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This one is a sad one for me
February 18 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am so sorry to hear this. There are so many side affects that are not mentioned about cancer. I feel for your sister... and for you as someone who obviously loves her.When Mr P was going through cancer treatment, we would buy ginger beer to help with the nausea. The Dr also recommended marijuana to help with the symptoms which Mr P confirmed did help. I would take food into the hospital because even the smell of the food there made him feel sicker. Fruit salad, his favourite foods. The Drs were pretty bad with inserting the canula, I can't remember how many times it would have to be redone. Then we would have to wait for hours.That's all I can remember off the top of my head. It was a terrible time and something I wouldn't wish on anyone.Peachy hugs and wishes for all the very best to you both during this time of trial. It leaves people feeling so helpless. <3
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RHP User
13 years ago
Firstly Litonya..thankyou for sharing and venting with us….my thoughts are with you and your sister and trust me I am very aware of what you and your sister are experiencing– I would be most happy if you PM me to chat further – if you are comfortable You do not say what cancer she has and all chemo drugs are different, so is the course and the rounds. I can assure you though that the Oncologist would have given your sister any drugs possible to alleviate any discomfort she is experiencing however what is known is chemo treatment sadly is often worse than the actual cancer. Chemo can work –but I’m not going be condescending and state that it will cure (you ahvent said what kind of chemo whether is palliative etc) – and you haven’t state what form of cancer she has…..but chemo/radio treatment can be very very successful When I was 19 I had AML – acute myeloid leukaemia….and accordingly I went into remission and subsequently told I was cured….when I was 43 – the AML appeared again…and so I jumped on the whole roundabout again..and yeah it sucked..but twice I’ve beaten it but in saying that…I wouldn’t wish chemo on my worst enemy. I shit you not…….but it gave me extended life ………………I have cancer again…….this time, chemo is not an option as what I have will only respond to radio and surgery……..yep I’m currently on my second round of radio in preparation for surgery…it all sucks…its knocking me for a six and yes one still must keep working…and there are days when you think ..WTF ? why am I doing thi ? why bother ?….…………Why - because life is everything. You didn’t mention the side effects that you sister is experiencing but I can only guess and I’m sure she is receiving additional drugs for them –I am not condoning but marijuana is wonderful for the side effects of chemo – not that I am advocating that…….but yes it works….. Psychologically it’s a different ball game and I’m sure that she is getting counselling and support where required…… The toughest role in the world is the one that you are dong, that is of Carer ………………..I hear your anger and frustration…and yes it is all unfair and I’m sure if you could alleviate her fear you would…………..but I will tell you this…you just being there is the best thing ever, it is enough…………….that someone cares enough to hold her hand…….continue to be her whipping boy, her sibling, her strength, her voice…………….but don’t deny your feelings either – all perfectly understandable and should be encouraged. You are grieving for the sister you used to know. Not much I’ve written will be of comfort to you or your sister, but I can assure you are not alone……….and I do hope that you will private message me, as I can offer you additional info here for Carers Supporter networks……….and please also contact Carers WA……..They are there for you – they are a non-profit organisation to support all who care – please look at their website. I think you will find their practical support invaluable to you Sending you nothing but positivity……… We must live in the now Shinas
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RHP User
13 years ago
so hard for you Litonya if she is not here in Australia.All I can suggest is sending her some healing blue light,and I hope she is well soon.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Most people have been touch one way or another by cancer. For me, it was my mother. Being 21, I didn't deal with it well and the only advice I can give is, be there for them, be strong when they are feeling weak and when you feel the need to scream and rant, find a loved one, partner, lover, best friend, and let it out. Holding in the feeling is too exhausting. I wish you and your sister all the best and hope she gets past this trial. You'll both be in my thoughts.
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RHP User
13 years ago
My thoughts are with you and your family right now. I have no wise words, only my positive vibes to send your way. And miracles do happen xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
the worst thing to is my fear and the feeling which comes with it. Its like I am thinking she is going to the electric chair. I know we all must die and I know from my own experience it is like it is. But quite honest I would love to run away and hide and don't hear it when it comes. All my thoughts are dark instead of light. I am shit scared, that's my feeling shit scared.I know also I am strong what ever comes, but do I want it, no I want to hide.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No we don't want it, it is scary and real and out of our control. It is a big thing to know that I think. To want to scream and shout and run and hide seem perfectly natural to me, I'm sure there are many feelings rising to the surface to make way for other feeings rising to the surface and so the cycle goes on while you have to keep moving on with the everydayness of your life. You will do the best you can and that will be the best thing to do. That's what I believe. Peachy xoXox
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nothing at all..perfectly normal and acceptable..go with it..give in to it...for a few days...be angry and pissed off..you have every rite to be..do whatever yu need to do........but dont wallow in it...dig deep down and you will find the strength...you will...these are the situations that make you...................they dont break you....you dont let it beat you........otherwise you do let it win and (it) cancer will only take another victim................kick it to the kerb.. Remember - this too will pass Big hug xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
But Litonya you are helping by being with her and showing her that you love her, that's what fanily does..... Just be there for her..... GT
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RHP User
13 years ago
There are no words to comfort you and your sister... I just wish you the best and have strength to go through this. I also have a friend who lately told me she has been to chemo for 5 months now and she need give or take 6 more months.. She thinks that she would not make it until then. But she feels happy because her husband and her only son are there to support her and make her feel great even the days she comes out from the hospital. So this is the only thing that you can do for your sister and I wish again to have strength...You ll need a lot. :(
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have another question.I have spoken to my mum not my sister she only speak to me I think when she is settled and emotional strong.....I tell u and even that's sucks. We speak on the Phone or over skype. She went on Monday to have her second Chemo....she has a little box somewhere in her shoulder-blade its a port, I think u call it that. I have not even seen my sisters face she is not showing herself to me. She told me she lost all her hair and in Germany the medicare is pretty good she got a beautiful wick, which cost her nothing, nor does she has to pay for any medical expenses. In this case Germany is just on top of most countries its not a burden on the sick person to pay for anything.Mum said they started Chemo and this time she felt so sic and her heart felt like it will explodes my Mum said they had to stop the Chemo. So what now??? WHAT NOWDo we have a Doc in the RHP circle who can tell me what is when someone doesn't handle Chemo.I am sitting here crying......crying to think what must go through her mind.Can anybody tell me from a medical point what will happen now?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through. Just wanted to send you a big hug . Xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I will stop better writing more its to depressing for a beautiful filled site like this.But hey all of you thank you.It just again showed me how precious life is and we should all love as much as we possible can.
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RHP User
13 years ago
We are nothing but a shallow puddle Litonya.Your thread has helped someone else already, I promise you <3Hugs lovely lady, Peachy me
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RHP User
13 years ago
Please private message me. I am a dr although not a oncologist but I am a pathologist and therefore I will be answer some of your questions or refer you onto one of my colleagues at Charlie's :)
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