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What are you allowed to say? Couples rules, guidelines, conventions and other protocols

January 20 2016

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I am keen to find out if couples have a code of behaviour in terms of the things spoken while playing with another couple (same room) . What do you like the other partner to tell you, what do you expect, what is crossing the line? Does it matter if the dialogue goes beyond flirting and the “you’re hot” kind of compliments? Or do you prefer to keep the conversation fairly shallow staying directional and ‘on topic’ such as “touch me there, let’s do this, that’s good, I’m cumming’? I have been trawling back through the forum archives looking at other couples ‘rules’ for playing with other couples. There’s some gold in them thar hills as far as the mechanics go .. you know, safe sex, safe word, not taking one for the team etc. but I can’t seem to locate many references to how couples prefer to relate during the actual sex. I found one comment, in the thread titled, Your Rules As A Couple from February 2013, “Mr cheeky isn't allowed to use the words he uses with me! But - enjoy, enjoy n enjoy.” (Cheekyarses. That's my underlining, bold and italics). We’ve been in the scene for nearly two years and have found our own ‘rules of play’ evolving. This question arises from our own experience where a non RHP couple were quite intimate and got us thinking a bit. So hit me up, tell me what you prefer and what you expect to be told…. Thanks, Mrs Fun.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Firstly we have no safe word and see it as juvenile in the extreme, if Mrs S has had enough of whatever it is, she simply says "stop", or "I need a break"(this has happened on many occasions ). As for the bedroom talk we have zero boundaries, the +1 can say whatever he likes, its up to Mrs S to filter what is appropriate. We are completely free of any jealousy issues with regards to sex. I was totally shocked the first time I saw my wife being choked, however she didn't complain and thoroughly enjoyed it, point being is that Mrs S controls everything and if she is happy then I'm ecstatic. Also I have on almost every occasion given Mrs S time alone with the +1 so she can enjoy some one on one time, everyone appreciates the freedom in how we play, relaxed, fun, and happy. The only boundary we have is a common one, condoms at all times. I have walked in and seen Mrs S's arse black and blue, again I was shocked but she had no issue with it and therefore neither did I. The only rule of play is that Mrs S has the right at all times to say "no", there are no caveats, no set boundaries, nothing ( apart form condoms). The +1 can ask whatever he likes, we don't care as a simple "no" is all it takes. This philosophy has enabled us to enjoy some wild rides. Mr S

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Social suicide! The same goes here, safe sex and ENJOY! I am noisy, I talk during sex, I don't want to filter what I believe is natural talk! I want people who I play with to know that I'm enjoying them and will be vocal about that :) Mary xx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    so true mary

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I mostly party with couples and I love being able to share open communication with them with respect to 'boundaries'- I've once had a profile which stated, "all boundaries respected and given", but I dropped it off as it's always spoken before play all of those do's & dont's anyway. I've been lucky in that most of my play has been 'anything goes'. But go with the flow & what feels comfortable for you both, I guess.... So_Su summed it up perfectly though. At the end of the day, 'no' is such a powerful word and mitigating factor to stop things turning ugly. -Have fun- 😉

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  • madotara69

    madotara69

    10 years ago

    It was a hot pic they had up, actually I'd reckon her arse wouldn't crease when she walks, I might have said something like that too, hot photo gallery as well, just them being them and another friend or two, doing what they do, I'm sure of it Mr cheeky is one of those mount'n men and them mount'n men sure love mount'n women outback somewhere, plus they have haystacks in them big ol barns and scattered throughout the paddocks, seems country folk spend majority of their time, toey and all frisky like a bull at the gates, and them crack'n bullwhips, makes Tara's whip look more like a witchy whip octopussy sort of thingy and she's a real bubbly playful kind of girl, laughs, lots of little spiritual quotes she makes up herself and everything has a meaning that is meant to be, she can drive a sounding rod down the eye of a cock and be in total awe of it all, she get's us going and enjoys giving our erections a good slap too see them bounce back.Talks knots while tying our balls apart and gets the rope nice and tight, not a pinch, but firm purple plums she toys with and with both hands full of cock and balls, she and we can talk about all sorts, knowing full well there's gonna be no talking going on while she's got those swollen roped up balls slapping up against her arse, she makes a racket expressing her passion and the dynamics sure tell us as she climaxes, it's all grunts, groans and ball slaps and that squishy wet cocks pumping with double penetration and we all start shake'n, steel rods and rings sounding and ultimately a writhing mess absolutely exhausted from the intensity we all chipped in for one awesome orgasm cumming together, that gets us talking again during the after care, undoing the rope work, pulling the sounding rod out slow and tenderly, but it's nice when a woman talks too her cocks and balls like best friends and settles in stoking and holding, even giving a squeeze and asking RUOK with a kiss for each here and there. Just normal conversation with a bit of sex in amongst it all, if all we say is straight up with each other, then we can talk about anything and how we feel for meanings, speaks more than words generally of course, everyone is different aren't they ? Mado Mado Tara xx

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  • boxestotick

    boxestotick

    10 years ago

    A massive turn on for me is asking Mrs after the fun has been had, what the talk was between her and her FWB. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Isn't the point of swinging no jealousy? I get people have certain boundaries like an act they would like only to share with each other so it's sacred just to them. Or even same room either for safety purposes or the turn on factor. But why would people swing if there is any risk of being jealous. Wouldn't you only do it because it's what makes you both truly happy/is part of who you really are? Or are there couples out there where it seems one has pressured the other into the lifestyle or one member isn't truly into it/only doing it to make their partner happy? I know couples where one member has actively encouraged their partner over s long period of time to "explore" their boundaries etc. But it's only in its infant stage. Just wanting some education 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Playtime is playtime, if one wants a drink and leave the room, the others don't stop, it is all about sharing watching giving pleasure and receiving, feeling comfortable, trust, being you, not having someone say sshhhh, when you are having the most biggest mmmmm, it is about being free and honest. We have one on one sometimes with our playmates, and this is were the only rule is, the other needs to be in or around the house not out shopping or at work. The other would get upset because they missed out:))... - Posted from rhpmobile

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