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What hotwives are looking for

February 23 2018

This post is to help educate the many single guys who would like to have a fun night with a hot wife. When you are offering your cock to fuck her, you are not telling us anything we don’t already know. We know you have cock along with 80% of the people on RHP. We know you can fuck like 100% of the people on RHP. So why would we select you? The hot wife wants to have fun, but typically doesn’t want to feel like a slut. So you want to sound respectful and fun in your profile, your messages and posts in forums. The husband/boyfriend wants to know his hot wife felt really good about the experience. So you want him to know you are a nice guy, who will treat his hotwife with great respect and her best interests in mind. His reward will be her happiness and gratitude, so he wants to make sure you are the right one. As a male who should understand how other guys think, he feels responsible for helping to select the right guy for his hot wife. If he is secure about himself and his relationship, he will want someone notionally better than him. May be someone younger, hotter, taller or sizeable. This doesn’t guarantee you a seat at the table, or should I say place in the bed, but it gives you head start over the other guys. If you get the nod, of course you have to walk the walk. If you are a genuine person, that won’t be too difficult. Nerve wracking perhaps, but not difficult. For everyone. We hope this helps. Feel free to post your comments or ask any questions. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    As if single guys dont feel like outcasts as it is. If I was a single guy Id bypass your profile and its ego boosting list and find some down to earth couples to have fun with.

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  • DynamicCouple36

    DynamicCouple36

    8 years ago

    They have a lot to learn - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Seems to be that there needs to be a level of understanding, communication and connection established for many. As one who has been lucky enough to have been included in couples who engage in this particular pastime, I have found that it is really important to have the social antenna working and pay attention. The key is it is about them, not me, whilst I have been lucky enough to be included, this really is about them and their fetish. But then, that is pretty much the golden rule when a single guy plays with couples...And everyone is different, so communicate!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    As a hotwife, I totally agree with what is said. I can only speak for myself and my own tastes, but no I don't want to be treated like a slut. I respond to respect and consideration, someone willing to give some time to building a connection. My Mr also wants to know that whoever I am with is treating me well and making me feel good, as to be honest, that is why we do this!! But then I state that quite clearly in my profile what I am about, so hopefully anyone that contacts me reads that to see if I am what they are looking for :)

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  • Forus1234

    Forus1234

    8 years ago

    I liked your post...however...not every hotwife is looking for the same in the bedroom. Firstly I find my own bedroom partners, hubby gives the ok. I'm not looking for anyone better buff, fit etc as I feel I already have the best in my eyes, there is no one better. Those who have met him see this. What I look for, any likeness similar to my husband or a combo e.g same tallness, hair colour, eye colour personality, a caring guy that will be discreet & not brag about our time together to others, or even being a Country boy. When we find this & there is a connection & it takes time, they become long term friends to us. We are patient people & are prepared to wait for bedroom partners that suit us. Everyone is different & have different views & likes as to what they want in a partner.

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  • hotdelights

    hotdelights

    8 years ago

    Looking around in locations for chats drinks or fun feel the freedom

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  • FredAndGinger2

    FredAndGinger2

    8 years ago

    Isn't there a difference between cuckold and hotwife?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'TheCraigums'The key is it is about them, not me, whilst I have been lucky enough to be included, this really is about them and their fetish. But then, that is pretty much the golden rule when a single guy plays with couples... Many couples, like the OP, say they don't just want a cock. They want the 'total package' so to speak. However, when single men and couples have the attitude that it's all about the couple, and what the guy wants or needs doesn't matter at all, then they are effectively relegating the guy to 'just a cock' status. Compare this to the situation when couples are looking for single women. It's always emphasised that the single woman's needs and wants are respected and catered to, and that she's not just treated as a plaything solely there for the couple's pleasure. I know there are a lot of reasons for these opposite situations, and that there are a lot of single guys out there who are fine with just being treated as a couple's plaything, being completely at the mercy of their whims. Of course, I can't help but wonder if at least some of those guys just accept that as being what they need to put up with if they want a chance at playing with a couple. Yes, I also know that there are couples who don't just treat single men as a walking dong, and who do consider what the guy wants out of the experience and put effort into making him feel like an equal participant.

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  • ElectricDreamers

    ElectricDreamers

    8 years ago

    It's about living out our fantasies. MrElectric is great with compersion - he loves to see me in my sexual element... getting fucked by someone is ticking my boxes and having fun. But it's important to both of us that any guys we 'let in' are actually good/nice people too. Same goes for couples, or single girls... We like to film and watch it back together. So being open to that is important to us too. I didn't find anything in the OP too pushy or demanding. They're simply being open about what's right for them. It's amazing how many single guys I've met who say they'd never swing as a couple. We do it as a couple mainly but if we're travelling alone then we'll play solo. Hotwifing is pushing the boundaries for most swingers. The couples engaging in it need to be secure with eachother and for it to be fun for everyone drop the hangups and baggage. What works for us: Hot, gym fit, hung guys... I've got a taste for 27 to 37 but I've enjoyed the company of older and slightly younger guys. Being open to being filmed. And it being more 1 on 1 than MFM. Being able to hold or at least share a good conversation with both of us. Being mentally, phyically and emotionally comfortable in yourself and the unique situation you've put your hand up to be part of. Turning up when you say you will. Hosting at a hotel or chipping in with us for 1, we're not comfortable going to your place unless we know you and we can't host. Don't starfish, the physical exchange should at least be 50/50, I know it feels nice to be pampered but give as good as you get. Listen when information is being shared. I have physical nuisances which mean good sex can feel really bad days later. I know how to counter this... if I tell you things need to be a certain way please listen. Relax, stay light-hearted in between the sexy bouts. And I guess be really open and honest about your timeframes and stamina patterns, maybe we can go grab a meal half way through the evening to give you a little time or we had an instance once where we did that but the guy only had 1 round in him and could have kept going longer. If he'd told us we would have adjusted accordingly. Finally I personally like to either meet first or have had some interaction on kik, followed by being a little social on the night to build connection. MrElectric is straight, my heart is 100% his. We're open to finding a naughty gentleman friend for more than one off play.

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  • Moxters

    Moxters

    8 years ago

    couldn't have said it better myself....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    If you are not a hotwife/hothusband or vixen/stag (not married) and understand the relationship dynamics it can be very difficult to wrap yoir head around. I think we must remember a guy is invited by the couple into the dynamics of their relationship. Yes it is very much an honor and privilege to be chosen. He is not a toy as some suggest. He may just become a part of their lives and she may fall for him too. Hotwifing is more complex than some may think. Personally I feel Hotwifing or being a Vixen is a form of submission. Cuckhold is different as far as I am aware and experienced. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Some extremely good advice listed here. As we all know, every one and every couple is different and have different dynamics. But a little respect and a strong connection can go a long way!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    @ED, as it stands I fulfil all of your criteria (and have, with other couples), which are essentially about attitude, except of course the first one, which is about physique. When I read it in that order I assume that as the main priority, of course you are welcome to your preferences, especially when it reduces the large number of men/profiles to consider :) I do though reflect the general sentiments of some others that a sexual interaction should be about the needs of all the people involved, and that includes the third person (or fourth, or fifth etc). For example, couples seeking couples generally look for a four way connection, one couple is never there just to please the other couple. And so these mutual engagements are the type of scenarios I prefer if it is just myself and the couple. Of course at times one person wants to be the reciever and/or have the attention directed towards them, even for just the present moment. Once you build an enduring connection, perhaps small scenarios can be more directed towards any one of the three (or more) people involved. However if someone has a servant fetish they can perhaps take that further on similar fetish websites :P

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    As a hotwife myself all I care about is a big hard cock with stamina. I'm a big girl and of your disrespectful of my boundaries you'll be dealt with. As well as pleasing me you'll gave to show the hubby your worthy of his hotwife by the way you fuck my pussy. Fucking a hotwife needn't be daunting or full of rules or ridiculous expectations just bring your game and it's on 😁😁😁 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • blackbig

    blackbig

    8 years ago

    Some good points from OP and others. Guys need to respect the couples wishes and boundaries . Fulfilling the couples desires is paramount . It should be an encounter whereby everyone feels relaxed and keen to have a good fun with inhibitions left at the door..😈 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • secure2

    secure2

    8 years ago

    Very well summed up, ultimately the extra guy is there to help us provide pleasure to & for each other. As mentioned also about experiencing other physical traits or mental stimulus with the physical pleasures.Mrs S

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