M38
Too many principles?
February 27 2011
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SassyRascal
15 years ago
Hi Chuzz I would stick to what your heart n mind are saying now. It definitely hasnt lead to into a difficult situation, so why would you want to break something that is working for you??? Patience is a virtue and you have plenty of time!! Enjoy your uncomplicated happy life and something wonderful will come your way :-) Best wishes forthe future..... Sweet F xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
You are fucked up. Your gonads are turning blue because you are chicken shit. Well keep at it, dont fuck drunk girls, nor crazy, horny, dumb, or the desperate. If she is up for it go for it. If she is drunk and wants you. how is this immoral, did you force her to drink. Did you force her to want to have sex with you? You young dumb dick. Guilt????? Consensual sex is nothing to feel guilt over.What is wrong with you. I just see a big streak of insecurity building that body for what? Get with the picture and fuck, fuck, fuck.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Many young men in your position would take full advantage of what was on offer how ever each of us has to wake up the next day and look ourselves in the mirror. If it does not feel right to you, then dont do it. It is not really up to anyone else to tell us to relax our morals. It really is no one elses business except yours. You take the moral highground. You may miss out on a bit of sexual action but in the long run...you will feel happier within yourself. Too many of our young people have indiscriminate sex and while on this site, plenty would argue that indiscriminate sex is okay, clearly with you it is not.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey..... after you finish work, your job is done and you're not having to responsibly serve alcohol at all.... Instead you're meant to be serving up that handsome physique of yours to some talented and flexible scrapper who was not so intoxicated that she didn't know what she was doing because you do your job of responsibly serving alcohol so well. I suggest you lighten up on yourself.... and don't make up lame self serving excuses for letting a good one go by.... I'd speak to your employer about it so that you can be certain you are not breaching any of your employment policies and if all green for go... next time... go to the after party!HugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
Simple ... Get a a better JOB
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RHP User
15 years ago
This sounds like a gee up to me....................its probably not a bad one either lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am with you...I too have worked in the Club Industry and sacked many staff members for going home with patrons (especially drunk ones)! This is a place of work and if you do sleep with a patron...well...basically your job is fucked and to be honest you never know what she will act like after it happens! We had one guy charged with rape cause he went home with a girl from one of the Clubs! She was drunk, but when she woke up in the morning and realised what she did...she went to the Police as she didn't want her boyfriend to find out what she had done! Thankfully, there were enough people around to give evidence on his behalf on the way she acted and threw herself at him..but, had there not been...who knows where he would be now! < I admire you and I love that you have morals and ethics like that...the guys that disagree or put you down? Don't worry about them...they just can't get any and if they did...as long as it had a pulse (or maybe not) they would nail it! Shudder! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
hahah cmon seriously isnt that THE DREAM!? but i hear what you are saying dude and much respect to you for having the sheer willpower to say no. I'm the same in the sense i won't try to chat up a girl if she is drunk, i just wouldnt feel right with myself. but in reality there is nothing stopping you for using the job you do as a tool for dating, noones pushing you to go and have sex with every woman you meet but there isnt harm in making a contact here and there. sex or no sex you can still make connections, friends or heaven forbid a relationship with someone. keep your principles/morals as they are a rare commodity but have some fun too, life's for living and sometimes you just never know what's around the corner
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RHP User
15 years ago
There seems to be a big difference in opinions between the male and female members here. Its not insecurity, just how I was raised, the same reason I never steal, never kick someone on the ground and things like that. And of course I have no problems when im drinking too, on my nights off. But when im stone sober and in work clothes theres a big difference. I guess I should just try for more nights off. Or try for one of the ones working behind the bar...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Chuzzwozza' There seems to be a big difference in opinions between the male and female members here. Its not insecurity, just how I was raised, the same reason I never steal, never kick someone on the ground and things like that. And of course I have no problems when im drinking too, on my nights off. But when im stone sober and in work clothes theres a big difference. I guess I should just try for more nights off. Or try for one of the ones working behind the bar... get their numbers when they're drunk and call them when they're likely to be sober
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Chuzzwozza' There seems to be a big difference in opinions between the male and female members here. Its not insecurity, just how I was raised, the same reason I never steal, never kick someone on the ground and things like that. And of course I have no problems when im drinking too, on my nights off. But when im stone sober and in work clothes theres a big difference. I guess I should just try for more nights off. Or try for one of the ones working behind the bar... It's a line you've drawn in the sand and you choose not to cross it. Good for you. I'd rather have blue balls than not be able to look in the mirror every day.
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N4November
15 years ago
Quoting 'Markusss67'You are fucked up. Your gonads are turning blue because you are chicken shit. Well keep at it, dont fuck drunk girls, nor crazy, horny, dumb, or the desperate. If she is up for it go for it. If she is drunk and wants you. how is this immoral, did you force her to drink. Did you force her to want to have sex with you? You young dumb dick. Guilt????? Consensual sex is nothing to feel guilt over. What is wrong with you. I just see a big streak of insecurity building that body for what? Get with the picture and fuck, fuck, fuck. Markusss67, your response is the first in a little while that made me go EWWWWWWWWWWWWWW = what sort of person must you be? And seriously, if I was considering meeting you I'd be saying "NEXT"!!!!!!!
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luvsilver
15 years ago
You sound just like me 17 years ago Chuzzwozza.I too worked in a club and the opportunity to take girls home after work was always abundant. My mates were always bagging me out for not doing a different girl every Friday and Saturday night. Them being on the other side of the bar also meant that that trying to pick up was their one and only mission! I am human though and yes i was lured a few times and had great fun but was mostly glad of the decisions that i made.There are a couple of occasions that i regret not taking advantage off to this day but i don't loose any sleep over it. SAYING THAT !! 17 years later goes very quickly and you won't be single ,23 and have a body like that forever so stay true to yourself BUT also allow yourself a little fun here and there along the journey. Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
15 years ago
how do you know that it hasnt taken all that alcohol for her to work up the courage to hit on you?Then you knock her back?Mind you...if the same chick gets wasted every weekend...and hits on every guy ever time....then yeah...good call saying no.Maybe talk to her BEFORE she gets wasted...see how you go.JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Markusss67'You are fucked up. Your gonads are turning blue because you are chicken shit. Well keep at it, dont fuck drunk girls, nor crazy, horny, dumb, or the desperate. If she is up for it go for it. If she is drunk and wants you. how is this immoral, did you force her to drink. Did you force her to want to have sex with you? You young dumb dick. Guilt????? Consensual sex is nothing to feel guilt over. What is wrong with you. I just see a big streak of insecurity building that body for what? Get with the picture and fuck, fuck, fuck. i hope you will be this boys lawyer when the girl cries rape...as funloving said, who knows how these girls will react the next day when they realise what they have done Chuzz i think you are a wonderful man for being this way...dont change a thing try what Curious said either hand out your number or get theirs and make contact when they are sober and see where it goes from there please dont listen to the boys...morals are a good thing to have roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thats not exactly a "going places career" type job. You can make hay while the sun shines or enjoy the ego trip and possibly avoid nasty entanglements with std's to name a few pitfalls. I wouldn't be able to help myself if the girl is really pretty but you sound as if your head's on straight. Some would say it's a great perk of the job - but you know best. I cannot stand drunken women either, it's a real turn-off. Being used by the opposite sex is what you risk becoming.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Tonyerotic' I cannot stand drunken women either, it's a real turn-off. See... now that's the best reason I've heard for not pursuing these horny bitches... .they'll really disappoint you in the sack anyway.HugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Tonyerotic' Thats not exactly a "going places career" type job. You can make hay while the sun shines or enjoy the ego trip and possibly avoid nasty entanglements with std's to name a few pitfalls. I wouldn't be able to help myself if the girl is really pretty but you sound as if your head's on straight. Some would say it's a great perk of the job - but you know best. I cannot stand drunken women either, it's a real turn-off. Being used by the opposite sex is what you risk becoming. Its a good career, and it actually can go places, im not behind the bar and there are plenty of opportunities. But thats beside the point. And I dont mind being used by women, as long as I know thats all it is. The main problem is, as you mentioned, them being drunk. The fact that they arent all over me until they have had too much to drink is what makes it a problem, I have gotten numbers and gone on dates with women I met through work, but they were sober when we spoke. The problem is drawing the line, I have had women offer sex or BJs in the toilets, back rooms or even once on the spot, of course they are too drunk but most I work with draw the line a lot closer to the extreme than me. I wont even consider it if shes tipsy.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I used to have to have a few drinks to pluck up the courage to ask a hot guy out. Not that I wasn't attractive at 18, but I was just bloody shy... Curiousnewgirl said give your number and I agree that's a great idea. If a hot bartender had handed me a card with his number and said Call me tomorrow, I would have JUMPED at it... Then you get to keep to your morals and still have responsible fun!The Mrs
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'baygirl2315' Quoting 'Markusss67'You are fucked up. Your gonads are turning blue because you are chicken shit. Well keep at it, dont fuck drunk girls, nor crazy, horny, dumb, or the desperate. If she is up for it go for it. If she is drunk and wants you. how is this immoral, did you force her to drink. Did you force her to want to have sex with you? You young dumb dick. Guilt????? Consensual sex is nothing to feel guilt over. What is wrong with you. I just see a big streak of insecurity building that body for what? Get with the picture and fuck, fuck, fuck. Markusss67, your response is the first in a little while that made me go EWWWWWWWWWWWWWW = what sort of person must you be? And seriously, if I was considering meeting you I'd be saying "NEXT"!!!!!!! Guess sarcasm is best delivered with a club, beat someone ten times they may get it once. The OP is full of hormones, good looking and young. Why not enjoy life. I made it plain and clear that it must be consensual sex. Are we not here to meet lovely people and enjoy having some fun. He said "she was far from waisted". Silly man was just chicken so I gave him a serve. Read between his lines my dear, he is beating him self up for not meeting her.But thats ok, you can stand on your moral high ground, just keep a careful balance, for you are no angel and with out wings you may take a tumble..LOL:)
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RHP User
15 years ago
LOL. Who are you. Demographic point of view of lovely RHP membersOh for the sluts.The flowers and the bees, lovely birds in the trees. lets flash a little colour up in the air just to see what I can find here. Perched so high above the ground, my new insect friend tries so hard but can not not get the prick just right. Theres nothing wrong, just let him fall, as theres a long line insects up for some more.Oh for the shy.Love I have in me, love I need to share, I need to care, I need someone I want to be everything with. Oh please please do talk to me, you make me feel so great when you're texting me. No don't stop I need a little more, and just a little more. Sorry we can not meet, my door is locked and I dont have a key. But thank you it was so nice to feel special behind my locked door.Oh for the Dumb.Fucken want a fucken root bitch. I got big balls, and when im not pissed I can come on your tits.. Why dont you fucken want me, whats wrong with you. Better let my mates know you where an ugly fucken whore.Oh for the intellectual.Interesting topic, interesting view, may I just ask you what do you do. Do do you know Nietzsche, a lovely example of an intellectually intriguing man. I think this is right but I need your perspective point of view. Oh my you can not spell utilitarianism. I am so over you. If only I had considered the consequences of trying to make friends with any of you.. Oh for the players.Hi how are you, just looking for that hint as to what you might want and what you may be looking for. Oh thanks so nice for your reply, I now know just what to say to you. There is not escape I have done this before, you will just keep wanting me. Hang on I must take my leave, there is another knock on my door. See you next week or may be if your lucky, when I next remember you.Oh the ignorant.Wow this is just great. Oh wow look at her, you people are so hot. Ill try to be crude, ill try to be nice, ill even try to beg. Whats up why wont anyone give me a look. Don't you want to fuck.Thus to finish on the lier.Hang on a bit. I need to adjust by profile. OK Now I am just right, sexy and attracting you, Please we must meet soon, can I come now to see you. Please keep the lights low, I would hate for you to see the real me.If you have managed to get down to here it think that covers about 80% of you.Oh true blue.Hi I like you, oh thanks you do to. Lets meet and see where it goes. Mmmm thats was great can wait to do it again.Next.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Everyone needs a moral compass. Surely without one we would eventually wind up lost. I think it's great that you can hear the voice when it says "I'm not okay with that" and I dont think there's anything wrong with having a conscience and value system that backs that up!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I was actually eying off one of the bar girls there, but now im working at another club (sick of being moved around... grumble grumble, irrelevant...) so im starting again. I actually did give my number to a nice english tourist a few weeks ago, but nothing came of it. Still, I'll probably just give out my number next time im interested, that way if they sober up and still want to call me it will be set.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Chuzzwozza' I was actually eying off one of the bar girls there, but now im working at another club (sick of being moved around... grumble grumble, irrelevant...) so im starting again. I actually did give my number to a nice english tourist a few weeks ago, but nothing came of it. Still, I'll probably just give out my number next time im interested, that way if they sober up and still want to call me it will be set. Maybe the RHP business cards aren't such a dumb idea after all! Put your profile pic on it and your phone number... lolz... cheezy yes, sleazy probably .... but who knows!HugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
I reckon stick by your morals.....In the end its all we have and all that seperates us from the lower lifeforms. I think at least half the worlds problems are caused by those lacking in scruples and morals.These days lots of people don't ask themselves is this the right thing to do...how will this impact on others, only, will i get caught!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Your morals and integrity define who you are and I wouldn't change that if I was you. You've got a lot of years ahead of you and you should be proud of having strong feelings of right and wrong in these areas Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' get their numbers when they're drunk and call them when they're likely to be sober Exactly....there's always a way to behave well and still end up winning. And if they aren't interested when you call them back then you obviously made the right decision. Fucking people over and using them when they're vulnerable may give you some immediate gratification but in the long run it just makes you a shithead and you have to live with yourself.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67'You are fucked up. Your gonads are turning blue because you are chicken shit. Well keep at it, dont fuck drunk girls, nor crazy, horny, dumb, or the desperate. If she is up for it go for it. If she is drunk and wants you. how is this immoral, did you force her to drink. Did you force her to want to have sex with you? You young dumb dick. Guilt????? Consensual sex is nothing to feel guilt over. What is wrong with you. I just see a big streak of insecurity building that body for what? Get with the picture and fuck, fuck, fuck. There is 20 years difference between u and the OP, let him have his forum! Your sooo called sarcasm is just plain offensive and not exactly constructive to the OP?! Options...Let's see wait six months to meet Chuzz outside of his weird hours/weird people of the drunken nite job and meet in a more 'normal' environment ORRRRR be PAID 1 bijillion dollars to have sex with you....... ummm i take OPTION 1!!!!!!!!! Even if it were a 6 year wait Chuzz, I think you can use your judgement, if u are gagging for it, but don't want to 'take advantage' of the girls that aren't rolling drunk, take their number and meet them another time? It isn't inappropriate if you meet them another day at another place? Very differnt to dragging drunk girls straight from the club to your bed, like our good blindman suggested... Think of it like you are working not at a club but in just a normal shop or something, would it be wrong to accept a cute girl's number and maybe meet up on a day off? No, not really. We all spend a fair amount of time at work, most people end up finding their partners that way. Where I work there a seriously dozens of people that met their husband/wife there. Try and think about it a little differently. You should always take up an oppourtunity that is mutual and moral, you know deep down whether it is or isn't after a little practice?
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