M47
Want her indulge
June 28 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
hi Teasze2pleaze I think you are talking about a cuckold relationship. There is a section in the Fetish & Fantasy section which may interest you. Now, if you catch your wife with another guy, what do you do? Stand and watch, have a wank? Go down on her afterwards and clean her up like a good boy?
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RHP User
12 years ago
What misus (sic)?? Your profile says you are single. Be that as it may, I guess I am one of the odd ones out on here. If I had a partner and we were in love, I don't think I would like them to be with other people. I can understand couples playing together, but playing alone.... I just don't get it!
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RHP User
12 years ago
MissElle, everyone is different. I think teaze2pleaze is probably a cuckold but doesn't realise it yet. Whether his wife is willing to indulge his fetish is another thing I guess.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Errr.... what shaming? I was voicing MY opinion. Everyone is entitled to voice their opinion on here. Or so I was led to believe.
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RHP User
12 years ago
its a fun and strange world we live in
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RHP User
12 years ago
My last partner said he didn't do jealousy, wanted threesome (mmf) and foursome but turns out he was being dishonest .. Couldn't actually handle it. Just make sure he's not actually wanting to sabotage ....
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RHP User
12 years ago
My last partner said he didn't do jealousy, wanted threesome (mmf) and foursome but turns out he was being dishonest .. Couldn't actually handle it. Just make sure he's not actually wanting to sabotage ....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Trouble with wanting is that you're left with the experience of wanting and that's the "can't stop thinking abut it" part of it..Find a way to share this fantasy with her, in a way and at a time you think she'll best hear it..You might get what you want..Now, would'nt that be worth having?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MsElle72' What misus (sic)?? Your profile says you are single. Be that as it may, I guess I am one of the odd ones out on here. If I had a partner and we were in love, I don't think I would like them to be with other people. I can understand couples playing together, but playing alone.... I just don't get it! Agree with you totally Ms Elle72
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RHP User
12 years ago
if a partner is encouraging the other to seek sex elsewhere, are they doing so because that is what they want to do and if the partner goes first with their encouragement, then it gives them the right to do so also. I just don't understand the concept. If I loved someone, the last thing I would ever want to do is see or imagine them having sex with someone else nor have I ever even thought about screwing someone else myself when I was in a relationship.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' if a partner is encouraging the other to seek sex elsewhere, are they doing so because that is what they want to do and if the partner goes first with their encouragement, then it gives them the right to do so also. I just don't understand the concept. If I loved someone, the last thing I would ever want to do is see or imagine them having sex with someone else nor have I ever even thought about screwing someone else myself when I was in a relationship. Cause the cuckold gets off on it. Same as some people have fetishes or some people like vanilla. They just know that waiting at home while the wife goes out is the thing that totally gets them off
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' if a partner is encouraging the other to seek sex elsewhere, are they doing so because that is what they want to do and if the partner goes first with their encouragement, then it gives them the right to do so also. I just don't understand the concept. If I loved someone, the last thing I would ever want to do is see or imagine them having sex with someone else nor have I ever even thought about screwing someone else myself when I was in a relationship. When you are deeply comfortable in your relationship you can actually get joy from seeing your Partner have fun. It's called compersion and it's the opposite of jealously. We're not in a cuckhold relationship but we both enjoy seeing the other have pleasure. But if there's any hint of insecurity it's easy for it to go pearshaped. The cuckhold thing I can't really comment, has anyone heard of a female alternative? You know women who get off on sending their guy out?
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RHP User
12 years ago
There are ALOT of men out there that are in loving relationships. Who adore and respect their wives/girlfriends... but they get off watching them with other men. Maybe they feel inferior, maybe they enjoy seeing their partners pleased. Or maybe they like having a little slut. Each to their own. If we were all the same... all had the same kinks then life would be boring!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' Quoting 'ralf74' if a partner is encouraging the other to seek sex elsewhere, are they doing so because that is what they want to do and if the partner goes first with their encouragement, then it gives them the right to do so also. I just don't understand the concept. If I loved someone, the last thing I would ever want to do is see or imagine them having sex with someone else nor have I ever even thought about screwing someone else myself when I was in a relationship. When you are deeply comfortable in your relationship you can actually get joy from seeing your Partner have fun. It's called compersion and it's the opposite of jealously. We're not in a cuckhold relationship but we both enjoy seeing the other have pleasure. But if there's any hint of insecurity it's easy for it to go pearshaped. The cuckhold thing I can't really comment, has anyone heard of a female alternative? You know women who get off on sending their guy out? PP, its called a cuckquean
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RHP User
12 years ago
What works for some and maybe not so for others, in the end its about being open communicative and keeping some base rules for both to stick by. Any sign of that not working well you have to stop it in its tracks and re think it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That he loves the thought of seeing her enjoy herself I know that's what I enjoy We tried my wife going and playing on her own and coming home to me which we both found great and a lot of couples find this great the thought of the naughty things they are doing that no one would suspect them of , we didn't enjoy it as much as me being presant once the novelty wore off but everyone to there own some people love the idea of having multiple parteners or there partener having multiple parteners but rather it be as a 1on 1 setting I for one have encoraged my wife to play but have never even contiplated asking if I can go and play on my own - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is amazing what people get up to behind closed doors,things that would never ever cross our minds.
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RHP User
12 years ago
not that there's anything wrong with that It took my husband 20yrs to fess up his desire to see me with other men, it cetrtainly threw me a little at first and yes Ralf, I thought the same thing, that it was a way to lead us into an open or swinging relationship. It wasn't, Araps is right, he is actually wired in a way that he gets off on sharing me, without jealousy or resentment. He is more content now that he can satisfy and explore what he always wanted within our relationship. Our relationship is enhanced by it and we have never been more open to each other and ourselves. We have both gained confidence and had the opportunity to explore our sexual interests whilst still maintaining a loving marriage. Be open to your partner and reassure her, it took a lot of reassurance for me to feel comfortable with the situation, it's not what you would usually expect from a loving partner. Don't push her too fast, encourage her to research cuckolding and open relationships for herself, let her see if it is really for her before making any plans. As much as this is your desire it may not be hers and if she goes through with it just for you, it could lead to her losing a bit of self worth and resentment. Good Luck
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think its hard for alot of women to understand this concept. But what women have to remember is men are not women. we think very differently to women and women think differently to men .(most of the time). I know alot of guys who genuinely enjoy seeing their partners fuck others ..As for myself i love to see my wife with other guys and wish she would do it more often..Unfortunately, she still worries ill get jealous but i never do and never will , i enjoy seeing her be a little slut.. Guys are NOT trying to be sneaky or trick their partners , not all guys are evil and bad humans like femo nazis make us out to be ..Some of us just like seeing our women enjoy sex. Its that simple
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'BellaRH' Agree with you totally Ms Elle72
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RHP User
12 years ago
Like you, I can't get my head around the concept. My last Partner (of 5 years) and I talked about going to CI, as a couple, many times but always ended up saying "Why ?". That said, Post Partner, I had a couple come round for what I thought would be "standard" MFM. We had coffee / chat and moved to the bedroom. He didn't undress immediately. I thought he was probably just waiting to see how I treated her. He didn't undress at all and shortly after just left us alone. It was a bit different, but afterwards we all had another coffee and it simply came down to "that was their thing and they were comfortable with it". We met a second time. He knew where the coffee and the remote were and she & I walked down the hall. We didn't meet again but I know that they're not together anymore. ???
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RHP User
12 years ago
that some people aren't great with this lifestyle but I have found in both my professional and personal experiences, many people go through with things to try and satisfy their partners to the detriment of their relationships. They are not ready and feel pressured into it. I also don't think that people in this lifestyle are any more prone to divorce than people who are vanilla either but I certainly don't think that it helps in many cases when things have not been considered properly before going ahead. The alternative lifestyles are very much glamourised and fantasised especially when it is more and more in your face and you have people spouting about how wonderful it is when in reality, things are not always what they seem. I thin people's 'sexual needs' are a bit overstated. I am 'wired' to be a nymphomaniac too but I can live without it, especially if it was going to be detrimental to anyone else.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry Ralph, but it is unfair for you to judge and assume the reality of a situation that you have not been a part of. Opinions that you wouldn't be able to do this yourself, fair enough, but assumptions that "things are not always what they seem" is actually offensive and you will notice that I and others, have given the advice in this thread and others relating to cuckolding, that this is not for all and approach with caution and open communication. There are many of us on here that live this lifestyle and I have talked to a few of the other Hotwives and we all are content and happy with our relationships, being able to being true to ones nature is liberating and not to the detriment of your relationship when done with honesty and respect. What is detrimental is lack of communication, intimacy, honesty and boundaries as is true in all relationships.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Shells and minx well said - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree Rockninx's last post.
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RHP User
12 years ago
if it works then great, I actually agree. I just see daily in my job what fetishes do when people aren't ready and even more so now that I am on a sex site. Are fetishes 'glamorised', you can bet your bottom dollar they are. Why do you think the range of sex toys keeps growing? We sell more fetish gear than ever because there is a growing market and more information readily available. The sex industry advertises fetishes through different media including websites, contact magazines and in store and people are more aware. We sponsor community events and sports teams, hell we even have a political party! I say it is not always as it seems because as you have all said, it works for some, not for all. You hear the good stuff but there is plenty of instances where it all goes pearshaped but people go in with good intentions and the attitude of try anything once with not much preparation/communication/trust/consideration - that is what I am referring to.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You can say the same about marriage. Marriage is also glamorized by movies, media etc ..In reality it rarely works and is alot of hardwork and sacrifice..Marriage is absolutely nothing like its made out to be by hollywood and the media. So, maybe fetishes are always a great idea for everyone ..and maybe vanilla marriage isnt a great idea for everyone also? Maybe its horses for courses ! Just because something doesnt work for you or some others doesnt mean its not absolutely perfect for thousands of other people... If you say you dont get it ..Fine not everyone will get it..But atleast admit its not something dubious or wrong..BEcause then you would be wrong.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Was meant to say " So, maybe fetishes are not always a great idea for everyone ..and maybe vanilla marriage isnt a great idea for everyone also?"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'goldcoastcple69' You can say the same about marriage. Marriage is also glamorized by movies, media etc ..In reality it rarely works and is alot of hardwork and sacrifice..Marriage is absolutely nothing like its made out to be by hollywood and the media. So, maybe fetishes are always a great idea for everyone ..and maybe vanilla marriage isnt a great idea for everyone also? Maybe its horses for courses ! Just because something doesnt work for you or some others doesnt mean its not absolutely perfect for thousands of other people... If you say you dont get it ..Fine not everyone will get it..But atleast admit its not something dubious or wrong..BEcause then you would be wrong. I am not against it (not sure how many times I have to say that), just that people need to be aware, and just like marriage, I would never suggest anyone jump into that either! I bet the fetishes weren't written into the wedding vows. I never said it was dubious or wrong either, love having words put in my mouth. I work in a job where I promote fetishes and I choose to do it responsibly, like you said, it is perfectly fine for some, not for others and I would rather people make an informed choice than rush into anything, simple as that. Sick of having to repeat myself because people want to read things I haven't said, end of it from me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's interesting seeing people judge.... To be honest, from our experience and from the experience of most swinging couples we have met; the people who get the most out of seeing partners play are very strong, long term relationship where jealousy never exists. Everyone is different, we have been together since age 17 and have never had boy/girlfriend before. We have never had the betrayal of an ex. We are also perfectly confident in our relationship. Therefore it's easy to relax and enjoy. So many people talk about the ex that did blah blah blah. I don't imagine it is easy to have zero jealousy and 100% trust when you have been hurt previously.
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madotara69
12 years ago
It is a pretty bold statement to say rarely does marriage work aswell as being hard work with sacrifices are the result for it to work. What are the sacrifices?
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RHP User
12 years ago
for hijacking your thread, Teaze2pleaze. It was not my intention. Good luck in convincing your wife, hopefully she will be up for it.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Ralf, I reckon your posts made a lot of sense and have been taken out of the realms you speak of. Truth is all who have posted about this type of relationship have mentioned being truthful, open and honest with each other. So from the few who this does work for, fair to say it plays a major part for being able to work. The OP is in here as a single guy cheating on his partner, lying to us as well as her, so I reckon it is just a crock of shit. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' Ralf, I reckon your posts made a lot of sense and have been taken out of the realms you speak of. Truth is all who have posted about this type of relationship have mentioned being truthful, open and honest with each other. So from the few who this does work for, fair to say it plays a major part for being able to work. The OP is in here as a single guy cheating on his partner, lying to us as well as her, so I reckon it is just a crock of shit. Mado Mado Tara xx Thank you, Mado xo
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RHP User
12 years ago
I totally understand these thoughts and all of the threads make valid observations. In my case I have watched my woman have sex with other men and women and I have also joined in. We haven't done this for some time now but I still fantasise about my girl enjoying sex with others. I am not in the category of "true cuckold" as I don't want to be degraded humiliated or dominated. I'm also not in the category of allowing my girl to have sex with others to mitigate my guilt for my own indiscretions as I have never cheated on her. I still love my girl very much but I cannot explain why I get turned on by seeing her with others. There may be some psych explanation for this. I have fantasised about her picking up a guy in a bar and me driving them around as they had sex in the back seat of the car (seat belts on of course). She often goes overseas to visit family and I have told her that she can have sex while she is away, I just want to hear about it. (so far she hasn't done so, but I'm sure if the conditions were right then she would). To quote Melbourne_babe: "its a fun and strange world we live in"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' It is a pretty bold statement to say rarely does marriage work aswell as being hard work with sacrifices are the result for it to work. What are the sacrifices? Well lets see..Divorce in Aust is around 43% its even higher in other western countries. Thats almost half of all marriages ending in divorce. Then you have to take into account the % of marriages that are finished , no relationship at all, but they hang on anyway for various reasons, ie kids, depression,religion etc.. Personally, i think you have less than a 40% chance of marriage succeeding. Personally, i dont know anyone who is happy in their marriage . And yes i know there is always someone who knows someone whos being married for 100s of years and claims to be the happiest couple on earth..Big deal . The divorce rate is still close to half. As for sacrifices, lol where do i start??? As a single person, the sacrifices you have to make to accommodate your marriage is huge. Atleast in traditional marriage. No more promiscuous sex No more partying with mates whenever you want. No more "being responsible" If they wife doesnt like chilli in her food? Thats it cant eat chilli ever again lol man, the list goes on and on, i could be here all day. And then once you have kids the list triples.. Sure some people love that shit..but not all of us do. Personally i think traditional marriage is outdated and flawed. The whole concept of marriage needs to be modernized with religion taken out of the picture..But thats just my opinion
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'goldcoastcple69' As for sacrifices, lol where do i start??? As a single person, the sacrifices you have to make to accommodate your marriage is huge. Atleast in traditional marriage. No more promiscuous sex No more partying with mates whenever you want. No more "being responsible" If they wife doesnt like chilli in her food? Thats it cant eat chilli ever again lol whilst you may see things like not having casual sex anymore, or not partying with friends all the time as sacrifices, others don't and are happy to give them up. It's all subjective. And I'm not sure why you would need to give up a food you like if your spouse doesn't like it? I'm sure most couples are happy to occasionally eat different things, and anyway that's not something that's unique to marriage - that's one of the many everyday issues that any couple can face, including those in open or swinging relationships. It's not just monogamous marriage that involves some sacrifice and compromise from the people involved, any close relationship between two or more people will require those things. I'm not saying this as a huge fan of marriage or monogamy by any means...but it's not like open / swinging relationships are going to be a panacea for everyone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mmmm I've been unable to leave some of this type of thoughts alone. Have been liking the idea of my girl blowing ten guys, luckily she is fairly keen on the idea too hehe
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have this fantasy as well.but I'd like to watch. I'd be a good boy, go down on her afterwards and clean it up. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sounds like a fantasy you two could work on fulfilling - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sexellence' I totally understand these thoughts and all of the threads make valid observations. In my case I have watched my woman have sex with other men and women and I have also joined in. We haven't done this for some time now but I still fantasise about my girl enjoying sex with others. I am not in the category of "true cuckold" as I don't want to be degraded humiliated or dominated. I'm also not in the category of allowing my girl to have sex with others to mitigate my guilt for my own indiscretions as I have never cheated on her. I still love my girl very much but I cannot explain why I get turned on by seeing her with others. There may be some psych explanation for this. I have fantasised about her picking up a guy in a bar and me driving them around as they had sex in the back seat of the car (seat belts on of course). She often goes overseas to visit family and I have told her that she can have sex while she is away, I just want to hear about it. (so far she hasn't done so, but I'm sure if the conditions were right then she would). To quote Melbourne_babe: "its a fun and strange world we live in" This I can relate to, I am also not into being dominated or humiliated but I do get off watching well now my ex with other people, and I have no intention of being with other people myself, unless of coarse a partner wanted me to do it for them, but I am more interested in my partner playing, that gets me off, I can not explain it but people can not explain why people are gay either, its just what floats their boat, but this has been very insightful for me as to everyone's opinions and views as I myself am still trying to work it out, and for those that need to know this was not the reason for my break up, we merely started drifting apart and did not share as many things in common as we once did,
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just realized I did not change the font characters after writing behind the quoted section, ha hah my bad, still just a beginner
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RHP User
11 years ago
This I can relate to, I am also not into being dominated or humiliated but I do get off watching well now my ex with other people, and I have no intention of being with other people myself, unless of coarse a partner wanted me to do it for them, but I am more interested in my partner playing, that gets me off, I can not explain it but people can not explain why people are gay either, its just what floats their boat, but this has been very insightful for me as to everyone's opinions and views as I myself am still trying to work it out, and for those that need to know this was not the reason for my break up, we merely started drifting apart and did not share as many things in common as we once did, Ok this was the bit I was adding to the topic just under the quoted section I did before, sorry people at least some of you can get a giggle
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