M44
The last single...
October 11 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Every person I know, including my super hot next door neighbour (dammit) seems to be hooked up. My mates' offsiders continually try and set me up with their friends, who are invariably wildebeest because they say they feel sorry for me. When they say 'Why are you still single?' I feel like saying 'Why are you still married?'. Ha! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is coupled friends who still have a life outside of their coupledom. Those creatures, there are plenty of them, who realise that a healthy relationship is a very open and flexible one.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The few friends I have made since I moved here are all in relationships. I like 10 pin bowling but it's not half the fun on your own.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meet Up groups in Ballarat..Not many but if you join one you might meet another single to hang out with xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Luckily my FWB introduced me to a good friend of his, who is now my movie buddy. She's got no idea where we met, let alone that we're having sex.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's a lonely world sometimes. Most of the ladies I've met have got commitments, so if I'm lucky they come for a sleepover on Sat nite. The Cricket Club is about the only place I socialise, as it's walking distance and there's a few ppl there on Sat nite for a drink. My Ex got all my family and friends. Shit happens. Wouldn't change a thing though. Cheers Paul.
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RHP User
10 years ago
All my family, children included are married/partnered... I have a couple of FB's who are lively and very close to me, but aren't looking for a lifetime relationship, which is my ultimate goal... They both also have children and work, so are time poor... Making me a bit of a shag on a rock. Male friends I'm not so big on. I have a couple of good mates but they too are partnered. I get on much better with women. My studies keep me occupied but not full time busy, so I do find myself at a loose end often... It's not a nice way for me to live... But, I'm sure, when I least expect it, she'll fall in my lap... It's usually how it happens. :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
My FB's are lovely... Not lively. Although that word may still apply, it's not what I meant to type... Lol. Ta - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' Meet Up groups in Ballarat..Not many but if you join one you might meet another single to hang out with xxFreya Yes I know of that site. Started and ran my own group for a few years in Melb actually :)
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MissBishere
10 years ago
I am the only single person. It means I rarely see any of my friends. You know I would even hesitate to call them friends. But then as quite an intense introvert I don't have a very large group of friends or the need to see them very often. to be honest if rather just have a few fwb to cover all bases
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RHP User
10 years ago
Of course most of your friends and relatives are couples. You have to get outside this small group and get involved in other activities/groups. There are meet up groups for everything and anything-find one. I moved here four years ago, I am not from this country, no relatives in Australia, and I'm alone and have no problem finding someone to do things with.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My last good mate got engaged, he & his partner were very critical of my ways & felt I needed a full time G/F etc. In the end I felt like a "conveniant" friend that they only saw when all their couple friends were busy. In the end I diced them too. I'd txt, ring or e-mail & it would take up to a wk to get a response. I'm not bagging my lady friends either, I'm very appreciative of their commitments/situations etc, but occasionally it would be nice to go out on shopping trip and lunch, or sneak away up the bush to a nice motel for a nite. Cheers Paul.
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RHP User
10 years ago
in my circle of friends and social acquintances I am not only the last single, but also the last childless person who is straight. Plus I am not even divorced or widowed so I am def an "outcast" among them.. Having said that I like being on my own, and can always find people to hang out with :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
...but I'm in Perth, and despite that I've been here nearly 8 years, it's far removed from the friend base I'd built before that.It's not a short drive or plane trip to visit friends and family...it's like another country. Because of the work I do, most of the friends I've made are in the same industry...FIFO...and are unlikely to be home at the same time as I. That's life. And so I don't wait on people for anything...to go to the movies, to go for a ride, to go to south east Asia. You can't wait on people, or you'll never do these things. I do have a few single friends here, all made through work...and mostly female...but the friend dynamic is questionable, I think. Lately, one wants me as a phone reference for a job, another wants a male chaperone through the Bangkok nightlife, another wants an independent shoulder to cry on..not one of the inner circle. Is this what it means to be a friend? I don't think so.Fortunately for my own happiness, I don't rely on others to fulfil any of these needs. It just emphasises the difference between friends and associates.
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RHP User
10 years ago
That's great, but believe me, it's a totally different scenario for a 52yr old guy like myself. Check a few ladies and cpl's profiles one day. After 45 we're just "chopped liver". Lol. Every lady I have met and conversed with on here likes me, but that "block" button gets used often for no reason. I've even voted 5 for ladies hot pic's etc, & received a block for viewing their profile. RHP should look at the "serial" blockers and send them a warning, especially if the guy just viewed their profile. Cheers Paul.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Can you take that thing out of my face. Lol. I thought ladies on here don't like "cock shots"? Let me know if it's workin' for ya'? Cheers Paul.
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RHP User
10 years ago
after being married for 10 years. So now that all my mates who were previously single are now married I find myself at a lose end all the time. I kind of like spending a lot of time by myself but I do still need to socialise and I definitely need to find a regular special friend/s.
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RHP User
10 years ago
just fuck buddies
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RHP User
10 years ago
are actually better friends, how many friends give you that much pleasure
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes ' of course you're right... Nothing wrong with friends that scratch the itch.. Being a ex footballer I have heaps of friends simply because that's part of how it all goes but are really more of a acquaintance than blood brothers... We cross paths all the time but in real terms I have a few really good friends. I have one friend who l went to kindergarten with and are still best of mates... So for me it's a few good friends but a lot of aquaintenses ... Just the way I like it... I need my me time in my own world..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Looking through my own lists of people I know..... Long term friendsnewer work colleaguesolder work colleaguescousins ... there is always someone open to hanging out.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' I do have a few single friends here, all made through work...and mostly female...but the friend dynamic is questionable, I think. Lately, one wants me as a phone reference for a job, another wants a male chaperone through the Bangkok nightlife, another wants an independent shoulder to cry on..not one of the inner circle. Is this what it means to be a friend? I don't think so.Fortunately for my own happiness, I don't rely on others to fulfil any of these needs. It just emphasises the difference between friends and associates. You've been "friend-zoned" in the worst way. It's sort of like being a sibling but not blood related :(. They seem to have cut you out of any fun parts of the friend zoning too.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'PL1963' Can you take that thing out of my face. Lol. I thought ladies on here don't like "cock shots"? Let me know if it's workin' for ya'? Cheers Paul. LMAO, PL... That's what I've always thought and maintained... But pop over to the Topic "Are you a profile vouyer?" where I explain the why and what has occurred since I put it up last night... After having a simple face pic for 2 years. As far as 'working for me' goes... It's not clear as to whether the views are interest, curiosity or comparison? Call it an experiment. Cheers Mate...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Actually PL... I'm probably less inclined to like cock shots than some ladies (I know some do like them... I've been asked for them and thanked on receipt). But I really was inclined to think that most ladies aren't all that enthused by such shots... I'll leave it till the weekend (when most people are on) and see if the effect I describe in the other topic continues, or if I get some 'nasty' remarks. (Although I don't see why I would... There are plenty of men who put this type of shot up)... We shall see... (Just cover you eyes when trawling the Forums... LMAO)...
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RHP User
10 years ago
...well actually, if i was friend zoned in the worst way I would have feelings for or be in love with any of these examples 😊. No, it's just disappointing that some friends only get in touch when they want something. They're not really friends then, are they...they're just associates.
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RHP User
10 years ago
FFS Anyway. I have no friends where I live. Moved here with ex 8-years ago, all friends were through her as difficult for me to meet new people to be friends due to profession & conflict of interest issues. Have a great friend in Brisbane, catch up occasionally but 3.5 hrs drive away so not so much, nearest family are in Sydney (14hrs away) rest of friends & family in NZ. I don't mind going out for lunch or a few beers on my own, Difficult to join a club due to work commitments. Still a work in progress though.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think it is rather hard -at least in the Eastern States.. people assume you want something from them - as if it were a long term commitment whereas it is only about being friends..But I think making friends - not acquitances - is hard People are VERY protective of their time -and in my experience- would rather not spend it if there is no "promise of benefit" and it seems -REGRETTABLY- that friendship is just not good enough of a "promise of benefit". OP - go on group tours around Australia! You meet great people, hang out with them, see some interesting things and can make friendships...sadly some of them will be from overseas and as such unlikely to hang out locally for a long time but at least that is friends..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'PL1963' Can you take that thing out of my face. Lol. I thought ladies on here don't like "cock shots"? Let me know if it's workin' for ya'? Cheers Paul. See ! Being a guest has it's advantages
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't really know anyone here other than the people I work with and they all have their own lives outside of that. Everyone else is at least a plane ride away. I guess I got used to it somewhere along the way, going it alone that is - I mean it doesn't stop me from getting out and about doing things I want to do or anything, but it has been weighing heavily on my mind lately.
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RHP User
10 years ago
the only gay in the village eh?? :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Never thought of that, but I guess members do get to see a few nice pic's etc. Muso said the "cock shot" goes by Monday, unless it's successful, so we either won't have to get "poked in the eye" anymore, or we'll all be "snappin' cock pic's" for the profile. Win, Win, I guess? Lol. Cheers Paul.
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RHP User
10 years ago
When we chatted 2yrs ago, you were very focused on your career/business venture, true? Perhaps that has taken a toll on you? Maybe it may be time to let your "guard" down from the past & take a "punt" on somebody you have some trust in. Just "go with the flow", I know you won't let yourself "get burn't". I am no master of relationships, far from it, but I can recognise someone who needs a little "TLC" & some "lovin". Just my thoughts. All the best Kiwi, & keep your chin up. Cheers Paul.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's a nice to have for sure, just not so much the necessity that it's made out to be. Either way, I've chosen happiness in my own right first & foremost regardless. Despite being a loss as to how you got to that from what I said, I think you could have made your point without having brought up prior communication in the process ... jus sayn. I appreciate your thoughts may have been coming from a good spot but please, be advised, I don't appreciate anything of a personal nature becoming public knowledge unless it's something I've chosen to reveal of my own accord.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My aploogies, I thought you had made reference to your business in past forums etc. My very "bad". I won't comment again. I was trying to offer some advise and never meant to expose any of your personal life. Kindest Regards. Paul.
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