When great Chemistry meets a Deal breaker - Bend or Walkaway

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  Flirty2020

  yesterday

  We feel that maintaining one’s preferences, standards, likes and dislikes etc is important. They can however fluctuate and “not be set in stone”. We generally never compromise, for anyone or anything. If the right person comes along then great. If not, we have our own fun (without them) regardless.

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  Nightglider

  yesterday

  For me, timing and location are two of the biggest deal breakers, even more than some of the physical preferences people mention. I’ve had great chats with people where the chemistry was there, the conversation flowed effortlessly and there was genuine mutual interest, only to realise our schedules never seemed to line up, or they lived too far away for anything realistic to develop. I think there’s a difference between a preference and a deal breaker. A preference I might bend on if the connection is strong enough. A deal breaker is something that would eventually cause frustration or disappointment for one or both people. I’ve occasionally tweaked a preference for someone I felt a strong connection with, but I’ve learned not to ignore the practical realities. Chemistry gets someone through the door, but logistics determine whether the door stays open. Sometimes the right person at the wrong time is still the wrong fit.

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  PandaAndBri

  yesterday

  So far not really but we are still new to this. The deal breakers for us are definitely the protected sex for all penetrative sex. And if someone is playing without permission that is a deal breaker for us as we don’t want to get in the middle of that. Other than that I think the others are guidelines for us. Bri

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  Blueflamingo

  yesterday

  If its not a 110% hell yes.... its a no! The time I use on RHP "dating/connections" is limited and I dont waste it on something/someone half arsed. I have my preferences and when I divert outside of those, it usually turns into a reminder why I set those preferences in the first place. Gut feelings shouldn't be ignored 🙈

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  MsSuperFoxy

  yesterday

  I've tried compromising on my core values, likes/dislikes before. It didn't make the connection better, it just made me feel awful, very uncomfortable and disconnected. I'm not here to feel like shit or made to feel like shit. I can compromise and negotiate if it makes me feel good and is mentally healthy, but not of the above. These days, if my intuition says no (whether we've met or only exchanged messages), it's a NO. I like what I like, and that's OK. Others like what they like, that's OK too. Ms Foxy

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  MsSuperFoxy

  yesterday

  OP, if you feel disappointed, that's okay too. It usually means you were genuinely interested and saw potential. I think a lot of us have been in that situation over the years, not just on RHP but in daily everyday lives. Shit happens sometimes. It's how one deals with it. Ms Foxy

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