M57 F52
"Were professionals so discretion is a must"
August 22 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree, it does screen of pretentious indeed. Anyone who doesn't respect others privacy should not be on this site to begin with or partake in any social activities whatsoever. Unless it concerns the act of whistleblowing government activities contrary to the benefit of society. Then by all means, fuck privacy for all to see! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Take out a full page ad in the local rag for all I care.... I'm only a bogan truckie, people expect us to have a woman in every port!!! Lol I was telling one of our customers that I'd booked some accomodation for the October meet and greet, and the lady said "oooo you've booked accomodation in Melbourne?? What for??" So I told her....I'm off to a swingers website social get together.... Her look was priceless....so I told her she should get amongst it as it's one of the few communities that will welcome anyone with open cheeks.....errrrr.....arms!!! I meant arms.... lol Or did I ?? Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Fully agree with you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Finally someone else speaking out against the pretentious. Couldn't agree more 👍
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Hawt1
8 years ago
Thanks for saying that.Often thought this.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree It's not like you go to a restaraunt with a couple and wear a sign I have found most people I have met to be great We are all here for the same thing Am loving Brisbane ATM too!
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Smilingwithfun
8 years ago
They have come across people who weren't discrete or have had a bad experience. Or merely reinforcing what everybody on here thinks.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Instant eyerolls and a 'next!' from me when I read that on a profile. When used in this context, "professional" seems to mean insecure, ashamed or cheating. That, or pretentious, as you said.
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RHP User
8 years ago
"Does that mean I have to pay you for sex ?" 🤔
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RHP User
8 years ago
..and what about, "no university's have the right to redistribute...." no one has the right to redistribute your sensitive info or images, thats law, a serious law.. but.. i would love to think we are special enough to be considered lol.. still wonder what incident started the trend of adding that to profiles, we even copy and pasted it when we joined untill we thought about it for a min.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
"Were professionals...."I couldn't help myself...I would reply...."Ummmm... you WERE eh?? and you are not now?? WHY??"
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Everyone is going to be discreet,cos if your not , coincidental bad things will happen to you ,lol ,we .met a couple once and not long into a conversation out came his phone and flicking through pics howing off ,and wtf some pics of people doing things we knew who wouldn't be happy with that ,um no thanks were out of here ,and let the people in question know about it DISCRETION IS FOR EVERYONE even down to unemployed And stay at home parents - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
8 years ago
It's unnecessary to say that in the profile. We all require discretion and respect for our privacy regardless of our status or vocation. It goes without saying.
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RHP User
8 years ago
You say> "And no I'm not having a go at incorrect spelling, and discrete is a word too. Your rant just got me going, OP! I'll freely admit I'm not professional and a little bit pretentious. I agree with your topic completely though" Your grammar correction was a good illustration of pretention, you recognised that. Thank you for owning it. It did make me cringe but at least you can see how it makes people feel yes? Hopefully you'll learn from it. I and others knew what the op meant, discreet and discrete are two of the most commonly confused spelling, I myself spelt it incorrectly for most of my life I think, but it was never taken out of intended context, so why highlight it?
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RHP User
8 years ago
look at me, that's all it is. I'm a good speller yaaaaaaaaaay aren't I clever 💃
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RHP User
8 years ago
Your like on that comment is your perogative, but only supports the behavior. Just an observation, I continue to love your contributions on the forum
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RHP User
8 years ago
...I do have some ''empathy'' for those high-end professionals who like getting laid by near strangers? Just the other day, I popped into a gyno clinic and got tossed for simply asking the women patients in the waiting area if they knew that the lady doc they were seeing was a top root and actually went into what I only describe as a ''cum coma''. I then jetted across town and sat in the barrister's office and told the clients waiting that his wife the lady doc went nuts when we spit roasted her. Get real... I wouldn't and don't talk about my private life other than to friends and we keep our conversations on point. Well other than this one time, at band camp...gimme a break!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Soooooo many profiles in here use the same phrases meaning pretty much the same things.... so it just becomes white noise in this place. Don't we all want respect and discretion ?!? Sure, sadly not everyone practices it but even those people expect it upon themselves. That makes it the default position and it doesn't really need to be said. They're just words, and we all know that in here, simply writing them down in a profile doesn't mean they're true (Kinda like the often used words like hot, sexy, hung etc The phrases which really makes me roll my eyes are * (seeking) like-minded People, and * broad/open minded and push your boundaries 🙄
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RHP User
8 years ago
What my profession is, I work, I have a career and discretion is something that should be given regardless of anybody's situation or work life. It's common sense and basic respect for others unless discussed and agreed upon by both parties. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Oh yes, hung sees me head straight to the stat size to see if they're prepared to back it up, needless to say, it's usually blank 😉 Off topic a bit but the other one is public sex, recently offered that with an old friend 😉 who had since put that on his profile, our first encounter was semi public, car at least, response was he'd rather wait until I could host, indoors? So the statement of young professional or professional, yes they're all just words, proof is in the pudding, I believe it when I see it, same with mmf, all talk most of the time
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Supernova
8 years ago
Has anyone got a big enough bucket for this thread?! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It doesnt bother me either way as long as some sort of communication is made and not hidden after some chatting, arranging to meet etc but the one that does get to me is the profiles who share absolutely nothing, not even offering to show faces privately and off this site. Expecting to meet god knows who or what especially as my pictures are 100% open. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Keep me out of this subject. I am surprised that haters have not joined this forum.....YET!🤔
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RHP User
8 years ago
I read that as someone having a high flying career and rumours of impropriety could harm their career. Fair enough. Not everyone wants to advertise.
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RHP User
8 years ago
(Yes, that bad sintax was intentional!) Doesn't it annoy you, when the impact is taken out of your nicely phased and punctuated prose, by the God awful formatting on the app or the website? Double or triple line spacing. Double messages, when you think it hasn't posted. All that makes you look like a gramma goose, rather than a much younger Mother goose! I like the "writers" on here, when their carefully chosen words amuse and titillate, we just have to hope the formatting holds out when we press "Reply" BTW I just bought a Macquarie Dictionary, because I was fed up of the American shit dished out by Google when I question a word or punctuation! Just a thought. M_D4 - Posted from rhpmobile
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LetsFrolic
8 years ago
Also whats with the.. im a guest so cant message.. ok fine people will have times when not paying subscription but to have it on your profile and just expect to be a guest and have people flock to them is pretentious as well - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wow..i didn't realise it irritated so many people. Thought I was just weird lol. ...apologies in advance for any spelling or grammatical errors 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Perhaps Professional used as a career word can be misused as the majority of us seek a income witch requires employment would it be considered that we are all professional - i dont say I am amateur at my job - all jobs require you to be professional in a variety of contexts - especially in sport too
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HotNightsGC
8 years ago
In a town like Perth it's very easy to already know someone on a site like this. Discretion is a must for everyone. Did I spell that right? 😂 Stating it in your description does scream pretentious. Quoting Let's Frolic but to have it on your profile and just expect to be a guest and have people flock to them is pretentious as well. So true. What personally erks the heck out of me are the ones that after you flirt with them, flirt back with "haven't made up my mind about you. Message me and convince me". Really? Pretentious much! Also lazy not being bothered to message someone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Haleakala
8 years ago
Until this topic came up I'd never given it much thought. It just seems like a standard phrase people use to indicate they want discretion. I disagree with a lot of posters, in that not everyone does want to be discreet, I've met people happy to broadcast exactly what their sex life involves to all and sundry. Some jobs and workplaces are more conservative than others, so for someone to use their work as the explanation for wanting to be discreet to me is understandable. It's not the only reason out there, obviously people have varied reasons, families, religions, spouses etc. Is it just the fact that someone announces they are a professional that is upsetting? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I was a paying member, but am now struggling financially, that's actually a massive understatement, couldn't even afford food, so your opinion that now being a guest is pretentious. An ignorant comment, sorry I get there are people who can afford it and choose not to, there reasons are their own and I'm not judging them, when I can afford it, I most certainly will pay again. Maybe just stop to consider that choice is sometimes removed 😃
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' I read that as someone having a high flying career and rumours of impropriety could harm their career. Fair enough. A lot of high flyers on here then. Or is it just a view of their own self importance..... Someone who is truly sensitive in the public arena would not even make the statement. They would go about their business in a quiet fashion as they would be professional enough to know how to do it. Meanwhile, us unprofessional teats will continue to ramble on through life, embarrassing ourselves and our families......
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Teats are twats for the uninitiated.......
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RHP User
8 years ago
Touch, you crack me up & your comment is duly noted :). TBH, I hadn't noticed the incorrect spelling of discrete in the OP's post. My like was because I agree with Meander's statement of expecting people to be discreet/discrete. Like others have said, it goes without saying. Or at least it should. On the topic of spelling/grammar (sorry OP for going off topic), I'll admit that I'm a shocking spelling/grammar nazi. However, years of being on this site have made me far more 'tolerant'. It's really not such a big deal in the scheme of things if something is misspelled or not grammatically correct. And I've made enough typos over the years to know how easy it is to do. PS I shall be substituting teats for twats in the future. That's just pure gold Annie 😀
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Is that they have to , or prefer to, keep their lives on here very private, and separate from their working lives, due to the kind of jobs / careers that they have. They may have high profile public lives under constant scrutiny . Which is fair and a choice to which they are entitled. We don't see the statement as saying that non professionals don't need be discreet. It all depends on how you read it or look into it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'the_antichrist'I was telling one of our customers that I'd booked some accomodation for the October meet and greet, and the lady said "oooo you've booked accomodation in Melbourne?? What for??" So I told her....I'm off to a swingers website social get together.... ... Or did I ?? Lol - Posted from rhpmobile As a quasi-local I won't have the awesome conversation starter about booking accommodation, but from one truckie to another, just wait until I tell everyone I randomly pass that I am HOSTING said swingers website social get together! :) Holy crap that can of worms is sure packed in there tight! NK could launch an ICBM with the power of those worms!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Teats are twats for the uninitiated....... Either or, I'm used to twats through various workplaces, and teats from my dairy farm days... :P
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Smilingwithfun
8 years ago
Really? Is it that upsetting? There choice. WOW life is getting minor
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm loving the "very attractive" and "keep fit so you should too" crowd. - Posted from rhpmobile
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funcouple82
8 years ago
To me , although it could quite easily be seen as a pretentious thing to say .However is a concreter any less of a professional than a banker or a lawyer? I think not . All of us able bodies that have chosen to work and contribute to our society have a profession. This in my view makes you a professional. It is then up to those individuals whether they want to be open about their lifestyle choices and if they choose to use the fact that they are a "professional " as an excuse for wanting to keep things on the down low then really who are we to judge? - Posted from rhpmobile
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joanne1991
8 years ago
I will take note not to hire out a billboard to advertise a meet next time.
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joanne1991
8 years ago
Apologies for second post
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RHP User
8 years ago
If you want descrete... fine. But if you think that you are more than any other person here.... stay lonely... The variety of people here is great. Embrace the experience. - Posted from rhpmobile
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FunseekersAgain
8 years ago
A guy at a function walked up to a group of work colleagues of my partner and made a remark about her breasts and made it obvious he was on RHP. As far as we know we had never interacted with him or his partner but it was pretty disturbing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Respect we're all different but this "keep fit so you should too". I actually like that. Like attracts like as they say. They have a specific target audience, as do I, and don't usually have any problem getting responses from that target audience. So whether it appeals to you or not matters little. I'm so tired of the lame remarks ridiculing people for having a particular taste, for being proud of our bodies and using it to hook the big fish 😉 We do because we can, and we deserve that choice because we put effort into ourselves. No it's not just body, connection of the mind too of course, but commitment to personal fitness is strength of mind and body, in my experience, those individuals committed to taking care of themselves have every right to choose similarly fit people, only natural they will. Get over it basically. Not sure how it affects you or anyone else. Those comments are usually born from jealousy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Baaaaaahahaha that's gold! Thanks ChasinMidnigjt, I might used that phrase in the future! 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Culturedanimal
8 years ago
The whole idea of being discrete is a two edged sword. The people who put up their faces, nice body pics (or dirty nasty pics for that matter), and some good wording on what they're looking for, and what you're going to get, will undoubtedly get a wider response and a better selection of partners to choose from. Those who believe that just because they say they are god's gift to the scene means people will be eagerly breaking their door to meet them without some confirming details, have just got the "next profile please" response from me, the classic dime a dozen "single male", which means you are wasting your time on this site. My own MO is more to provide my more private details in return for details. The high profile "life" that needs too much discretion doesn't meet the minimum requirement that I need for/in my "life". It will just wither on the vine and die of boredom as people learn it's not worth the effort.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Of course discretion is expected, even demanded by all whether professional or not. Two things that annoy me about profiles Generic phrases that the site produces. I mean come on people a little imagination. I'm not interested in the site programmers, I want to hear your thoughts. And my biggest pet peeve. Getting absolutely no reply to messages sent. I understand that I might not be to your liking but have the common courtesy of sending a reply. A simple "no thanks" or " sorry not interested", he'll I'd be happy with a " fuck off creep" at least it's confirmation that you have seen and read my message. I realise that women on these site must be totally inundated with messages, nature of these sites unfortunately. Do unto others ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Agreed. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
So i actually changed our profile a good while back to reflect our thoughts and attitude to our profesional friends. Some laugh at it, some pass on by in disgust and for others it goes over their head....who really cares what job we all do. You can be an arsehole and happen to be a doctor or an arsehole who is a tradie. Likewise you can be a very nice receptionist and/or a very nice brain surgeon. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Reading some of the responses here, makes me think my idea of advertising is far more discreet than I thought..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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FredAndGinger2
8 years ago
The concern for discretion is not about being pretentious. It's about managing the risk of exposure if found out by their employer, family, friends, church group, whatever. A single male concreter will probably high-5 his work mates if he's exposed as being a swinger, whereas a quiet but curious couple from a conservative upbringing and working in a conservative industry could lose family connections and their job. Some people have much more to lose if exposed. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Taby_DK
8 years ago
So the general vibe we are getting from reading this post is that underneith the fact that everyone should be discreate reglardless of profession (which we agree with), there is quite a lot of contempt for those who hold professional jobs? We both have what is considered a 'professional' job and we read this post and very much feel like we are being put into a box and being judged and labeled as 'snobby, stuckup and pretentious' just because of the jobs we hold, which is not right or very nice. We do know someone who has been outed by another person on this site and they have had their career destroyed because of it so it does happen and I think some people feel that they have to mention it on their profile due to the fear of loosing their jobs or it destroying their personal life (friend/family relationships) if anyone found out. All it takes is one disgruntled person to spill the beans. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
There is, as expected, a lot of trolling and "bandwagoning " with this post. There appears to be a clear dislike , or perhaps an insecurity complex, by some, towards those people who refer to themselves as "Professionals"? We wonder why. Is it jealously ? Is it insecurity and or feelings of inferiority? Or even jealousy ? Or is it the famous Australian "Tall Poppy Syndrome " ? " The tall poppy syndrome describes aspects of a culture where people of high status are resented, attacked, cut down or criticised because they have been classified as better than their peers. This is similar to begrudgery, the resentment or envy of the success of a peer. " So...what is a professional ? Someone who has studied, has a degree and a successful career? Sometimes who strives to excel and do better, and who enjoys the fruits of success ? Well travelled, educated, articulate, good taste etc ? The focus of this debate seems to have moved away from the importance of being discreet, to a bashing of people who consider themselves to be professional. Tsk Tsk!! :) But then it's expected on here is it not ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Sime082017'But if you think that you are more than any other person here.... stay lonely... that the majority of people using the phrase think that they are better than other people because of their job. I think in most cases it would relate to something that's currently being discussed on another thread (the one about S&S footage being released)...that some jobs / professions have strict codes of conduct and / or employment contracts that employees need to adhere to. Plus higher levels of behavioural expectations from the general public (and when I say general public, I mean the majority of people in Australia who are not nearly as open minded as those of us here when it comes to any form of sex that deviates from man + woman in a bed in the missionary position). Like it or not, and whether it's reasonable or not, much of the public expects people in the so-called white collar jobs to behave in certain (i.e. conservative) ways even in their personal time.I think a lot comes down to how it's worded, and I agree that the way a lot of people word it does make them sound a bit pretentious and wanky. And yeah I have seen a few who on reading the rest of their profile do seem to put themselves on a bit of a pedestal. I think most are just being extra careful in how they participate in a scene which is still frowned upon by the majority.
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usnow
8 years ago
When you have nothing at stake or nothing to lose then we wouldn't expect you to understand .That shows when many here show their faces to the world , they are generally the ones that brag about what they do and who they saw at a club or party .Some just don't get it .
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technologic
8 years ago
Our most recent experience of 'discreet' was a single dad insisting that he is unable to meet in a public place other than at his home because he was taking care of his young son.... 😶 Odd much? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It can be seen as being pretentious I suppose but certainly no one should take it personally. some peoples jobs are more exposed and or tenuous and the good folk of the corporate world can be very unforgiving to say the least. In an objective sense I can easily see how another couples 'loose lips' (pun intended) falling upon the wrong people could see someone 'white anted' out of their livelihood by small minded, nasty individuals. I think every one here could appreciate that and understand that concern; so maybe some people are more scared or careful or however you want to label it. Its ok..... as long as they are good kissers and good fun right?
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RHP User
8 years ago
However, our all time favourite is "must be DDF", how the f@#k does anyone know what others are really carrying. Regarding 'discretion', if anyone has such an uptight attitude with the possibility of ever being outed as a swinger, perhaps you should just stick to porn and wanking as no one will ever know (except for your internet provider, ASEO, FBI, NSA etc.) Haha 😂 BTW we are now going to finalise the details of our raunchy weekend. Catch us if you can. 😊😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
In the 10 years I've been part of the forums, there have been many threads on the topic of discretion (can't go wrong with the spelling of that one LOL) from different points of view. Some people really don't get the need for discretion at all because they are very open about their lifestyle. So, I could be all judgy about people's profiles I guess, but the best thing about the fora is the different points of view... and People can be sacked over this lifestyle, I have to respect that. If it's not your thing, move on. Or maybe start a thread and you could end up with a new point of view. I'm not sure what's been posted past the first page if any of this has already been said. Peachy
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Seachange73
8 years ago
I have not come across a profile that directly demands discretion because they are professional people. And if I do, it doesn't worry me. Some profiles I have come across would mention they are professionals to appeal to those with whom do prefer meeting professionals. No different if someone would describe themselves as tradies or stay at home single parents. In their profiles, they MAY request discretion in any meets for whatever reason. Which I respect. It's obvious to me that if facial pics are not available in public profile (but have body shots) but have them in their Pg, I would deduce they want discretion and like their privacy. No dramas. I don't take that personally. I've met a single dad who really like to keep his Rhp activities discreet as he is in court against his ex-wife to get access to his kids. He didn't want further complications to the proceedings. Respect his wishes. Wrt to some people being discreet here on meets, had a married ex-lover who gossiped our meets with another woman after we stopped seeing each other. The woman subsequently also gossiped our meets and some lies, to others. Disappointing. Not cool. another lesson in trust and meeting people. So I do understand the blatant request for discretion. But nothing to do with their jobs.
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Seachange73
8 years ago
For the formatting of previous message. I don't know what happened there.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have to add... I've been in situations where the couple or single girl on a play date with myself or my partner have not been discreet in public. Namely one time a single girl was trying to kiss me at a local pub where we happened to bump into friends (not planned), while we were having drinks before play... Not afraid to hide my sexuality, but I'd like to be able to choose who I tell about this part of my life. If I ever say discreet, this is what I mean.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I like my trysts to be discrete and discreet.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Why mischievous lad? Like minded people that push my boundaries are my favourites...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Professional simply means someone who is paid to carry out the duties of their chosen profession. So anyone on here who has paid employment is a "professional", be it a hairdresser, prostitute, carpenter or fisherman. Hubby is in a shitty punk band that makes enough to buy a carton of beer a week and gets paid to skate and take photos of gigs that would make even him a "professional". A professional at avoiding proper work, but a professional non the less. I have found 99% of people who state they are professional to be boring as hell anyway. But we may be boring to them also as we refuse to pay $16 for avocado on toast. I think that some of the pretentious, sandle wearing, muesli chewing, snobs grabbed hold of the term and took it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Asking for discretion tells me more about the person, than they presume by asking - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
We think that when the term " we are professionals " is used in here , together with discretion, it implies the need for/ importance of privacy, due to having a high profile (professional ?) job that may be put in jeopardy, in the event that ones profile on here, and or swinging lifestyle, were to be made public. If you find 99% of self professed "professionals" to be boring, well that is your opinion. Different folks for different folks, as the saying goes. But we find your sweeping generalisation, that infers that those who wear sandles, and eat muesli (possibly those who prefer to eat healthily), are pretentious snobs, to be bizarre to say the least. It's like us saying that beer swigging, Mc Donald's ( or would that be Maccas?) munching people are low class, trailer trash bogans. Since when does what one eats and wears, dictates whether one is a pretentious snob or not ? Or are you yet another judgemental "tall poppy" hater? Your anger comes through very strong. Clearly someone struck a chord with you ? :) lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Unscratcheditch' Professional simply means someone who is paid to carry out the duties of their chosen profession. - Posted from rhpmobile It doesn't simply mean one who is paid to perform duties, that is what distinguishes professional from amateur.Then there are the true professions as opposed to trades crafts and sciences. Professionalism, as is often the case, in the English language words often have more than one single meaning.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I wear sandals all summer and eat muesli but Im not a snob. I agree, though, that anyone in a paid job can call themselves a professional. Ive been a professional waitperson, professional salesperson, and a professional cleaning lady....
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RHP User
8 years ago
I just don't like pretty much every corporate type I have had the pleasure of been talked at by. "Blah blah me, blah blah I, blah blah my." yes it's a generalisation, maybe I attract the wrong "professionals". - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I saw two suits start a physical fight at midday in the street in Melb CBD once... because neither conceded space while walking towards each other as pedestrians, and ran into each other. People can be dickheads on all levels of society. - Posted from rhpmobile
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constantlyc
8 years ago
I've often wondered what jobs people consider "professional" and agree it is mildly pretentious, technically if you get paid to do anything as a career you are a professional at what you do. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I shared a personal video of myself with a guy. He advertised himself as single on RHP. The next day he told me he showed his fb and they used it to kick start their session. I didn't give him permission to show anyone, if the profile was for a couple it wouldn't have annoyed me. Naive I guess. I didn't meet him, and he called me narrow minded. Discretion isn't a given. But, I think people who are arseholes will be regardless of what your profile states. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
If you're a concreter or a professional have that listed and want discretion what's the difference ?? Point of a profile is to give people choice, if you don't like what you read move on - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Of course in a perfect world, discretion should be assumed as being the case with everyone, unless otherwise discussed, just like using protection should be assumed unless discussed otherwise. But I wouldn't judge people that write it, for the same reason that I don't judge profiles that mention that people must use protection. Often it might be because they have had experiences contrary to their wishes. If you look or read into things hard enough, you will find perhaps even single words somewhere to turn you away from basically every person's profile.
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RHP User
8 years ago
OMG, another non issue being made an issue. Maybe you need to get laid more?? So sick of people making something into nothing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I dont think we say it to take away from discretion required for those that are not 'professionals'.. We are just giving a reason. We tend to network a lot is all.. I never mean it in a pretentious way. Its like those that are attached giving 'discretion required' a reason. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Why do you need more discretion because you're attached?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Seems just as pretentious as someone you have had relations for many years saying don't tell your partner my name! Seriously who does that as seems he thinks his profile is higher than another, little does he know. Back to old saying treat janitor as you would CEO as you just never know in life what could happen! No one is better than anyone else in this world so treat others how you like to be treated. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Tall poppy hater, missed that lol 😂😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sell real estate don't they ? Not much to envy there.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hmm i see this differently. I am very comfortable and i am also very open sexually. I am quite ok sharing my partner in public, swapping partners in public and open displays of affection. If a person or couple do not want that then i think its wise to stipulate it. Otherwise when i meet you I will kiss you as a greeting, i will flirt with you openly and I will touch you in public. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Isn't the Professional line one of the template choices offered by RHP? Peachy
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gazpacho
8 years ago
It's not very professional with a misspelling of "we're". I think they're just wannabes. :) Hugs G
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rupamohan
8 years ago
OK yes some may be putting this innocently or just as a profile filler...but yes it exposes to us their level of understanding of the world. Equally amusing is claiming to be educated and classy. You don't say such things you let others judge it. So are these guys going to bring their certificates to show us and ask us to take a grammar test before meeting? It only make sense to say visual and measurable things about you in a standard way. For example telling your height. And some claiming to be honest and want to meet honest. Who gives them honesty certificate and will I have to show one? And the ones that claim they can smell fakes from miles and I guess anybody who doesn't behave like them is fake... We understand lots of these kind are not snob but naive to claim such talents. Such statements can be easily misunderstood as stupid and snobbish working exactly opposite to the intention.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yep you see this so often and also people who say they don't want to share a face pic (as far as I can tell your pics can't be copied from this site) as if it implies that anyone is going to say to a vanilla.....OMG guess who I saw at a swingers club or on a swingers web site, LMAO....wouldn't that be self incrimination, get over it people as we are all in the same boat 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
...people in the field of education get particularly paranoid. Society is so obsessed with a) pedophiles, b) early sexualisation of children and c) moral standing of those working with children that teachers are pretty much now supposed to be asexual moral police. When it comes to children, a lot of people find it very hard to separating the teaching role from the people who perform the role (but strangely don't have the same difficulty with separating the parenting role from the actual people who parent). Anything that gives a teacher a moral cloud over their head (no matter that it's consenting adults in their private lives) can fuck your career instantly. So yeah. I totally get the pretentious interpretation but I also understand why some people are particularly paranoid about people finding out about their personal moral codes and private lives.
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rupamohan
8 years ago
Quoting 'AbnormallyNormal' ...people in the field of education get particularly paranoid. Society is so obsessed with a) pedophiles, b) early sexualisation of children and c) moral standing of those working with children that teachers are pretty much now supposed to be asexual moral police. When it comes to children, a lot of people find it very hard to separating the teaching role from the people who perform the role (but strangely don't have the same difficulty with separating the parenting role from the actual people who parent). Anything that gives a teacher a moral cloud over their head (no matter that it's consenting adults in their private lives) can fuck your career instantly. So yeah. I totally get the pretentious interpretation but I also understand why some people are particularly paranoid about people finding out about their personal moral codes and private lives. Well if you a public figure, belonging to small group easily identifiable like our ethnicity and color or a teacher or somehow very visual in media etc... there can be need for high privacy but it how you say it makes the difference. Equally amusing is how people express different level of liking for diversity. Statements like if we are tall, young or hairless so we expect you to be same shows a poor understanding of communication skills. There is a lots of difference between following statements. a) we are tall, young or hairless. We like the same kind or we are looking for a different kind.b) Because we are tall, young or hairless you have to be same or we expect you to be same. Clearly disrespectful. However I believe most of these people are not snobbish but simply casual, insensitive or lack communication skills. Sometimes I find funny people equating language skills same as communication skills.
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shaneOOO
8 years ago
Let's face it we r all just hear for a root. We arnt on this site for a date - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Lol 🤣 Talk about massive assumptions.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nope, I'm not here for a root. And even if I was actively meeting people which I'm currently not, I'd still not be looking for a root. My preference is for mind blowing sex.
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precious142
8 years ago
Quoting 'shaneOOO' Let's face it we r all just hear for a root. We arnt on this site for a date - Posted from rhpmobile What you (and many others don't get) is....... That a date (even something simple like drinks and a snack) will possibly lead to many many roots..... That's how I face it!!!! P
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RHP User
8 years ago
Why dont most of the men on here realise that women ( or most women ) on RHP do not want root and goes, that we like to meet and have some sort of connection before anything else goes on? A drink, coffee or dinner isnt too much to ask, when there could be a really good connection that leads to some sort of ongoing situation that includes friendship. Who honestly wants to root someone and then watch their lily white arse disappearing out the door as soon as its over. Guys, sorry to be blunt and this is only my opinion, but if you are just looking to turn up, shag and go then there are establishments for those types of encounters. The women I have met off RHP are great ladies who have self respect. Who are also great company. Shane, your comment made me sad. I hope your opinion of RHP changes and you see that its not a free hook up site.
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RHP User
8 years ago
You say it's not a free hookup site, but of course it can be, it is for a lot of people. A more accurate way to put that would be that it can be used for either. Up until recently, I used the site for hookups only, and it delivered. It's a very sexually active site, aside from a few groups, the majority of people are indeed here for sex, not for dating. I accept their are those, myself included now, who want more, but it is a free hookup site or whatever you want it to be. I don't think people should be lectured about how they use the site. Precious, couldn't agree more with your comment 😀 leading to many more roots, right on sister 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'BrisFunCple' ..and what about, "no university's have the right to redistribute...." no one has the right to redistribute your sensitive info or images, thats law, a serious law.. but.. i would love to think we are special enough to be considered lol.. still wonder what incident started the trend of adding that to profiles, we even copy and pasted it when we joined untill we thought about it for a min.. - Posted from rhpmobile yes, this is my personal eye-roll moment. I generally pass on profiles with this
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RHP User
8 years ago
Having been around the block for several years in the swinging scene, it is obvious that some people have a lower risk tolerance for getting "outed" than others. We've met coupes whose kids know that they swing and whose friends come almost exclusively from the scene. These lovely folks are less likely to care should anyone find out- regardless of their jobs. Likewise we've met people who are so worried about getting found out that it can be a real chore to get to meet them online because they refuse to send face pictures (and sorry, I#m not getting a babysitter, and taking an evening off to meet someone whose face I've not seen). Everyone has their own limits about what discretion mean, but it is true that people in professions like banking, law, government, etc. do have to deal with a higher amount of social conformity than people in other lines of work. You only have to read how swingers are portrayed in the press (dirty, deviant, untrustworthy, etc) to understand why. What I don't get is why you get your panties in a knot about the wording "professionals"...sounds like an inferiority complex. Who gives a fuck what kind of job someone has? People are more or less the same, regardless of how they work.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Its because the women I know on RHP have self respect. No lectures from me, you use the site to suit yourself. I was just pointing out that some people seem to think that all the women on here are all up for NSA hook ups which isnt the case. I used it as a dating site and found that most guys are happy to go out and spend time with you on a regular basis. Each to their own.
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precious142
8 years ago
No thanks....... Blowjobs start with a $20 Cabernet Merlot - at minimum!!!!! P
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