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The opposite of jealosy

August 20 2011

Far from ever getting jealous of anything my wife might get up to, or indeed anyone she might get up to things with, I strongly encourage her to do what she wants, with who she wants, whenever she wants. In fact I would go so far as to say that I get off on her doing her own thing more than playing with others myself - albeit that’s fun too! The only rules, for what they are worth, are that she should NEVER ask my permission but should fill me in on the details as soon as possible. People are sometimes a bit shocked at this approach but I have a theory as to why this works for us... My wife is a very cute, extremely sexy blonde. She keeps herself in sensational shape (a gym junkie), and certainly has the ability to get noticed by guys and girls alike. We have a sensational sex life together and she is absolutely still my fantasy! But in reality, no matter how beautiful and sexy we might find our partners, there is no way to hang on to the pheromone-driven lust that all of us feel when we first get together. However, when I see someone else ‘hunting’ my sexy wife, or even when I’m told about it after the event, I get to re-experience those lustful feelings by imagining what the other guy was feeling as he tried to catch her. On top of that, knowing that my wife will have sex with whoever she wants without ever considering what I might think, exactly as if she was just a naughty single girl, makes her simply red hot! My question therefore is whether other guys, or girls for that matter, have a similar view of their partners and sexual relationships. Surely I can’t be on my own here...?

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RHP User

14 years ago

I certainly admire your attitude and approach .. I think its beautiful

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14 years ago

tell me you cook as well, or I think I might just cry Lol

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14 years ago

Great as long as it makes you both happy. Don't know if it would be how I would go about it, but enjoy your journey.

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14 years ago

Really? 'But in reality, no matter how beautiful and sexy we might find our partners, there is no way to hang on to the pheromone-driven lust that all of us feel when we first get together.' My Husband and I have been together for 6 years and I still feel this way everyday...And do today! I can't waait to pick him up from work and see him!I know that he could understad your thoughts about likeing other guys wanting your wife, he tells me he loves that, but he contrastingly he LOVES that they can't and I am his. So if this works for you, that is fantastic, I just know that we would never have similar circumstances.

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14 years ago

My hubby and I are exactly the same. :) We trust each other 1000% and have no worries/jealousy in our lives. We're happy and I know that he loves me. I think it's great that you and your wife are like that, because I agree - not a lot of people understand and they look down on it thinking automatically we're unhappy in our marriages/sex lives. Charles_Dickens, in some cases, it's arrangements like this that can sometimes prevent people from infedility, as for me it's about the sex and not scoping anyone out for a prospective relationship. I'm never looking for the next best hubby as I have it right here in front of me, and it's not about what hubby can't do for me, it's about what others can do and make my heart race with excitement all over again for fun... Nothing more. But we're all entitled to our own opinion, after all - isn't that what makes it all so much fun!?

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14 years ago

We were the same, as a matter of fact; the hotter the chick the happier i was. I don't have a jealous bone in my body, now if emotion was to become involved hell would have no fury. Our main rule was no emotion, a fuck is a fuck. Fondness for friends of course, nothing wrong with that. I am a completely emotional FRIEND. His body you can have, his heart is mine..........all of it. xx Kitty

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14 years ago

I do like to know where she is going to be and when and who etc to make sure she is safe and to have an opinion about the man she is meeting. So far I have always approved and she is currently over in the US where she will meet a friend of hers from Uni. She will sometimes say she is meeting someone but doesn't think anything will happen and I tell her to be prepared just in case it does (and it usually does).

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14 years ago

I hope you're wrong too. Cos it sounds to me that the Mr. of the couple being older than both of us might have gained just one or two bits of knowledge about himself and his relationship, don't you agree? He wasn't actually asking for marital advice, but does anyone feel the same way about their style of playing. Speed reading isn't for everyone

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14 years ago

I thought I was just weird though because people don't understand why I don't get jealous. I just don't and it has nothing to do with how much i love my wife. Thanks for the validation!

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14 years ago

Totally agree with your feelings and thoughts on this matter.. We have been together for over 10 yrs and still love each other dearly and have a great sexlife, but it is not the same feeling as it was when we first met. Every now and then she just loves to go out to a club with her girlfriends dancing and loves the feeling of making a guy hard as they dirty dance with the guys in the club. Occassionally she will find one that really gets her going and she may end up playing with him further. Just the thought of her out on the prowl builds the excitment throughout the night and I can't wait to get home (or wait for her to get home) so she can tell me all about it, whilst I slowly f--k her. I understand this type of relationship isn't for everyone but it works well for us as it seems to for you and I for one don't believe it will end in divorce/seperation.

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14 years ago

I think that communication and honesty is the key, as long as both partner observe what ever boundaries that they have mutually agreed it shouldn't be a problem. For those of us that are full swap couples, surely the point is we enjoy watching our partner with another and of course them watching us. If you have that level of trust, another person finding your partner attractive is a real compliment. I definitely understand how the recounting of a story can be very hot, of your partner with another. Even if you have been there at the time

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14 years ago

It's great that this works for you, and you're both having a great time, and for what it's worth, I reckon Charles Dickens is probably wrong in this case, it doesn't sound like it'll cause problems for you.But I do suspect you're over-analysing it. You like it because it turns you on, and that's enough. At the end of the day, all these forums about whether swinging makes relationships stronger or not are probably entirely moot. Couples so it if it turns them on, and don't do it if it doesn't, exactly as we do with all things sexual.

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14 years ago

Hi Charles, 15 years and we're still seriously connected. It actually doesn't cross my mind for one moment that Mrs BB is likely to fall for the 'grass is greener' thing. In fact I would argue that the lack of constraints and 'ownership' in our marraige is a huge positive. It might sound odd but I never have to worry about her being unfaithful :-) Kitty - You put it perfectly. "You can have her body but her heart is mine" (and vice versa :-)

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14 years ago

Thanks Beach, I've often said that there should never be any reason to get jealous unless you feel threatened (and even then jealousy is about as useful as a pocket in a singlet). I've just never had any reason to feel threatened. Sounds very much like you're on the same page :-)

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14 years ago

mr_mrssassy Just the thought of her out on the prowl builds the excitment throughout the night and I can't wait to get home (or wait for her to get home) so she can tell me all about it, whilst I slowly f--k her. Absolutely, there is nothing like the excitement of knowing, or imagining what she might be getting up to! And it is truly mind blowing to be doing her while she tells me how someone else did her :-)

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14 years ago

Quoting 'Charles_Dickens' Quoting 'D_G_T' I hope you're wrong too. Cos it sounds to me that the Mr. of the couple being older than both of us might have gained just one or two bits of knowledge about himself and his relationship, don't you agree? He wasn't actually asking for marital advice, but does anyone feel the same way about their style of playing. Speed reading isn't for everyone DGT - you having a dig at me again..? It's good that he can what he is doing with his wife, if he can do it withoput jelaousy, then good luck to them both.,...but I'm just stating from my observaation, many of these relationships end up in seperation......I have seen it. There is no spite in my part towards the op. But the 'ending of marriage and betrayal' came out of left field Charles, it quite clearly states in the OP's profile that they have been in the lifestyle for 12yrs and as he states himself married for 15. Wouldnt you agree that they would know all about it by now if that sort of thing were an issue for them? And I can tell you it warms my heart to know that there really are couples out there who don't have a jealous bone in their body and simply adore their partners fulfillment, however they choose to find it. After living with a jealous natured person for 13 yrs myself , I can tell you truthfully it's shit !! Now someone who openly adores their partner enough to enjoy their pleasure with them, is a beautiful thing and not one to dredge up the old, "aww you betta watch out' scenario. Basically what I'm saying is, why can't we applaud it instead of try to bring down to another level? Agree?

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14 years ago

Fantastic! Now I can stop searching for the grail. All I have to do is steal it from the OP. Either that or burn them at the stake for daring to possess what the rest of mankind wants ;p

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