Too young for this lifestyle?

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  Tall74nHard9

  6 years ago

  that you may be finding difficulties forming a social aspect could be as varied and many as the people themselves - it won't be a "one reason fits all". You may find that you will have to mingle for a while until others are comfortable with you - that you are not "fly by nighters" that they may only encounter once then never see again. I'm afraid that as with many things in life, it will be a matter of patience and letting people get used to you. If you see some people a few times at venues, maybe make the first move to perhaps alleviate their preconceptions. A friendly smile and not seeming too eager might be helpful. Good luck,Tall

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  BungCpl

  6 years ago

  It’s quite possibly not an age gap thing. We have meet many people at parties, ladies, males and couples alike, we have sparked an interest and enjoyed some play time with them yet very rarely does it evolve into something socially. On the age gap point, it could be that it’s not about the actual age gap but what that may represent, for us we tend to avoid playing with people that are as young, or younger than our own kids, not for any reason besides what that means to us personally. Enjoy your time in this lifestyle...

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  Hah1502

  6 years ago

  I’ve had a similar issue in the past. The main age gap issue is mostly due to the fact that they could’ve been my parents. Partly because it might be hard to find something to talk about too. But it seems like as I’ve been getting older that has become less of an issue as my views and what I converse about evolves. Another issue could be the chemistry sometimes is just not there. Just keep trying and you’ll find someone. If you’re free and interested there’s a party happening on Saturday night that I will DM you about where you might find some people around our age and find someone you can make a connection with.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  I am not familiar with the swinging scene at all, so i am happy to be corrected. But my first thought on the topic is that age gap does play a huge role, i find myself having problem to get along with people 10 years younger or older in normal life, i believe it would be the same even if you have met them at a swinging party. I most definitely wouldn't get along too well with 20 years old me!! There are always exceptions of course, but if you really want to socialise with people from different age ( or generations) you have to find many other mutual interests other than getting frisky

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Hey Dark, sorry to hear about it! Age gap would have a lot to do with it. As another user suggested, pants on or off, it can be hard to connect with people older/younger than you. A good host should be mindful of this though and help facilitate those connections. If you're interested, you're welcome to check out our parties. We're 18-35s and make sure we get enthusiastic, sociable people through.

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  Good_Bad

  6 years ago

  I think probably it's based on society norms. Otherwise I think once you're an adult we're all similar. In that- some people I get along with, others I don't. But it's a matter of finding people you connect with regardless of age.

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  DonnaBrett

  6 years ago

  Some ' older' people have issues with the thought of young folk in this scene because of their own kid's ages. We have been doing this for 20 years and have never ruled out any age group (over 18 of course) and have played with and enjoyed socialising with people way younger, up to 30 years. If a person can hold a conversation, is fun and friendly we see no issue. Interestingly some years ago we met a couple who contacted us and they were 21 & 22 and said they preferred meeting up with older people because many people their own age had all sorts of issues. There was also another couple , he was 34 and she 18 but added a year to her profile age saying she was 19 because she thought no one would want to play with her. Go figure? Good luck.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  ...however if you want to come over, we can play a game called "Babysitter". 😈 Fortunately for you, you've just managed to stay under my optimum age limit. Best........ ʗɱ

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  hotdelights

  6 years ago

  your body looks nice what r we here for

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  You don't need to compare nothing , age, gap etc etc etc. There is one reason here. Some sort of sex freedom exploration but that speak out a lots into adulthood when some years can dominated the reasonable way of thinking and turn a bit biter with young generations after they try the sweet part of it. You fresh Boddy and skin. So not everyone is for everyone even after shacking they body's together. enjoy being you with you boyfriend or husband. And let it come. Let it be.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Thanks for all the comments everyone, I must say I can totally see how people might find it uncomfortable talking to younger people due to them being around their children's age or feeling like they might not have much in common with us. Hopefully the longer we keep doing this, the more our presence might be noted by others and the socialisation will come more easier. As much as its fun to do some spontaneous 'only physical' play with strangers, it can be slightly uncomfortable when its like that 100% of time. But thanks all for your input, means a lot :)

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  SSExplorer

  6 years ago

  We played with a 19/20yo couple and had a great time and appreciated the conversations before, during and after. I think it just depends on the people. I could understand others feeling uneasy if you’re the age of their own kids, we are late starters so it doesn’t come into our heads. I’ve had some of the most stimulating conversations with people so much younger and so much older, an open mind goes a long way :)

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Age gap does play its part in such circumstances but usually there are other factors contributing to this. Many people like to keep their private life “private”, just like keeping work and family life separate, they prefer to go out and have fun with other couples or individuals and come home, leaving that world of sexual exploration outside. They don’t like to include them in their social environment. There are those who like to make friends with their “play” partners of course. But then lot of these people will have children who will be around your age and you can imagine the awkwardness they’ll have to explain to their kids when someone figures something is up. Younger play partners are popular, more popular than others in some circles but not when it comes to socializing. All these aside, you may meet people like us, who doesn’t have children and does not feel that social awkwardness as a result, but then it all comes down to having things in common.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Ideal friends to make :)

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  The one time that i went to a Swingers Group "meet-n-greet" night as a small bar in Hobart late last year, there was around 15 to 20 couples and at least 10 to 15 solo women there, but not sure if they were single, or their partners decided not to go (no single men were there) There was nobody under 35, i don't know why, and the average age would have been 40/45 i would say, and here i was, a 58 year old who is usually very outgoing, stuck for words, and usually i would be fine in company of this age group. I don't know why, it may have been the fact that i was a guy on my own that made people reluctant to greet me and make me feel comfortable, but as soon as a solo woman dropped into the party, we had a few words, then she was accosted by many of the other people and whisked away for long conversations with the other people. I don't know how i would feel if a 19/20's couple was to arrive at a swinging party, would have to experience it, but i know that i would not want to swap with a couple of that age, and nor would my partner. Are there not swinging groups/parties in some cities that cater for certain age groups, like 18 to 35, and over 35's etc. Good luck.

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