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What to do to get the girl you want? Advice thread

January 08 2011

Usually I'm prone to getting asked by girls I have no interest in at all at a club. There was one time I was wasted and tried to prop myself up on the bar with my elbows trying to look relaxed and this random girl took my hand and dragged me off outside. I couldn't even walk straight, we talked for a bit, I didn't want to take it further so I eventually walked off but I remember she had a good body but I don't think she was very attractive or even average, it was quite a hazy night and hard to see even outside in the lights. | But there are girls in there that I find really cute but have no interest or don't follow up. More often than not the hot girls have a guy or 2 with them constantly talking to them so it's hard to do anything at all. but I just usually start off with "hey how's your night been..." and comment on something thats happening or ask if one of her friends have a bf or whatever I can think of on the spot. I'm not really into pickup lines.. though yeah i think my starter is quite weak.. | Unfortunately I also get the same sort of response on this site as well. | So what do you do to start off a conversation with a girl you want to take away for the night, while she's in her group (girls or guys or girls and guys) or if there's just a couple of them?

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RHP User

15 years ago

So, what are the "other" girls if they are not the "hot" girls??? I kinda think you are missing what is right in front of you. Appear interested....thats always a good start ;P

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RHP User

15 years ago

id be more inclined to go off with a man where the conversation started with a "hi how ya going...are you having fun?" instead of one of those stupid pick up lines that would just make me laugh and walk off lol and as for dragging a drunk man outside hahaha...if he cant walk im not looking twice at him although if i was just as drunk then id probably start the conversation myself about how dumb we both are for being so off it lol good luck roxxy

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RHP User

15 years ago

Now THAT would be a great start. I wouldnt want to go anywhere with someone who was that wasted the bar was the only thing holding them up. l Forget about the "hot" girls with all the guys hanging around. How much competition do you want anyway? Those are the girls that are just up themselves and are so high maintenence. Pick up lines dont work either. Most of us just answer politely to those lines anyway. A "Hi, how is your night going?" would be a much better line. At least it starts a conversation. l What is the big deal about looks anyway? If you are only after sex, you can not see with the lights out and you dont look at the mantel piece while stoking the fire. If you are after something more permanent, Baby go for personality, I would rather laugh the night away than spend all my time with guy who was too cute but could not hold a conversation. When you are eighty, you are both gonna be ugly.

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RHP User

15 years ago

I can't help it being a little shallow =S. Ideally i'd like a bit of everything of course there is no need for perfect looks but I don't want someone ugly in my next relationship because I won't be satisfied and if i'm not satisfied i wont make her happy and i'd rather not go through with it at all if I know I'll break up with her. Personality is a big thing too, it'll turn someone unattractive into very attractive. I believe anyone can get what they want if they desire it. I've travelled somewhat overseas and I don't think I need to settle for a girl right here right now. I'm only seeing a speck of what I'm offered on the street/club/bar/karaoke joint. There's a lot of factors to take into account during a relationship for me and i don't want to resort to cheating, I wouldn't want to become like tiger woods lol. but i would want to become like tiger woods if I'm not in a relationship. assuming my sex drive is as high as it is now. I have my morals but I'm just fussy not just in looks either. \n So yeah on average I don't get wasted, just drunk but in control though past the tipsy point. When I see a girl that's wasted damn i feel sorry for her lol and i'm definitely not the type to take advantage of people like that. Should i just break out of my shell and talk to one of the girls in her group of friends (5 or 6 of them). usually i only try talk to girls when there's just 2 or 3 of them.

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RHP User

15 years ago

I always think if yo can make eye contact with some one fisrt it works wonders. In most case my opening line is going to be ...how is your night going. For some reason I find it very easy to chat to people once a conversation gets going I can chat away for ages... . My experiance is that the hot chichs and the interesting chicks are not always the same...some times yes, somethime no. If your just after a root you will often find some one on their own who is also after the same thing...Don't think that every women is looking for happily ever after at a bar some are just Horny as well :) . LC

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RHP User

15 years ago

The was one girl that I was eyeing and her too but I didn't have the balls to go up to her and ask =/. This year i'll try to just talk to anyone and everyone

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RHP User

15 years ago

Maaaate! 99.995% of girls out with 5 or 6 other girls are out for a girls night and don't want to be pestered by blokes. They are with the gaggle for safety and just want to have fun. Sounds like you're a shy soul who wants some fun no strings sex, this is a hard combination as only the cocky pricks will loosen the panties of the 0.005%. Solutions: Either become a cocky prick or look for something with more substance outside the drunken night life.If you see a girl you really like and she's with the gaggle then I'd possibly approach it like this:"Hello, I find you really attractive. I know you're here for a night out with your friends but if you'd like to have a drink and get to know each other then I'll be just over there (point). If not have a great night!" And then go over "there" and don't hassle her again (oh and try not to look over at her every 20 seconds - reeks of desperation). Women (and men too) love to feel attractive so a compliment is always nice but if you're past tipsy they'll just feel like you want some action with whoever you can get so lay off the alcomahol, it only makes you FEEL like you're tha shit while making you look and sound shit!Oh and not all the hot chicks with guys hanging around them are up them selves and high maintenance MsFifi, my Ms Pup is so down to earth she always thinks guys are chatting to her because they are interested in what she has to say, ok she is a tad naive but oh so down to earth. Oh and Marky I climbed over chairs to get close enough to say hello to her when I first saw her, sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do.Good luck

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RHP User

15 years ago

I've totally forgotten about being desperate! you're totally right I need to abolish that, because I honestly I have been acting desperate the last few times I've been clubbing. damnit!

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RHP User

15 years ago

Read 'How to win friends and influence people' by Dale Carnegie. If approaching a 'Posse' you may have to be approved by the group, this will depend on how you conduct yourself. Work with the guys in a group as we are more`approachable. Check out any partner/single arrangements, don't swear too much and get too pissed and talk a load of crap. Buy a round of drinks. Smile. That should do it.

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