M47

Touch and Tickling

April 18 2014

I don't know if this is the right area for this one. I have a problem, always had a problem with being touched. I have always been very ticklish or jumpy and when it comes to bedroom fun it can be a pain in the ass because it isn't access all areas... feet for example I just cannot stand to be touched by another person. For someone to intentionally tickle me, like a girlfriend playfully doing it switches me off very quickly and I turn very agro. being poked in the belly or something like that also invokes a similar response. It would be almost likened to say someone who has suffered abuse in their past. It isn't as though I don't like to BE touched or don't wish to be touched but it just happens to turn out that way. I tend to find the more relaxed I am then the better off I will be but i'll always be ticklish and that would be a hard thing to combat. Wondered if anyone suffers a similar issue like this and maybe has ideas/strategies on how to overcome it. if it can indeed be overcome. I'm sure trust has a lot to do with it but at the same time for me it doesn't have a thing to do with it. it's a curly one but maybe someone has a wizard idea.

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MsSuperFoxy

12 years ago

I really dislike it when guys just tickle away at my pussy with their fingers, they fumble and carry on............I switch off...........turns me off them......terrible feeling isn't it? LOL Maybe try being blindfold, someone slightly touching you with feathers or different textures?? Foxy

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RHP User

12 years ago

either, I think it is the lack of control that I hate. I can't stop it. I do get a bit jumpy when people touch me in the wrong spot. I would suggest a right hook backed up with an uppercut, or maybe just make sure your partner is respectful of your wishes. Bring it up in light conversation pre-sex and make a bit of a joke about it but make sure they know very well that it isn't on. It has been a while since anyone tickled me. I had a sexy date a while ago that I was massaging and he had really ticklish feet which I didn't know until I got there, he sucked it up without kicking me in the face, I just added more pressure and he relaxed a bit.

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RHP User

12 years ago

I'm ticklish in some spots too, and part of it is seeing the other person tickle me. Hell, someone only has to use the word "tickle" and I'll jump. A blindfold may just work. As for me, I make sure my men know I like a firm touch, and to leave my feet alone.

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RHP User

12 years ago

I find for me the finer the touch it is worse so like long fingernails along the back I just get goosebumps and squirmy. has to be firm pressure with the fingertips. so getting a massage is fine so long as they get stuck in and don't pussy foot around

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RHP User

12 years ago

I love being touched in all areas except one. He knows it, and my one ticklish spot, and uses it to his advantage :( But when I get tickled there, it's like an adrenaline rush that pumps out all my strength and, even if I'm held down, I can fight off the strongest of men. Meaning, if I don't know you well (and those who know me well ought to know better!!) and you touch me there, you'd better have some protective gear on or you could end up with a black eye and blue balls. I'm normally a non-violent person but this is your first and only warning! :P - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

12 years ago

Hypnotherapy.... it works on this issue. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

12 years ago

in silk or satin sheets,wear soft fabrics close to your skin,get used to your own touch,bathe in scented oils,perhaps part of the problem is the anticipation.....embrace the sensual side of you....xx Q

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RHP User

12 years ago

Regularly, but not the deep tissue type, the soft sensual relaxation type, once it starts to become unbearable then they can go deeper.... It's training your muscles to relax and can be done........

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RHP User

12 years ago

You lucky guyTime is what you need and then it will end up a big tease.The human body can feel so much and receive so much pleasure and is one reason a guy my age gets youngerwomen.Study the body and in time you can turn even pain beit yourself or a partner into a mind blowing orgasm.

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MissBishere

12 years ago

But it's already been said. I have used it for other things and find it's truly amazing. for me it has been an instant fix in the last. The only ticklish area I have is my groin...getting waxed is a challenge, it takes all my self control not to slam my legs together and punch her in the face. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

12 years ago

It's taken a while but he has kinda de-sensitised a little over time and much touching, I'm a very very tactile person so I can't keep my hands off him, but we've established how not-fun it is for him to be tickled. so it's never light strokes or nails, and some places were off limits for a long time but I can now lay my hands there without stroking and he trusts me enough not to jump away. I'd say that could probably work for you too if you found someone you could trust to put in the time, patience, communication and establish clear boundaries ie after he cums the only part that's safe to touch is above the shoulders :) xx Sarah

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RHP User

12 years ago

Once upon a time you'd only have to wave a finger at me and the thought of being tickled was enough to turn me all girlie.. ( Not good for a rugged ex footballer ) . It's not like I didn't like it. Was just that over powering feeling of losing it I didn't like. However a beautiful ex GF helped me overcome most of it big time . She would tell me to relax then put her hand firmly on the spot until I got used to the feel and relaxed, then she would gradually retract the pressure and start to massage . In saying that, I love the feel of long fingernails all over, specially on my back... bum and balls...

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RHP User

12 years ago

well problem with the hypnosis is that I am not a believer in it :P I think it is hokum. Plus I don't think there is anyone in my local area that even practices it to try. But yeh I guess I just got to try to desensitise myself but being tied up and or blindfolded makes me nervous so might be counter to the activity. but maybe that's just a fear to push past

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madotara69

12 years ago

Quoting 'arkangel1978' well problem with the hypnosis is that I am not a believer in it :P I think it is hokum. Plus I don't think there is anyone in my local area that even practices it to try. But yeh I guess I just got to try to desensitise myself but being tied up and or blindfolded makes me nervous so might be counter to the activity. but maybe that's just a fear to push past You can learn to self hypnotise yourself even, it's just a form of deep relaxation that takes you into a deeper state than sleep does, though you go down and sit with your concious, you can talk to yourself, sort stuff out, see what's going on inside yourself and even make some changes to things that bug you about yourself. You know exactly what is going on all around you, though everything you just accept is all part with it and sounds and stuff just disappear. It's a wonderful world in there, just you and you your friend.

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MissBishere

12 years ago

What madotara said exactly. Bloody amazing stuff. I could have done weeks, months, years of therapy I chose not to go down that path but rather tackle it from the inside the deep level where it was rooted and remove it. Good luck with the desensitisation :)

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madotara69

12 years ago

One remedy, that certainly will help for a little while at least, it works for many things, try giving it a go next time you are in such a predicament. Simply tear out the centre of a slice of bread and hang it on your most sensitive ear, sensational reactions you are sure to get and after the laughing fits you shall be cured.

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