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To tell or not to tell? Help
January 09 2020
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bonefide
6 years ago
Looking from the outside, The main thing is communication is the key to all involved. Don’t rush it, play nice, and remember it’s at your pace your rules your discretion, of who, when and were it’s all going to happen. Best of luck in 2020, safe happy adventures.
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madotara69
6 years ago
Let folk know your new at playing up with them, although you may be a very passionate woman never the less. If you’re going about this to have fun, then that’s a good start. Probably best not to knock yourself down though, because if you’re having fun then your good at it anyhow. Just make your own choices, based on what means most and what’s best too those meanings. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
6 years ago
I wouldn't advertise it. (oops)But I would tell them once you have a "candidate" Look at it this way, if it was me I would like to know as my attitude would be a lot more restrained than going in with an experienced player.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I agree with Mado Tara - just make your own choices. This is your adventure, and you should go into it with clear ideas of what you want to happen and what your limits are, and you need to discuss all that with prospective partners. If they do not accept your limits unconditionally, and if they are not enthusiastic about helping you achieve your goals in a safe, sane and consensual way, then move on.Better some very small embarrassment at the beginning than a whole load of embarrassment later if you end up in a situation that you are not comfortable with. also: the words 'help me explore' are very enticing.
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Yes, the right guy will understand and take time, doing things especially to relax you, give a massage, or start with very light play only, and share some responsibility for this between your partner who really knows you more. Also, that person should be okay if you decide to not go beyond any limit at any time you may decide in the moment.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Just put that description in your profile. Plenty of people start of with inexperience in here. I've known women who start of straight and inexperienced and roll the clock forward, ended up as a bi sexual dominatrix with poly relationships after experiencing several gangbang...... You are here for the journey so might as well get on board. You'll find it easier to get a mmf with a single male than a couple but both will test your bullshit radar. Good luck.
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Sawadee
6 years ago
Be proud of who you are and let them know your happy to learn as you go . The more you try to protect your lack of experience , the more complicated it becomes.. You might learn something and you might not.. So just go with the flow and if you have some new experiences , good for you.. That's how we get experience.. right ?
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RHP User
6 years ago
'An expert is someone who has made all the mistakes that can be made, in a narrow field.' Neils Bohr.
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Thirdwheel
6 years ago
This website is about “ your “ wishes . We expressly seek bi curious, flexible or sexual guys and it’s dam hard to find the right fit. Watch Sense8 and we all want the connected free flowing touch with care type group ( more than 2 ) sex or love scenes . If or when you’re overwhelmed with the responses , your filter will turn on, no photos = delete , less than a sentence = delete , and so on. Everyone has a life and the people who are ready to go right now generally aren’t a fit . I suggest you and your partner set a date in date finder then filter around that date and build a conversation then a meeting a week before . You’ve met and liked or disliked people socially and you’re able to do so again. Fail , succeed , but try. Good luck
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RHP User
6 years ago
Do you tell or do you not?? The way I see it, everyday we awaken from our slumber is a new day. A new day that encompasses choices. A new day that we choose our paths....steer our car down the road of life. On both sides of this choice there are consequences, their affect is entirely subjective. On one hand, you can advertise that you’re shy, and the responses to that advertisement will be different....those responses will be subjective to those whom read it based upon on their choices....some will be favourable, some not so.... On the other hand, you don’t advertise it, and the responses will different....those responses will also be subjective to those whom find out....some will be favourable, some not so. But this as you can foresee is going to end in pretty much the same outcome... Do this isn’t really a question that really affects other people...it’s not in my mind anyway...it has absolutely nothing about those whom interact with you at all. The question for you should be in my view is why does it really matter to you if someone else reacts negatively to knowing at all that you’re shy? Doesn’t this just indicate what kind of person THEY are?? After all you’re shy, you know this and are seemingly ok with it..if they aren’t, their loss.... Mr dragon
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SSExplorer
6 years ago
Honesty! How will you attract the right mates and how will they know what you want unless you tell them. Being honest on your profile will weed out a lot of people you don’t match with which is a good thing. If someone isn’t happy to meet on your terms that’s great to find out as early as you can. Good luck in your search
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'non_such' 'An expert is someone who has made all the mistakes that can be made, in a narrow field.' Neils Bohr. Expert;Where X is the unknown factor and spurt is a drip under pressure.
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D_Light
6 years ago
I wont play with a couple until I've asked 100 questions and know exactly where they are and where they plan to achieve. I've been fortunate to have been coached by many lovelies on here and elsewhere and if it feels right only then do I agree to play every time is scary but it only takes a minute to cross that thresh hold to the pleasure dome if you don't do it then you'll ever know what you missed out on. if you do and don't think its for you after then don't but communicate before and after extensively in a safe zone where all are equally as important and listen to whats been said by all accounts. happy to advise any one on one questions if you like to pm goodluck on your journey i'm sure you'll be fine and start a wonderful new chapter in your lives D xxx
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