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Tips for Single men at Swingers Parties

June 25 2018

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Most of our swingers parties at Infusions do allow a limited number of carefully screened single males to attend. Some swinging couples that come to our parties are looking for an extra male to join their fun, and of course we also have singles ladies at our parties. Both groups are particular about the men they choose. In this article we share some tips that will increase your chance of a more enjoyable night out as a single male.The first tip is pretty simple – present yourself well. Women attending our parties take the effort to dress up and look sexy. Men should match this effort by dressing well and being well groomed. Most of our parties require that men wear a collared dress shirt as a minimum – but to really impress wear some nice pants and dress shoes. Make sure that your personal hygiene is top notch and you smell good.Our second tip is to be social and engage other ladies or couples in conversation. Our venue is setup to give people a great social experience and provides people with places to gather on stools at the bar, couches, or around the pool table. Couples and ladies want to interact with and get to know you before they will be interested in going to the play rooms for some fun. It is unlikely that you will be invited to play if you haven’t made an effort to first have some conversation. A simple conversation starter is to ask about their previous experiences with swinging, what they enjoy, and what they are looking for at our parties.Single men often enjoy a great night at our parties, however it’s best to come with no expectations. Swingers parties don’t guarantee sex and it’s very much up to the couples and single ladies who they choose to play with. Every party is different depending on the crowd and so every night may not lead to an opportunity to play. If you expect or are desperate to play then you give off that vibe to your fellow party attendees and you will likely be less successful in finding play partners. Be easy going and enjoy the social aspect of the parties and you will be more likely to be attractive to others.Finally, when others are playing make sure to be considerate and watch from a distance. When playing even if in our open group areas couples need their personal space. If you are not involved in play then stand back 5-10 feet and enjoy the show. Don’t try to get involved in play if you are not invited either as couples will invite those they want to join them. Uninvited touching or being pushy is not acceptable in our club and will be reason to bar you from future parties if we see this behaviour. If single males crowd playing or make uninvited advances this often will stop play altogether and then you can no longer enjoy watching and spoil the party for others.Follow these tips and you will enjoy a fun night at swingers parties.

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  • MsBrunette

    MsBrunette

    8 years ago

    Well said! Ms B 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    interesting and valuable read! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • DynamicCouple36

    DynamicCouple36

    8 years ago

    And that’s how we like potential male playmates to be, when they approach us - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    The majority that get don't get the commonsense of respect might be men, I couldn't say from my one experience though because for us (a couple) it was the couples and women. Peachy

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  • BungCpl

    BungCpl

    8 years ago

    Sadly though, far too many single males simply don't get this - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Number four.... Please be not wearing any underwear that the organisers and/or the majority of the patrons would object to...this is highly offensive as no one wants to know that you shop at Kmart like a povo cunt.... Of course this doesn’t affect me....I shop for my underwear at super classy spots like St Vinnies and The Salvation Army stores....

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  • sugar_vanessa

    sugar_vanessa

    8 years ago

    Valuable information for all :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Couples looking for single men????

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  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    8 years ago

    and i would add ,if you are standing back , don’t stand there eyeballing or worse eyeballing wanking yourself furiously with a blank angry look not blinking ,and to further add. something in our opinion ,get there early and get introducing yourself. to make impressions ,cos we are very unlikely to stop fucking leave our playmates or whatever to start small talking with your ,eg. hang on honey hold my dick ,oh hello dude my name is earl blah blah blah ,do you come here often ,just isn’t going to happen ,if we are naked. and in the thick of things. you missed your window if that’s the case keep your eye out for couples who are back from shinanigans . and on a rest break ,.pateince is your key mr b - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    And don’t interrupt people as they are having sex unless they invite you. It’s not like a dance when you can tap a guy on the shoulder and ask if you can cut in. And yes a guy ask me once if that was okay. To add to the comment above. Wanking furiously while fully clothed with just your dick hanging out of your open fly... that’s a huge no. I can say from the other side that it feels totally creepy when a guy does this.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'The_Antichrist' Number four.... Please be not wearing any underwear that the organisers and/or the majority of the patrons would object to...this is highly offensive as no one wants to know that you shop at Kmart like a povo cunt.... Of course this doesn’t affect me....I shop for my underwear at super classy spots like St Vinnies and The Salvation Army stores.... Saw flannelette shirts in Kmart once under a sign marked "Business Shirts"

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Hahaha - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Don't be, or act like, an idiot. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    8 years ago

    lol,totally forgot about the clothes bit while wanking ,wtf is that all about , one night mrs b had enough of this guy wanking under a towel and she just turned on him and yelled if you have to wank do it in the open so we can all watch you,!!!’ he left area pretty quick and didn’t return,lol. mr b - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Had that actually happen to me and a play friend. It’s just terrible. I like the dudes Looking at the guys who actually get invited to play. They end up scratching their little heads as to why, me, without a rocking gym bod I can have fun. And then stand back in the corner watching like creeps! 🤮 The best “tool” is your brain 🧠 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    He might be shy - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    As I actually enjoy voyeurism ... much like watching porn really except interactive..... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Watching is fine. I watch too! And I understand some people don’t want to undress, but still participate in what’s happening around you. Smile, say hello, etc. Some men will come right up to you and wank almost right on top of you (almost) without even saying a word and they don’t socialize at all. It feels weird and it feels worse if they are fully dressed and everyone else in undressed. Sorry ANtiC, but if you choose to remain clothed you need to ensure you don’t come across as a creep. So standing in the corner, wanking while yelling out “show me where the axe man got ya” (ie your c word) isn’t a good thing. (Joking) So, if you have to stay fully clothed you need to ensure people feel comfortable about that - don’t forget people are naked and fucking so they are also in a vulnerable state. Voyeurs are fine and make up part of the swinger scene landscape. Nothing wrong with that.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I’ve noticed that men don’t wank at swinger clubs from what I can tell - in Sydney anyway. Go to a swingers party were there are lots of men - yep, everyone is buffing their bananas. Nothing strange about that. Lots of people playing, watching, chatting, etc. If I am not in an exhibitionist type of mood having sex while a group of guys (and girls) watching feels weird. Depends on my mood. I prefer to romp in small groups and let the “main” show go to the real exhibitionists.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Timely article as I'll be attending my first party this weekend. I'm a fairly polite guy and of course manners are incredibly important, though I can be quite shy at first. Any advice as to how I could break the ice? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Lol I keep my distance and yes I’m normally the guy that keeps his clothes on(I wouldn’t want that kind of sight be forced onto others) and stay out of peoples way....I don’t want to talk to them, but I don’t feel a need to wank either....I enjoy feeling the energy in the room that’s being exchanged...but that seems to make me feel as though I’m a serial mood killer that should have a name like ‘Jack the Fapper’ or something.... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    It’s like any party. I’m sure you’ll feel nervous and probably a little intimidated at first. I’d smile a lot and make lots of eye contact. If there is a drinks area or bar stand there and introduce yourself to people. Hi, I’m Karl and I’m a newbie to the scene. “ or whatever you feel comfortable saying.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Usually someone will take you under their wing and introduce you around.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Bro...do it do it!! Club it or house party that shit and be one with the swingers!!!

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