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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Mate from what i know most guys get treated the same way, but I found out something most upsetting and disturbing. Had a girl over that checked her profile after 3 days she had 87 winks and 56 msg, she proceeded to blast through his guys like a war zone deleting profiles for the smallest of faults....didn't like thier name, age, body, dick shot ( did not like dick pics, was a big no no with her) quality of pic, no pic, hair colour etc etc you get the picture. Then she went to the winks and wiped them...OMG... all saying she does not reply to winks. (she is only a guest not a payed member) I asked her why she did this ( and she is a really nice girl) she said i don't even search for men because she gets that many guys wanting to contact her that she does not have the time to look at them all so she only picks the cream and gets back to them later when she is ready or chats on-line to them. Now the girl in question is 30 and her profile pic is very tame. now out of 143 winks & msg she picked 5 very lucky ones to short list. Now while she was doing all this (about 10 mins) she got 4 msg and 6 winks. All this sites are greatly slopped to the female and the guys out number the girls 7 or more to 1 so if you get any reply back feel greatly hounoured but don't expect much more........ ok depressed and hurt mmmm me too, but she did give me some tips change your pic Periodically keep up dating your profile. read other guys profiles and take a line or two that relates to you if you like a girl on line keep trying a few times before you give up as sometime persistance can pay off Have the best head shot you can get to show in public or private gallery as that will be the deal breaker try to get in the chat rooms ( they shit me but have been giving it a go) happy hunting mate

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Thanks mate, and I am not surprised to tell the truth. I suspected that given the nature of this site the women would be swamped with messages from blokes. I have tried changing the profile around a little every now and then. I sent a few messages to the same women a few times hoping to 'break thru' but at heart I am a gentleman and it seems like stalking so I end up backing off. Anyway its all a bit of fun and you cant take it to heart. Cheers

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  hey mustang, as a couple we also got to say that there are alot of guys on this site that just plain fuck it up for you nicer guys.... they dont read profiles and try to bust into stuff where tbh they are not welcome or wanted... for example we're looking for other cpls and single fems, but yet daily we get bombarded by single guys going look at me i have a penis for you to use.....and then we tell them no thanks they get abusive... one guy in particular for example from today... thegroin... his first mail was friendly and went on about how sexy my wife was, and how lucky he'd be to fuck her, but when told look bugger off you aint what we want, he got abusive.. my wife went from a hot sexy woman to an orange haired pig in one messgae... when queried about it all he said was that he'd do or say whatever it took to get into a girls panties.... The moral of the story is of course that guys like that are running around and puttin cpls and fems offside to a point where the fems n couples just essentially ignore single guys ..period... we essentially dont even bother to read most of teh single guys messages... we just delete them str8 up...and nicer guys are getin overlooked and ignored because of it .... So nice single guys ... you wanna increase your chances with the fems n couples....... get RHP to get rid of the idiots like thegroin who are running around playing the numbers shot gunning messages to anyone and everyone irrespective of profile requirements, then abusing everyone cause they get told to go away....

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Thanx Hornytoad.... Same as in life, plenty of people out there to spoil it for the rest. I except that sites like these would attract people from all walks of life, but it is a shame that couples such as yourself have to put up with these idiots. I have tried a few different approaches since posting this question a month ago, but alas the women on here must be on the defense as still no replies. I wonder from time to time how many of the profiles are genuine and how many are fakes. All is good though, I will continue to send messages to a select few and I suppose when the replies come it will be worth it. I thank you for your input and wish you all the best on here. Cheers Everyone

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Hey Mustang, I find this sort of thing also happens to me. I have been on this site for a few years but gave up premium membership after a while because I found going out with friends was so much better for meeting interesting nice girls. I have gotten back on for 3 months to see if I can do any better with attention but heres to hoping. Hornytoad also makes a stellar point. There are alot of sex mad dickheads out there who are just rude and pushing for sex where it is not on offer. It really does put girls on the defensive and I cannot blame them. I suppose all we can do is give it a red hot go and hope that we get a bit of attention. It is so crazy how much attention the girls get compared to the guys. I did have a crazy idea that the girls in internet dating would be as forthcoming as the guys. Clearly as stated before there is no need due to the gender imbalance along with the aggression of alot of blokes. Anyway keep plugging away. All the best in getting some attention. I am with you. Cheers. lucky

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Yes most guys give the others little to no chance from the word go due to their idiotic approach, but in saying this it gets really annoying coming home from a hard days work and sifting through the endless crap in your message/flirt inbox that really has no bearing nor comparison to your profiles wants/requirements. So many guys (and girls,couples for that matter) simply do not read your profile before contacting you. Our profile clearly states in the first line to read it properly before contacting us or your wasting your time as we will not sit there for an hour replying to people who couldnt (or be bothered to) read our profile.So at the end of the day, who is really the "rude" person, when you havent read the profile or did and thought you would contact the person/s anyway....this is not a rant, just what we experience on a daily basis.We wont even start on the phone messages/calls.sheesh..We are always more than happy to reply/play when the right person/message comes along....D&C...

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Mustang...Its not just from girls that you get no replies. I have organised 3 couples / females parties up here now amd from the 120 or so invites I sent out to couples and females within a 3hr drive from here, I would have been lucky to get back 20 replies. Some of these were "not interested" but at least it was a reply and some were wanting to come . As it turned out, we had fantastic people at our parties mainly due to the friend network. Makes one wonder even more that a lot of cpls profiles are real cpls, its just that the female partner has no idea about it. Last Sunday....after out last party I was sitting here with a single lady who came to the party, watching her look on RHP. When she opened it up she had heaps of flirts which she deleted and msgs which she read , and while she was on for that 30 mins more msgs came in and her profile was looked at like 50 times. Our advice.......you will have more luck finding a genuine woman by going out to venues where there are lots of women.

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Hi all, I know and accept that the odds are stacked greatly in favour of the women on here. That they get inundated for msgs and flirts and I take Mustang's point. It frustrates me too mate. I was thinking that perhaps if a flirt is deleted without being read that if RHP automatically responded back to you with "Sorry, I'm too flat-out to respond to you" then as a bloke you at least get some feedback, might not be what you wanted to hear but then again it might encourage to to put more effort in? Thoughts?

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  I was a paid member for a year and a half. I met one vey nice lady howver didn't take it further. She explained to me that in reality we " women are sometimes just playing". She did however suggest what others have suggested "update profile and pics," best of luck mate cheers

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Love a Mustang, Mustang...lol.. I've introduced a few females and males to this site because I've had a ball on rhp......sorry if your's hasn't been a hoot tho. May I suggest one thing? Have a laugh, be nice and the girls respond to personal comments. Why does "she" stand out? I always compliment and say thanx to my e-mailers but then I have to shut my profile down often. Over time I've made use of my limited access and shitty p.c to meet a few great guys for sex. But even tho it's primarily a sex meet we both want, we usually have a lot of laughs and interesting convo along the way. You have to remember that you are a essentially a stranger, who cares if you paid. Make the most of it and good lukk, Brissy is lukky to have such a hottie...lol.. xx Smart

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  I have found the same thing Mustang. The one thing I do not understand is I have had a fair few girls wink at me with pretty forward messages. I drop them an email and then do not hear from them....well so far no luck. I leave my number and MSN address and guess they will contact when they get around to it. So far of 25 ppl I have messaged only one has got back to me with a reply. She said that she gets flooded with winks and messages and will catch up with me down the track if she gets the chance. I have also found there are alot of girls who may be here for the wrong reasons ie: looking for prince charming to whisk them off their feet. I guess you just have to keep your chin up and understand the volume of messages they must get every day.

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