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What do you tell the (grown up) kid/s??
May 25 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
He needs to get a girl friend - Posted from rhpmobile
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QLDtwo4fun
12 years ago
We also have kids at home, late and mid teens. The older child has raised her suspicions, with some oblique comments, which we have ignored. Both kids are likely to be around for a while so we go to clubs and parties.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank goodness ours finally moved out. We had on occassions told them to arrange to stay at a friends now and again. Excuse was we wanted some privacy to do our own thing as in be naked around the house etc. Seem to work ok. Otherwise it was nice hotels or hoping the other couple could host. Good luck :D
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RHP User
12 years ago
Curious to see what advise/experiences are shared. Our sons are getting toward late teens, so not so far off for us either. Good topic op.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Only kidding......We assured our kids as they were growing up that they would be moving out when they finish school. We helped them out with rent and bonds etc but made sure they gained their independence and made the natural progression of leaving the nest.As for being found out, this has not happened to us and we go to great lengths to keep our private life to ourselves. We have talked about what we would do if it did happen and we would answer any questions of us with honesty and remind them it is our choice and lifestyle. It would certainly be difficult for you in your situation and having your children pass judgement on you would be tough, but unless there is some underlying reason your son is still at home your first step would be helping him move out.Good luck with your quest.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've never hid that I was bisexual with my children which made it easier for my daughter to come out. But I never told them what I did and with whom. That's private. We sometimes have guests over to play during the day when the kids are at school. Only our youngest 2 still live at home. Otherwise we choose another venue. The other person's house, a hotel, a car park lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
To me I would not share this part of my life with my children. But that's just me I to will follow the thread with interest - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think it's about time your Son joined the Defence Force . They'll feed him , clothe him , house him , train him and pay him . You'll win twice ! You'll get the house to yourselves and your Son will be a fine , upstanding member of the Community . GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
we have younger kids, but old enough to be curious. That's bad enough! One of my friends however has grown boys, she's been a single mum most of their lives and is active in the swinging scene here in Adelaide (just started a new Adult Lifestyle club). She has a very open relationship with her sons and has been since their late teens. It works for them and her sons come to her for advice about all things sexual, they all respect each others space and have ground rules for at home naughtiness. But I'll say it again, it works for them, not all kids are going to react well, after all some want to think parents don't have sex lives It could be a bit confronting for some, followed by the ewww factor, running in circles screaming no, no, no and the banging of heads against walls to get the images from their heads! Good luck
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MisterGreen' I think it's about time your Son joined the Defence Force . They'll feed him , clothe him , house him , train him and pay him . You'll win twice ! You'll get the house to yourselves and your Son will be a fine , upstanding member of the Community . GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile Defence guys have a reputation in my town, and it's certainly not due to them being 'fine, upstanding members of the community'.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Encouraged to travel overseas..win win all round! You'll both gain life experiences.. 😎 Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's our plan, we've been instilling the idea of gap year travel in our girls since kindy Once the travel bug is caught, they are off........................ And living life! All of you
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RHP User
12 years ago
Like rockandminx, mine is a bit younger but 10 yo's have a habit of asking awkward questions, especially in front of other people. I am resigned to effectively buying my privacy by using hotels and having frequent "work functions" but it is a struggle to remind them that private means private. - Posted from rhpmobile
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luvsilver
12 years ago
My opinion Luckdragon ,is the reputation you speak of is because they have more of a spotlight on them.Take a cross section of the general population of young men and woman and you will probably find they get up to just as much if not more trouble.They possibly have more of a reputation in your area because their numbers are greater there.Getting back to the op though.It is a hard situation.We have 4 sons ourselves though they are much younger than yours.If you feel it is time that you have your home to yourself it may be time to have a chat with your son explaining your need for your privacy without going into too much detail.You have done your job and raised him to become a man but it might be time for him to move on.Hope all ends well.Mr Luvsilver
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Hottie1
12 years ago
Over a year ago we introduced 'date nights'. This might include staying in hotels or time at home. The kids (nearly 18 and 15) know that date nights (without all the details) is mum and dad time. They are encouraged to organise time with their friends, sleepovers etc. We have never been interrupted when we have played at home. Hubby jokes with the kids that if they interrupt they may well 'see what they can never unsee'. The kids ring to check if the coast is clear to come home. This works for us.Hope this helps. M xx
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I really agree with your fist statement about having open and honest communication with child/ren.... I think I like your friend and the way she thinks. I mean who is anyone to just teach and role-model someone that there is just monogamy relationships? I think and believe it comes down to core values and morals and being open minded as well. I grew up with just knowing and only knew of monogamy from my parents and entered an monogamy marriage. It was not till I joined this site and wanted to explore more that I became educated on many types of relationships. So now I educate my child that there are many many types of relationships. I started introducing slowly (around when she was 16yrs) and eased into conversations, watched docos and read books (The Ethical Slut etc) infront of her and read bits aloud...I then would ask her questions and ask about her thoughts and what she was thinking. If I only spoke to my child about monogamy relationships, then I would be denying her of many many choices of what type of relationships are out there and for her?? For all I know swinging, open-relationships or poly may just be right for her. Who knows she may even stick to monogamy. What ever relationship she enters into I do hope she is treated right and is happy that she makes the right choices for HER. That's all I ask, is for is that she is happy and that she is able to tell me if she is not. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have an early twenties stay at home... I simply say I have someone coming over and would they like to find some entertainment for the night - OUT OF THE HOUSE... most kids are somewhat understanding and will probably not want any details...
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RHP User
12 years ago
If I had a twenty year-old son who still lived at home, I know exactly what I'd be telling him. "Here's your one month's notice."
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RHP User
12 years ago
We've been there and we understand, that's why as a couple who's kids have left home we feel that other couples with kids should allow us to shout the hotel rooms to play. One lesson we did learn was our kids also need some space to grow up and can benefit from our trust in them , we came home early one Sunday to find our teenage daughter having hosted a secret party with friends, drinking tea and watching the sound of music! Yes the younger generation is more conservative than us!
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RHP User
12 years ago
jennylee1903 yes he does (at times) talk to us about his sex life. Sometimes TMI actually... lol He has been out of home but busted with girlfriend, lost job so came home. Has had several jobs since but in the retail sector there is no stability (big business sucks furry ones). Currently he is looking to study so he can leave retail (finally!!!) He is quite openminded. unlike his brother.... who doesn't live at home. Anybody out there been caught? or just plain had the chat? We did send him to the movies one night.. that was good....and i like the idea of saying not to interupt or might not be able to "unsee"
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RHP User
12 years ago
When hubby and I looked at a house to buy we asked for them to show us houses with the kids room as FAAAAAAAAR away from hours as possible. I think the sales guy got the message as he slyly said and winked that the wall mounted vanity had been reinforce to hold weight!! There are now no kids in our house but I would never play at home with them here. I like my privacy.
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BacioCouple
12 years ago
We also have 'date night' which is 'our' time. Whilst our kids aren't old enough really to know what we're up to they do understand that they go to friends/family for a sleep over whilst we go out for the night. It also stops the questions from the family babysitter! (Almost caught out once when we told the family we'd been to two different restaurants!)
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makoman22
12 years ago
hey superfoxxxy,u may hav educated ur daughter,but the boys she meet may take advantage of her.goodluck
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