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The reality of the effect of porn..
October 12 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pr0n should be shown to all before they enter a club as a DO NOT do anything you see here lol the clubs I have been to were tending to the more mature folk and while they were all getting it out to fap while we played they didn't shove it in anyones faces, but you could see it in their eyes they were hoping lol
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I saw a news clip about T*nder all over my Facebook. A woman met a man, was drugged and gang raped by his mates. It was all pre-planned.. It got me thinking also...Does this relate back to porn?? I don't know?? but it does make me wonder why people go to such extremes for sex and that they can't understand that NO means NO. It actually turns me off meeting people. Is it porn, the sex, the thrill, lack of maturity/education or lack of humanity?? Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I saw a news clip about T*nder all over my Facebook. A woman met a man, was drugged and gang raped by his mates. It was all pre-planned.. It got me thinking also...Does this relate back to porn?? I don't know?? but it does make me wonder why people go to such extremes for sex and that they can't understand that NO means NO. It actually turns me off meeting people. Is it porn, the sex, the thrill, lack of maturity/education or lack of humanity?? Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think porn has nothing to do with men using sexual violence against other people. It's a stragety that has most likely been used since the cave man after all. From my experience it's older married men who don't seem to understand that they can't just touch other people in a swingers club. Its a lacks of understanding of swingers etiquette. In bi-sexual clubs where man act like they are on heat.... I don't know. Maybe their little head suddenly does all the thinking and common senses goes out the window for SoME men.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some argue that violent men can appease that side of themselves by watching porn which means they don't actually go out and commit hose acts of violence themselves. What porn does.... The same was as violent games and the news... Makes you desensitized to certain acts and to violence. Example I didn't know about water sports and I used to thinking fisting was a myth. Now I don't even think twice about those things.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lots of men that "won't take no for answer" will start begging and pleading and trying to argue there way into sex. That is not violent it's just friggin annoying. That is why couples and people get annoyed and frustrated.
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RHP User
11 years ago
is definitely no role model when it comes to how to treat women sexually but I am not sure they can blame it for violent sexual assault. Sure the sex is rough but I have never seen porn that depicts women being drugged, dragged off without their consent or raped. I am sure this does exist somewhere out there on the internet but as far as legal porn, no, it is not widely accepted and in fact illegal. Even bondage and sex together is illegal as is beastiality, scat and kiddy porn as you would expect but it is still widely available out there in cyberworld and it seems there is no shortage of people after it so maybe there is a connection but I would not think mainstream porn is the culprit.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is not about a sexual need,it is about violence ,humilistion,degradation,power and control..men can be victims of rape too but rarely report it..How much does watching porn influence the increase in violence directed towards women,I have no ides but it certainly increases the likelihood of woman being viewed as less than human xxQ
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I don't think Porn as a whole has a lot to blame...I believe there are many things in society to blame. I believe some cultures, religion, core values, ethics and morals, peoples upbringing, technology all sort of things are to blame. Acts of any sort of violence is not OK. I also believe women want to feel empowered in today's society (It's changed from say 20yrs ago), want to be heard and listened to, want the respect and dignity they deserve, and when a woman stands up for her self and she puts personal boundaries in place well- not may people in society like it. I also think that in clubs, people think because when someone (especially a woman) is naked and show their sexual side, they think it's OK to just walk up to someone and they expect a root/shag in return, therefore have no idea about others personal boundaries. I also think before one (especially for new people) enters a club they should watch a short clip on the rules and regulations about respecting peoples personal boundaries...the do's and don't - that sort of thing. Foxy
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' is definitely no role model when it comes to how to treat women sexually but I am not sure they can blame it for violent sexual assault. Sure the sex is rough but I have never seen porn that depicts women being drugged, dragged off without their consent or raped. I am sure this does exist somewhere out there on the internet but as far as legal porn, no, it is not widely accepted and in fact illegal. Even bondage and sex together is illegal as is beastiality, scat and kiddy porn as you would expect but it is still widely available out there in cyberworld and it seems there is no shortage of people after it so maybe there is a connection but I would not think mainstream porn is the culprit. Maybe old school porn, though to be fair we have watched quite a fair amount of new age porn that is all about treating a woman sexually. Home made amateur porn is said to have changed the porn industry as more people are watching people just fucking more naturally and there is plenty of women enjoying it as much as the man. I'm just guessing it all comes down to ones disposition as far as behaviour is displayed. Some may have trouble processing reality from a fantasy, possibly from living in a world of solace to porn and relief it gives. Then thier world of sex may just follow on in the footsteps of beliefs. Not sure if that makes any sence, I just typed it straight from my head. Usually it does not go down so well. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Porn is prohibited in China...... and sexual assaults are highly occurting (under reported?).... so the relationship between widespread porn access and assaults of a sexual nature is at least in China..... not related - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have never had a problem with a guy not accepting no in a swingers club and i am at the pleasure lounge on average fortnightly. If there was a problem you would tell management and the offending guy would be out. And there is porn on in there on 3 Televisions constantly and I have never seen it incite a guy to act aggressively... Xxviolet
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RHP User
11 years ago
The price of baked beans is also rising, perhaps that's the cause. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If someone says no, even if they're fully naked in front of me and I'm as horny as, I wouldn't do anything. I like my partners to have the best experience when I'm with them and forcing it would clearly not help in achieving that. I don't understand how some people think violence is ok.
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RHP User
11 years ago
couldn't find that article online, what channel and does anyone have anything that actually backs it up? they seem like highly spurious statistics to me. According to Aus Institute of Criminology - - Reported sexual assaults have increased by 51 percent since 1995, at an average of four percent each year.- The number of recorded sexual assaults by month is typically highest from January to March and from August to November and lowest from April to July. Though it can't say whether increased reporting is increased incidence, and it does seem like there is increased awareness and propensity to report assaults now versus in earlier years.Interesting on the increased reporting during summer months - is that just when more people are in proximity to each other, or is it something else.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose'Though it can't say whether increased reporting is increased incidence, and it does seem like there is increased awareness and propensity to report assaults now versus in earlier years.Interesting on the increased reporting during summer months - is that just when more people are in proximity to each other, or is it something else. I think it's likely assaults are being reported more frequently, which changes the stats without the number of sex crimes against women actually increasing. Porn that is disrespectful to women has been around for a long time, I don't think it's gotten more violent. I do believe that due to the internet, for the last 15 years or so many more young men have been exposed to (even grown up with) porn's warped notion of what sex is supposed to look like. Most American porn I come across online is still full of women being called b**ch, and having their faces slapped. When at Our Secret Spot, I remember complaining to management due to the extremely unfriendly nature of one clip in particular. Ralf, though violent porn is illegal (didn't about the bondage!), there is a huge market for "rape fantasy" stuff, where women are bound, gagged, dragged around by their hair and they are crying in (fake) terror. These clips interview the women after to show they are just fine, but I still think it's sick shit. Quoting 'Meeka100' Lots of men that "won't take no for answer" will start begging and pleading and trying to argue there way into sex. That is not violent it's just friggin annoying. That is why couples and people get annoyed and frustrated. I agree most are like that, though I've had one man get angry to the point of scary and another try to follow me out. I don't think that's got anything to do with porn though, more with their sense of entitlement because they paid good money to get in.
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
We believe that porn can be a poor role model [obviously depending on the type of porn] as it may teach some men, or make some men believe, that what they see in the porn is a true reflection of what women want, like & need. Just because the woman, in the porn movie, has a smile on her face, seems to be enjoying it and making all the right sounds & moves, does not mean that she is really enjoying it. In many porn movies the participants are high on drugs we have been told. We sometimes enjoy watching porn and will use it to put us in the mood. However this is always the type of porn that is tastefully done, more erotic and geared to female enjoyment - Nubile Films, X Art & Joymii are examples of what we enjoy. There have been many studies that show that porn mixed with violence, tends to lead to violence and sexual aggression towards woman. Its best not to mix the two. Sex should not be violent nor one sided. Sex is about the enjoyment of both the man and woman, sharing the moment. There needs to be mutual trust and respect. It should never be demeaning anddegrading of a woman. We have been to a swingers club in Melbs, around 17 times now, and once even took our own porn for them to play, as they always play the same low budget american crap - the endless in and out hot pink pumping action followed by a cum in the face shot. Why do they have porn playing ? Well certainly to arouse the patrons and to get them in the mood / set the mood and ambiance. Most of us are visual creatures and do get turned on by images - as if not then there would not be porn. If they were playing a documentary about open heart surgery or STI's, that would quickly kill the mood. LOL On those nights that we have been to the swingers club, when single men have been allowed in, its been interesting to watch their reaction to the porn that is being played. Whilst most of the couples chat at the bar and may glance at the porn being shown, now and then, the majority of the single guys sit there, their eyes glued to the screen, almost as if they have been hypnotised. Clearly they become very turned on, some of them even start playing with themselves. Once turned on, it would appear that many of them then lose all inhibitions, control and tact, as their blood flow gets redirected from their brains to their penis. It is then that they start misbehaving. We have noticed 3 types of men, at swinging clubs. 1. You get the guys who lurk in the shadows and passages, watching and waiting for one to walk past, so that they can get an opportunity to proposition one . It could be a one liner such as I have a big dick, or it can be along the lines of I can show you a good time, I can go for hours non stop. Perhaps these guys have been watching the wrong movies and feel that a huge penis and hours of non stop hot pumping action is what most women want and desire? 2. You get the guys who follow you around - from the bar, down the dark passages, to the toilets and back. They are probably hoping for some action along the way. They dont follow the men, but rather the women, and more than likely are hoping that she will want a quickie without her partner/husband or that they can get a quick grope along the way. Often the above, will follow us, as a couple, to a locked room, hoping to get in on the action. If and when we play, even if its just the two of us, it is always in a locked room and it amazes us that these guys will follow us to the room, hoping to get in on the action. In fact if we dont get into the room quick enough, they will try to get in at the same time. And if we dont get the door shut and locked fast enough, they will try to open it and come in. It is quite strange that during all of this they dont say anything, they do it all silently. On a few occasions they have tried to force the door open and on others have tried to climb over the partition wall or just look over it. Quite bizarre. It is not long before they get booted out of the club. In fact if we are followed anywhere, we generally report this to management instantly and the guy then gets booted. No means NO and a zero tolerance approach is the only way that these guys are going to learn. The first time [we have only had 2] a MFMF 4 some at the club, we went into a room that did not have a door. It was just the 4 of us to start with. However within minutes we were surrounded by dozens of people, mainly men with their dicks out. We tried to ignore it all, but they were talking loudly and directing/ passing comment and it was not long before they started groping the women and shoving their dicks in our faces and so we were forced to jump up and go to a room that could be locked. Of course we were followed by the group and had to tell them to f*ck off and leave us alone. 3. The third type of man, is the one that makes an effort to chat to the couples at the bar. He is articulate, polite and can strike up a decent conversation and he is the type of man that generally gets lucky and is invited to enjoy a MFM 3 some, or more, with the couples. He is aware of the other men hiding in the shadows and passageways and shakes his head and laughs that they wont ever be successful as they go about it the wrong way. Clearly many single men, at swingers clubs, have no clue how to behave nor how to treat a woman / couple. More than likely they have learnt by what they see in porno movies. Most seem to think that because one is naked / semi naked, and at a swingers club, that you are there to satisfy THEM and that you will open your legs on their command and that you are a slut and want to be treated like a slut, that their pleasure is everything and that you are just a cum bucket to be used and abused and that if you dont like it, then dont go to a swingers club or belong to a swingers site, such as this. This of course is utter bullsh*t. No one has to put up with it and NO remains NO. And if one goes to a swingers club one does not have to play if one does not want to. Some people go for the social aspect - to chat with others at the bar, to watch the goings on and to then retreat to a private room for some fun on their own. Not all single men, at swingers clubs, are the problem. Its always the few rotten apples that spoil it and make it much harder for the good guys, as now us couples are always on the defensive when guy approaches us at a club as we are always expecting the worst. Perhaps its the fact that guys have to pay a lot of $$ to get into a swingers club that is the issue - it makes them expect some action for their money. The more the club charges, the more the guy may expect. On the flip side of the coin, is that if you dont make it expensive for so called single males to get into the club, then you may attract the wrong types and or be swamped with single men. What we do know for certain, is that single men are the bread and butter of swingers clubs - they make much more $$ on the single men than they do on the couples. Single women and couples are certainly the bait that is used to attract men to the clubs. Women are the honey pots that attract the flies Just look at the % of men on this site, compared to the % of verified couples and females.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've never set foot in such a club, much to my chagrin, but I think you're spot on - 'paid my cash, where's my root?' Dickheads all. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Attitudes in here aren't that different...... if you read some of the messages women receive..... and then go on to challenge or please against their rejection. DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Him: hiMe: I don't think you read my profile as you don't meet my requirements. Good luck.Him: ho
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madotara69
11 years ago
I just searched the whole thread looking for him_and_me's post, thinking WTF have they said too upset you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you.. What you wrote put everything into the right prospective .. A few posters suggested I was suggesting that everyone who watched porn was violent. Not true. ? I used swingers clubs and the dogging post as a sample of how some guys perceive it their right to help themself if a woman is present or naked in either... If a man pays to gain entry to any club' that should not entitle him to anything but that ' ENTRY. ( to the club ) IF he strikes up something that happens to be of interest a woman or couple and he gets lucky, so be it.. not expect sex as his right just because he paid money ? In saying that' I've never been to a swingers club and would never go as a single. If I ever meet a woman with the same curiosity.. thats the way I'd go... I can only presume ' but I would imagine no woman want's sex with a man acting so desperate..
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madotara69
11 years ago
That was a really well thought out post, Jason Leslie. Mado Tara xx
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
Thanks guys. We are just being honest and talking from our experiences over the past 21 months. We have never, in this time, been pushy nor invaded the space of others at any of the parties or clubs we have been to. Those who have met us know that we are a gentle, polite and pleasant couple. But we have had others invading our space, being forceful and pushy and then turning nasty when they did not get what they wanted. It's a pity that one has to encounter unpleasant situations in ones search for hedonistic pleasure. Very off putting for us. Friendships are now our priority - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me'A few posters suggested I was suggesting that everyone who watched porn was violent. Not true. ? I re-read the forum twice and cannot find any statement even alluding to this, or to the fact porn creates violence. What do you mean? If a man pays to gain entry to any club' that should not entitle him to anything but that ' ENTRY. ( to the club ) IF he strikes up something that happens to be of interest a woman or couple and he gets lucky, so be it.. not expect sex as his right just because he paid money ? Well of course, I think everyone would agree with that. The reality is different, unfortunately.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wasn't that your question? You linked porn and the increase in violence in your question. But I don't think anyone suggested that everyone who watched porn is violent. Look at me.... I am meek as a lamb. :p But I do think that there is a link between all those violent video games, particularly the ones the US army pays millions to develop, to the increase with all those kids taking guns to school or seeing shoutoute as a way to resolve issues. That is a personal opinion though. And like violent porn... It's people who lean towards violent behaviour anyway which act on it. Could be anything that sets them off.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Shoutoute should have said shoot outs.
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RHP User
11 years ago
With much gusto ' I stormed back to reread what you pointed out , and you know what ? Left me scratching my head.. A bad case of foot in mouth.... I know the post that caused me to think that but goes to show how things can be to misunderstood if we don't read the true meaning... Chalk that up as Mea 1 - Jay 0
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RHP User
11 years ago
Read the above if you want a answer.. I dont respect anyone who comes in for a swipe for the hell of it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Chalk that up as Mea 1 - Jay 0 Did the counter re-set at 99?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I appreciate that, Jay.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I too don't see porn as the instigator in a rape. Rape is the action of a very angry man. It's not really a sexual act as such, it's more about demeaning and humiliating the non consenting party. I can't help but wonder how much of a difference drugs like ice might be making? From what I've read it makes people very angry and they lose a sense of right and wrong - or just don't give a damn who knows. But a few together, angry and talking shit and then god knows what might happen next? I don't know, it's just a thought anyway.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Combined with with your recent "Second place" comment, this makes it seem you are the one obsessed with scoring here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It'll be ok.
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RHP User
11 years ago
True, but there is still a element out there who through no fault of their own end up addicted to the actions of porn and believe what they see is what women want. Its my belief some guys either through shyness , incompetence or both' never get to know how to meet and treat a woman' become withdrawn and depend on porn for their only release .. If some unstable guy gets turned on by what he presumes is normal.. Who knows ? Again ' Im not throwing a blanket over all men, just the few who lose their way... I believe porn does desensitise and like everything too much is detrimental to a healthy outlook. Just my opinion..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Jay.... I call BS on what you just wrote.... (Id like to believe)... because you wrote what you intended to say poorly. How can it be "through no fault of their own"? IF they're choosing to access the porn...IF they're choosing to watch it...IF they may watch it to 'excess'... again... a choice....And IF they act out the porn-induced educations on another person and that person says no/dont/stop/I don't like it... and if they continue...... thats also a choice they make to not adjust or comply. These people didn't lose their way.They chartered their course. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
FFS... bullshit.. ? The only bullshit is dribbling out your mouth... I suggest you came looking for trouble after Mea put you in your place.... Go away and take it like a man...
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I agree with DG in this case. Claiming there is "an element out there who through no fault of their own end up addicted to the actions of porn" (assuming that with element you mean certain men) is BS in my opinion too. You just said these men are not responsible for getting addicted. I find that a very irresponsible statement.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It makes people respond very..... predictably. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
You know what I meant.. Obviously what I had to say didn't sit well with either of you , mainly because you don't want it to ... Others messaged me re the same so it hasn't gone un_noticed. As far as Mischeivious is concerned.. No-one takes him serious , too silly for words...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I make no apology for my grammar . I was pulled out of school at 14 to help support a struggling mother and 2 younger siblings. So my education was limited... I had a career break in sport at age 18 and never looked back... I don't have a high school certificate, never went to uni, but now run my own successful business and employ 16 ppl. Everything I know was learnt from life itself. ... Uneducated yes'. Dope no ? These days ' I have a very low tolerance for narky ego driven people who think they are something their not... End of Rant..
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RHP User
11 years ago
I knew you'd say that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Jay me it was a joke Joyce. LTFU!
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abcplus1
11 years ago
Stimulating fun, fantasy fun, unrealistic fun, never-happen-to-me fun, best viewed with someone else (or perhaps a couple of someones) who may want to see if it can be duplicated.......... If you regard it as anything else you have taken the wrong attitude to the event.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' But I agree with DG in this case. Claiming there is "an element out there who through no fault of their own end up addicted to the actions of porn" (assuming that with element you mean certain men) is BS in my opinion too. You just said these men are not responsible for getting addicted. I find that a very irresponsible statement. I find it borders on the philosophical "do we have free will" type of predicament described. I don't think there is sufficient body of evidence to establish pornography as addictive. Yet, some people's particular brain wiring may find it such and they may not be aware of that. Is it "their" fault if they view it and become addicted? On one hand "they" are their physical brain and that has formed the addiction and so it is - OTOH if we only consider the deliberate actions of their conscious though process then you might say no, it isn't their fault. The addiction might still have consequences such as bad behaviour that needs to be managed somehow, and it needs to be managed irrespective of whether you consider it an "at fault" situation. (e.g. if someone is a kleptomaniac they need different management/treatment to someone who is stealing for another reason - jail as punitive measure might deter a thief, but better results for the klepto could be some psych treatment)
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RHP User
11 years ago
look the way i understood swinging an such clubs ,is its about like minded couples enjoying an meeting up with others who share the same throughts an outlook on sex , NOT this single guys an single woman in there guys pay ladies free shit , playtime is relaxing time free to enjoy the company of new found friends an renew old friendships not looking over your back
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RHP User
11 years ago
Agree, what you described is how it should be used..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me'Obviously what I had to say didn't sit well with either of you , mainly because you don't want it to ... Others messaged me re the same so it hasn't gone un_noticed. \. I think you are taking this way to personally. I don't believe anyone can accuse DG and I of being each other's support act, but I'm glad you're receiving support behind the scenes.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Including porn.. Interesting story in our local newspaper awhile back. Of all people, a man of the cloak from a local church told his story of his addiction to porn and how he needed treatment for the same. Brave to put it out there like that but he wanted to encourage others to seek help if porn was effecting relationships like it was for his..
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RHP User
11 years ago
That comment is 'patronizing'
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' Yet, some people's particular brain wiring may find it such and they may not be aware of that. Is it "their" fault if they view it and become addicted?On one hand "they" are their physical brain and that has formed the addiction and so it is - OTOH if we only consider the deliberate actions of their conscious though process then you might say no, it isn't their fault. I hear what you're saying. Some people's brain is wired differently and some have an addictive personality where others don't.I do believe in adults there is always an element of personal responsibility though, especially when it comes to a person's actions. A lot of "bad" behaviours are a direct result of addiction (lying, stealing, etc.) and needed in order to keep feeding it. Violent behaviour as a result of watching porn does not serve a purpose in relation to sustaining the addiction though, and I think is a whole different kettle of fish. I hope that made any sense.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting read.. You put a better slant on it than I .. Goes to show its the way its delivered that counts...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' You know what I meant.. Obviously what I had to say didn't sit well with either of you , mainly because you don't want it to ... Others messaged me re the same so it hasn't gone un_noticed. As far as Mischeivious is concerned.. No-one takes him serious , too silly for words... And this comment was what, exactly?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Including porn.. Interesting story in our local newspaper awhile back. Of all people, a man of the cloak from a local church told his story of his addiction to porn and how he needed treatment for the same. Brave to put it out there like that but he wanted to encourage others to seek help if porn was effecting relationships like it was for his.. Porn and sex addiction can be extremely serious and luckily there is treatment and support out there. Addictions like these can be so severe they can actually have the same physical withdrawal symptoms as alcohol. With the stigma attached I've heard of addicts claiming they were admitted to clinics for alcohol or painkillers, because they felt it would be less shameful. I can understand where they came from, too. I still see people snigger whenever a sex addiction is mentioned, like people suffering from it are exaggerating and should get over themselves. (I think that's partly because it's been overused as an excuse for unwanted sexual behaviours like cheating.) Kudos to those who are open and honest about it, to themselves and others.
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RHP User
11 years ago
So obviously you did know what I was saying when you accused me of being irresponsible. ? If you thought my delivery was wrong, you could have just said that... ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Porn is just a visual stimulation, that is basically crap very hard to find content that will hold your attention for more than a few seconds, if anyone believes its real and that's normal behaviour then there's more than a few issues that need to be addressed - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
ON TOPIC..... Yes, there are many people who watch too much porn and become desensitized to the act and the way to engage with sexual partners. Unfortunately it does happen to be men who make up the majority of this group. Commercial porn invariably shows men dictating the action with the compliant woman rarely voicing her desires. So yes, porn can sometimes lead to men behaving in a manner which is mirrors what they see in porn. There are also people who make the assumption that because people are at swingers clubs, or dogging sites, that they will have sex with anyone. It can't be further from the truth; personal choice will and should always be the first rule for engagement with others at these types of venues. Is there a correlation between porn and the behaviour of men at these sites - I don't think it is proven. Wannafilmit - your profile name hints at a particular interest of yours. I am interested how you make a distinction between your interest (if I have indeed interpreted your interest correctly) and your comments on porn films not capturing people's attention for long. Also, whether it is a film with real people engaging in real sex (often known as amateur porn), or simulated action in commercial porn makes no difference - they are all by definition pornography.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's the married men that are there with their wives who are often the pests. Sure some women are totally cool with anyone and everyone touching them and trying to finger them when they are otherwise occupied and that is totally cool. But I don't personally like it. I am not into the free for all thing... But that's just me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Back on topic now, and staying there: Quoting 'kissk'There are also people who make the assumption that because people are at swingers clubs, or dogging sites, that they will have sex with anyone. It can't be further from the truth; personal choice will and should always be the first rule for engagement with others at these types of venues. Is there a correlation between porn and the behaviour of men at these sites - I don't think it is proven. Interesting point though. Whenever I've seen American videos of moresomes or gang bangs, no matter what the women are doing, as soon as a guy comes near, their hands and mouths are instantly all over him. Never would one of them say: "Sorry, I'm occupied for a minute" or "Yeah, maybe not, thanks". If a guy walks up to people having sex in a club and those are his expectations because he views porn as reality, I can imagine he'd be rather taken aback.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If the content is misread , you can twist it to mean something else... I believe this is what happened , But I agree , let's get back to the topic. Seeing I started it , I'd appreciate getting back on track...
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RHP User
11 years ago
BTW... Thats a lovely photo ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't think porn makes anyone do anything they don't lead themselves to... either willingly, or by default. Porn can desensitise, but more importantly I believe it changes peoples physiological response mechanisms.Men, in particular being excessively visual, can train themselves to become an "observer" instead of a participant. This is actually more common than people realise, and this kind of disconnection is often referred to by women outside of RHP, so its not just a case of the site attracting that kind of person. If you play alone, with visual stimulation provided by porn.... you teach your body to respond to that, so when you're in the zone with flesh and blood, you don't respond as you should. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Can we focus on the content of the posts, not the lack of grammatical skills?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do you mind telling your friend I'm a Autodicate ... ? That should do it.?
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madotara69
11 years ago
We have not been there, only read what others have said and some we have spoken with. Doubt porn is the problem with agressive behaviour and more than likely "some" who get loaded on recreational drugs, mixed with alcohol, then confronted with "so we believe" an eye opening thing going on. Some can handle being out of it and some can't. The thing is, the ones who can't handle themselves will fuck up, probably get thrown out, yet they entered in what seemed an acceptable demeanor. Same as in pubs, parties or any other places excitement is the atmosphere. Rip into a lolly bag, pay the entry, 30 minutes later and a couple of drinks, shitfaced, with a waft of cum in the air...... is more likely the reality for aggressive behavior, sexual or otherwise. May believe they are a porn star while in the moment though, with the reason for getting wired. It, surely would be a common thing for these places and patrons to deal with, as it is all a bit unpredictable?
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RHP User
11 years ago
The one about physiological responses,I do think that happens particularly if it is someone's main sexual outlet...I have seen women post here that in fact their partners addiction to porn led them to not being interested in having srx with them....xxQ
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Now can you and Jayme quit beating your hairy/hairless chests and kiss and make up. Sheesh
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are funny.. hahaha
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RHP User
11 years ago
Safari girl,they're not gay...:-) xx
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