What precautions to take

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  If they: 1) offer to come alone. 2) say they are both interested, but EVERYTIME you offer to meet its a hassle and the male offers to come alone. 3)refuse to let their lady speak on the phone. 4) can't supply face pics 5) don't have any pics together Then in our ten years experience using websites for this, it's our informed opinion they are fakers, and inherently creepy.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Your profile says   Safe sex: If required   That will put off alot of potential meets just with that statement...   You may want to rethink and discuss that issue if your going to venture into the world of swinging..         .......see the Art of the Condom thread !!!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  always meet in public 1st, that way you can all easily and safely walk away if its not working out or is different from what you expected.Be 100% open about what your desires for that encounter are, have clear boundaries and an understanding that if asked to stop it stops instantly. Trust is something you build over multiple encounters also so those 1st meets etc where everyone is nervous it helps to push through those and you never know what you might find on the other side :)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  At one of the many private parties or Swingers clubs. We find these venues a neutral ground to meet n greet with new couples. If you don't click with the couple you've organised to meet up with, you can always mingle with others.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Be careful when walking on wet tiles with thongs!!!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  "there are shady characters on these sites"...... You would also Know that,there are shady characters everywhere not just on sites like this.The Safe Sex "If required" will make genuine people click NEXT!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  even if you put some safeguards in place.Always meet first on neutral ground,a cafe,bar etc.If only the male half of a couple is ever available to speak to on the phone,be aware that it probably is just him and his partner either does not exist or has no idea that they have a profile on here.Don't invite people to your home,pay for a hotel. Before I meet anyone I almost always speak to them on the phone first,that way you can get a sense of who the person is and whether or not you want to meet them .Go with your instincts,if it doesn't feel right or comfortable then it isn't.Dont give someone the benefit of the doubt.Always play as safely as possible and enjoy.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  You could view them on cam as well just to verify that they are who hey say they are. Have to reiterate what Freya has said, there are single men who pose as a "couple" and when it comes to meeting the wife is always mysteriously unable to make it. So if you can speak to the wife on the phone or see her on cam first. Otherwise meet in public places. I personally would say that you like to meet for a drink first and that there will be no play first up. This way if you don't hit it off there is no expectations of playing. You can always change your mind when you get there. ;-)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  First, Do a search with the criteria you are looking for....one for safe sex and then the same search for if required. Look at the results and you will see where the consensus is with couples...dont let others ram their views down your throat. Go to a sex clinic and they will tell you ALL the activities and the TYPES that will increase your risk.,,they will be happy to hear from you. You will also find genuine swingers will also say next...if you have "allways " ticked and other aspects of your profile.     Before meeting, allways never a exception: Swap face photos, All four talk on the phone together. Meet at nuetral places.   There is a lot of guys pretending to be a couple, or they want sex with your wife but dont like the thought of their wife with other guys.....Or girls in couple looking for other girls for her and her husband and the other girl is not really interested in guys. Most times its a diaster...unless girls only play and guys watch. ....They choose couples as a second choice because they cant get a single girl, sometimes their profile wording is a giveaway you are second choice. Ask the questions but dont expect 100% honest answers read between the lines....but this can all add to the experiances.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  IM WITH SHINASBABE27 , SAFE SEX IS A BIG DEAL , as for your topic well im single and ive found meeting somwhere out in public first is the best way to find out more about person before inviteing them to your place or going to theres , just keep thing in the back of you mind that they might be a thief or worse there might be other people wiating at there house lol i know that that crap gos on but hey you need to just screen first by my first sugestion, and keep your wits about you until your comfotable and well so do they as its a to way street ive had a few women from sites to my place no real dramas ...

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