Too much Intimacy

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  I think it’s not for your wife if she can’t handle kissing or eye contact. Good luck to you all.

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  countrytouch82

  6 years ago

  No kissing is a thing or a limit that some couples use. As for the eye contact, I'm not sure, staring blankly at a wall probably won't cut it while making love with someone else.

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  luvsilver

  6 years ago

  We have found it is not uncommon for one half of the couple to make more of a connection than the other.It is hard work to get all four 100 % synced - awesome when it is though.As for the kissing and eye contact - for us that's what makes it so enjoyable. Mr Luvsilver

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Thanks for the feedback

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Such an individual twist for everyone. My wife has seemed not so keen for me to play with the female in a MFF or MMFF situation. She’s happy and in fact encouraging to see MM play and loves the FF play in a group environment. Also if playing with the other male she is ok with receiving oral and toy play or masturbating with MM watching and us self pleasuring over her but is really not at all into close intimacy with the other male in the form of kissing and also not into intercourse with him. Just the way she is and I’m always happy with her boundaries and we can still have some wild fulfilling times

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Like others say, it depends on your agreed boundaries. For me, i wouldnt like there to be no intimacy as i think thats part of the fun. And i dont like playing with couples who say no kissing. I have full respect for everyones personal decisions, but i think it can feel a little automated without it. In my mind, "bumping uglies" is more intimate...well if done well! Hope all is worked out soon. X

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  Sawadee

  6 years ago

  This might sound contradictory, but the first time watching my wife kissing really unsettled me ' l felt pangs in my stomach , yet when penetrated ' intrigued and fascinated me. Go figure ? Then I realised that if we put ourselves in this position ' we needed to accept that kissing' if you want to fully enjoy the moment ' is par for the course . Providing of course theres a two way attraction ? The thing that sticks in my mind was when my wife ' full of this young guy ' looked at me , smiled , gave me the thumbs up ' then continued..

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  What was she doing while this happened? Was she unoccupied?

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  teamaj2

  6 years ago

  Mandm We on RHP can’t tell you if it was too intimate or two much eye contact etc Your boundaries and limits ( as others have said ) are something that the two of you work out between you . I also agree playing without kissing and intimacy for us would be pointless . We like everyone to be connected, passionate and enjoying the experience. You two probably need to sit down honestly and speak of fears, boundaries and expectations . No one can dictate those to you both , they are negotiated between yourselves . Then you can seek like minded people seeking the same . It can be tricky to tick all the boxes with others - attraction, appropriate amounts of intimacy , like mindedness etc . Goodluck in your journey .

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  I think perhaps it was just an issue of bad timing, the lovely was not feeling that great on the night but went ahead with it anyway. Im sure if we go down this path in the future and she connects it will be different. I can't see the point of it all if there is no passion of sorts, just wham bamm doesnt do it for me, pretty shallow really. Thsnk you all for your opinions and good luck.

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  teamaj2

  6 years ago

  Mandm Sorry , me again. Often you meet people whether a couple or single and you both agree it’s a good idea to proceed . Sometimes the sexual side of things is a great experience for one of you and so so for the other. It happens . Perhaps one of feels ‘left out ‘ for whatever the reason , as you explained she was perhaps not in the correct headspace or it didn’t quite exceed her expectations . That’s par for the course - it happens . We’ve also found on occasion , we made an arrangement to meet and didn’t feel quite up to it . Real life , busy work schedules have left us drained but we’ve not wanted to let someone down by canceling. We go ahead with the night and it sometimes in hindsight wasn’t the best idea . For us , we come together afterwards , discuss as a couple openly , how it was for each of us. Whatever happened it was an experience that you had together .

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Thanks for your insight teamaj2

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  That connection is the communication gateway to outstanding intimacy and ultimately brilliant sex. Your wife I should think would be all over that, understand it, appreciate where it comes from and be grateful to have a lover that knows how to get there, after all she gets to leave with you. Great lovers with an understanding of communication and great intimacy are hard to find. If you’re wife felt it maybe her partner did too, they could have felt the same way after from the opposite side.

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