What came first, the chicken or the egg?

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  QLDtwo4fun

  10 years ago

  We talked about it for a while, it became a fantasy we shared, and finally we met a patient experienced couple. They explained having rules, we started with soft swinging and as we became more comfortable the rules became less important. We still have some rules now, but not many, as long as everyone is having a good time, and none takes one for the team. We enjoy the shared thrill and the greater intimacy between ourselves. Would we stay swingers if we weren't together, I don't think being a swingle wouldn't be as much fun. It hasn't been all wonderful, we have a couple of horror stories, but the first couple we met sent us on the right track handle these, and the party scene is super safe.

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  Hottie1

  10 years ago

  Over 10 years ago! Our discussions revolved around my inexperience (hubby was my first and only lover till we started swinging) . Hubby asked for an FMF for his 30th and 40th birthdays and it didn't happen for a long time, come to think of it, it probably hasn't still. Instead of balking at this I asked what he wanted to see or experience more in our relationship? When we first met I was insatiable (and still am) but was also taking more risks in our sexual lives (public sex for example) so he wanted more variety. The biggest stumbling block was working around the challenge to 'the monogamy' we had signed up for. Three years ago hubby hired an escort for my first MFM ! It was out of this world and the validation that I was 'ok' at sex built my confidence. A few more times with escorts in the 12 months that followed and my confidence was much higher. It was very costly with the escorts and had become hit or miss (some escorts were terrible) so Andy suggested swinging. I said yes and the next day we were signed up as guests on RHP. I read a whole heap of profiles so that I could best capture us. We signed up in March/April and met our first playmate on here and it was an incredible meet, still is a gorgeous bloke 😀 we were playing within a month of signing up. We went to our first party (at debauchery) and it was incredible but fucking nerve wracking, my first time naked in front of other women and first time having public sex 😁 We didn't have many rules but did decide that when at group plays, hubby and I wouldn't necessarily wait for the other if the mood took us. Hubby likes watching more and I like doing more :) in July last year 3 months after we started swinging hubby got cancer and had his kidney removed. Again he suggested opening up our relationship because it would be months before he was well enough and we did. This lead to a further of evolution of our relationship to where we are today. I can't label our relationship but my interests are hot wife/femdom and hubby has a variety of interests we are exploring together. I am lucky because neither of us is jealous of the other and we legitimately enjoy that the other person is having a great time too. I'm not bragging but swinging has been the best thing we have done, because I wouldn't have met so many gorgeous people from around Australia and from this journey I've met incredible people who I want in my life for a very long time 😘 Mary

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  Hottie1

  10 years ago

  Apologies for the essay lol ... Mary xx

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I dont think you could explain it in a few sentances, thanks for sharing your story. You too Shells.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  It's great reading your stories, thank you Willow for starting this thread.

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  Tall74nHard9

  10 years ago

  Mary and Shells, both very nicely put. It seems you've both gotten a great deal out of the experience. Tall

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  225Special

  10 years ago

  A few years ago I organised a couple of female escorts to give Mrs 225 a sensual massage. Kids started sport so our weekends were pretty much non existent. Late last year we started to watch a bit of group sex porn and swingers porn. We talked dirty about having others join us in the bedroom. Earlier this year we decided to go for a night out without kids, while Mrs 225 was in the shower I opened the web page for CV. When she was finished I asked her if she wanted to go and see what it was like. We headed up. First night was a bit of a flop (no not like that), we just felt a bit like aliens or leppars. We have now met some very nice couples, and hope to meet many more that we can call friends.

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  ReyandJean

  10 years ago

  We had been married 7 years and the older child was 3. We had pillow talk about getting another woman involved. She said she wanted to see me with another woman. A couple of books on polyamory later and some sober discussions we set up to attend a swingers night at a club. It was a mixed night and the single men did creep us out (word of advice - keep a tissue handy to round up the drool). We did meet and chat with some nice people who were open and friendly and not at all pushy. We went to a private swingers party a few weeks later and again met some pleasant people. We also enjoyed sex together in a room full of strangers. Post mortem was that it was hot and we were ready. Next party 3 weeks later we lost our cherries. Swinging has brought us closer together. It has opened up our communication. Our own sex life has improved, and we pick up tricks and tips along the way from new partners that we can try on each other. She's got more assertive (from repelling unwanted advances) and we've met some nice people.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  it had to be the egg the egg was laid by a combination of two very similar breeds of birds that after mating laid two eggs both of these turned out to be what we call today a chicken one was male one was female and I am hoping you know the rest of the story

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  An egg and a chicken were lying in bed together. The chicken was smoking a cigarette. The egg said to the chicken: "Well, I guess we answered THAT question". :) Ok, more on topic although the topic doesn't quite relate to me as a single, but before my first (obviously solo) swinging experience I did talk to a professional sex & relationship counsellor by phone that is in the swinging lifestyle (with her partner), about my concerns and questions about where to start, and my doubts about why I was interested and whether the experience/s would be overall beneficial or detrimental. More so because it related to a turbulent time I was going through, so I was not sure if it was a good idea, at least for that point in time. For couples, there are certainly experienced professionals out there should they need them, in addition to be able to talk to their partner and any like minded friends.

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