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What is the point?
June 06 2016
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
Perhaps you said /wrote something that scared her off? Perhaps you were not dealing with a woman but a male posing as one? Perhaps she got cold feet when she realised that the fantasy was perhaps about to turn into reality ? There could be dozens of reasons and who knows what he/she got out of it - only he/she could really answer your question - we can only guess.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have no idea. Obviously someone with too much time on their hands. :(
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
You could have organised a play meet, booked a room and have a no show. Then you would need to have a wank so yould could say to yourself at least you had sex there.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
...are us ''dumb men'' and there are any number of marketing campaigns to keep up interest. Not sayin' just sayin'. I had one in particular that became a game of inverse interaction until she had bollixed it up so badly even she became lost for words. I've now set parameters for my campaigns as have any number of the genuine ladies here. Have fun, be safe and stay sane.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
It happens because, something else/someone has their attention and they were not that into you. They changed their mind somewhere during exchange of messages. I get bored if there's way too many and move on. Maybe you were not the only one she was talking too? Who knows, so until one meets there is no obligation. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
It happens to everyone. Things just fizz out,they lose interest. Thats all part of the process of finding the right connection. Better to fade away early than go to the trouble of a meet, only to both be disappointed.
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Seachange73
10 years ago
like Dynamic couple said. Just don't know how far you got until you arranged the meet. Were they verified? if you had chatted over the phone but not seen each other face to face (via skype or messenger) then maybe something happened like they gain 20 pounds in the course of 2 weeks? that could alter one's appearance from their profile pics. Lol. Or you may have said something that definitely scared or turned them off. This has happened to me. All going well with comms with a couple of nice hot young men who exuded confidence, manners and intelligence and at the last minute, they start sending unsolicited cock pics or videos of them wanking. Pfft! that burst the enthusiasm bubble pretty quickly. Only you can tell what it is that changed inthe dynamics as you had those discussions. But they could also just be women tyre kickers.... Not nice.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well reading your post on face value, I'd think a couple of things. She may in fact be a guy pretending to be a woman, that does happen, I'm sure RHP works to fine these impostures. Alternatively, she was actually nothing like her profile..... A couple of years ago, I'd arranged to meet a woman from here after lots of messages. We arranged to meet at a pub at a specific time. we didn't realise that it was closed, at about the appointed time a woman walked past apprehensively, but she was so unlike her pics and description (shorter, older, larger and less attractive, chalk and cheese really) I didn't even approach her.... so either she was a no show or she had falsified her profile......
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RHP User
10 years ago
It happens to most people at some point. I wouldn't worry about putting to much thought into it, move on and put your effort into the next one.
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RHP User
10 years ago
As the majority are saying, it could be for a number of reasons. For me, the more interaction the better so I don't find a lot of messages off putting but some may find it a little smothering. If this is happening a lot, maybe there's a pattern that you may not be aware of. Something that you might say that might be scaring them off. Or maybe you're choosing the wrong people to chat with who aren't in here for the same reasons as you and, once they realise, they just find it easier to block rather than face you and tell you. I hope your luck changes and things get better.
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hotdelights
10 years ago
Made be to much information on each other short coms following a coffee meet. Looking at each other over coffee would have set the goal between the post that would.be OnePOINT
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RHP User
10 years ago
There is always a point. The following comments do not apply to the anonymous profile blackings.They apply to those who have responded to you, and those you've actually spoken to over the phone to verify that they're a real woman. And this holds true for the moist and slippery walls of RHP as much as it does in the much wide world beyond. If you've been blocked or ghosted more than once.... for what you believe is "no reason"... ... then the one common factor in those interactions... is you. Many people can't be objective in evaluating their own behaviour or past conversations, but if you really try, there will be cues where something you did or said, switched the other person off. Because human nature dictates that if someone was intrigued enough, curious enough, interested enough.... they'd feel compelled to meet to satisfy that curiosity. Most guys in here pile on the pressure through overtly sexualised conversation. Many more are pushy and in such a hurry, and that reeks of selfishness and desperation.And plenty in here flat-out suggest sex in their opening message, well before they've even conversed or spoken to the other person, basing their sexual desires on a photo or two. And thats a really weird thing to do in my view. Its a bit like saying...."Hi my, Im Bill, I like how you look in a photo..... so you really should see my penis because I think its magnificent and I can shag you and the last 4 women I sent my daily message allowance to, seven ways to Sunday because thats how horny I am and you're not really that important to me other than a hole to get off in, right now". You ask what is the point.I say, the point is to learn. Learn what element of your communication style may be the door-slammer. SO my tip, if the whole anonymous conversation thing falling over bothers you so much... would be to review the conversations you've had, and define the point at which they fell over, and then, don't do that again. Then Id suggest continuing the line of communication you were using at the start of your messaging that had the person intrigued enough to respond in the first instance.
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RHP User
10 years ago
it happens to most on here for a myriad of reasons as others have pointed out , not a whole lot you can do about it unfortunately.
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' There is always a point. Most guys in here pile on the pressure through overtly sexualised conversation. Many more are pushy and in such a hurry, and that reeks of selfishness and desperation.And plenty in here flat-out suggest sex in their opening message, well before they've even conversed or spoken to the other person, basing their sexual desires on a photo or two. And thats a really weird thing to do in my view. This actually happened to me recently, that overt sexualized conversation when still starting to get to know each other. I am really turned off by it. Each one of us is different and that convo can occur at different points in the interaction for each one of us. but both parties need to judge and see how the convo flows and the point where the 'dirty talk' comes in is determined organically, not a forced point or topic in the interaction. In my experience, the find the men are just too 'desperate' and 'enthusiastic' to get to the sex talk after a message or two. I t just is awkward and uncomfortable at time. Then my Casper costume looks pretty attractive at that point....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Intend to meet,meet as soon as possible..or perhaps as your selection criterion is 18 -45 she was at the younger end of the scale and your mature charms overwhelmed her Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
👻👻👻👻👻xxQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
but I like desperate and enthusiastic, that's what I am
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm nothing if I'm not desperate and enthusiastic
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just like in real life, maybe she got scared because things were moving so fast. 50 messages is a lot to exchange in a night. She probably got a bit carried away in the excitement and anticipation...which you were both fuelling, remember...and got scared, nervous, insecure, whatever when it inevitably came to the possibility of meeting. Don't read too much into it. A LOT of people have insecurities we know nothing about. Or maybe an old flame came back into her life. Who knows? Well, she knows her reasons...and maybe feels she owes you no explanation. Whether that is fair is debatable, but take the high ground and move on without bitterness if you can.
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RHP User
10 years ago
RHP is like a deep sea fishing expedition for the majority of the women here. Target species:Trophy sized marlin, swordfish and the elusive "Great White". Bait selection:Trolling artificial skirted kona heads, live baiting and mullett gut By catch:Mullett (or bogan fish) over sized Groper, (AKA whales), dweebs (AKA undersized trouser shark),massive schools of (technically just out of school) undersized fingerlings (AKA as overeager tradies/FIFO workers) snapper, cod (AKA Old codger) seagulls (AKA us) Methods: The most common and economical method by far for the more experienced trophy hunter is to anchor up back at themariner sipping cocktails, dining on deep fried fingerlings and tending to the constant influx of pesky nibbles and seagulls all whilst keeping the all essential burly trail going.The contents of the burly is a closely guarded secret for those "in the know" but it basically consists of putrid whale blubber,.mullett heads and gutted trouser sharks with about 25% of the mix consisting of a finely ground slurry of undersized tradies FIFO workers, seagulls, cod, large gropers and undersized marlin and swordfish. The seasoned pro sets their hooks and waits patiently, sometimes for weeks on end for the big strike. Spear fishing isanother not so common method whereby the angler dons the deep sea scuba gear and and goes into.the deep and somewhat murky offshore waters (AKA Men seeking women list) in search of the elusive."grander" Bag limits and minimum size restrictions: Currently there are no bag limits enforced but catch & release is generally widespread and considered a universally common practice. The minimum size limit is subject to debate, but is commonly set at 7"+ and thick, regardless of body mass, although a 6 pack is an added advantage Tagging: Tagging (also known as "pegging") has become very popular in recent years. This barbaric practice involves a cruel medieval looking device know as a "strap on" This device is worn by the angler around the waist and is thrusted repeatedly into the anal fin of the unsuspecting male catch. Apparently this can hurt like buggery (so Im told) :D Hope this helps :D 🐳 🐋🐬 🐟 🐠 🐟
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Move on and try again. But its easier for the couples, the single woman and the trans. Plenty of choice. For the single guys it can knock em a fair bit because its hard to get reponses and when they get one they put everything into it. Maybe too enthusiastic as has been said by Lily. Just highlights what a cruel act if its guys pretending to be chicks or couples. They need arse fucking with no lube.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Move on and try again. But its easier for the couples, the single woman and the trans. Plenty of choice. For the single guys it can knock em a fair bit because its hard to get reponses and when they get one they put everything into it. Maybe too enthusiastic as has been said by Lily. Just highlights what a cruel act if its guys pretending to be chicks or couples. They need arse fucking with no lube. Hides lube and scuttles off to register some girl IDs :D
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RHP User
10 years ago
I had a similar experience...except we had been chatting off and on for several months. It was just on a friends basis, with no suggestion of either seeking anything other than that. The last message that she sent was all good fun (non sexual) and giggles. Then Boom. Profile unavailable. We had discussed days earlier how she had a date that really turned out shitty, so it may have been that she went into stealth mode...and I rarely see a post for her anymore. But then someone pointed out that the Block button is right next to the Reply button. It could have been that she accidentally blocked me and is thinking that it is I that left her high and dry, because I (apparently) ceased contact. If you are out there R, check your blocked list.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Fact 1: only 1 person knows why. Fact 2: you probably wouldn't want to associate with people that cold anyway, so don't sweat it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
That was a crack up read. Love the fishing comparisons. My "burly" is my profile pic I suppose. Out in the deep waters ready with my spear gun. Catch,"tag" and release!! Hahaha. Love it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Whales?? Really Oz_boy?? Your comments certainly explain your username 😐 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You summed it up perfectly as per usual 😘 And Annie, I just spat my wine all over my best flannel pjs 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Completely agree Stirry. If that is the way they are going to be then you wouldnt want to associate with them anyway. It really doesnt cost anyone to be honest and have the etiquette you would expect but dont stress just move on.
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Seachange73
10 years ago
You know what I'm saying. You cheeky bugger. Lol 😁
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RHP User
10 years ago
just
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Explain anything on someone's behalf, justthebest2016, and my opinion is simply my :) and my guess is, she could be an attached or married woman wandering in RHP without her other half's knowledge 😋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Willow_1' That was a crack up read. Love the fishing comparisons. Glad you appreciate the post Willow, my humour tends to go over a lot of heads or unnoticed around here :DGgrrr and I missed adding "catfish" into the by catch section as well, bit of a bugger but ya get that hahah Yes leeliegh Whales, killer ones, big ones, hunchback ones, and ones that spout off a lot :pDunno how my comments explain my user name. Im intrigued, care to elaborate? :D 🐳🐋🐳🐋🐳 🐋
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
Exactly what you gave her. That's why I think there is no further communication. They may not want anymore than the validation through messages that they are attractive, sexy, and fuckable. There's men around like that as well. These people never intend to meet, get their joys from the sexy chit chat, thats all they ever wanted. So if you find there is a common pattern that these long long 50+ messages have headed to sext land pretty quick then that is what they were after....not meeting you in the flesh.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm still laughing about bag limits and 'The seasoned pro sets their hooks and waits' Classic, I cried laughing, nice one
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' but I like desperate and enthusiastic, that's what I am Sounds like you've found your new profile name for when the time comes for a change. It does have a bit of flair to it. "Hi, I'm Desperate and Enthusiastic...by name AND by nature. But you can call me Dee..."What d'you reckon...is it a winner?
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justthebest18
10 years ago
to Mischievous Lad I read your comment as well-intentioned advice. But there is an element of presumption in there, that I must have said something wrong that scared them off. I have done the online hookup thing before, often enough to realise when I have made a faux-pas, or said something that was open to misinterprertation. Not applicable here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
That the reason some people may be on here is that they lack the confidence to ever have this type of interaction in a club or bar, and are able to inhabit their persona without putting themselves at risk??? Taking the next step could just be too much...it's not like you take home every person you speak to in a bar... On the other hand, the exhilaration of the first contact may have gone...for some it builds, while for others it can dissipate, and be looking for the next fix...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well, of course I presume.... lol..... But remember, you're presuming too..... firstly that you did something wrong, and secondly by now presuming you didn't. I just put your comments of a repeat pattern into perspective using the common factor 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oz_boy, I may have misread or misinterpreted your comments!! I dont think I did, but Ill scuttle away now just in case 😘😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is it bothering you so much? I think you got a little hood winked.... Pardon the pun 😂😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I tend to agree with comments about 'the culprit' being a person wishing to feel desirable but with no intent to meet...think about it...the same thing happens in the real world. How many times have you been out on the pull, thinking you're making progress, only to have the object of your desires say, 'well, it's been nice meeting you but I have to be going now"....and in some rare cases enjoying the shocked/crestfallen look on your face. I'm not saying this is a regular occurrence, or that women out on the town have cruel motives, but some and probably more girls than us fellas care to think go out with no intention whatsoever of getting laid but every intention of attracting male attention and desire...I repeat, i do not see this as malicious...it's human nature to want to be wanted. One has to expect to find that here. Just because this is a sex site it does not follow that every member is in fact here to find sexual companionship. Not to mention the fact that we all are selective, just as we are in the real world. As an aside, IMHO too much time spent courting tends to be a recipe for NOT meeting. And I loved the fishing analogies!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
... flashing their baby blues, I never take anyone here too serious.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
You both got to flirt a little, experience the thrill of something potentially happening and feed off that and feel good about yourselves. When it came to the crunch she disappeared..... her reasons are her own and you'll never know what they were. Stressing about it is a waste of your time. Just tick and flick and move on and put it down to "she just wasn't that into you" 😃 and if that's the case you dodged a bullet because if it was going to go anywhere it would have. It also doesn't mean you DID anything....so pick yourself up, dust yourself off and away you go again. It happens to everyone here you aren't alone, yes it's mystifying but isn't the end of the world ~ Indy On Safari
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hahahha love it .... well as a wee little fish in this BIG DEEP ocean known as RHP, we 'ladies' must be careful. I do rather like to nibble on the bait and see what's on offer. It's worth the wait to find quality rather than a large quantity of dried up old seamen ... heheheh seamen .... I'm so funny !!!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SNAG4XTC' I had a similar experience...except we had been chatting off and on for several months. It was just on a friends basis, with no suggestion of either seeking anything other than that. The last message that she sent was all good fun (non sexual) and giggles. Then Boom. Profile unavailable. We had discussed days earlier how she had a date that really turned out shitty, so it may have been that she went into stealth mode...and I rarely see a post for her anymore. But then someone pointed out that the Block button is right next to the Reply button. It could have been that she accidentally blocked me and is thinking that it is I that left her high and dry, because I (apparently) ceased contact. If you are out there R, check your blocked list. it's not just you, at least if my assumption is correction. her profile is not viewable by anyone, pretty sure you can select that in settings. You should be careful making reference to the forum though, discretion? There can be a fine line between bragging and outing someone. Nobody loves bragging like I do but do you know who I'm talking about, see the difference. Where I think I do know who you were talking about. Innocent rookie mistake I'm sure lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' but I like desperate and enthusiastic, that's what I am Sounds like you've found your new profile name for when the time comes for a change. It does have a bit of flair to it. "Hi, I'm Desperate and Enthusiastic...by name AND by nature. But you can call me Dee..."What d'you reckon...is it a winner? I love it. Call me Dee, that's too funny It might work just with that one line so when they scroll down, that's all it'll say 'Hi, I'm desperate and enthusiastic'. Set the bait and sit back and wait, then get ready to 'tag and release' with no bag limit, I should be fine
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'leeleigh' Oz_boy, I may have misread or misinterpreted your comments!! I dont think I did, but Ill scuttle away now just in case 😘😎 Must have been all that red wine hey :p Maybe you need to sharpen your harpoon :D 🐳 🐳 🐳 🐳 🐳 🐳 🐳 🐳 🐳
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RHP User
10 years ago
whine*
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