F62
The third wheel.
April 21 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Try being a fourth wheel! Lol. You can love more than one person and you can have special fulfilling relationships with more than one person. It depends. If you can give up the notion of "the one" or indeed that there is supposed to be only "one" than I think you can do it. Possessiveness and jealousy need to be worked on but once you realize why you feel that way it tends to go away. You love someone and want them to be happy, this is regardless if they love you back. :) Awww I feel all mushy now. Now why the hell isn't he returning my messages. LOL.
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RHP User
13 years ago
To live with a couple. No I wouldn't do that.
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
Are you talking polyamory? Friends with benefits I could do but the idea of domestics in a 3, 4, 5 way relationship hurts my head. It works for some though, just wouldn't work for me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Do you mean as an equal third partner in a relationship? Or is it more the hidden "other woman"
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think the couple would ways have to put each other first and be the primary relationship. It would be rare, if not down right impossible, to all be equal in the relationship?? Although it would be interesting again if you were sleeping with both the male and female of the couple. Hmmm.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Either or..... as in living together or being a relationship as a "friend with benefits" ...or indeed polyamory.Though not hidden. I am just after peoples thoughts/experiences on the matter.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have a dream of living in a big hippie commune where everyone loves everyone. Possessiveness and jealousy is non existent and everyone celebrates and shares everyone's sexuality. hmmmmm When's bi orgy night again? I couldn't do the third wheel thing, too intense. I have the attention span of a newt.
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RHP User
13 years ago
There's a couple I have known for some months. All three of us have played together, but it's been just him and me more often. We've even been to the couples Club a few times, as she is not interested in going. She is happy with this and has contacted me more than once to say her boyfriend was home alone and in need of some attention. So far this situation has worked for all three of us. I would never want to be more than the "cherry on top" though. (I refuse to say "third wheel", as it implies a relationship imbalance). In a commited relationship I need it to be my man and I, and then the rest of the world.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've experienced a relationship with a FWB that my husband knew about. It lasted 9 months, and was a beautiful time of my life. However it's a fine line indeed when managing the emotions of all three. I've often wondered if i could manage a true polyamorous relationship. I'd be open to trying it, but i suspect it may not be for me. I was struggling to find the right words but Ms Devious sums it up perfectly for me. Quote Ms _Devious - In a commited relationship I need it to be my man and I, and then the rest of the world That's also the reason why i'm not cut out to be the "Other Woman" in an affair.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Polyamorous means relationships with more than one person. Wasn't that your situation? You had a relationship with two men at the same time. There are many different versions of poly relationships isn't there? You don't have to live together or all be in-love with each other.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You mean you want to be exclusive? Or that if you play in groups it's always as a team?
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's interesting to me. Are we born with a possessive or jealousy gene? We have to teach most children to share and to play nice with others in all things except when it comes to the concept of "the one" relationship. The primary relationship you have is not shared and some people even equate jealousy as a measure of how much someone loves them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes i suppose it could be considered that way. I hadn't really considered it in that light as my husband was a cuckold. In addition i had always thought of polyamorous relationships having all parties living under the one roof.....but you are right..that's not absolute. Quoting 'Meeka100' Polyamorous means relationships with more than one person. Wasn't that your situation? You had a relationship with two men at the same time. There are many different versions of poly relationships isn't there? You don't have to live together or all be in-love with each other.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sounds like Utopia! I had a dream recently that there were a group of friends who went on a weekend away together. There were 8 people/couples, all happy to sleep and play together. We would wander between bedrooms, indulging in hours of delightful sex with whoever was already in the bed....... Needless to say i awoke horny! I've since mentioned it to a couple of lovely guys. They think the idea has merit
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'You mean you want to be exclusive? Or that if you play in groups it's always as a team? I'm not sure, because I'm completely new to the swingers scene. But if we were to play with others, I would need my partner and I to be the "lead actors", and the others the "supporting roles". Make sense?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Probably wouldn't work a lot of the time either. I mean how do you decide which bedroom You would sleep in?? In poly situations there is often a primary relationship I think who then bring others into their relationship in various different ways but for it too work the couple would always have to put each other and their needs first. What do you mean about your husband being a cuckold? Is it just looking at the same thing differently? Although I suppose your situation must have had other factors in play.
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RHP User
13 years ago
In a way MsD. I personally would love to meet someone who wanted to play together.. Not sure about the acting roles though. Lol. As long as we are together would be fine with me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
For a few years I allowed my ex wife have girlfriends... sexual and emotional female partners. I would not allow her have a boyfriend at an emotional level, her male partners were strictly FB's or NSA interactions. Why? Is hard to explain without boring the dear readers but it has to do with how I feel about relationships between the sexes and the difference between emotional attraction and sexual attraction. (would be easier to explain over a nice coffee at the beachfront on a late Sunday afternoon with no place better to be) The agreement for the "3rd wheel" in the situations I experienced were all consensual within the boundaries/rules set and all parties knew where they stood. This all worked well until the ex finally came to the decision that she no longer liked men and only wanted to be with women...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' It's interesting to me. Are we born with a possessive or jealousy gene? We have to teach most children to share and to play nice with others in all things except when it comes to the concept of "the one" relationship. The primary relationship you have is not shared and some people even equate jealousy as a measure of how much someone loves them. that I've tried 'the one' relationship a couple of times. I really believed in it. It doesn't work for me for whatever reason. "some people even equate jealousy as a measure of how much someone loves them." wow. I don't understand that. Jealousy is a poo poo attitude, the proverbial wet blanket (that's not the same as the wet spot btw). But who am I to judge?
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RHP User
13 years ago
It encompassed the Femdom lifestyle - with some humiliation, orgasm control, Cuckold lifestyle in every sense of the word. My husband didn't play with anyone other than me, i was free to play with whoever i desired, with his full knowledge and support. He met my lovers on occasion. Quoting 'Meeka100' Probably wouldn't work a lot of the time either. I mean how do you decide which bedroom You would sleep in?? In poly situations there is often a primary relationship I think who then bring others into their relationship in various different ways but for it too work the couple would always have to put each other and their needs first. What do you mean about your husband being a cuckold? Is it just looking at the same thing differently? Although I suppose your situation must have had other factors in play.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yep I got ya. So probably not a poly relationship in the traditional sense. :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
no, the power imbalance being the major difference i think.
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RHP User
13 years ago
That relationships these days are designer....much like religion. I draw this conclusion as religion in my mind IS essentially having a connection with a being that's not necessarily tangible.....it's faith. So in essence it is what you make it to be. Same with relationships. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Invariably in this equation, one person will be trying to spread themselves, their time and attention, over two people. creating a thin spread and allowing each of the two time alone when they may stray from inattention..Ultimate outcomes will eventuate as: Choosing one permanent. Choosing none permanent. Denied choice by desertion..As to why this partial commitment is preferred may be attributable to "Past in someones present" e.t.c.The failings of both and the merits of neither is a real possibility in the end
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RHP User
13 years ago
I cant comment I have never been in a situation like this. However reading this one, there is only one men who wrote his thought on here. Does this mean women are more likely to live this kind of life?
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RHP User
13 years ago
That would suit me fine lol. Get what need have a cuddle talk and then he goes home to his wife and kids to leave his dirty clothes on the ground scratch his bum and kiss both his kids good night and make love to his wife. Seriously though not everyone connects on the same level if i could roll a few men in my life into one i would have a perfect one. This won't happen as we all know so just take each person and each situation as it comes. Just be careful not to wear your heart on your sleeve - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well, Quoting 'Meeka100'You mean you want to be exclusive? Or that if you play in groups it's always as a team? I'm not sure, because I'm completely new to the swingers scene. But if we were to play with others, I would need my partner and I to be the "lead actors", and the others the "supporting roles". Make sense? Having been the invited , I always consider myself the guest who is there to forfill the desires of the couple.. First and foremost' its about them . Their needs are far more important than mine , besides' I am aware their situation is far more delicate, listening to what it is they want is imperitive.. I'ts still good for me whichever way and I never do anything I dont feel comfortable with.. So far good for all... Jay
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have friends that are married and they each have their set of friends and "others" and yet they continue to be married and seem to make it work. I think some get to a point in life where they discover there may not be others like them and therefore they stay together for the fear of not being able to find someone like the other partner. This partner being able to handle the multiple partners scenario, etc.As for myself, I've done the multiple fwb and found that to be a issue with one of the fwb in that we had crossed a boundary and that brought out different feelings, however it was more one-sided as I was quick to pull back. Reason was I'm not really ready for the full on one-on-one relationship. Yes, I would love to be in one at some time, but there are way too many things to consider. One being I do not want to have to deal with the other persons kids. I've been there and done it and I just dont have that energy to do it again.. so this limits the pool of available women... so be it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Changed my mind. If you were seeing someone else for almost nine months and you were close, then I would classify that as a polyamory relationship. At the end of the day we all receive different things from each lover so the fact that your husband was a cuckold doesn't matter because you still could have achieved that with casual hook ups. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I find it strange how many men say when they join a couple it's all about the couple and how the couples needs are more important than theirs. This is really weird to me. I would want it I be either about me or about us not all about someone else. Maybe this is why unicorns are so rare. Don't men want any attention in the bedroom? It's really bizarre and always makes it sound like the guy could be anyone providing a service for the couple. Just the thought makes me bristle with resentment. Must be the way a man thinks??
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Having been the invited , I always consider myself the guest who is there to forfill the desires of the couple.. First and foremost' its about them . Their needs are far more important than mine I have to say that is not quite the case for me. On another forum recently this issue was discussed, and I mentioned I'm not with a couple to be their toy. My profile is clear on equal participation. Still, if a guy chose to join me and a friend and make it all about us, I wouldn't say no. At least not the first time, after that it I'd really want to reciprocate.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Having been the invited , I always consider myself the guest who is there to forfill the desires of the couple.. First and foremost' its about them . Their needs are far more important than mine , besides' I am aware their situation is far more delicate, listening to what it is they want is imperitive.. I'ts still good for me whichever way and I never do anything I dont feel comfortable with.. So far good for all... Jay is that because your needs are fulfilled because perhaps you take your pleasure in pleasing others.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I understand what you mean and I am not saying its wrong, I just find it strange. Why is it ALL about the couple. What about the person joining them shouldn't they be the centre of attention too? That is what I meant about the resentment part. If I received the impression that the couple expected me to pander to all their needs and none of my own... I wouldn't be happy. Or is it because the men that say this are talking about straight MMF? Maybe. I love being the starfish in the middle MsD. You know that!!!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I really really really like being starfish in the middle!!!!!!! I just hope everyone gets that opportunity sometimes. That's all.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I understand what you mean and I am not saying its wrong, I just find it strange. Why is it ALL about the couple. Did you even read my post? It is soo not just about the couple in my book. If I'm in bed with one, I sure hope it's as much about me as it is about them, or I'm not coming back for seconds.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes. Just that you were both saying Jay was being kind & thoughful which I don't disagree with. I was just reiterating my confusion with this mindset. Not saying you personally feel that it's all about the couple. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I see your'e struggling with this.. But no need to. Do you really think I would put myself in a position if there was nothing in for me ? When all' s said and done. I can just walk away But for a couple , particularly the couple who is doing the MFM thing for the first time, have each other to consider which can quite often mean patience and a lil reassurance is needed... I found by prompting them to act on what they have in mind , they become more involved ' relaxed and start using their imagination and let go... Even if they are unsure and want me to get things rolling, by that time they get to this point' they feel part of what's going on anyway...nature does the rest.. So no, I don't miss out on anything really. I find by giving, it usually comes back in a very nice way...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, Must admit it does pleasure me seeing others enjoying them self, specially if I had something to do with it... There's a lot to say for giving.... Jay...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I find it strange how many men say when they join a couple it's all about the couple and how the couples needs are more important than theirs. This is really weird to me. I would want it I be either about me or about us not all about someone else. Maybe this is why unicorns are so rare. Don't men want any attention in the bedroom? It's really bizarre and always makes it sound like the guy could be anyone providing a service for the couple. Just the thought makes me bristle with resentment. Must be the way a man thinks?? Oh good, someone else finds this attitude a bit strange!! There was a thread posted by a single male not long ago, asking for advice about his first time with a couple, and in that thread he reiterated many times how it was all about the couple and not about him at all...that it was their fantasy, and he was only there to help with that etc. etc. It really got me wondering. Yes I realise guys can be very grateful that a couple trusts them enough to invite them to play, and it's great that they want to provide a good experience and not overstep any boundaries, but to my mind everybody's pleasure is important in a threesome situation. I know if I am playing with a couple, I want to give but I do also want to receive....I don't want to feel like my needs aren't important as well....or like I'm just there as a 'toy' for the couple to use as they want... and going by the forum threads I've read on this topic other 'unicorns' feel the same way. I'm sure that single guys playing with couples do enjoy it regardless, but taking the attitude that their only purpose is to please the couple just puzzles me. Is this the attitude that couples expect from single men??
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RHP User
13 years ago
... just saying .........
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RHP User
13 years ago
I asked because from another forum I learnt SOME men do really take pleasure others. if it is good on him as I am sure their are lots of guys who think it is about them....maybe I am wrong?? I'm with Ms D on the subject. I am not a couples new toy. The more I think about it the more my head hurts. So many variables...Think I'll have an SB.
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RHP User
13 years ago
*in pleasing others*
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RHP User
13 years ago
... People can intellectualise it all the like, and throw in a whole bunch of psuedo-psychbabble to try and justify it to themselves, but the simple fact of the matter is that they (or at least one of them has convinced the other) are looking elsewhere for fulfillment - their partner is not longer satisfactory, and they are just staying because its easier to do so, and possibly out of the fear of saying they are, or dealing with being single.There are no variables. No clever ways of explaining it that make you go 'ohhhhhh, NOW i see' - its just some convenient bullshit people use to lie to themselves and their partner because they now want to fuck other people, yet are too cowardly to make the move and go on their own.For me, when I find I'm no longer feeling satisfied, I ended the relationship. Why be a selfish prick and waste her time, or lie to her about how threesomes will spice up our sex life, when it's really just me looking to find another vagina to put my penis in?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thank is a very hard question
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RHP User
13 years ago
So you are saying you can't love more than one person? I have a friend who is married to his wife and has a boyfriend because at the end of the day it is unreasonable to assume that one lover can fulfill all your needs. Well unless you are are plain Jane vanilla when it comes to sex I guess. It's a shame that you feel that there is only one way to have a relationship and that is with only two people and no others. These sorts of traditional family units and relationships are slowly becoming less and less the norm. Relationships are much more than just a penis is in a vagina. Sex for a lot of us are a lot more than just a penis in a vagina. So being a serial monogamist is better than having threesomes? Well maybe for you but your ex-girlfriends might not always agree.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just because you don't understand something or disagree with it doesn't make it wrong. Group sex is amazing but yes it takes a certain type of person to enjoy it. It isn't for everyone. And woman also have sexual needs and wants as well, it isn't always all about you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Lmfao....that maybe YOUR excuse to have a threesome, but for others, it means something completely different. For some, there maybe a partner that has a degree of voyeuristic tendencies. For others, it maybe a cuckolding lifestyle. Whatever the reason, they do it because they CHOOSE to, and if it works for them YaY them!! Who are we to judge, or is it just you that is??- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
What Sirlurk said!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't necessarily think theyre the only way - but the simple fact of the matter is, is that you have some people engaging in 'traditional' relationships, like marriage, and then having boyfriends on the side. the fact that they've convinced their spouse that its ok (or the spouse has convinced themselves), doesn't stop it from being 'having ones cake and eating it' - and I'd be extremely surprised that if you dosed up most of these couples with sodium pentathol and asked, in most cases at least one of the parties in each couple didn't back me up. extremely surprised.I'm not judging, or telling anyone what they should and shouldnt be doing - if theyre happy, awesome, and noone (on the surface) is getting hurt, but I honestly think that in calling a spade a spade on this issue, the reality is that in many of these situations there not a great deal of truth being passed around.Part of my job is to provide some really good shittalk, face to face and in the written word - as a result, im generally fairly accurate in spotting other's bullshit (i.e. never shit a shitter), and every time i read things like this, my bullshit sense tingles.As for threesomes, and my enjoyment of such, well - that's my business. unless youre offering. haha.
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RHP User
13 years ago
There are so many different dynamcis in relationships such as needs, wants and desires to name a few therefore I think to that to have a one eyed view is very naive. (each to their own of course and this is just my opinion)Innerwest....Do you think you are yourself in search of a better understanding of your own sexuality however you only have knowledge in the theory sense and not in the practical sense? Just asking? I know when I was on a quest to understand my sexuality better there were forum topics I just couldn't gell with however rather than be naive I put my ass out there for a clearer understanding. (literally ;-))I believe poly........ relationships can work and do work.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' There are so many different dynamcis in relationships such as needs, wants and desires to name a few therefore I think to that to have a one eyed view is very naive. (each to their own of course and this is just my opinion)Innerwest....Do you think you are yourself in search of a better understanding of your own sexuality however you only have knowledge in the theory sense and not in the practical sense? Just asking? I know when I was on a quest to understand my sexuality better there were forum topics I just couldn't gell with however rather than be naive I put my ass out there for a clearer understanding. (literally ;-))I believe poly........ relationships can work and do work. Thats a fair question, and my honest response is that I am genuinely comfortable with my sexuality. There are some things id like to explore further, but I am confident with my reasons to do so, and again to be honest, could happily live without if the opportunity doesn't come up in the right way. My comments above are not about my disapproval or anything similar - its about me calling bullshit on something that, after reading about, I think is bullshit.reading the posts of other people on this post, and elsewhere, all these sexually 'enlightened states of being' (to put it one way) seem to involve a whole lot of arbitrary rules and jargon,in order for them to apparently 'work'. When you're having to employ a whole bunch of rules, youre playing a game. the game may be fun, and you might be enjoying it, but dont get too hasty in thinking of it as anything other than that.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Me personally could never be the third wheel , for the simple reason, i feel i am worth more than that.If the man in question has a family , which most do.. It maybe out there with his wife, but i doubt kids , extended family would know... Then you become the " dirty little secret " or " the friend that comes over alot ".I want to come first... and no reason why i shouldnt.I was once offered or should i say " given a proposal " of the same scenario ...When i said No and my reasons for that... i was told.... " i cant give you what you want", they come first...( and so they should by the way ).I think the person , or cpl looking for this sort relationship, are selfish , its not about you , or wants , your needs, your feelings.... its all about them..And then what happens when it becomes all to hard ?I know of two cpls that have had these relationships... both times ended in tearsas eventually one wheel is left on the side of the road.....Just my thoughts... xxxxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'd be interested iin your opinion on cuckolding then? Often it is the male partner who has the fantasy about cuckolding and yet he doesn't play with other people at all? That doesn't seem to fit with your theory? Quoting 'innerwest123'... People can intellectualise it all the like, and throw in a whole bunch of psuedo-psychbabble to try and justify it to themselves, but the simple fact of the matter is that they (or at least one of them has convinced the other) are looking elsewhere for fulfillment - their partner is not longer satisfactory, and they are just staying because its easier to do so, and possibly out of the fear of saying they are, or dealing with being single. There are no variables. No clever ways of explaining it that make you go 'ohhhhhh, NOW i see' - its just some convenient bullshit people use to lie to themselves and their partner because they now want to fuck other people, yet are too cowardly to make the move and go on their own. For me, when I find I'm no longer feeling satisfied, I ended the relationship. Why be a selfish prick and waste her time, or lie to her about how threesomes will spice up our sex life, when it's really just me looking to find another vagina to put my penis in?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Come on! All couples have rules and regs and compromises. It's called a relationship. Look if you are very traditional and conservative good luck to you. Luckily not all of us feel the same way. ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't think he has a theory. Just that you are supposed to love one person at a time. The fairy tale story that there is only one person who can satisfy you. Its a cultural thing in most western cultures. Just a social norm taught to us not necessarily a true state of how people can be.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I dont see myself as anyone's toy and I'm smart enough to sense anyone who thinks they could use me . So trying to take advantage of me is done at your own peril...I believe giving has it's own rewards and cant believe the few that cant get a grip on that.. Surely its not all about only what you get out of it.. ? Ever given a gift to someone who doesnt expect it. ? and I'm not talking sex here.. Watch their eyes light up and feel their energy... This is the type of energy I draw from.. it's nice and it's genuine.. Innerwest.. I sense a strong sense of anger in your post.. I dont know what experiences have made you so angry. But I found what you had to say quite aggressive towards ppl you dont even know.. Your suggestion that everyone else is talking through their arse is well outta kilter... Just my observation...
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RHP User
13 years ago
You can call people you have never met on their bullshit can you? How lovely for you and incredibly arrogant. From where I am sitting it appears that you can see no further than your own opinion actually. Again if you think it can't work that's fine. Same as all those divorces happening for the traditional relationships. Monogamy is a choice you have made.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Never shit a shitter eh?? Lol Ok YOUR reality is yours....the COUPLES reality is theirs....if the relationship is healthy, equal etc. what makes you think that it wasn't BOTH husband AND wife's decision to play TOGETHER??? Without the malicious manipulation that you speak of??- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' You can call people you have never met on their bullshit can you? How lovely for you and incredibly arrogant. From where I am sitting it appears that you can see no further than your own opinion actually. Again if you think it can't work that's fine. Same as all those divorces happening for the traditional relationships. Monogamy is a choice you have made. Im calling it bullshit, because it reads like bullshit. I dont think its 'wrong'or 'bad' or anything remotely like that. If it works for you, genuinely works for you, rock and fucking roll. you want another partner to join in, then give me a call, ill be right there, i have no moral qualms with it as far as myself is concerned.And as for theory, i dont recall claiming to have one about this other than whats being said about polyamorous relationships, cuckolding and whatever labels you might want to add read like nothing more than that - just labels it honestly feels like people are using to fool themselves and anyone else who'll listen. i said nothing about love, or having 'the one' in your life - I dont think it applies to most people to be honest, and is a largely totally romanticised notion, but no more romanticised than the stuff written here about alternative lifestyles. I think if youre going to commit to a relationship - like marriage, for example - you know the one where you exchange vows and rings and all that stuff - then do that. if its not for you - then do something else. dont try and bullshit yourself and your partner otherwise.shit or get off the pot, in other words.try not to get offended because what i think about this differs from what you think.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I used to have 2 girlfriends when I was younger. We all lived in the one house, but had our own bedrooms. There never was a threesome. It was nice, as there were special things unique to each relationship. I miss it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's more of a kink whether husband gets sexual pleasure from his wife sleeping with other men. Sometimes he wants to watch other times he has to stay at home and here about it later. It's a different thing.
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RHP User
13 years ago
So now you are saying nothing works? Tell me one good reason why I can't commit to two people? Remembering all relationships are different and I don't have to live with any of them. Why can't I?
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RHP User
13 years ago
You aren't suggesting the third wheel has to be exclusive to the couple? Because I think most people assume this to be the case. The third wheel can have their own place, space and life. Maybe it's the couple that adds a little spice into their life. It certainly doesn't have to be all the couples way at all. I think of it more as a friends with benefit situation myself.
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RHP User
13 years ago
on a personal level no. I am way too free spirited for such a huge commitment. What you have suggested would suit me fine however the post was more about all living together. As this was the proposal put to me. Enigma..I do not think it is selfish at all of the couple.
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RHP User
13 years ago
That would be interesting. I would consider it I my if I had my own retreat area. Yeah, that wouldn't be for me either. I love my freedom .... And all my commitments too. ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'IMAGUY_80' I used to have 2 girlfriends when I was younger. We all lived in the one house, but had our own bedrooms. There never was a threesome. It was nice, as there were special things unique to each relationship. I miss it. I hear that and can fully understand it,
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'innerwest123' I don't necessarily think theyre the only way - but the simple fact of the matter is, is that you have some people engaging in 'traditional' relationships, like marriage, and then having boyfriends on the side. the fact that they've convinced their spouse that its ok (or the spouse has convinced themselves), doesn't stop it from being 'having ones cake and eating it' - and I'd be extremely surprised that if you dosed up most of these couples with sodium pentathol and asked, in most cases at least one of the parties in each couple didn't back me up. extremely surprised.I'm not judging, or telling anyone what they should and shouldnt be doing - if theyre happy, awesome, and noone (on the surface) is getting hurt, but I honestly think that in calling a spade a spade on this issue, the reality is that in many of these situations there not a great deal of truth being passed around.Part of my job is to provide some really good shittalk, face to face and in the written word - as a result, im generally fairly accurate in spotting other's bullshit (i.e. never shit a shitter), and every time i read things like this, my bullshit sense tingles.As for threesomes, and my enjoyment of such, well - that's my business. unless youre offering. haha.Baaahahahaha you are so funny lol weather I agree or not don't really care thanks for the laugh !!!! I personally love 3 sums 4 sums and more-sums but I'm my own person and no one belongs to me !!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Me n my fiance are looking for a fun, sexy and experimental female to have a threesome with within were we lived or close by, plz msg me if interested :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
It is clear Innerwest123's judgement value is taken from a certain point of view. That most likely being of long term couples who's sexual relations have faded..A wider perspective would encompass couple dynamics who start out their term together ready to include extra sexual people or couples who, at the strongest of their union, choose to try a scenario they both were inspired by.Coercion and convincing would not be necessary.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have been in, experimenting(for want of a better word) with a polyamourus relationship for a few months. I have never meet he, allthough he knows about me. He has a relationship with her that is non sexual. I have a relationship with her, that is only sexual. All of her needs, emotional and physical are meet. I can't speak for him, i don't know him or have much idea how he feels. As for me, i thought it would be the dream relationship, all the benifits, none of the heart ache. and have to say the sex is mind blowing, but the level of intimacy has gone to levels i didn't know existed. We have spoken about things, thouhts and feelings etc that i have never spoken about to any body, even some i have never thought about my self. Which is a truly liberating experience. But there is somthing missing, i really want to be able to do other things for her, you know some of the meanial things, picking up cloths around the house putting the garbage out etc ( it's hard to believe i said that). But, another But, the big but, If i did have the opertunity to do these things, like in a more normal relationship, would the same level of intimacy be there? Or would it take a slide?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit'on a personal level no. I am way too free spirited for such a huge commitment. What you have suggested would suit me fine however the post was more about all living together. As this was the proposal put to me. Enigma..I do not think it is selfish at all of the couple. one guy to do the dishes and wash the clothes one to do the outside one to do the driving and fix the cars and then take turns to ummm service my other needs sounds like a good plan to me ohh fuck, thats four wheels including me... and I think I need a spare wheel as well TR number cruncher
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just stating the obvious, I thank that all the wheels have to get on with each other very, very well. I believe the planning of who is with who at what time ( so someone doesn't feel neglected) takes a bit of effort to work.
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