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What was the final straw ?
May 13 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
the floodgates are now open ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
he was fighting depression and although i supported him, he withdrew from me, the kids, and pushed us all away. The final straw was the suicide thoughts, and plans...i couldnt stay around wondering what i would find when i opened the door each night...and worse still what the kids would find.......on good terms still, he received the help he needed, but too much damage had been done, we stay civil for the kids.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oh just a final smack in the mouth one Christmas eve 5 yrs ago realized I was better then that and the kids didn't need to see it anymore
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'll come in early and apologise on behalf of real men everywhere, for the violence that I know too many of our women have suffered at the hands of douchebags. There is never any reason to inflict violence on women (and most people in general) this also means emotional and psychological humiliation and degradation. Gentlemen know that strong independent women enhance us as men, and enrich our lives. If you are a douchebag, get help, you can become a better, real man. Hp xo
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RHP User
13 years ago
One day just woke up and wanted to "Eat, Pray, Love" ..I've eaten, Prayed that there is a God and not going anywhere near Love!! Foxy
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RHP User
13 years ago
Until I ended it a year ago. He returned from a five month stay overseas, and his return made me realise how happy I had been without the daily verbal and emotional abuse.
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RHP User
13 years ago
...& Gradual . GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
realised I was a workaholic, and wasn't going to change.. I THOUGHT I was easy to get along with... ALL of them THOUGHT otherwise NOW.... I am EASY to live with... Me and I haven't had a single fight in MANY months..
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RHP User
13 years ago
ALWAYS remember.. there are THREE sides to every breakup... 1) HIS side 2) HER side 3) The REAL side.. GENERALLY.. neither 1, nor 2 are honestly closer to to 3 then the other.
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RHP User
13 years ago
That was the choice. I chose life. Upset a few people but they don't walk in my shoes. The ec and I are now both happily living our lives and have found again the reason why we lived a good 20 years together- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
A long gradual drifting apart with a few incidents thrown in for good measure! At the end of the day I asked myself "Am I happy?" "Can I see myself living like this for the next 20..30 years?" I realise now just how miserable I was! And for what?? Fear...Its a scary world out here but I have some of the best friends helping me through it ;) Remember... "LIFE BEGINS WHEN YOU STEP OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE" xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I did my back in... The money stopped coming in And the sex life went down hill. She had to help me do just about everything except wipe my arse. After 3 yrs hard work I made a full recovery. then 2 yrs later I got cancer.. Too much for her so she did a runner with the kids. Now ccompletely cured I am just out to try and have a normal life.
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sweetgem
13 years ago
It was an obvious choice and I didn't want to continue to live in hell!!! So, in my case, it was an incidence that I could not forgive and forget!!!To an extend, I am thankful for the divorce, otherwise I wouldn't be on here having fun and made some good friends
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On_Safari
13 years ago
....in frint of our dayghter then turned it on himself instead. AND the hospital had the hide to send the trauma counsellor to see me! Ha!! Fckn trauma....that was nothing.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think I pushed my ex away over time, he had an affair with a friend of "Ours" but I played a big part in pushing him her way I guess, I just realized after 20 years we were taking eachother for granted and life had become boring, I tried to change some things like offering a ffm and introducing toys into our bedroom play and he just froze and refused lol, the only time he was nice and not indifferent was when he wanted a 5 seconder and I was over that and wanted more, I had no idea what mind blowing sex and orgasms and squiring etc was till I got over the affair, more the who than the act and then started playing and wow wish I had found out alot sooner lol.
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erotictouch4u
13 years ago
Constant verbal abuse as soon as I got in the front door from work about not having a "life" when all she did was to look after the kid for 2 hours after school...I got everything ready in the morning, I worked all day for the money we needed, I cooked dinner each night, I cleaned, I did all the yard work, I drove her everywhere...and never a thankyou heard. Even made her a cup of tea each morning to wake her up but nothing was ever enough to keep her happy. ET xox
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RHP User
13 years ago
It may have been, the extra woman in our bed....I dunno some women are just ungrateful I guess....bring em home a woman to play with and they turn their nose up at it......I was just trying her out to see if she passed the standard my ex had!!! :p- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Some of the replies have been very sad and personal. There are some very strong ladies on this site. For me it was just a case of being friends but not lovers. It still hurt but was very easy compared to what some people have gone thru.
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RHP User
13 years ago
being told by my fiancés mother, that the reason I couldn't pay my rego was because her daughter had stripped all the money from my bank and credit accounts....she'd been feeding the pokies and her nose with my hard earned savings... her dishonesty ran to a 6 figure amount... stupid me for being so trusting....I never had an inkling of an idea....worse discoveries followed in the aftermath.
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RHP User
13 years ago
She took the remote to work.DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can relate to a goodly portion of these replies in terms of my relationship with my mother. (Sorry, OP, you didn't specify sexual relationship). Abusive, suicidal, etc. And I still remember how hard it was to break the pattern and just leave. At risk of sounding overly sappy, I am damn proud of every single person who has ever broken the cycle. It is HARD.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Was discovering he had been cheating for 2.5 years. Our kids were 5 and 7 months...... Life moves on - I am happier now than I have ever been but I no longer believe in monogamy.
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RHP User
13 years ago
When he deliberately ignored me on my birthday... The 3rd one in a row he'd spoilt. Enough was enough!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is not OK!!Sorry ladies to read what happened to you.FOXY
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RHP User
13 years ago
Our story was already similar! The ex's return from an overseas trip, made me realise how happy I was whilst he was gone:) In fact, I wished he never came home!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Was a very slow and gradual decline in things to the point when at the time I thought things were fine but it was only after time and perspective that I realised that it was far from from it. Didn't help when ex had stopped trying and withdrawn everything else but friendship for 2 years but said nothing or did nothing about being totally unhappy. With perspective am so much more happier now. A big thanks to everyones responses and glad to hear there a lot of "I'm much happier now" 'sCheers,W.
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wingman2014
13 years ago
Thanks for your openness and honesty . I have a new appreciation and perspective of your situations . It's a credit to you the way you have overcome such sad situations to rebuild your lives and find yourselves again. More power to you Cheers wingman- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
My x used to complain not enough sex.. The usual, babies etc, tired and not in the mood etc.then I turned 30, babies a bit older, and i started wanting sex more often. Within only a few weeks he started complaining that 2-3 times a week was too much. We were the same age... after all the arguments over his supposed lack of getting sex, when I started to want it more, then he bitched... sorry, not happening!! That was the start, all down hill from there till it became war of the roses! Until police involved, DVO's and separation/divorce. Knocking back your women when she wants sex... not smart in my books LOL unless a good reason of course.. damn good reason LOL
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RHP User
13 years ago
when she said DC Universe is better than Marvel Universe... Then came the out of school serious relationships....one was when she wanted to suck my blood like a vampire, and wanted to bottle it up to wear around her neck...that was forgiven until she tried to take the blood herself while I was asleep.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
It was his overall personality that did it for me. He became too narcissistic, obsessed being manly and with his status in society and wealth (even though he lived with his very bogan parents and mum did all his housework and washing etc) always buying expensive shit but never actually doing anything to better his situation or become an independent adult. Our interests became so vastly different there was no point in having a conversation. He was obsessed with politics, which bores the crap out of me. The sex was so vanilla and boring that I preferred masturbation. He wouldn't even go down on me. It ended up becoming one of those "Was I drunk the ENTIRE time I was with him?" relationships. Looking back it makes no sense why I would have been interested in him. If I believed in fate, or a design to the universe I would think perhaps I was in that relationship to work out what I didn't want so I could find what I did want. A few days after breaking it off with him I got my old RHP and other profiles from elsewhere back up and running, met Mr Otori a few weeks after that and the rest is history. - Ms Otori
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