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The voice on the phone
June 26 2016
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I prefer messaging here for a while first.....if the banter continues for a time and the other person seems as engages than I'll ask the question about moving to a medium that is a little more direct. Giving out my number is a show of trust. Sometimes I would like to satisfy my curiosity sooner rather than later and my usual caution is set aside..... I guess you just do what's right for you and your agenda (if you have one). I prefer txtg initially. I'd rather be asked permission before someone calls me. Apart from not always being able to answer due to work commitments if you're going to call me I'd like to be somewhere comfortable so I can chat with you without interruption so you've got my total undivided attention.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Like to talk on the phone before meeting. The phone for me is the ultimate deal maker or breaker. If we don't hit it off on the phone, then its a its a no go for anything else to happen and I can usually tell within minutes if this is somehow going to work or not Its not so much what is discussed but the free flow of conversation, ideas and just how interested they are in me as a person and how interesting they are to me. I need the connection But its a while before I give out my number. My first approach is KIK and if that shows promise I will move onto the phone. I like to call with my number blocked if his ok with that. Just safety issues and being careful I can do the sexy talk but I actually get turned on by his manner, attitude and the way he presents himself far more than the sex talk. However a few very sexy texts can like, get me there
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RHP User
10 years ago
I absolutely love speaking to someone on the phone and would never consider meeting anyone unless I had. Okay oso I also love public speaking although it's often rated higher on the fear scale than ''death''. Couple of reason... Voices disclose more than the written word and often, more than pictures... everything from the tonal qualities to being able to carry on a quick-witted and reasonable conversation. Let's face it... we aren't going to be doing the horizontal boogie all the time and do have to come up for air once in a while. Some voices, I just can not do... like fingernails scrapping over a dry chalk board or worse yet, sound like that bitch from the ATO that audited my last tax return. On the upside, I've been told quite a few times that between my rather strong accent and baritone voice... it all seems to work and have ''that effect''. I'm grateful for that... something has to make up for me being so damn ''cute''! ....... see ya laterz gaterz.
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RHP User
10 years ago
While reading a profile (not just looking at the pictures) and exchanging messages ( ones slightly longer than the standard...... wanna fuck?) can give an insight into a persons character and attractiveness I think a live phone call gives a further step towards revealing a persons character and as to whether or not there may be some of that "chemistry" that may make a meeting posible or even eventually pleasureable. And while some voices certainly hit me in the groin just, they're sexiness has more to do with the tone, intelligence , humour and flirtyness. And while sexy talk is good( even though its a poor second to real sex a bit of phone sex is fun) I really enjoy ranging over a variety of subjects to get a feel for a person. And then if an actual meeting eventuates I try to have no expectations as I am hopeless at judging what a person looks like by the sound of their voice. And some people do really give good phone, sexy and stimulating both between the ears and below the belt.
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Grouse33
10 years ago
How the voice you hear in your head when you read somebody's writing can differ from the one you end up hearing on the phone. For instance, you're probably hearing a over excited chipmunk as you read this. But my speaking voice actually sounds like a postcoital Barry White who's been gargling honey and aged Scotch whisky. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I feel the same. Like Mooche I want build up and prefer natural chemistry rather than sexy talk. Xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
how is it that you always read my mind? I was only just thinking about this today and how I forget to speak to them on the phone. I never used to worry, and still now, forget, like I said, but have been caught a few times where I wouldn't have gone through to a meet following a phone call. And to add to that, I've spoken to a few on the phone and it's been omg hard to describe really without offending, but yeah, it was a no about 2 minutes into the phone call. One guy, I knew within seconds, he sounded really weird, weird pauses, sucking his breath in, there's more but I can't say it on here. But then there's that moment where you know you're not going further and how the hell do you tell them. Options are, be a pussy and ghost haha and yes I'm ashamed to admit, I do that often or tell them it's not happening for me, done that a few times and got the shocked response. But what are you gonna do? You can tell in a conversation, most times very early in the conversation whether there's any connection, so best to stop it there. I also don't like one particular accent/nationality more like, but as soon as I hear the accent, it's all over. Been there done that, quite a few times, and have found them all to be the same, not for me. Most races/nationalities I love, I'm open to, but this one, which I'm not revealing, turns me off big time. So a phonecall sorts that out. Losing by default, is that fair? Doesn't have to be fair, you have to be turned on by them and no matter what the deal breaker is, without being turned on by them, it's not going to happen anyway. But really good topic because I always forget, it's like an afterthought but I must remind myself to make sure I talk to them on the phone. I think it's essentail
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RHP User
10 years ago
Great post and your point about people sounding sexy on the phone, I love phone sex and I'm used to relaxing and letting it all go while on the phone, but if I feel awkwardness coming back from them, that also doesn't work for me, so interesting how we can flush out people that are right for us
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't even want to talk to them on the phone after I've met them lol. I really dislike being on the phone unless its a) someone I have to speak with like a government department or work related. B) I feel very comfortable with them. Don't think I've ever agreed to a man from RHP calling me and if someone wanted to talk on the phone before meeting I'm not sure I'd proceed with the meeting to be honest. Give me text any day!
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RHP User
10 years ago
......with PoisonIV. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Text messaging works best for me after initially communicating here. How a guy conducts himself, here on RHP & via messaging will always determine my initial level of interest in pursuing any further contact &/or sexual intimacy. It works beautifully for me. Very occasionally I will graduate to phone conversations just prior to meeting. But that will only transpire if we've taken it slowly & comfortably. I never Skype or Face time etc. Id only do that with a partner. I always prefer time to build some rapport & feel comfortable with a guy when connecting through an online medium by 'writing to each other,' as the first step of the process. For me that initial written contact is very important. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm the same as PoisonIV and Summer. Dislike talking on the phone particularly to people I don't know well and I can't remember ever speaking on the phone first to any guy I've met off a dating site - vanilla or otherwise. Like Summer if a guy I was interested in wanted to talk on the phone first to verify my identity then I'd be ok with that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've only spoken to a guy once over the phone before meeting - but he was introduced to me via a friend. We messaged for a few days and then he wanted to call. I was nervous as to how talking to this basic stranger would go but it was great! Different circumstance though and mutual friend. The meets from RHP have only ever been message and kik before meeting. Which I would prefer. But my first meet I wished I'd spoken to over the phone first. Fantastic messaging, heated convos, everything clicked. Met and even though the guy was nice his voice turned me right off. Because he was a very dominant guy I was expecting something different. Hard to explain but he had a very feminine and he sounded like a hairdresser I once had. It's just that his voice was a complete juxtaposition of the image I had in my head and it was a turn off unfortunately. It hasn't made me want to talk to them over the phone first though. I think it's awkward and I'd rather meet them face to face if the messaging goes well.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not something I would normally do, I prefer to meet for a coffee/drink first. If they request it I will but most don't, I find it more difficult to relax & chat first up without a face. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not a priority for me. But if a guy asks, yes of course. Couples seem to always ask to chat early on, I have found.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well I've just got off the phone to her, we had a half hour chat for the first time in about 6 weeks. She's a farmer's wife a few hundred K's from me so the phone is a great way to keep in touch and it's much better than the KIK.Aside from that I do like to chat on the phone as I also talk to someone on the East Coast, as well as NZ, the biggest problem is finding the time to talk to my friends.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Really great topic ... Definitely think the voice is a massive turn ON or OFF . We always ask for quick phone chat first.. Or cam to hear and see interaction .. How on earth can anyone have some sexy fun without a voice whispering sweet nothings in your ear .. Mrs G 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nothing worse than organizing a date with a single female only for a male to answer the phone........
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am surprised at how many people don't like talking on the phone.I am mbira lent bout this but I have found it does mean I am not as likely to be disappointed or disappoint when I meet someone. If a man goes on nd on about their recent ex,if they talk about V8s or fishing 👿. If they have right wing political views,if they don't like animals ,if they are racist,misogynist...hmm no wonder I rarely meet anyone !😳Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
Typo sorry ..not mbiralent meant ambivalent Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
Always, as we are the ones that love to host, like to know we have a genuinely interested person on the receiving end 😉 Don't like giving out our address to a text, besides it's nice to put a voice to the text messages ! Even nicer to hear the energetic eagerness in their voice 💑
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RHP User
10 years ago
but my preference is chatting over a coffee or wine. That way you can gauge the persons reactions and get a feel for their personality. Besides , I need a attraction. So if you look good and we laugh at the same things , there's a good chance it could go further. You can't do that on the phone.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mooche' Like to talk on the phone before meeting. The phone for me is the ultimate deal maker or breaker. If we don't hit it off on the phone, then its a its a no go for anything else to happen and I can usually tell within minutes if this is somehow going to work or not Its not so much what is discussed but the free flow of conversation, ideas and just how interested they are in me as a person and how interesting they are to me. I need the connection exactly Mooche......"free flow of conversation, ideas and just how interested they are in me as a person" Couldn't have put it better myself.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta1' I am surprised at how many people don't like talking on the phone.I am mbira lent bout this but I have found it does mean I am not as likely to be disappointed or disappoint when I meet someone. If a man goes on nd on about their recent ex,if they talk about V8s or fishing 👿. If they have right wing political views,if they don't like animals ,if they are racist,misogynist...hmm no wonder I rarely meet anyone !😳Q Yes, I've mentioned before how I almost hooked up with a guy and only got him to call because I was out in the glare and was finding reading the texts difficult. What then played out was a long phone call but I switched off after about the first 2 minutes, it was all about the ex and how she'd cheated, every sordid detail. He was also still living with her which he hadn't mentioned before and sleeping in the same bed?? But separated apparently. In my mind, if you're separated, you don't sleep in the same bed, that's just wrong and not fair on either party. Anyway, wouldn't have mattered, because he was clearly traumatised and still in love with her. Way too much baggage for me. So I told him it wasn't happening. But if I hadn't spoken to him on the phone, I would have had no clue and it changed my opinion about phone calls. That and other calls which turned me off. You're right, their views on stuff, that kind of thing, can be quite revealing and also in reverse. I think it's good for both people
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RHP User
10 years ago
it's part of my screening process too.As Shells said, I also get a sense of someone by hearing their voice and you can tell by the tone and other things if they are for real or not. I've dodged SO many bullets by speaking to guys on the phone after only a few messages have been exchanged and hearing in the first few minutes how inarticulate and narrow minded they are and therefore have not wasted anymore time communicating with them.It helps that I worked in a call centre for many years and really learned to use my hearing cleverly to decipher all sorts of calls....real and crank calls, all sorts of accents, the clear speakers and the mumblers etc.You really have to listen hard and read between the lines to work out what people are actually after.Don't listen to what they say, listen to what they mean.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
haha how many people do you think actually get my number??? I think it was you who taught me how to BLOCK a number some years ago O Wise One
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RHP User
10 years ago
I definitely prefer in person..from chat to real life. Ive never been much of a phone person and I'm more likely to open up thru texting and then meeting. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I don't need to talk to someone on the phone, I'm actually not a big fan of talking on the phone. As much as I love a sexy smouldering voice, I prefer to have the warm breath on me as well as that voice whispering in my ear, now that will get everything tingling. 💋
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'ilovelaughter' it's part of my screening process too.As Shells said, I also get a sense of someone by hearing their voice and you can tell by the tone and other things if they are for real or not. I've dodged SO many bullets by speaking to guys on the phone after only a few messages have been exchanged and hearing in the first few minutes how inarticulate and narrow minded they are and therefore have not wasted anymore time communicating with them.It helps that I worked in a call centre for many years and really learned to use my hearing cleverly to decipher all sorts of calls....real and crank calls, all sorts of accents, the clear speakers and the mumblers etc.You really have to listen hard and read between the lines to work out what people are actually after.Don't listen to what they say, listen to what they mean. My sentiments exactly. Well said.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I prefer to chat to someone on the phone first. Conversation depends on what we've chatted about in text before the conversation. Deal breakers are people who tend to focus on negative things in their life and refuse to see any positives (referring to a previous post you have going in here Qefenta). There's nothing wrong with admitting things aren't going as planned, however, I find when someone focuses on negatives only and keeps shooting you down each time you point out a positive, they just seem to zap my energy and it's just not worth taking on new friends like that (yeah, I'm being selfish here). For me, the voice and smooth flowing conversation really does it and is a good indication of whether we'd get along face to face or not.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Essential
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ilovelaughter' exactly Mooche......"free flow of conversation, ideas and just how interested they are in me as a person" Couldn't have put it better myself. Funny then... that so many guys send messages proposing to meet (or even get sexual)... long before the opportunity to see if you'd survive each others company!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm happy to text-message or talk on the phone - the important thing is to see how well you can carry on a conversation. F2F, phone, txt - three very different contexts with very different... expectations of how conversations flow. You can have a single conversation that lasts a week via txt - talk for an hour or two on the phone - and find you have nothing to say face-to-face. To wit - I prefer to not be left at the cafe or pub like a shag on a rock by the person I'm meeting. If chatting or txting can save us both the embarrassment of a too-short kaffeeklatsch, then it's a good thing to do. That being said, not everyone warms up straight away! I'm generally quite reserved and with a sense of humour that swings wildly between bizarre, ridiculous, and uncle jokes (I am at least an uncle!) and that doesn't always impress the judges at first blush. Hopefully good conversation by txt or phone beforehand can be a reminder that there are things you can share thoughts on that can make a second meetup worth doing if the first one fizzles. Sexy talk is nice and all but if playtime ends up on the cards, it's nice to know we can have a conversation afterwards...
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