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WHY EVEN BOTHER...grrr
October 11 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Oh it happens all the time to everyone i think. I just opened this message "Hi - great pics and profile, I am very intrigued - are you interested in meeting up today?" Well for starters he has never seen my pics and secondly he is 10 years younger than what my profile states.I have an auto-reply on which says basically that if you dont fit my criteria i will not be writing back. As for people send ing you a flirt or message and then you responding positively and them disappearing, it probably does have a lot to do with the fact that they have no intention of meeting up and are probably surprised when a REAL person actually replies with a phone number. Not much you can do, just block and move on.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Just block em!
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RHP User
16 years ago
It's not just you that this happens to...it happens to all of us.But don't let the wankers deter you from looking for the real peeps here...they are here!!Just like anywhere you go...there will always be tossers...youngsters...wowsers....general dickheads that are just trying their luck and shit their pants when someone actually replies!I have found that the chat rooms are a great place to get to know people...you can chat and then if you feel there's a connection...you can take it from there. And just for the record....if I get a message that is rude...or is clearly outside my stated parameters....or looks like a cut and paste job....or just looks dodgy....I dont bother to reply. I dont feel im being rude...as Ive made it pretty clear what i will and wont accept. Keep looking and good luck!!Just my opinion...BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Your not on your own So naughty...frustrating?, yes it is ,but dont let it get i the way of finding the genuine people. Though this is a lot harder now in comparison to a number of years ago...used to be lots of good people and a few tools, now the tools outnuber the genuine tenfold im sure. But we blame most of it on the promotion techniques employed by contact sites , you know, the ones that use porn sites to do so. All those adds that pop up with..." " i joined this site and within a day 50 horny blonde goddess women with dd tits , and 100 couples contacted me and just begged me to do them over and over again "", so while surfing porn and squeezing the tool at the same time it all goes in the head and the fantasy overides the reality....hence we often see the site flooded by those driven by some unreal fantasy and not a true desire for sexual fun ,purely for the chance of the almighty dollar being made by the sites from the unsuspecting mob.
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RHP User
16 years ago
As the person who penned the phrase "single guy brigade". I couldnt agree more with what MissBJ wrote.. If your profile says certain things that people choose to not read or ignore... then its l justified to return the favor and do the same.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thanks for the replies guys n gals... We know it's not only happening to us and we do block the outright time wasters and wankers straight away, dont you worry lol. Our main gripe is that when someone decent does initiate chat, has a few conversations (even phone convos.) and then dissapears. Pisses you of wasting time you rarely have spare on a loser/s that just want a ego bump when you want a decent bump he he.I think our profile states clearly what we are after but hubby thinks a tune up is in need and some horizons broadened.(stay tuned). Seems that SEALUVERS hit the bullseys in our eyes with there comments. personally I think most of these guys are only here to bullshit, blow and go... any serious guys feel free to meet up and prove me wrong..
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RHP User
16 years ago
We are grateful that we do not have a fraction of the difficulties we so often read about in the forums with the so-called 'single guy brigade' as some have used the term lately tho the use of that label is not, by any stretch of the imagination, new to RHP and it will I imagine, like other labels used in the past, fade into obscurity again soon enough.I'm mystified about why you are not hearing back when people have contacted you in the first place. It would have to be very off putting for you both to say the least and I feel for you. Threads on guys that don't turn up mystify us too. Please don't be discouraged tho, there are real people on here that do keep in contact, meet AND even get it on lol. Re answering messages: we started on RHP with the same attitude that we we wanted to reply to messages and winks but the time taken to reply individually to each was taking the fun out of our time on here. So we set up a simple template that we can send with a cpl of clicks. It is written on our profile that we have the template to send to profiles that don't match etc and that no explanation will be given. It works for us, we ignore those few that still ask anyway cos we made ourselves clear in the first place, we get a 10% of messages back to say thanks which we really appreciate, and we don't get nasty replies which you gotta love.All the bestMrs P
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi everyone, Think about it from the serious guys perspective. I actually read the persons profile, if your profile is not what I find appealing I move on. If the profile is what I am looking for then I will usually send a message or flirt. I cant remember how many times I have got the " Your not what I/we are looking for" reply, but that said I dont hassel that person again as they have made their intentions quiet clear. It's all of the idiots out there that are making it difficult for the rest of us genuine guys. The worst thing is sending a message and or flirt and never getting a reply. This is why I have not re-newed my subscription nor I am going to in the future. Come on people, I know this is an "adult" site, but most of the people on here carry on like children. Even members you have paid their subscripton carry on like idiots... men and women. I agree with 50naughty, that it is getting more difficult to find an honest reaction to your profile. Maybe there is another site worth visiting.... Kind Regards Ashley
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RHP User
16 years ago
*Quoting rdyforanythg: Think about it from the serious guys perspective. I actually read the persons profile, if your profile is not what I find appealing I move on. If the profile is what I am looking for then I will usually send a message or flirt. I cant remember how many times I have got the " Your not what I/we are looking for" reply, but that said I dont hassel that person again as they have made their intentions quiet clear.There are indeed many guys on RHP that are 'serious' and respectful obviously but would like to point out that it might not be obvious to them what it is that makes us decide they are not what we are looking for. There are people that automatically reject profiles with dick pics and we explain in our profile that no pics, unverified profiles or profiles that have minimal detail will get our template reply and that 'a well thought out message can go a long way to engaging MrsP's mind which you're gonna need to get the body into gear :-D...' but it's not possible to spell out everything and how interesting is a persons profile going to sound by then lol. *Quoting rdyforanythg: It's all of the idiots out there that are making it difficult for the rest of us genuine guys. The worst thing is sending a message and or flirt and never getting a reply. This is why I have not re-newed my subscription nor I am going to in the future.It's true that there are idiots that go some way to making things more difficult for genuine guys but ultimately the decision to reply rests in the hands of the person/s messaged. Gotta respect those that refuse to reply to men cos that's not what they're looking for lol. But I've also read excuses in the forums that some just don't have the time to reply and various other reasons which have nothing to do with anyone but themselves which leaves me wondering why they don't do something about it then... for eg there are lots of ways to wind down the amount of attention a profile recieves while the time is taken to reply to the backlog. We reply to our messages and rather than abuse we recieve gratitude that at least we replied and honestly. *Quoting rdyforanythg: Come on people, I know this is an "adult" site, but most of the people on here carry on like children. Even members you have paid their subscripton carry on like idiots... men and women.I dunno bout most considering the numbers involved and don't see what being a paid member has to do with anything but I wanted to add that you forgot to mention couples and groups etc... *Quoting rdyforanythg: I agree with 50naughty, that it is getting more difficult to find an honest reaction to your profile. Maybe there is another site worth visiting...Hmmm, well I don't know of another site that has forums which is a great place to get honest reactions in my experience AND I think you'll find a lot of the RHPers will be on those sites also lol... The last thing I'd like to add is that we have no trouble getting honest reactions to our profile or keeping in contact and meeting up with people :-)CheersMrs P
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with most opinions here and understand that your post is based on your negative experiences with time-wasting guys but perhaps your profile attracts the wrong sort of guys? Just a theory so don't shoot me down yet.I think your profile pics are cute n hot (wish I was visiting Qld lol) but your profiles got a slightly negative tone to it. I know you need to be assertive and get ur point across but its a bit hard going towards the end. A bit terms and conditions for some contract you gotta sign in order to seal the deal.Its better to be honest and you want to make sure u get a guy that fits what you want but for example you say you want a guy with a BIG cock but what does that mean? Guys with a decent sized cock (like me) might run a mile since we think you might mean 10 inches or more.Also I know ur married but to some extent you gotta appeal to a guy as if ur the sort of girl he'd date as well as shag. There are guys who can get it up and shove it in anything but I personally got to click with a girl a bit whether its for one on one or threesomes. If ur after the first sort of guy then good luck but I reckon you'll have to filter the dickheads who do think they're super stud.Anyways - read that ur man is going to change your profile a bit so maybe this helps? If not that's cool and sorry if I offended.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with SydMVP your profile gives some sexual details that would get some guys all excited and they would not read the info. Like others have said just block them if they are annoying you and report them. Also sme guys like the thought of being in a MMF threesome but have never tried it so might be reluctant to respond and actually meet especially if you are very forward and upfront with what you want, but yet enjoy the messaging and flirting online ... Can I suggest also adding to your profile that you only play as a couple if that is the case good luck
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi SydMVP....Dont worry it takes a lot to offend or upset us..Our profile has ended up the way it has as I am only seeking guys who can perform in a 3some and have a decent sized dick. I dont wish to break in virgins to 3somes nor do I want a dick much smaller than I already have with my hubby (hubby is 8.5 long and thick) as that seems pointless to me. As for terms and conditions, well after a million messages offering what we dont want we got sick of people who cant read or simply choose not to thinking they are the one that will break the mould. i dont want to love, cuddle or date these guys I want them to fuck me hence why I dont go on with all of that crap and seeing as I am attracted to younger guys I already have to put up with these conversations wanting chit chat and bullshit to feed there egos, where as we like to get to the point as bullshit and the net go hand in hand and when you combine sex you have the perfect recipe for a tosser. When we meet the person then we get into all of the chit chat and general interest stuff and see how they react face to face rather than lying from behind a computer screen in there comfort zone. You can only say so much in a profile without it becoming a novel so we have put what we felt would get to the point straight away and let them know how we roll, and as we have found out very few people read them properly anyway. We dont wish to offend but it obviously depends on who is reading the profile to how they react, as so far we have met plenty of nice genuine people who we have had fun with and very few have not liked our profile, in fact they liked the honesty. So I guess it really depends on who reads it and how they react I spose. We think its a whole lot better than all of the one liner and automated response profiles that we seem to come across. We havent changed the profile in a while as it opens the floodgate for more misinterpretation when we do. Will wait and see with the new profile and pics eh...
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playfulminx
16 years ago
From my experience guys will morph themselves into whatever they think you are looking for. The same guys who write and say how much they long to stroll on the beach to the romance-seeking girls will also write some of the filthiest things to other girls who want to be shagged rotten. I think some guys can play all roles but some only think they can and clearly can't :(I'm guessing most of the guys you've approached have read your profile and simply put on their game face even though they may be shit scared of the concept of meeting a sexually confident woman and her well-hung hubby. I think some guys really dig a hole for themselves.So how to work out which guys are really up to the task? I think talking over the phone helps more than MSN etc. MSN just enables bullshitters whereas t's hard to hide nerves etc. on the phone. Don't give out your phone number tho. Get their number and make sure they are prepared to answer it. If they fail to answer the phone 2/3 times at a reasonable time during the day (allowing for work etc.), move on to the next guy :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Good luck with it all... sounds like you'll be needing it. We are amazed we really don't have anywhere near as many problems as some... and we're grateful for it.Thanks to all the fellas out there Mrs P
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RHP User
16 years ago
Some really good advice coming from a good cross section of the new and the old RHP members.. I put my hand up for penning the phrase ' single guy brigade' and dont apoligize for doing so. However' the phrase has hit a nerve with some who seem to make a habit of seizing any opportunity to castigate it whenever possible. But really' who cares' it was a throw away line that suited the purpose of the subject at that time. Its the good ideas that ppl post that really matter' and thats where the value of this forum lay.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think there are some spam bots out there. A couple of times I've got the same flirt over and over and over from a newbie, so I check out (or re-check) their profile and it's already deleted/banned.
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RHP User
16 years ago
50N4U6H7Y I think I know what the problem you are having is caused by. The main ones you are complaining about are the ones that you have actually made contact with only to have them disappear. You are entitled to have certain standards and I don't discourage it however your comment that you want someone bigger than 8.5 inches and thick straight away knocks out 99.5% of the population. That isn't a figure I pulled out of my arse either, that is information from the Kinsley Institute of Sex Research. Only 0.5% of penises are 8.5 inches or bigger. So you found one of the freaks so to speak...lol.So I'm wondering since it does not say anything about the 8 1/2 in in your profile (you just mention big cocks) maybe a lot of guys realise after talking with you that they aren't actually what you want. Hell maybe they have said they are bigger than what they are and realise since you already have a big one with you they are going to be caught out.I could be wrong but it might be the case for some at least.
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RHP User
16 years ago
We are happy overall and have had no problems at all with the guys we have hooked up with. Regardless of dick size, age or location, all it boils down to is that most people are only on sex and dating sites to have a perve and feel good about themselves by chatting to chicks they have no intentions of meeting up with due to there own relationship issues or conflict. For some people this is the only way they can relieve there sexual tension as there own relationship obviously has constraints and boundries that control them otherwise, its just a shame they have to lie and hide behind it. Maybe if they were up front about it all then there wouldnt be the need for these sorts of topics. I have come across plenty of guys with 8" or bigger cocks ranging from 18-35 years old so there is a few more freaks out there than documented eh lol, hubby and his mates also find there is a lot of chicks intimidated by the larger end of the scale. I still have an extremely tight pussy, its just that I like em large, but in saying that a 6" dick can do an equally good job if they know how to use it correctly. Overall we dont care who penned what phrase as it was simply a reference to some of the topics in the forum not a direct reference to anything or anyone in particular. Thanks for all the replys regardless....
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey Guys... My post was not aimed at you guys... Apoligies if it come across like that. Cheers
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