Agent86

Agent86

M54

Thoughts on friends who now swing, but didn't when you met.

June 21 2026

Just seeing what peoples thoughts are arounds friendships and play. So you have known a couple for a while and nothing serious (as in next to no flirting) has happened, although they're attractive and open... You've discussed swinging and they have had their play with others (as you and your partner have), maybe even the same others too :) Can becoming play friends with them be a great idea or a terrible idea or something in between? I'm sure my view is locked in and open and honest converstations are the key, but maybe not what my partner wants me to discuss over a couple of drinks???

Comments

  • PandaAndBri

    PandaAndBri

    11 days ago

    One of our “ swinging rules” as a couple is no close friends. We have one set of close friends who know what we do and who might be interested but their friendship and love means far more to us to Break it in case it goes pear shaped. Bri

  • Mrs_Deep_Love

    Mrs_Deep_Love

    11 days ago

    If you value them as good friends I wouldn't risk that. Good friends are hard to find

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    10 days ago

    Sometimes good friends make shitty play partners. Sometimes play friends ruin great friendships. I’ve seen it work and I’ve seen it end very badly. Just because people are in the lifestyle, doesn’t automatically mean they'll play with you. And honestly, if you know who’s played with who, chances are someone has a loose mouth and doesn’t respect people's privacy. I’d be very cautious of them because they'll do the same to you. Rule 101, never ever discuss who you've played with, not even with vanilla friends and not with friends in the lifestyle. The best kept secret is never shared. Ms Foxy