Wah Wah Wah

Comments

• 

  RHP User

  19 years ago

  I guess its easy for me to make the comments I dont think Im an unattractive man. That being said I maintain that physical looks are not my number one priority. When you chat blind to people, you have not seen a pic and have no description you can find your self attracted bt the word they type. The mental attraction is what I really think is important. Some one could be stunning to look at but have all the personality of a dead mullet. I think it is that clicky thing that I find attractive. This is not the easiest concept to explian. It no use looking great if your basically brain dead. Mike

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  19 years ago

  Well guys interesting topic. I agree with you all. Looks are important, it is human nature to look at some one, male or female, and go Oh Yeah or No Thanks. But in saying this you cannot judge a book by its cover. Intitally the look of a person will attract or do the total opposite. Once you start having a conversation you may be metally stimulated or find it difficult to continue with the conversation, this is all part of getting to know someone. You may be attracted to someones mind rather than there body. On sites like this then yes there are some who don’t care and just want to get it on with anyone reguardless of looks. Then there are others who hold looks very important, each to there own. The ultimate thing is to respect each other, respect there views, wants and needs and if some one says no then respect that choice, and be cool with it. Take care and all the best in what you choose. Happee

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  19 years ago

  We with you guys kiss and fem, looks mean a lot to us as well. We are very fussy with whom we are going to hve fun with hence why it hasnt happened alot. We take pride in our appearance so would definately want the other couple to do so as well. ok, thats my two cents worth for awhile.lol Shy

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  19 years ago

  We think both sides of the arguement have merit here.. Attraction does matter to us, but an attraction can be found in a variety of ways... Sometimes it is looks - can even often be looks - but we all (thankfully!) go for different types of looks... Sometimes it is personality or sense of humour - people who make you laugh, or feel special. Sometimes its simply attraction based on shared sexual tastes.. We have played with people with a range of ages/body shapes/sexual orientations. What we have discovered though is that looks alone, no matter how cute, arent enough to make us meet up again. Rather for us, it is the people with the right combination of all these qualities who we want to see again, and with whom we have formed ongoing relationships. For example we have declined to meet people again simply based on thier politics and world view - or they’re just not interesting company in or out of bed! On a final suggestion though, and only for those people who are unhappy because they cant find people with the exact looks they are after, and thusly arent playing. Maybe they could broaden thier definition of ’attractive’ to include other aspects of people... in addition to looks.. Please ignore at your will, we are enjoying the discussion. PC

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  19 years ago

  I tend to agree with the folks on here but what piss’s me off is the fact that ppl put that they are average size only to meet and find that they are obess. I know that i am overweight and i have that on my profile. so be honest or do women have those mirrors that make 1 look skiny i dont think so. come on ppl some honesty would be appreciated especially in this all fucked up world that we call home.

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  19 years ago

  There has been a bit of talk on here about looks and whether they matter etc and I think with maybe the exception of Mike (and he appears to be a noble minority!), looks kinda do matter to all of us in some way or another.. That said however, when you read a lot of profiles and what people are looking for, their ’ideal partner’ is often described in terms that may easily be interpreted in a number of ways... ie: Takes pride in their appearence - We’d argue that 10 different people could possibly take that 10 different ways.. does being overweight for example mean that you have no pride in your appearance? Any number of larger, well dressed and groomed people would probably disagree. ie: Looks after themselves - This may mean any number of things, who doesnt try their hardest to look after themselves? A better example of clear and concise spelling out of ’ideal partner’ is one found on a profile within the discussion groups.. "please don’t waste our time if you are anything ’less’ than ’attractive, slim, over 8’, under 35yrs." Now this is by no means me, not in anyway :) but at least when we read it we know clearly what the person is looking for and thusly wouldnt contact them. It may be seen by some (not us!) as blunt, but at least its pretty clear... When we read a profile we tend to a)try and read between the lines, and b)be a little self critical in terms of how others might perceive us... Maybe not everyone is like that, or perhaps has the capacity to do so... We guess we are saying that if you are getting lots of replies from people you are not in the least bit interested in, maybe take a look at the specific wording you have used in your profile. This may help weed out some, but never all, (specially those who simply trawl hot looking profiles in the hope of getting a response!) of the less than appropriate responses. Again, this is in no way a dig at anyone at all... Just trying to offer an observation. Of course the most clarity in the world will still be lost on those who dont bother to read profiles anyway!! You’ll never stop those!! Keep having fun everyone! PC

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  19 years ago

  Maybe when it comes to sex and what we are all looking for we should all stop talking "political" and just be honest ;). For my part i have a few lady friends, lately some i’ve met through parties have been quite attractive but i’ve found they don’t hang around long, i usually hear how i’m good fun but its such a big playing field... lol. The ones i treasure are the ones who keep coming back, no commitment or promises, just fun times, they have without exception been what most consider "plainer" looking girls but i’ll take any one of them over a blow through "pretty" anyday. I’ve found the exception to this is with couples, maybe the wife isn’t as afraid of being "used" as the pretty single lass? ;) I’m not sure its exactly what you’re getting at BigMike but i’ve found a pretty body is nice, a good attitude is magic... :). Where it may sound like we do differ is that, while i’m not interested in anyone who can’t hold a conversation, i do consider that scintillating repartee may be important in a potential partner, not a playmate :).

  reply

  like