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What am I doing wrong.?

January 05 2015

Iam 23, single, wanting to try things and explore be it sexually or watching a movie I normally wouldn't watch and eating a pizza with a topping I am not familiar with. I make the effort to message those whom criteria I fit, I read the entirety of profiles and send messages accordingly, I am not the most articulate or know a great deal of fancy words but I can hold my own in a decent conversation that doesn't revolve around my abs or the latest music festival or how drunk I can get, I am polite, considerate, I have manners and I don't think "are you DFT" is an ice breaker. Each day I send messages, I go off what's written before the pictures and yet I've only managed to meet up with people just once (and an absolutely amazing pair they are at that.) and rarely get so much back as a thanks but no thanks. What am I doing wrong.?? - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Well sweetheart, you are spending too much time on the internet!! Go to parties, and meet and greet nights and actually meet people fact to face. Have a look at the events section. The Western Australian Forum may also be worth having a look at, as I believe they have regular meet and greet nights. Forget the online thing........ get out there and enjoy life. My 2 cents anyway.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Check out the newbies section, a lot of members struggle with the same thing. It comes with the territory, I'm afraid. http://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Newbies-Newbie-Questions and forums about messages: http://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/SearchResult.aspx Welcome!

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RHP User

11 years ago

There is a whole world beyond RHP. Sure... the lure of the site is easy meet ups..... but like the world beyond, where you can spot the "right" person who is op[en to be approached.... .... there is a skill for the single guy in here to looking for the "right" person/profile before doing any messaging.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Hey there, Heavy. Seriously, you're not doing anything wrong from what I can see. I don't think I come across as too repulsive, yet I've only ever received messages from RHP, a few messages of "thanks, but no thanks" and maybe two flirts in as many months. Many people appear to have success on RHP (and other sites), but who knows. If they are successful, good luck to them, I say. I think the best advice to follow has already been stated: go out and meet people. Not that I don't want to, but I've never hooked-up with anyone online; all of my relationships have been with people I've met in person. Anyway, good luck with whatever approach you take.

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RHP User

11 years ago

WA has a pretty active RHP meet and greet scene. From my experience, they're very welcoming over there. Get amongst it ;) Also, share your personality through forum contributions and time in hot chat. And be patient. It's a numbers game. I don't like it when people pooh pooh RHP as a place to meet people. It's as legitimate as any other place (yes, I'm taking to you DG!). I do agree though that it's only ONE possible place to meet people and it's great if you can find some other online and offline avenues to explore. Good luck :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

I think.... you misread, miss Love. After all.... you said pretty much what I did after you pointed ya finger at me! Love your work.

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RHP User

11 years ago

I think I have to agree with everyone else and say it's best to meet in the real world. In online websites, even though women want equality, that apparently hasn't made it down to the dating/relationship scenes. From experience, it's rarer for a woman to initiate meeting a man than vice versa. With online websites like RHP, women are flooded with messages by men, and I think as a result there's little time for them to actively seek out men who haven't already written them. Or they just get so overwhelmed they don't bother. Then you have to deal with the fake profiles too mostly disguised as women or hot couples. :P As @Burning_Love said, it's a numbers game, but at least there are ways to stack the numbers in your favour. :-) Good luck!

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madotara69

11 years ago

Doesn't sound like you are doing that bad mate. We have had a couple of bucks like you over for an adventure. We only play up now and then, it started getting a bit repetitive and more a downer replying to blokes that for no other reason to be interested, we were not playing up ATM. Don't like template messages, easier if we just open messages when we do feel like playing up. So if your message was as you say they are, we would most likely reply, especially if we wanted you to come fuck with us. Soldier on. Mado Mado Tara xx

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Lovinit28andKC72

11 years ago

Get to the meet and greets, social events, put yourself out there.... You're a good looking, big strong looking guy, don't give up and good luck......💋

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RHP User

11 years ago

Hey all, thanks for the replies. :-) I think my biggest problem is I work more hours in a day then not (usually 5pm to 10am) which really doesn't leave me anytime to be going out especially since I work nights and that's when the fun is ha ha. I get one night off a week and that's filled with catching up on house stuff (domesticated lol) and taking the hounds to the beach.. I thought I'd give RHP a shot as I could do it and multi-task (I really can) but failing somewhat. Again I have met a couple and they are wonderful people in and out the bedroom, it's sending the messages and getting nothing back is the killer. Thanks. :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Hey Heavybuild, if you've actually met with a couple you're doing a lot better than most guys. By an order of magnitude. Everybody who is successful sends the messages that get no replies, or otherwise strike out. It's all a part of it. But a lot of guys don't have the advantages that you do, and their experience is like yours except without the sexy couple and with the responses in their topic giving them a long list of suggestions of what to do differently. That's three ways in which you're ahead! Hang in there, persistence is persistently rewarded.

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RHP User

11 years ago

I drive interstate transport so I hear you loud and clear about the 17 hour days... But... If I can still wing it to meet, and chat...there's no stopping you 😊 Believe in thyself.... Errr....that was deep for me 😝😝 - Posted from rhpmobile

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Lovinit28andKC72

11 years ago

You need to make the time for yourself, house work will wait.....💋

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RHP User

11 years ago

It might not happen over night...but it will happen..If you have hot friends already they might have other friends that they could possibly introduce you too..or they may just want to keep you all to themselves 😘xxFreya

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AnnieWhichway

11 years ago

You scored a couple which apparently is one of the hardest task here. Which going by the usual single male grumbles, you are way out front. So give yourself a congratulations wank or three and get back on the horse and just do what you did to achieve that. You have a great profile so keep at it

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RHP User

11 years ago

the biggest problem is yourself, you had every opportunity with me and texting away and then go cold. I think its your scared when it comes to the crunch and u run. its you when you get the messages and u dont send back, even on your phone. Maybe a re-think and shake up in ur own life?

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