M42
Where's the courtesy?
December 28 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
This topic is started almost everyday!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
There are a billion other threads on this topic. It would have been a good idea to check those first before starting one of your own... :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not replying has been an issue since this site started (so much so there's a new forum about it every week), so no, it's not a trend and will never go away I'm afraid.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have sent messages and all to no replies, those that do reply are all a no thanks anyway so have been starting to think I'm a bit like a cane toad here . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks Meander But I wonder why it's such a big trend? Unlike alot of kids these days I thought we were brought up to have manners and courtesy and respect for others. One click of a button, a simple "sorry but no thanks" I know couples and ladies get alot of messages and flirts, but a simple reply would at least help, rather than continuing to recieve them from the same person they aren't interested in would it not? And what about the males from the couples, do they not remember what it was like to be a single and interested in this scene?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why reply? You're a "guest" so you can't send a message. At a bar, is the woman going to go for a guy who begs them to pay them some attention? Or the guy who just buys them a drink and introduces themselves?
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RHP User
11 years ago
As Meander said, "...it's not a trend and will never go away...". I posted a similar forum some time ago and got a great variety of whys and why nots. The only good thing to come out of it was a reply I got from a lovely RHP member and we've been chatting ever since.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'OF_78' Why reply? You're a "guest" so you can't send a message. At a bar, is the woman going to go for a guy who begs them to pay them some attention? Or the guy who just buys them a drink and introduces themselves? I'm not interested in the guy that winks at me from across the room. If you want my attention, come over and introduce yourself properly (I don't care if you buy me a drink).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Usually I do not reply to flirts simply because there is not an appropriate flirt to respond with. I generally reply to all messages but I find the "Hi how are you" ones difficult to respond to if I'm not interested in meeting the sender. A few times I have replied with a 'thanks but no thanks" type of response and I was told I was full of myself and he was only saying hello but responding with a "good thanks how are you" results in a conversation which implies I'm interested. Then there's the abusive replies to a polite "thanks but no thanks" and is more often than not the reason why a lot of men's messages go unanswered. As has been said many times before, no response is a response.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes, much better analogy :) If there wasn't a dessert to cross, you sound like someone I'd certainly be taking the time to introduce myself :) I hope your 6ft tall man finds you soon :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
...you are a trial member sending flirts and expecting a response - doesn't work that way. If you are seriously looking at experiencing this scene (as you put it) you need to have a better attitude and put in a lot more effort.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi "caniseeyourpanties", In regards to your first question, having sent a message off to a member earlier today I was very grateful to receive a response. This particular response, though containing the information that this person was not to be seeing anyone new and that they were on holidays, contained two other pieces of information. It was in reference to "having written such a thoughtful message" and in taking the time to read this person's profile thoroughly. Some people may choose to see that as a loss/rejection or some other negative. Though for me it is only seen as a positive. That they have taken the time to explain their situation (under which they are no obligation to) and commented on my introduction positively let's me know that A) they are a warm and genuine person and B) I must be on the right track by......being thoughtful and taking the time to read a person's profile thoroughly. All positive man. As for your other questions, imagine that everyone has different "objectives". As stated on my profile, the objective is to have positive encounters and in writing this post I feel good, so it's a great day. Probably comes down to just you being clear with your objectives. With the other points you raised, Trust is going to be a huge part, as will patience. Good on you man for putting your concerns out there at least. Cheers Nathan
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RHP User
11 years ago
Many questions ..I never reply to flirts..if you are interested in contacting me send me a message.....I usually respond to messages unless you are crude,rude ,and dangerous to know 😳xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nathan and Passion, I appreciate you both taking the time to write and explain why and give examples. You have the right idea Nathan, looking at the good side of things is the best way to live ;-) Well it seems to me there is only one answer according everyones posts, (thanks all for posting) and that is to pay for a membership....even though as a newbie your still not 100% sure.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nathan and Passion, I appreciate you both taking the time to write and explain why and give examples. You have the right idea Nathan, looking at the good side of things is the best way to live ;-) Well it seems to me there is only one answer according everyones posts, (thanks all for posting) and that is to pay for a membership....even though as a newbie your still not 100% sure.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry all tablet was playin up.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' This topic is started almost everyday!! I know, I know.... You beat me to it... I suspect this is a RHP HAZING ritual for all male newbies.... but the recipient of hazing is not them but the regular forumites..... What have we done to deserve the constant torture, ye RHP Mod Gods? What it is you are sayeth so we learneth and be be spared of said ubiquitous questioning? Show us a sign.... A burning bush perhaps (please not my bush )? Or the RHP search topic search function has been deactivated
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RHP User
11 years ago
....quietly singing to himself..... ...."let is go..... let it gooooooooo"....
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RHP User
11 years ago
yep rotating ad infinitum
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RHP User
11 years ago
That I always when possible reply to all messages. Especially when there well written and it shows that have actually read your profile. Although Im wondering if any has received the exact same message from the same person over a period of time. I suppose a copy and paste is good if your tired of writing the same message. But I think that each profile is different and we are all looking for something a little different. So a message should be written that will reflect the profile that they are interested in. As for the hey babe wanna hook up or hey what are you up to tonight messages. I rarely reply or I just send a sorry not interested. Its a lazy response to a lazy message. Just my thoughts. Maybe we should post our statistics for percentage of replies to messages and compare those. That shows a real result.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have received 4360 messagesI have sent 3914 messages111% response rate.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am a rude bitch and cant be fucked. I am even too lazy to send a template message. Just ask the people who message me........
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have sent 4,263 messages Reply Rate: 126% I have received 5,369 messages I have sent 388 flirts Reply Rate: 1,041% I have received 4,038 flirts ....and that's in a month j o k i n g
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RHP User
11 years ago
J o k i n g
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RHP User
11 years ago
It takes a lot of time to explain why there's no time to reply, and they have to do it at least once a week.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That when I get a stupid and or puzzling message that I will question the person as to why..why would men in their forties for instance send a message that a 15 year old would most likely send...hmm, maybe because they aren't in their forties😒xxFreya
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