When to trust someone

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  It is not only for those with multiple partners. I was in a long term relationship where my partner unknown to me was playing away and not practicing safe sex. Months of testing and putting your life on hold until you are sure you are disease free is not something that I would ever wish to go through again. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  of course they are not going to say if they have an STD because they would not get sex it has happened to me, got it once of a doctor after having unprotected sex , many moons ago, the old chlamydia the gift that keeps on giving. herpes, well that's in most of the population anyway along with genital warts. and a condom will not protect you from herpes anyway. Herpes is not a notifiable std and you actually have to ask for that to be included in your regular checks as its not automatic in that, often it has to be sent of to a different lab as sometimes the blood tests do give a false positive. WA has the highest rate of std in Australia due to the fifo thing, with HIV on the increase. most people do not even know they have an std as they don't get tested that much.you would have to have sex, then test and wait months till you got results so in this promiscuous environment and in swingers in particular its not if you get an std its when you get your std Most men will turn up to a meeting with no condom, and yes they will play with you unprotected cause your a nice girl and its not going to happen to them. in the adult world of random sex its a game of sexual Russian roulette if you do not want an STD then don't have sex its the only way to be sure. I got told once from a guy here that he had an std, and we both went into panic mode and got tested, and turns out the woman said it just because she got the shits he was seeing another woman. but it put the fear into both of us, we had had unprotected sex, but he had not cum inside me. that old chestnut will not stop you getting an std, as you can get it from fingers, and from mouths and from skin on skin I don't see people wearing dental dams at a swingers, nor washing hands every time they finger fuck a person or oral sex and the cost to go now to the doctors puts people behind the tests they should be having. and married guys do not want to go to their local GP and say hey doc I am fucking around on my wife. and married people all think their partners are being good and not doing the wild thing with strangers. you cannot trust anyone on this topic, all you can do is keep getting tested.

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  MissBishere

  12 years ago

  I get tested every three months. But could still pick up an std the day after testing. Just be vigilant and seek a drs advice if you even suspect you have one. And you can't trust anyone.... That's a sad fact of life. Harsh I know. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  sweetgem

  12 years ago

  I dare to say that you cannot even trust your own husband or wife, because you really don't know for sure if either party would be cheating behind your back or vice versa. Some years ago, I read in the news about a woman whose husband was cheating behind her back and brought home HIV/AIDS. Of course he had infected her and she was told by the medical professionals that she only got 10 years to live. Her kids were still very little at the time and medical science was not so advanced. The woman was devastated of course, but because of her children, she did not sue her hubby or did anything to hurt him, instead she asked for a divorce. I was feeling very sad for the woman and her children, whom were gonna lose their mother in a decade time! I also wished I had superpower to punish the husband at that time! So OP, trust nobody and get yourself tested frequently, since stop having sex forever is not an option. But most importantly, be prepared for the worst possible scenario, and make sure that you can face the consequences of your own action and choice later on, if, only if, things became worse! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  but yourself, in this regard. And get yourself tested regularly, for your own peace of mind. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  You ask the person do they get tested and how often. You can often gage from their response if they are person who is sexual responsible or at least aware of STDs and what is out there. I don't think there is anything wrong with asking a person that before you get together. Some men react with anger when you ask, or scoff at your concerns. I have avoided those guys myself. From what I have heard and seen is that lots of people don't even get tested so may not even know that they have an STD. I have gotten the impression from lots of people on RHP who think that because they are not into group sex, or go to sex clubs/parties and maybe only have a couple of partners a year that they feel it is unlikely they would get an STD so they never get tested. People still react with shock if you tell them you have had an STD. The way I look at it... its like getting a cold except easier to get rid off. Well apart from the incurable ones that is.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Also if they find it so easy to forget about the condom with you, how many other times have they forgotten about it and with how many women?

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  gazpacho

  12 years ago

  You just have to assume that you will catch an STD from the person you are with and take the precautions you feel comfortable with. Hugs Gazpacho

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  MissBishere

  12 years ago

  Gone so far as to ask to see test results. To me it's a serious thing. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Thank u all for your input and advice. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I beg to differ. There are many people who are open and honest about having an STD, I'm one of them. Don't go painting us with the same brush! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  And to answer the question, just ask them. It's a perfectly reasonable question to ask. As for blokes showing up with no condoms? Fine by me, I'd rather them use mine anyway. That way I know it's still in date, not tampered with etc. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  If there is any possibility of something going wrong, believe me, it will go wrong, no exception. Cheers R

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'Missb72' Gone so far as to ask to see test results. To me it's a serious thing. - Posted from rhpmobile I see no problem with this, and if someone takes offense to you wanting to be careful and consider your health, then they aren't worth it. Anyone who is actually interested in you will accommodate your wishes.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'InsertNameHere00' Quoting 'Missb72' Gone so far as to ask to see test results. To me it's a serious thing. - Posted from rhpmobile I see no problem with this, and if someone takes offense to you wanting to be careful and consider your health, then they aren't worth it. Anyone who is actually interested in you will accommodate your wishes. But how long ago was the test taken and how do you/they know they haven't caught anything from the time of the test to the time they show you the results? How can you trust that they haven't had sex with anyone else, possibly an infected person in that timeframe? You really don't know so, unless you're in a long term exclusive relationship, you can never trust anyone but yourself - results or not.

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