M50

The dividing line

January 14 2018

Let’s be frank, this is predominantly a site that caters for casual sex; it is predominantly full of men with their hand (or dick pic) up saying pick me; and there seems to be a number of people who like chatting - but are not so keen in meeting. For me, it is important to form a connection with the person. If I am going to engage in casual sex, I want it to be with someone who I actually like rather than just a physical receptacle for me to interact with. If that is all it is, it will be quicker and easier for me to simply pleasure myself. So in order to form that connection, I like to chat first. It is with the very clear intention though that if there is a connection, I am genuine about wanting to meet up and have yet to stand anyone up. And out of those chats I have formed some magnificent friends and also divine sexual partners. But we are time poor - and the women and couples on this and other sites get inundated with requests and chats - where is that comfortable middle ground between merely chatting and moving things forward. I appreciate there is a range, with some people quite happy to respond to the ‘do you want to fuck me if I come over now’ v others preferring to engage in some email ping pong.

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RHP User

8 years ago

or other selected places..and just be myself..I put myself out thereand the rest is a numbers game..FAR more successful then ANY dating/sex site I have been on.

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RHP User

8 years ago

Firstly I will be interested in the replies you get I have recently been having this conversation with friends so at the risk of getting slam dunked and acknowledging that everyone is different here’s how it works for me. Yes conversation is in important not just the physical aspect but the mental stimulation has to be there as well. Texting for me is both general and sexting but about 4 days and your heading to FZ (friend zone). Around that time I have found I would need voice contact and a meet within 2 weeks. It is a scientific fact that woman speak on average 20,000 words a day using both left and right sides of their brain vs men who speak on average 7000 words using a small left section of their brain therefore actual talking is likely the key to getting a woman’s attention vs constant messaging. In saying that it’s not for me always a given when I meet someone that there is a physical connection a picture can tell only so much and I’m the type who would rather go without than run the numbers. The second part is the disappearance then reappearing this has happened to me with both guys I have or haven’t met. So 3 or so weeks later you send a hey chit chat - let’s catch up well for me as I recently said to one guy wow way to make a gal feel like a sperm receptical- it’s a common thing where guys think they can pick up where they left off. Personally gets my bitch on. If you can’t maintain your garden don’t expect it to produce flowers. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

I am of the belief and attitude that IF you’re interesting, and IF you’re engaging and IF you have appeal..... then the IFs add up and its a natural progression... a make-sense decision to meet

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RHP User

8 years ago

Actually it has been 3.5 weeks not 3 weeks.bahahahh How you been Sassy long time no chat? KALE ME maybe!

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Rlee552

8 years ago

Yes, that is a mistake I have made myself.

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RHP User

8 years ago

👋 slap - Posted from rhpmobile

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gazpacho

8 years ago

I do meet a lot of people on the forum, but meeting people who are on RHP at venues is much better. Attend the social events. You meet all manner of deviates, and then meet them time and time again at events that have nothing to do with RHP. Like attracts like. I get introduced to like minded people here on RHP. There’s an underworld of RHP participants actually meeting outside RHP as friends. Hardly unexpected. Hardly a revelation, but if all you ever do is chat on RHP and try to use it as a dating service, you’re missing out on something more. Hugs Gaz

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RHP User

8 years ago

I could attend the things outside the site more for the social aspect and meeting people face to face. I have often met people on very short notice and with very little chat. Only because there has been a purely sexual and physical attraction even if it was only a one off. I have also met a few that I can see on a regular basis every few weeks. My preference will always be a regular casual thing than one offs. Each guy I do get the opportunity to chat to or meet is different. So I roll with the punches according to each situation. I don't have hard and fast rules and am pretty flexible as it goes back to being time poor. I have preferences but am flexible with that too as they are only preferences. Yes its nice to build on the mental aspect of it too and build excitement towards a meet but sometimes its just as good having some mystery and excitement without all the usual bullshit expected when you are trying to build rapport. Went into this with no expectations and haven't been disappointed once on a meet.

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RHP User

8 years ago

I've just noticed I've chatting via txt to one guy since 2013 😂😂 OMG. However, he lives in one of my home towns 300kms away and when ever we have tried to meet, shit gets in the way. Funny thing too is, we have mutual friends from days gone by. Other end of the scale is I've chatted to others for only a few hours and then met. Just go with the flow. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

... has changed. I used to like chats and such and would take time to decide if it's go ahead or no-go. Lately, I've been more goal-oriented, a prowling White Tigress - I want and need sex and I want it now, talk after! 🤣🤣🤣 (White Tigresses are legendary Chinese nuns who apparently openly kept male (younger) lovers because they acknowledged that sex had "health benefits" and pptthhh! to celibacy, it ain't gonna happen! 🤣🤣🤣 Sassy nuns who got their priorities right! 🤣 I'm still fussy but if I feel safe, then I really want to cut the crap. I don't want to form emotional attachments, and I want to keep it purely sexual, unless I really like the man which doesn't happen often because yeah... picky and guilty as charged! 😜 Besides, I seldom find truly interesting men who impress me. 😛 It depends on crazy alchemy and chemistry, etc. Some men I don't wanna know well and just want a purely sexual arrangement, others... ahhhh... 😚 I suppose I've got a practical side that likes to call it what it is and nothing more. Strange turn of events... Maybe, my confidence and independance makes me want to cut to the chase and don't even bother giving me sweet words of bs because I can detect it before it even comes out of their mouths. 🤣🤣🤣

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madotara69

8 years ago

Quoting 'sassyone' Firstly I will be interested in the replies you get I have recently been having this conversation with friends so at the risk of getting slam dunked and acknowledging that everyone is different here’s how it works for me. Yes conversation is in important not just the physical aspect but the mental stimulation has to be there as well. Texting for me is both general and sexting but about 4 days and your heading to FZ (friend zone). Around that time I have found I would need voice contact and a meet within 2 weeks. It is a scientific fact that woman speak on average 20,000 words a day using both left and right sides of their brain vs men who speak on average 7000 words using a small left section of their brain therefore ???? actual talking is likely the key to getting a woman’s attention vs constant messaging. In saying that it’s not for me always a given when I meet someone that there is a physical connection a picture can tell only so much and I’m the type who would rather go without than run the numbers. The second part is the disappearance then reappearing this has happened to me with both guys I have or haven’t met. So 3 or so weeks later you send a hey chit chat - let’s catch up well for me as I recently said to one guy wow way to make a gal feel like a sperm receptical- it’s a common thing where guys think they can pick up where they left off. Personally gets my bitch on. If you can’t maintain your garden don’t expect it to produce flowers. - Posted from rhpmobile If you are having this conversation with friends (on the principals differing fact by fact is truth, as to fact by fiction is untruth) In matter of principles where truth is unconditional in a friendship (i'm referring friendship as friends in care of a whole bunch of principles and sense with duty of care, in the best interests and intensions, all to best protect the person and loyalty in respects, A friend to me is as important as I am a friend to him, her, they or them.) In terms of principles, eg; if a friend is being hurt in any way, by principle one answer guides a decision when times come as to the importance care is fundamental, as which every thing else develops, then there is no confusion, black or white, yes or no. My friend is being hurt ? yes.. then I have every reason with meanings by principle to care, a rule unconditional by the best of my abilities but not limited in protecting my friend in harms way, stand by that friend to the time, no my friend is not being hurt. By principles decisions are not always the easiest course of action, sometimes nothing easy of any of it, sometimes selfless as to that friend a person more to me than myself. That quote you mention as fact sassyone, by principle I would suggest you are telling your friends an idea, not a fact. You mentionit’s a common thing where guys think they can pick up where they left off.tellingUnsure what meanings have bought you to the conclusion, however it is an idea that appears more in the interests with convincing a bit of a fluffle I imagine. If you think you know what I am thinking, I'd ask which one of me ? The masculine heart Seeking the strong, tender heart inherent in men. :) Mado Mado Tara xx

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RHP User

8 years ago

I think that is common of women in their 40s? Something about fertility/eggs declining and your body trying to get pregnant before its too late? Or something like that. Or is that not PC to say??

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RHP User

8 years ago

I think it is better to meet face to face early up. Why waste a lot of timing in chatting on line, only to meet and realise there is no spark. Although, even face to face you don’t need to chat long to realise that there is an electric spark that you want to explore. At that point it hardly matters what they say. It’s only after you have indulged in the horitozontal dance a few times and the lustful haze drops from your eyes, that you come to the realisation that...this guy is a massive TOOL! haha

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gazpacho

8 years ago

Quoting 'sassyone'..... It is a scientific fact that woman speak on average 20,000 words a day using both left and right sides of their brain vs men who speak on average 7000 words using a small left section of their brain therefore actual talking is likely the key to getting a woman’s attention vs constant messaging. ....... So 3 or so weeks later you send a hey chit chat - ....Personally gets my bitch on. Just a point of difference, the number of words a woman speaks.... that whole thing is an old joke - there's not a shred of science in it. The husband comes home from work at the end of the day and he has said his 7000 words, sits down to relax.... but the wife still has 13,000 words left to say. As for the chit chat, running an RHP profile is not a full time occupation... I have friends who I havent seen in years because life intervenes. We pick up where we left off. That's how friendship works. Put another way, it sounds like... if a bloke ignores RHP for three weeks .... lol. You think he's not interested in you as a long term partner? This is not logical. Ive run out of words! HugsGaz

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RHP User

8 years ago

Op Angel sassy Apologies I thought your question was asking from point of contact to Meetup how long is too long - I provided my response of that based on my short time here on rhp and just what I have noticed about myself it’s not a blanket response and others would need to contribute their own responses. Gaz Demon sassy The 3 weeks was referring to initial contact to hookup. Purely sexual comment nothing to do with friendship / bonding. And I refer to my above comment to op Not sure where long term partner came in but it’s ok (down demon sassy) save your 7000 words 😂 explanation not required. Spank 🤣 - Posted from rhpmobile

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