M64
What does "take a rain check" mean...... exactly, to you?
July 16 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
depends on who i'm requesting a raincheck from... if it's from someone I'm yet to meet, it either means you're on the back burner while I pursue more promising options or I'm too lazy/uninspired right now to follow through any further at this stage, and if I remember you later when I'm not so lazy, I might consider cashing in on that raincheck. if it's from someone I know and met already, it really does mean I'm really busy right now but would like to catch up another time when my schedule is less hectic.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Still have hope. It means you haven't been totally rejected. Maybe when they finish up with the guys they are going through on their list they might come to your name. That is if they don't decide to keep one of the other guys first. Have to remember though it might be a long list.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Casava has summed it up perfectly....its nice to find another brutally honest woman out there!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
There's brutally honest, Shedonist and then there's cold hearted. Whilst Im flattered to recieve such a reply from a complete stranger, you may as well say fuck off if sending that reply to a "friend" ... I mean, it is hardly likely to inspire a guy to ask again, "when your schedule is less hectic"... how is a guy meant to know when that is? Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
Gaz When you have been here awhile you appreciate the fact that the person has bothered to respond at all. I would suggest sending a message in reply and ask them to chat sometime. They can at least do that. It's better than sending a message to some random that probably wont reply and may not even bother reading the message. You have a much better chance that this person will at least respond. If they meant no they would say no. They have that option and believe me if they bother to respond most will be straight forward with it. You never know a little patience might pay off later. No guarantees but do you really have better prospects atm?
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RHP User
16 years ago
In short, anything except a straight out "yes" really means no. and out of the "yes" answers, you then have to work out for yourself which ones meant it. It's a funny old world...
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RHP User
16 years ago
They're just letting you down gently so you don't stalk them.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Lovenlust72- see the flirt reply was from a top shelf bird. I mean magnificent. It's like when I go to fashion shows all the other guys are too busy looking at each other so I make eye contact with the models and they smile back! Like that- I'm just glowing with warmth that they bother... Anyway... The last thing I would do is send another message and risk being harshly rejected by being ignored. That top shelf lady knows I sent her a flirt, knows she replied and hey... I don't wanna be a stalker... So what's a guy to do? Hey... Do you think she might read this post? As for better prospects... Well I'm a patient man but I suppose I'll preoccupy myself somehow. Hugs gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
Gee I hope it isn't that bad. You say it is letting them down gently, well I think the reply Sorry. I don't see our planets colliding but good luck in your search is the easy let down. Rain check is saying they still want it just not now. If they send the raincheck one back they know they are likely to get a return flirt or message. If they really don't want another message they will not use that flirt. So I respectfully disagree with you both Hot and Slippery. Having said that it doesn't mean anything will progress any further.
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RHP User
16 years ago
RAINCHECKS ARE OFFERED IN DEPARTMENT STORES WHEN A SPECIAL HAS RUN OUT OR THE SUPPLIER IS LATE DELIVERING THE GOODS ON SPECIAL....SO GAZ IT MEANS SEXWISE YOUR STILL IN WITH A SHOW ... CHEERS ASTRAL
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RHP User
16 years ago
Gaz, For the second scenario ie. someone already a friend to me, I don't expect the guy to ask again, nor do i expect him to wait around for me, as you said, they're unlikely to know when I'm going to be less busy. I'll definitely be the one to do the asking next, after all it's only fair. It's like a promise, and I try my utmost to keep my promises. I also try my best to keep in contact with friends, but sometimes, life does get busy, and you can't always fit everyone in all at the same time. My friends would understand that.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I reakon they state that cause they honestly don't want to f**k you.but don't want to be honest about it... TIT
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RHP User
16 years ago
To me its the cowards way out! Either that or you're the back up when they cant find anyone else so that way you're not ruled out but if it were me, i'd rather not be 'chosen last'. I'd say take it as a no and leave it at that, if she comes back then YAY for you!! But dont wait around for her.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I would send that reply if the guy flirting me was somewhat interesting...and I would pursue something with him should the guys im chatting to now not work out. So...it's not a no per se....but I see it as a "try again in a couple of weeks" kinda thing. I so wish we could write our own flirt replies...as they are so restrictive in getting the point across. Good luck anyway! BJ
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RHP User
16 years ago
Clearly not everyone is just here to fuck, tit... If that were so, a lot features of this website would be superfluous. Flirting isn't just to get a root. People flirt to make the recipient "feel good".... so a feel good reply from a flirty person is surely not unusual, even if that person doesn't want a root. Am I wrong? Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
As lovenlust said, they send the 'I don't see our planets colliding, but good luck in your search' if they aren't interested. Raincheck.. give it another go in a week or two. If it changes to something else then work from there. If you get no reply.. well.. that's a NO. LOL! Don't be scared of being ignored or being told NO. It's gonna happen a lot.
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RHP User
16 years ago
that you even receive a reply. Any reasonably attractive woman in here will receive so many flirts per day that they dont know what to do with them. Emails on the other hand are probably more useful. They may receive like 5 - 10 emails per day, so you have more of a chance to stand out. Personally I don't see the point in flirts unless you have run out of your daily email limit.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Means NO. It does not mean we are open for negotiations. It doesn't mean "not right now". It means no, so just forget about her. Obviously if you know her in person there are exceptions. This woman is not going around wondering what happened to you, in fact she was probably on autopilot when she replied to your flirt.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Princevalient - Yeah, I agree.. and that's kind of where I started. I was lucky to get any kind of reply at all and the reply I got was a definite no... but it was a flirty "no"... which is ... warm and strangely rewarding! Autopilot or not... that lady has class. Hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
we enjoy taking advantage of the variety of no responses available going so far as to include details of possible flirt responses on our profile and we actually mean it when we ask for a rain check :-P Because we only try to get to know one person at a time with the possibility of play in mind, we'll put up an update on our profile to let people know if we're not looking atm. But every now and then we'll hear from someone who sounds interesting in the space of time before posting the update, so we'll reply with a raincheck and put them on our Hot List as a reminder to follow up... and yes we do follow up lol. A friendly option to consider here is that it might be a nice gesture to send the lady a message to thank her for her reply :-) If she is a guest, you could also consider making the suggestion that the lady might like to use your message to contact you should her dance card free up in the future... In any case, I suggest, whatever you do... don't follow up with 'nudge nudge wink wink'! hehehe Hugs Deb
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RHP User
16 years ago
raincheck at my age means not interested enough but im being polite. but if you sent another wink or an email, i would go ooh ok this guy is actually interesting, and doesnt take no as a definete answer. that to me is confidence and confidence is sexy
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RHP User
16 years ago
I don't reply to flirts as they mostly come from guests so it's pointless and the paid members should take the time to write a decent message if they expect a reply. But I do get a lot of live chat requests and I reply with "I'll take a rain check" as a polite no I'm not interested. :-)SF
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RHP User
16 years ago
lol Sarah. I see that you are a guest. The point of guests sending flirts is that it is one of their only ways to communicate. .... Since the paid members only get 5 messages a day... maybe they use all their messages up before they get to your delicious profile and have to send you a flirt because they have no other optiions left at that time ..... it's really very rash of you to decide that they should only send messages .... just saying. :p Besides, I was a guest for many months and I enjoy flirting... it simply sends a "feel good" message even if I am not interested in persuing sexual relationships with that person... I mean, this is a national forum and I'm not about to fly to Darwin for a one night shag... you know? I guess that we might as well compliment people for whatever reason, even if I am not seeking a relationship with them... that's why I don't mind receiving "I'll take a raincheck" replies ~ because even if it does mean "no" it's still kind of warming... which discloses something about the person who sent it. Warm and wet hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
If every bloke was like you Gaz then maybe us girls would reply more often. But most guys on here are jerks and anyway RHP is not a level playing field, I continue to get messages with out trying but guys have to pay membership and a lot of them get nothing. If I send a flirt to a guest that I'm not interested in, chances are he will pay for a membership on the assumption that I will continue to swap messages and flirts, best to ignore him and let him join for his own reasons and not because he's been miss led. I know you think my approach is a bit rude, and maybe it is , but to stop all the guys from wasting their time and messages I put in my profile clear instructions on how to get to meet me, so they would have to send a message in order to tell me where they are playing sport. As for everyone else, I've stated clearly in my profile that I'm not into message swap or live chat, so responding to guys asking for that is a waste of time. I didn't mean to come across so seriously, I enjoy your posts gaz, don't stop being you. :-)SF
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RHP User
16 years ago
maybe not,maybe this georgious beauty doesnt have a carport ,that the distant to her car from her door is so great that in bad weather she risks being washed down the street or worst,so she sits at home doing rainchecks waiting for her chance to rush to you...and get wet.. so dont give up summers coming..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Firstly me thinks the raincheck is a side step maybe out of not wanting to crush you with a "no"? Secondly, why didn't we get one of the plethora of winks you're sending Gaz? We like to feel good too!
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N4November
16 years ago
for that bloody flirt from you then? I'm being very patient, I promise. Psst - pretty please will you skip the flirt and just give me a peek in your pg... ; ) xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
it means "we are busy...and we might get back to you" seems pretty easy to me :) yes some people use it as a brush off.. If people us eit on us ...we leave em be...then if they are "our cup of tea" We usually give them a bump after a month or so...if still too busy or too RUDE to bother answering, we figure they are assholes anyway...move on to greener pastures ;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
it means "we are busy...and we might get back to you" seems pretty easy to me :) yes some people use it as a brush off.. If people us eit on us ...we leave em be...then if they are "our cup of tea" We usually give them a bump after a month or so...if still too busy or too RUDE to bother answering, we figure they are assholes anyway...move on to greener pastures ;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
You had to revive this old topic didnt you, hon. Now Im inundated with beautiful women complaining that they never recieved their flirts.. lol .. and as usual asking to see my privates. I feel so dirty. :p I actually sent flirts for two days solid... but didnt even get a quarter the way through the "hot or not" list at whcih point I was exhausted and my dick was rubbed raw. Nope. I thought better of myself than to proceed. Of course, for two days I had the most wonderful time admiring each individual profile, looking at all the pics, reading the profile statements, disregarding the "what I am looking for" section... and wallowing in the loving replies. :) Of course, everyone listed should have recieved an "I think you're hot" flirt but I ran out of puff. Please accept my most sincere apologies :) and by way of compensation, I offer myself to you willingly. Do to me what you must. :p Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
My opinion of taking a raincheck is wanted to go there but getting caught up doing something else... I'm very straight out so if i wasn't interested i would say, better to hurt someone than lead them on.
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RHP User
16 years ago
c if you can get her on yer "i got blocked list" hahahahahahahahaha
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RHP User
16 years ago
Pretty sure it means, your ok but i think i will wait for something better to come along, and by the next day she will have received another 50 messages and totally forgotten all about you!Justjean65 i allways thought no meant precisely that! not you should try again. No wonder some guys get mixed signals!Cheers on Monday Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
to me it usually means "you're cute but no" I know this is probably rude and I don't want to give people the wrong impression but a lot of the answers seem either too blunt or too positive
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RHP User
16 years ago
don't wanna rain on ur parade Gaz, but im a pretty big realist. I would say it's a polite way of saying no. Like thanks, but no thanks. But something about, ur profile made them want to send a response back rather than just ignore u or shut u down more cruelly.......so if there is a positive here, it's that. I hope u prove me otherwise, but to me, that's how i'd take it.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thanks spank. Yeah, that's exactly how I read those replies too... but as you can see, some people think it means something more. The interesting thing is that they're classy enough to respond in a way that doesn't try to cut me down..... I mean the no, no, no , no ... reply is not a flirt at all .... It should be listed under bitch slappin' or something. Hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
hot hunky Gaz, i probably use the replies wrong, but i send that flirt reply when i like someone but just dont have the time or energy to get to know them right now. i am waiting for my special flirt from you that says " DAM JEMMA YOUR ARMPITS SURE SMELL HOT, WHATTA YA THINK OF MINE???"love jemma365-117-082
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RHP User
16 years ago
they just aint that into you
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