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What do you tell the children

April 16 2010

So this morning Lord and I were enjoying a 'special cuddle' when miss 7 comes along and hops in the be with us followed shortly by mr10. This in itself is not really a problem for us as it happens regularly, we habitually don't close the door. We are very relaxed about nudity in our house and whilst we don't go for it in front of the children we don't make a lot of effort to hide away either hence the casual nature about the closed door. Our kids are quite clued up on the birds and the bees as we make a point of answering questions as they happen openly and honestly. Having spent some time on a farm meant that opportuinites and questions have come along more than may happen for some people!!!!!! However I got to thinking while we know what we are about and we want our kids to be comfortable and relaxed about their bodies and sex in general how do we teach them that not everyone else is as relaxed as us and while we don't mind them seeing us fully or partially undressed, other adults may have a huge problem with it. Picture miss 7 telling her 90 year old nana that 'It doesn't matter if you don't have any swimmers Nana just go nude I do!!!!!" So what do other people there think? Also how do you explain playing to teenagers and when do you think it is appropriate? Interested in other people's views and funny stories.

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16 years ago

My wife and I don't care so much about nudity and we generally dont bother with the bedroom door.. but our kids turned out to be prudes... we reckon they get influenced in that regard from their friends more than anything. I think it's a generational thing going on there. For teenage kids everything is either grose or gay..... so that's why we have the internet. :p I know exactly what you mean about the farm. If its not pregnant or making things pregnant it's not going to last long on a farm. :p Hugs Stalky

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16 years ago

Well as my kiddies are only 3 & 5 yrs.... ATM they dont have too many questions.... apart from the whole.... oooooh mummy/daddy doesnt have a top on,, LOL.... god bless them for not looking under the sheets LOL... anyways... i dont think id worry to much about them seeing us, if it really freaks them out then mummy or dady.. would go in to the whole 'how things happen' story... but untill then im living up the no questions thing.. I just know im going to be really really bad at it when they hit teenage yrs.... so daddy is the one they turn too... VERY BAD to admit I KNOW!! But at least they get it all from him other wise ill tell the story my mum told me..... and THAT was 100% LIES!! and i cant do that .. oh gosh...i just said way to much on hee LOL... always tell ur kiddies the truth.. (eek)

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16 years ago

We have a 10 yr old boy and a 9 yr old girl,now our boy is very mature for his age and has asked all manner of questions and is pretty clued up so i always answer honestly and in some detail, we have explained to him that we are very open to talk about sex and nudity but that other families are not and so he should not discuss the things we talk about in private with his mates at school as it is up to their parents to tell them these things and not him, and he understood this perfectly.Our daughter on the other hand has special needs and is somewhat less mature for her age, therefore she doesn't ask as many questions and when she does i am still honest with her but tend to go into less detail at the moment as her ability to NOT broadcast the info to her classmates is a little impaired lol I grew up in an environment where sex was talked about openly and i am not embarrassed to raise my kids in the same fashion however i am not sure how we will go when they are teenagers and the topic of 'playing' comes up i guess we will always try to be discrete so that they don't really know but of course kids are not stupid and if they ask i guess we will handle it as we do everything else openly and honestly.It is a hairy one to tackle and every parent will have thier own way of dealing with it and i think really it all comes down to your kids and what works for you as a family.Mrs GCxx

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16 years ago

if they ask i answer as truthfully as i can....plus i give the condom lecture 20 times a day and i give it to their friends and any boys dumb enough to come to the door.....but mine do sex ed at school thank god...although its a bit desturbing when your preteen comes home and tells you all about headjobs...cause thats what they learnt at school that day...lol i walk around the house naked after my shower all the time...but only because i know it horrifies them lol haha like you Trish my kids know im on a dating site and my teen will go through the condom box to make sure im not having sex haha...but it just doesnt realise i have a different box that i use haha roxxy xxx

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16 years ago

We are very relaxed about nudity here and hoave no clothes on most of the time, we have a 12 yo daughter. We go to the nude beach regularily. My daughter was talking to her Nan on the phone the other Saturday night, after we had got home from a day at the Nude Beach. When Nan asked which beach we went to, she probably did not like the answer that followed! Now we have always been very open about nudity, asnwering questions etc, and have several friends where nudity is not a problem in front of each other, we do not close doors when they are staying at our house and vice versa. It was now that we had to have the conversation with our daughter that Nanny not everyone is not accepting to going to the nude beach, or the rfact that we see our friends naked etc so from here on is it is all good. She is quite healthy in her attitudes towards nudity so we are happy about that. As for Nanny, well she has never mentioned it, and if she does - so be it! Nudeones

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16 years ago

Lord Lady, We can relate - our 12 year old told Nan the beach we had been to that day was the nude beach - there was a silence! We are very open about nudity here, no closed doors etc, and have friends that are the same in front of us and we in front of them. We go to the nude beach often, and rarely wear clothes at home, to bed etc. It was just an innocent comment - but we had to explain to her that not everyone is cool with this, and not to be ashamed of it, but to just use discretion - we used our friends as an example. We think that she has grown up with good body image and attitudes towards nudity and sex, so that we are sure will assist her in later life. As for Nanny, well if she ever has the courage to bring it up, we will tell her as it is - she will get a shock we have been going to nude beaches for 20 years, but she will get over it (not very open minded tho) Nuneones

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