M56
When looks fade
September 28 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bloody harden up soldier, get a bit of rejection at the clubs last night did ya? Me personally I don't give a rats ass if my looks fade I'll still as Mrs Funky says I'll still have the cock of a god at 80, just saying! Mr Funky (.)(.)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
affects us all.How we look is somewhat dependent on how we look after our looks.There are things that you can do to make your self look and feel better about yourself,women understand this.The obvious is to exercise,go to the gym,smell delicious...buy the most yummy smelling bath products,cologne etc that suit you and that you can afford...go to a hairdresser for a hairstyle not just a cut.But feeling good about yourself is also about your mindset.Accept what you can't change, you are a mature man in midlife, you have life experience and knowledge that you didn't have when you were twenty or even thirty -five.Being a busy single parent is a tough gig for anyone.Make time for you,and recognise that you are very much wanted and needed....by your family and friends.We all crave intimacy,and have the desire to be desired,sometimes life just gets in the way of us finding it,either in the short or long term.Now I am going to take my own very good advice,x laB
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RHP User
12 years ago
To funkycouple, you are a couple you have each other. The thing is with couples as well, a woman can fuck a young hottie when ever she likes. I have seen the perils first hand when couples decide its ok to play alone. The wife, no matter what her age, gets fucked. the husband the older dude, gets three fifths of fuck all. Age and looks are barriers to finding people for relationships and sex. if you think other wise, as they say You are dreaming. Especially on a sex site. The exceptional people, and mostly the older guys that write on the forums, may break that barrier as women get to know them a bit and want to meet them as there is more a friendship thing rather than an sexual attraction thing. Older women get sex because they have a hole, that simple and they offer up said hole. Older men need a big bank balance, have the chance that they may be a guy to date , but the reality is as you get older and your body changes , you loose your hair and your cock cant rise to the occasion, then hell yes you will get kicked to the curb. by women on date sites that can have the lean meat. Older women find the same problem, where they want more than just random sex. Men are only interested because they want sex, so older women or most women on here think that's the way to get a fella, its not. Even in employment, see how hard it is to get a job if your older, see how hard it is even if your not attractive in some cases. We no longer take time to look past the surface of a person. We do not do the courtship thing, we want it all the talk dark handsome, rich , articulate, well travelled well read, sexy , super god. so Op, I know what you mean. I am 61 , and a realist. I have eaten myself silly in the rhp bakery, now I don't, but I do like looking at the pies, just to make my mouth water. your not dead yet kiddo, try dating a woman , just for something different, without wanting sex for a while. dare I say it, a woman that's out side what your looking for challenge yourself to look below the skin deep. Look past a few wrinkles, a pot tummy, fat thighs ,big bums we all need to find the human in there some place Your not a soft cock honey, you just a guy out there is RHP wondering WTF?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Accept the change and be you however don't let fat take over as I have noticed that a lot. I think women do have rose coloured glasses as I am on a couple of dating sites. They ask for up to 10 years younger and say they look and feel younger. I must found out who sells the mirrors they use and no wounder there are so many older single people. The Beatles knew this back in the 60s with the song Eleanor Rigby. I am 50 - look 50 and proud of it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
With The Hussy and the OP. Sorry Mr Funky. You have your wife to fall back on. I want more than casual sex. I want more than to taste the sinful little treats in the window of RHP bakery. I am a fine looking woman and I am akin to fine wine...... better with age. However, everyone has put up with their ex getting older and now they want young and nubile. Plenty need to strip naked, look at themselves objectively in the mirror and ask what they have to offer young and nubile, I want to be more than a warm, wet hole!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't you just love smug married people. LMFAO.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I started losing my hair before I hit 20, and I've had (and will continue) to keep it short if I don't want to look like odd. Interest from women started to drop until I changed my attitude to show I'm okay with it and accepting it. It's all smiles and sex now!
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RHP User
12 years ago
For over a decade and a half now, I find I actually prefer a man with a receding hairline to a full head of hair. There is something so sexy about it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sweet!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Looks may fade, but your heart will always remain the same. That alone is a bigger prize in the big scheme of things. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Can someone please translate the topic?!Feel free to add any syntax and grammatical corrections which may assist. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
C'mon people! The OP is only 43 years of age! He is still an attractive man & has a lot more living to do & still has a lot of time before he needs to start worrying about being left on the scrap heap. Warning69, the message which my husband posted in reply to you, was sent in a 'blokey, friendly nudge' way. When either one of us, or any our friends, begin to go down this same road where we wonder where the past 10 or 20 years have gone & peer that little closer when we look at the mirror, hating what we perceive are the 'ravages of time', as a group, we will quickly pull that person up & point out we are nowhere near the age those types of thoughts should be bothering us. At the age of 40 or thereabouts, each one of us will swear this is when our adult lives truly began. Your profile pics, though only showing parts of your body, do show a body which is still slim & appealing & which I am positive still turns heads. Your face, at 43, would be that of a man. A man who would still have his looks. Not the looks that he did when he was in his 30's or 20's but still the looks of a person who has reached the age before the true ravages of time have set in, who has lived a life & learnt from it & felt it & who has formed the type of looks which are very sexy on a man. Rest assured you still have the goods to get out there & mingle with the best of them. GMerst25 hit the nail on the head when he said it comes down to attitude. Have the right attitude & you will knock em dead. From your words, I do feel the pain you were feeling when you wrote this post though. Your confidence has been rocked & I'm guessing by somebody close to you, or who you wanted close, who rejected you because of age or looks? If so, I do need to ask, was this person your age or 10, 20 years younger? Please forgive me if I am off the mark here, but if I am right, I also need to ask why would this bother you? Why would you want to compete with or compare yourself to those who are so much younger? You aren't lacking in any way by being older, your physical presence would still stand strong next to theirs. So many people reach their 40's these days, finding themselves in a place or situation they had never imagined. At this age it is when you will see so many people divorcing after years of marriage or separating from long-term relationships. In many cases people will find themselves in the position of being single parents & having the overwhelming feelings & responsibilities this also brings. Not only do they need to find themselves stability, they also need to find the stability for their young children who are depending upon them. There are people who find themselves stuck in a job that was only meant to be a stop-over & who can see no way out or any way of moving forward. There are those who have lost loved ones through illness & death & those who have lost their network of family through breakdowns in relationships & are truly alone. This is when we do reminisce of the times which seemed so much easier & when we thought we had all the time in the world to do the things we wanted to do & look back & remember those we had loved & at times play the game of 'what if'. This is when confidence does begin to crumble & we question ourselves. This is when the negativity can spiral & bring us to our knees emotionally & mentally & feelings of worthlessness can & do set in. If these feelings you are having have set in deeply & have been shadowing you for some time, you may want to reach out & see your doctor? If depression has set in you can be helped to pick yourself up. I may be way off the mark by saying this but it could be something to think about. When I read your short post this morning, I saw the same as Mr Funky, I saw a man the same age as my husband, who was focussing on his perceived loss of looks through age & who was putting a vibe across, that at 43 things were over because age had put him behind the young & beautiful. OP, 43 is not over. 43 is sexy, mature, independent & in these modern times still young when you are out there looking for people, sex or relationships. Look around you, look at the huge numbers of people who are in your age bracket, are you seriously saying it's over for them, their looks have gone & they are now on that road towrds being worthless? Of course they aren't, & neither are you! Mr Funky's message may have been blunt & to the point, & maybe not one best sent to somebody who may be suffering any form of depression, but it was not a flippant 'up yours' like others who have posted here seem to have taken it. The violins were dusted off & began playing & then the attacks began towards myself as well as Mr Funky because we were married. We have each other, so this apparently means we have no problems. We have no idea what loneliness, pain, fear or insecurity feels like. We have each other to prop ourselves up against so feelings of worthlessness or times when people are compared to peers don't affect us. We are dismissive of others & should just count ourselves lucky that in this phase of our lives, which is apparently the beginning of the end, we have the company of each other while we prop ourselves on the bench. All I have left to offer, or look forward to offering, is a hole, Mr Funky doesn't even have that so he may as well just start digging that hole in the ground. I may get that lucky stray cock thrown my way because I have that hole but I need to be mindful that is all I have to give. Mr Funky may as well superglue the zip shut on his pants. He ain't got nothin to offer anyone. Basically we should just mind our own business & shut the fuck up. Yeah... well... I say Fuck That!! It is amazing how arrogant, judgemental & ignorant people's comments can be when they are using their own personal experiences & lives to use as a comparison to others. I don't think I know any of these people who dismissed us, because we are married & so because of this are obviously ignorant of the ways of the world. In fact, I know I don't know any of these people. Nor do they know my husband or I. Yes, we are married. We have been married for 2 years & have been together for 10 years. The past 10 years are the only years in my entire life I have known happiness, love, peace, acceptance & friendship. It is only in the past 10 years I have been literally taught how to feel & accept the beauty & gifts being offered to me. Meeka, how dare you call me a 'smug married'! There is nothing smug about my views, my feelings & thoughts when I am speaking to my peers, regardless if that person is single or not. I know pain, I understand loneliness, I have lived worthlessness. Being married does not take that away nor does it put me in a category where I am separated from life or the pain & hardship that is in it. I have seen & lived enough ugliness to know & recognise the beauty which is around me now. This is not because I am married though & because I have somebody by my side. Yes, my husband is my best friend & my love for him runs very deep but I refuse to believe all people look only at the exterior & judge by looks & age when forming relationships, having sex with others or when they fall in love. There was a time I did view life in this shallow & bitter way but I have seen enough examples around me of people who have lived full lives which have ravaged them in a physical sense that have so much beauty within it envelops them completely, the exterior is transformed to reflect the core of who they are. These people are forming relationships, finding love & having passionate sex with their partners later in life. At ages which have been indicated by some in this thread that society on a whole is shunning. Age & looks are never barriers when people meet & fall in love, and meet they do. People do look past the surface & take the time to view the person within, those who don't should be given a wide berth. Judgements on age & exterior made by those who would dismiss you, are the minority of people & the ones which you don't need to have in your life. Careers can & are extended in these modern times & I have worked with a woman who was fashionable, social & had the zest for life so many others don't & who shocked me when she told me her age was 72. Yes, a 72 year old woman, with the fashion sense of a Parisian courtier & the social engagements of an independent single working woman who openly dated two different men. Age is only a barrier when you let it be & you let others make it so. If you are finding in your world the opposite, you may need to rethink your own personal actions or agenda to see if it is you drawing the negativity. No, I am not dreaming, I am living in the real world where I control what is around me & have a say in the type of people I interact with. OP, this world is available to you as well. The Funky 2 (.)(.)
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RHP User
12 years ago
If what I'm about to write sounds conceited I apologise in advance. . Like everyone my age, a few wrinkles have crept in which I'm not all that happy about, but it seems I'm more aware of those wrinkles as most attention these days comes from younger females. I work on being healthy' have a positive attitude and smile and laugh a lot... ' I think that's the key.. Think old and that's what you become..
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RHP User
12 years ago
self as team = self esteem....the OP is having a midlife crisis and worried that he is losing his attractiveness...does that help DG xlaB
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have noticed OP you have changed your user name at least three times recently, I have read some of your comments in the forums and recallyou saying you were once a male stripper............Oh you say those days of women drooling over you.This is life I was once 56 kg and wore mini skirts.......men chasing me and me running LOL. Now your a a single dad and that in itself is a loveless situation no time for you. We all get like this .....down on ourselves, we feel unloved passed over and wonder where is the love.I was not exactly sure I like what lady t aka The hussy was saying but then she got to the point :try dating a woman , just for something different, without wanting sex for a while.dare I say it, a woman that's out side what your looking for challenge yourself to look below the skin deep. Look past a few wrinkles, a pot tummy, fat thighs ,big bumsI was going to say though that if you do find someone...give it a chance...or at least keep that thing you state in mind respect.....Those that dont give you respect are not worth having anyway.
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
I know we've been programmed the think women have turned a corner with the first wrinkle or grey hair, but guys at least get to wear the silver fox mantle. You may not have the energy of youth but you're still in the prime of life, there are lots of ladies out there who aren't looking for youthful skin, full heads of hair etc. If you've made your money though your looks in the past maybe there's deeper physical/self-esteem issues at work here. Women are lucky in some ways, we have all that stuff thrown at us so hard in our youth and so most of us have processed much of that years before aging raises it's head. Anyway what do I know, I'm one of those couples who has the security of a forever handsome lover who has and will always find me attractive.
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RHP User
12 years ago
43? You've barely accumulated a patina ! My after marriage life didn't start till I was 50 ! And what a ride it's been ! Now I'm no oil painting nor Adonis but I love who I am and I flaunt what I've got and for whatever reason it's more than satisfactory. So chin up, keep up the exercise, it's good for the mind and body, take the credit card for a walk through some menswear shops with a woman for guidance, shave your head and get a tattoo maybe. Whatever it takes to get out of your rut, you've got plenty of time to have the time of your life. Now set to it !- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
How many Birthdays have you got left? Don't count them....Make them good ones.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh but think of the trade. Looks for wisdom. Think back to 20 but if you had your 43 year old mind. What power you would have. Is it sad that we MUST age, worse still that one day you will die. Not at all, for we all share that journey and we share its scary end.You say unworthy. How is that so, what makes you unworthy. I do dare and say judge not for ye judge your self as well. We grow to the very end, or do you wish immortality, a baby to forever suckle your mother's warm tits and soothing sounds, never to venture and explore. What a sad comfortable eternity that would be.Poor baby don't be sad for before you know it you will be cold and dead. Seize the day, or prepare for death. You pick, for I am young till the day I die and best you be too, please. Kisses sexy man.
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madotara69
12 years ago
OP When I was a kid growing up, mum and dad use to have a lot of parties. (use to joke saying it was a good reason to clean up the house).The yard 1/4 acre block back then, would fill with people of all types of looks and age and race. I use to find it so exciting to see all of those people having a ball, they laughed, they flirted, they drank, they ate everything. All those ugly people were the happiest and most attractive to me. They were the life of those parties.I did not see all those people as fat or skinny old, young. Just positive energy at its finest as the crowd gathered. I did see a lot of big boobs though. he heA truth, We talk about different people we know (there is a lot) and sometimes fire each other up with some fantasy naughty talk. Tara's hot guy is short and overweight. But he is caring and funny, his energy is projected through his character.Maybe try making people laugh, one at a time. That is where you can never fade away, and it sure helps through the ups and downs.Possibly one of the most attractive part with a person is smiling eyes.Mado, Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think I love you
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madotara69
12 years ago
Thankyou for such a beautiful smile, this morning
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Plain280
12 years ago
Not often, I feel this way about an OP, when you get to 40 + or midlife crisis, and you wake up life is more than looks. Me thinks you need to grow up fella, there is humility in accepting what you have become, life is not sex as a measure of success,but a whole bunch of other things, stop using the thing between your legs as a guide and use the soft sponge like thing between the ears. Accept what you have become and look for the warmer side of life it may not be attractive, but its a damn sight more appealing than hanging onto something that is nearly impossible to fight ageing.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Miss LaBoheme.Damn, I was just getting use to spelling Freya without spell check.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Those bonds shorts look mighty fine to me!! Can't see any wrinkles😉. I'm 51, at 49 was so not looking forward to turning 50. But now I'm living it. I must admit I don't have too many wrinkles - good genes. But attitude is so important - take advantage of your good points & use them!! Gypsy💋- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
For DG ... Hi all, Well I guess this post is an attempt to enlighten myself about self esteem. 1. Why is it that as youngsters we don't appreciate our mortality or fully comprehend what it means to age until our looks start to fade ?2. What do you do once you realise that maybe you are simply unworthy of any love ?3. Respect has always been a big factor for me but it seems if we have too much respect we are full of crap ?The answer to the first one is easy .. it is a universal experience so don't worry about it. From birth throughout your formative years everything is always getting bigger, better and more exciting through understanding ... it takes a while to comprehend this is a temporary state of affairs and there is in fact an end ... sounds like it just came into sight for someone ?The second part is the crux of the matter and much good advice has been given ... you have it backwards. "Realising" you are unworthy when translated means you have decided to be unworthy and thus you will be. Should you muster the fortitude to convince yourself otherwise ... so it shall be. Positive things from being positive and likewise with the negative. It is hard to tell what you mean in part three ... are we giving too much 'respect' or getting too much 'respect' ? To me "having too much respect and thus being full of crap" implies it is not respect at all you are talking about but rather a perceived arrogance or egotistical nature perhaps ?? Respect is something you earn, it can only be given by others voluntarily. You have no way of knowing with any certainty who respects you and by how much ... there is certainly no negative implication from having been afforded too much genuine respect ?So chin up, shave the head, get a tat or two, buy a red sports car and the girl will inventively follow - never let a good crisis go to waste !
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RHP User
12 years ago
But not inaccurate....I think the secret is not to give a flying fuck.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'justforfunisall'I think the secret is not to give a flying fuck. Cheers to that! *lifts her glass*
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madotara69
12 years ago
Pure poetry Mado
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's time to get a new interesting skill to wow the ladies, such as yodeling or the piano accordion for those times you need to serenade your lady. I trust this will help you.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' It's time to get a new interesting skill to wow the ladies, such as yodeling or the piano accordion for those times you need to serenade your lady. I trust this will help you. Cummon Meeka, us oldies are supposed to lead the way.Plug in the Electric Triangle and make things Interes-Ting..................
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RHP User
12 years ago
Perfect. I am still certainly, very happy with the way I look :).
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't know. Is there an app for that?
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madotara69
12 years ago
You can plug the Iphone into the PA system. I play the drums, so at least I could hear it.
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