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Validations? Turn on or turn off?
February 27 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
I find sexual validations a turn off, especially when there are many of them. I don't need or want to know who you have fucked and how fantastic it was. If the time ever comes, I'd prefer to find out for myself! I can understand why validations may be useful to some people, but they are just a turn off for me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
They wouldn't turn me off. I'd be more likely to meet you because of them. Xxviolet
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are just another assumption. I've read some on peoples page's I have met and giggle. Like you OP I have also seen a serial "validator" .... WA is small - so for me depends on who wrote the validation. OP... I'm Switzerland on this one. No turn on, or off. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
It helps you know who follows through. Because we travel a lot we're on a fab swingers international site, you should see how the brits validate, there's no word limit and it's blow-by-blow. That's not sexy, really. But here I think they're a valuable tool. And they don't intimidate us, you get an idea of who people are after with their friendslists and validations and once you actually start to know others in the scene you can gauge whether or not you might be their type too...
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's always handy to have some insight into who is contacting you,or vice versa... It can speak volumes..not necessarily in a good way from my point of view,...it's the same with a friends list....a sifting and sorting tool xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why,oh ,why do people say,...don't pass up the chance to meet this sexy yadda yadda...I am always disappointed when they turn up without the steak knives 😒xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' Why,oh ,why do people say,...don't pass up the chance to meet this sexy yadda yadda... There are template validations. I prefer non-sexual validations myself, and preferably just one. I like knowing if someone is real and reliable, but if he's a sexual animal I'll decide for myself. And about the template validations, I can't take them seriously. If someone is willing to validate, they can surely come up with a few words themselves? More than one validation turns me off. A man here has 27. I know nothing about him, but personally I feel he's saying "Look at me, I'm a stud and everyone thinks so." Next. Like Freya said, validations can speak volumes, like profiles and pics, and they are a great sorting tool.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well Im not with paradisepair physically,( but great legs by the way 😄) just on their opinion. Obviously I like them, because I have some on My profile. Yes, I know its not nessessary to blatantly a bit of what Ive done in Pie Land. Is it a brag book? Maybe. But I look at mine as another way for a person reading my profile to gauge what Im into and who ive been attracted to.If it scares some ppl off contacting me? Probably. . On the flip side of that, I really appriciate reading someones profile who has a few( or a lot) of validations. Gives me an idea about the way they play, who they play with etc. Shows me who are genuine( not saying you arent if you dont have any)I dont analyse why someone has 22 validations,eg: do they fuck anything and have no morals? Maybe 10 of those validations are from one night at a swingers party. Or theyve been on here for 5 years and racked up a couple a year.Dont know, dont care their reasoning personally.So yes I choose to have a few validations, and yes, I use other peoples to gage what they are about. I find it especially helpful for ppl who play in group situations and the party scene.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Im not into them. I had one.... once...... her idea..... and it was more fun, than a sexual scorecard. But Im not into them.... unless they're just a personality comment.I know who I am, what I can do, and how others will I just don't have a need to tell the world, or want others to list me like a sexual resume.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Contact me and then read a validation, only one and it was pleasant and vague. In fact, we met, but did nothing much anyway. So this guy said... on second thoughts, I've seen you have a validation and that turns me off. Seriously, his loss 😂😂. Not the site to look for virgins. Hahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wish there weren't the template ones, if someone was worthy enough of a validation then it should be in their own words. I received a hot personal one the other day from a very fun and sexy guy. It was very thoughtful of him to write it and make it personal and I returned the favour. I prefer to read that someone has turned up and has been true to form and it has been appreciated.
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
and have only accepted two validations. The ones I have describe me as a person rather than my sexual prowess, and they are from people who were not one night cruisers - they have taken the time to get to know me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ive written a couple, one for a great guy who is now one of my best friends, its a character validation. Another for a guy I spent a fabulous weekend with, but I didnt go into explicit details. When I first joined, I received a message from someone asking to meet up for a drink. He had a few validations, so I said No thank you. Cue a few months later, ( me being a bit more Pie wise,) he got back in touch, we met up a few times and he is a lovely guy. To think I might never have known him......So I would say that they really dont bother me one way or the other, although I do like ones that are about the person rather than describing their sexual antics in great detail.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't want to be validated. I prefer to keep things between me and the woman or couple I meet. Do I get turned off about others being validated?......not really, in most cases I won't read them anyway. Having said that, I have no desire to be in the 'scene' so it doesn't matter to me. I guess for those who see it as a lifestyle, then perhaps it might be useful.
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MissBishere
11 years ago
that is about me not how I fuck which is lovely. And it's from a lonely man. I have written one for him to neck see he is a lovely man. I wrote one once for a guy that was a little sexual, then found out he was a cheating husband so had it deleted.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I asked this in the chatroom the other day. I think most of them are just for people to show off. I don't think I've actually ever read one so what do I know lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
interesting responses guys. I have to say I'm more inclined to like the personality based ones myself. Hopefully the two I have reflect that I'm. Nice person who is good company, in fact I'm facebook friends (post meet up) with both of my validators. I think I'm going to leave mine on... It's really tough game with very few players on the field for a married, open relationship man over forty! Thanks for the comments... I feel validated lol :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why would a validation influence me? I'll make up my own mind thank you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your 2 validations are good ones and I loved reading your Profile too. You seem like a genuine, honest, sincere guy who would be fun in and out of the bedroom. And I bet you really are !!! Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
is the same as Fit73. If someone wanted to validate me, I wouldn't accept. All I need to know is that I'm a "real" person and a RHP Member will find that out when we meet. Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Validations prove that people are real and aren't just here to view pictures or gauge interest. Fun fact : all of the people that have wasted our time have had not a single validation on their profile :). - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
So I've noticed a few of you have said you read the validations on my profile but I can't see that you've viewed my profile? mystifying! I've heard talk of a "secret shopper code" how do i get this!?
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RHP User
11 years ago
one or two validations would be my limit ! anymore than that il move to another line ! rather be first or second not somewhere in the middle 😔 but in saying that I kno everyone who is on here are on here for many different reasons so each to their own & hope it works out for them 😚 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'dynamic_du0' Validations prove that people are real and aren't just here to view pictures or gauge interest. Fun fact : all of the people that have wasted our time have had not a single validation on their profile :). - Posted from rhpmobile hey Dynamic duo! we've met and then some, my couple profile dms2004. hope you guys are well... i think from memory we validated you but didn't get one in return! ha!
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RHP User
11 years ago
oops,sorry dynamic duo, i was thinking you were another dynamic duo... apologies...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'dynamic_du0' Validations prove that people are real and aren't just here to view pictures or gauge interest. Fun fact : all of the people that have wasted our time have had not a single validation on their profile :). - Posted from rhpmobileguests with no friends and no validations is now a big no for us - way too much time spent wasted on people with that combo
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MissBishere
11 years ago
i did not mean "he is a lonely man" fuck me dead how awful does that sound!!! I meant "he is a lovely man" seriously need to read before hitting post... 😟
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RHP User
11 years ago
Makes for a great read but rather like that someone is selective rather than shag whatever they can get...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sexual validation are a turn off but a validation that is to confirm that person was nice and genuine that's ok
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