What am I doing wrong???

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  Shaxxx

  one year ago

  Just sent you a message 😘

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  Brian_Breynolds

  one year ago

  Hey Jay, this is just how the internet, online dating, and in particular this site works unfortunately. Your experience is typical for a single guy on here. There are legitimate reasons for it from the women's perspective too. What your experience means is that your profile, which is a small digital representation of yourself, isn't in the top 5% - 10% of male profiles on here. That's not at all a reflection of you as a person in the real world though. So to answer your questions: Are you doing something wrong? - It sounds like you're doing a lot of things right and there's also probably things you could do better. But there's not some little hack that you don't know about that will completely shift the tide. Is it you? - No, not really. It's just the nature of this little corner of the internet. Should you pack it in? - That's really your decision. You might eventually find someone, but whether that chance is worth the time & effort, the frustration, and emotional turmoil that comes with the persistent rejection is up to you. That same amount of effort could be used to go to social events where you might have a better chance to meet someone and, even if you don't, you still have a good time and make some new friends. Much better than spending hours on end trolling through faceless profiles, reading bios, and composing personalised messages, only for your efforts to be completely ignored. In my opinion anyway. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. A lot of guys ask the same question here but they come across as super entitled and egotistic. You seem pretty genuine though, so I thought I'd try to give you an honest answer. All the best!

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  NeoAndTrin

  one year ago

  There's also the fact that at least half the profiles you're contacting probably aren't even in use anymore.

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  seekandplay

  one year ago

  It’s a tricky place here, especially with the ratios. I think your second photo is the best, scrap the rest. The ‘about’ section - move your last paragraph to the top. Tell us about yourself first, not just the sexual stuff. The men I’ve connected with the most don’t even mention sexual stuff - they write about what they’re looking for: fun, banter, drinks, connection. But I guess it depends if you’re looking for a connection, or just hookups. What message are you sending to the people you’re trying to get through to? More than ‘Hey’ ‘Hi’… are you engaging in conversation or waiting for them to take the lead (hint: take the lead). Change a few things up on your profile and be patient. Or as mentioned, get to some events in the scene to mingle with other likeminded people. Have fun!

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  RHP User

  one year ago

  Just how it is unfortunately You can be a nice guy etc and send well thought messages out but at the end of the day it won’t matter as it’s a matter of supply and demand! And they can get demanding as in demand a pic etc but they never send one back. And it’s ok to be a curvy woman on but not a guy that doesn’t have a Greek god look or a body of an athlete. Yet I suspect that some of these women aren’t no prize either yet they have that power. Something it’s just easier to pay for it than put up with the crap and demanding stuff.

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