile. If they can't answer that in more than 3 words I do tell them I don't think we'd be compatible. I had one guy message me a couple of times and his messages were just want a fuck? After the 3rd one I replied, I'll let you know in language you understand . . you bore me silly now fuck off! It worked. Don't be disheartened. There are some women who will respond without the attitude
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RHP User
12 years ago
So that's why you've been resorting to three-word replies :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is hard to establish first contact without scaring people off by coming across too keen but just saying 'hi' or 'how was your weekend' is pretty ... Shit! :p but ladies? What would be a stimulating and interesting way to introduce? Thanks- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Unrushed1' Yawn. You've been trawling through the pie for hours, waiting, just hoping someone will notice you, even notice that you've looked through your profile, and look back. Something, anything. It's 1am & all thoughts of a burgeoning & intrepid romance have long lost their lustre. Something catches your eye, and yet, any energy for articulate intellectuality and life affirming banter have gone to bed long ago, and your body should have followed. And yet, just a peep escapes. A precious, unpretentious, wholehearted, uncalculated genuine peep. You have done the hard work when you were feeling vital, it shows. Surely she will see the man I am, and the man I am capable of being in my profile. It's is late, I just want to be meek, humble, kind to a fellow human and them to me. Enter stage left, machine gun wielding nymphomaniac. LOL Nothing wrong with saying hi. It's just not common to get too much of a response. Especially one like that :-/
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's hard being sexy ALL the time ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'robbo2013' It is hard to establish first contact without scaring people off by coming across too keen but just saying 'hi' or 'how was your weekend' is pretty ... Shit! :p but ladies? What would be a stimulating and interesting way to introduce? Thanks- Posted from rhpmobile There's plenty of wisdom contained in this here thread.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Ok lads...... The women in here are TELLING you how they like to be approached...... they're giving you insights into what they need, and why. OP.... What have you taken on board from this topic and replies to it? ....DG- Posted from rhpmobile I'm listening Sensei ... a lot easier said than done at times. Let's use a current example. Looking for advice from both DG and the ladies please ... I really want to capture this ladies attention - ideas for first email ???Here is her profile content. About Me Hi! I'm a 32 year-old woman. I enjoy slow and sensual sex with an attentive lover who knows how to kiss. People often comment that I am attractive but you need to judge for yourself. I love being outdoors and hanging out on the beach. I am Looking For I am looking for a 'friend with benefits' and nothing more. My Redhot Fantasy I would love to be at a mysterious, erotic masquerade party, with a lustful, imaginative lover indulging in a night of sensual, passionate love-making. I was thinking ... Hi, I really liked your profile. It provides such deep insight into the workings of your mind and provides many clues as to who I will discover beneath that gorgeous exterior. It is uncanny that we appear to have so much in common - I mean what are the chances of finding someone else who likes the outdoors and the beach ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Indef,but I doubt that gorgeous 32year old women NEED to make an effort here...oh unless you are looking for proof of life
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77' Indef,but I doubt that gorgeous 32year old women NEED to make an effort here...oh unless you are looking for proof of life Right you are Freya ... effort is optional when you're a hot young woman ... while entirely mandatory for the rest of us.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Try this....."Hey, you... dirty dirty fembot"
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RHP User
12 years ago
This woman has shown her true colours and obviously has some very serious issues about everything male.Not all women so rude as this and you are better off finding out now. It is her, not you so don't get discouraged.
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