The down side?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  yes

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  The swinging lifestyle is not something a couple should jump into. It is a nightmare of monsters at every turn. That horrid green monster call jealousy lurks ready to pounce at the drop of a hat. You must be ready to deal with it if it happens along, and it will. Your partner comes first and if one is lucky and in the thick of it you must be ready to jump up at the whim of your lover, never ignore. Conquer the green monster and as a couple you will have fun, if not then you are in trouble.You will encounter it, so be ready and have battle plans in place. Don't hide its presence, don't deny its existence, for there will be a time when you have to deal with your lover entangled with a sex god and you in some way sidelined. Easy pickings for the green monster. Have seen experienced swinging couples with years in the life style be munched, complacent. Your lover first always, then awesome sweaty, orgasmice, adventure in the land of lust will give you both a confident smirk. IMHO.Best of luck.x

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  Paradisepair

  13 years ago

  But I'd be interested in hearing what problems? Any different to the ones swinging can raise anyway?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  it would be some other scenario, my 2 cents

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

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  On_Safari

  13 years ago

  Whilst the scenario was obviously a turn on there were certain "behaviours" that may have been seen as threatening, even in the heat of the moment. Jealousy is a useless emotion which brings forth the worst in a persons character and can be very destructive. Was interesting to note how both parties in this short story dealt with it. Erotic Stories/Swinging/A Foursome with More Safari

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  People come and go.....and it's nothing personal, it's just their journey is different to our own. Jealousy - in my view - is simply a sign that the relationship between the couple had dramas long before the introduction of a third party or party's.- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  There have been a couple of times where we've disagreed on potential playmates after meeting, but the disharmony was very short lived because we always agreed that we both had to be attracted to take things further.That said, there was once (early in our swinging life) where we met with a couple from another site and the long story short is that I took one for the team. Mr IAT didn't realise as I'd developed a really good online rapport with the fellow in question - I was very disappointed when we met and realised there was nothing there. I thought I could fuck him because actually, I really liked him so didn't mention it to Mr IAT, knowing he was into the lady. But half way through (quite literally), I had to stop because I just wasn't in to him. Needless to say, it caused some 'upset' all round.So yes, Cheeky, I can see how this lifestyle can cause problems if absolute honesty isn't the guiding principle .But, that's it really for us. We quickly learned from our early mistakes. There's no jealously or dishonesty and so long as we stick to our rules, we're all good .

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  what r u on, enough said

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I was invited to join a couple on Good Friday... (Sin is good for the soul :) Really nice couple, things were going really well, but the evening was cut short, because of jealousy. I would have liked to have seen them again, but they've gone to ground. I hope that they can work out their issues, wether they continue to play or not. Hp xo

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  no. our experience says otherwise. no dramas here, but then we established some very basic ground rules that neither of us break...

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  DonnaBrett

  13 years ago

  Nope, not at all. We have been in the scene for around 14 years, it has never caused any problems in our relationship or with our regular friends outside the scene. Almost all of them know what we do, no one has ever judged us or given us a hard time about it...some have even come over to the dark side. We have played with regular friends at times and even though they were just short lived adventures our friendships never changed or got weird when playing stopped. Of course we have met some people in this scene who obviously should not be here but at the end of the day our attitude is if their relationships or situations are that unstable that swinging creates problems for them, well, that's their problem not ours.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  We have a couple of sets of close friends who know what we do and our lifestyle choices - it's all good. There's never been any judgement or issues but having said that, we're careful about who we tell.For me, I hate not just being able to be open about it - why should it matter? But it does and there's little we can do about that.One set of friends even went so far as to open a profile on here too - we had a little very light sauciness a couple of times but it didn't really go very far and was short lived (sadly- he is delicious and I would love to have a go ). Our friendship didn't suffer at all - and that is a happy thing .

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