M44
The line in the sand
May 14 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Whether they show a little bit of their personality in the message and if they show they actually read our profile not just looked at the pics. I hate the generic messages ... " hi , how are you ?"
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's about a bit of effort. They've read my profile, they reference an interest or comment from my profile. And they say a little about themselves. And if it's nice and normal, I always reply, even if it's a 'sorry you're not what I'm looking for'.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I reply to pretty much all messages. The only time I don't is if I am in a shitty mood and I have read another "Hi how are you" or straight out asking me for a root. Not sure if I ever replied to the guy who simply wrote "I want to suck on your big titties". :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
Always reply to a first message, and usually to a second one too if someone has a genuine question. However, last night I received a pleasant message from someone who did not meet my requirements, so I wrote a nice "Thank you, but..." reply. This morning I received: "It's a pleasure.Would luv to catch up with u even just for a coffee and chat." I replied with another no thank you, and told him I'm not really here for coffee or chat. I promptly received this message: I" would love to meet u for more than coffee and chat with a beautiful and sexy lady like yourself and it would be a pleasure 2 satisfy you from head to toes and back again xxx" I deleted it without responding.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't send many messages these days as opposed to when I first joined rhp. Now I generally only message people with enough substance in their profile for me to actually write a personal message. With this I enjoy about a 50% reply rate, which from discussion with other guys isn't too bad. I don't get all hot and bothered when I don't hear back. That's just the way it is. Occasionally I will remessage someone a month or so later if I see their profile and realise that in the past I had sent them a lame message. This thread was purely about curiosity ;-p
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RHP User
13 years ago
"I mean let's face it, you get bombarded with messages and honestly can't reply to every single one." I'm sorry, but that's bullshit. I have written a very nice template reply thanking someone for their message and letting them know they are not who I'm looking for. Upon reading someone's message to me (even if it's just "hey hows ur evening"), all I have to do is hit the Quick reply button and select my template. Two clicks of the mouse and done. No one tell me they don't have time to respond to messages, that's just a cop out.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If the message is individual and it's obvious that some thought has gone into the preparation. I want to learn something about the man, he needs to pique my interest in some way. A sense of humour goes a looooong way for me. Intelligent comments...ditto. I also have a template for all the stock standard messages, i figure if they don't put any thought into it...why should I?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was attempting diplomacy in not raising anyones ire, in the hope of getting more even feedback from those who do reply and those who don't. I appreciate your comments though :-D
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RHP User
13 years ago
We respond to every single message. Though when we get messages saying "hey how are u", we have replied with just "good" a few times, to see what would happen. Sometimes we got a response, sometimes we didn't. If the person did write back, we would then send a polite "Unfortunately not for us" response. I feel kinda mean now :-) x Ms Shout
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RHP User
13 years ago
I try to reply to most messages that I receive especially those that have put some effort or personality into their initial email, even if it is simply reply saying thanks but you are not what I am looking for. I have even received a number of messages back saying thanks for the reply even thou I said I wasn't interested. I do have a template reply for any messages that I can't otherwise be bothered responding to. Doesn't take more than a click of a button to send a response that way. However if the person sending the messages doesn't take the hint that I am not interested and continues to contact me I either delete without reading or block them!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Am i the only one who doesnt reply messages if im not interested?I find, if i do reply even with a no, they say yes.....Somebody who i now blocked had sent me 6 message to my 1 saying no.I find it easier to just not reply.
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
Real life gets in the way of pleasantries with strangers
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RHP User
13 years ago
answer this one yourself Sam, I am still awaiting a reply from my last missive to you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I love the one I got once well from this one man and it just said Hi....I had to send a message back and asked him why he would waste one of his messages in such a way.......He sent back either chat or fuck off.....well mmmmmm let me think....I didnt bother a come back.I eventually had to block him because he kept checking out my profile and I couldnt be bothered with such a looser.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Recently (in the last fortnight ) I've had the mind blowing pleasure of receiving these beauty's ; * Ever thought of doin it with a couple ? * Want some daytime fun -call me 04- - - - - for a good time ! * Hey , (name ) here, and you ??? Call them what you will (personally I like to lump them into the "WTF ? Hahaha category ")Did I reply to any ? Ummmm ,No . Have I replied to similar msg's in the past ? Yep - If I happened to be in the mood for a bit of a shit stir (or a bite ) i have been known to respond with something like , " OMG- you charmer you ! Sheesh...Seriously I think my pant's just slid clean off my butt !!! No ,No really they did !" There's only so many ways a girl can "Go Fuck Herself " , I soon gave up replying lol. Same time frame , amongst the "WTF ? haha" msgs was this ; " Hi , Your profile doesnt really tell me much ,so i thought i would say hello ,so I could learn more about you " ... Learn more About Me !! Really ? Hahaha... SOLD ! It's quiet simple really (to me at least ) A person that Want's to Know You , surely would make for a better experience ,whether its one meeting and nothing come's of it ,or lot's of meetings and, HAPPY DAY"S ! you end up with a fabulous Fb that Knows what "floats your boat " .. and when , and how - Sans any bullshit. Happy Days indeed ! Of course there is more substance to that msg than i've put here , but truthfully ,one line stating an interest in me as a person ,and Not just as a potential "Notch in some dudes hypothetical belt " is a winner all day long for me - (response wise at any rate ) So, Did I reply ? Oh Pleaase... Er, only like Greased lightning ! ( Who wants to be a notch in a belt anyway ? )
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RHP User
13 years ago
To clarify for everyone else. You sent me a flirt, I sent a polite message thanking you for the flirt and then you sent a closed ended one line message back. I didn't believe you expected a reply to that.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Dacougar, you're also outside the age requirements I set and in your reply you didn't give me access to any pics showing what you look like. Were you really expecting a reply? What do the rest of you think? Did I misjudge this situation?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'perthone' Am i the only one who doesnt reply messages if im not interested?I find, if i do reply even with a no, they say yes.....Somebody who i now blocked had sent me 6 message to my 1 saying no.I find it easier to just not reply. I totally understand the no reply position.No Reply is an answer.But, it says more about you than me.I totally respect a "thanks but no thanks"
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RHP User
13 years ago
if a guy...or a couple even, are messaging us and we've already had contact...and said a polite 'no thanks'...then we are unlikely to respond. if the guy is quite obviously throwing messages about , looking for a positive response..ie 'i'm in town for a few days, thought you'd like to meet/play' etc.....we wont respond. if he/they are obviously not what we are seeking...married guys for example....then we are highly unlikely to respond. just how it is.
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RHP User
13 years ago
TBH, I don't think it's rude if you don't reply. I don't receive a reply to every message I send out, I don't thinks anyone can say they have a 100% reply rate. For me I musts take each message as it comes, if its personal I will generally reply. In saying that I work part time and I run my own business so it ones not leave a lot of time and replying to 30-40 message is not what I want to do at the end for my week. That said I do take the time to read all messages and reply as I see fit.
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RHP User
13 years ago
what a relief,I thought this was about RHP beach volley ball
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RHP User
13 years ago
almost forgot to answer the question.....I never answer the ones that say,....I am available for NSA fun are you interested?''.....or the ones that say.....what are you doing now...want some company.?..come to think of it, I rarely answer any, because I have a long attention span
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RHP User
13 years ago
To send a quick "sorry you're not what I'm looking for". And the guys appreciate even that response.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Responses are usually proportionate to a combination of how much effort was put in to the initial message and how much interest there is in the person who sent it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
There is no rule to what gets a positive response and what does not. Go for it. You can tell if they have read your message and if they have and you have no response then you have your answer. All I can say is try to stand out from the crowd. Be creative and show that you can be bothered to put in a little time and respect at least.
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RHP User
13 years ago
and I am a hairy old man with a brikies crack then I sit at home, in a room full of mac donnalds wrappers and old milkshake containers and I answer my fan mail I love being a chick on rhp it makes my life complete. I work for myself so have the time, but sometimes when life gets in the way I dont get to read my mail for a while,and I would turn my profile off but then I cant get messages from my friends flirts well sorry I dont bother at times, when the person is way outside what i am looking for. sometimes if you try to be nice it backfires on you and then you have to be mean and I dont like to be mean. Better not to encourage someone in the first place. but I have an ego the size of a house, a magic mirror that tells me I am the hottest thing since elle. and delusions of grandure bigger than Ms Gillard and I do message back for those odd few that use my pictures for their own little wank fest..nothing like putting a little happy times into the world break a wrist boys
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'firemansam99' Dacougar, you're also outside the age requirements I set and in your reply you didn't give me access to any pics showing what you look like. Were you really expecting a reply? What do the rest of you think? Did I misjudge this situation? Seems all the signs pointed to timewaster. Fair enough not replying.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If its a "not what I'm looking for" I guess the ego can be a little dented lol, but you soon get past that and appreciate the effort of a reply!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm extremely fussy, so to me, firstly, your message must attract my attention... If you do not attract my attention through your message, I will politely respond with a thanks but not thanks... If you attract my attention in your message, I will read your profile and of course, look at your pictures and have an exchange of messages. One thing that really turns me off are validations and a person who is friends (friends list) with anybody and everybody, even with people they have not met or talked to in much length... Some validations are worth keeping, however, some will guarantee that you may never get laid on this site again :).
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