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Who likes being dominated by? (male and female)
October 15 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Do you enjoy being submissive and is so what is your favorite act of submission...
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RHP User
16 years ago
yes.... in so many many many ways... but I only accept and want this from very very few who know and deeply understand what a Dominant/submissive relationship really means... it should never be about simple violence or mindless obedience.... the highest form of D/s is a partnership... an unequal one, but one which engages and draws inspiration and ideas from the imagination and the desires of both parties.... each needs the other, feeds off the other, and grows stronger and deeper in the ever-tightening and faster-spinning vortex of desire.... well, that's obviously its highest form, but I'll happily take a little spanking in the meantime :P LOL
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RHP User
16 years ago
Personally i like a bit of a power struggle and love a girl who knows what she wants and demands it.It works both ways where i then can have leverage to control her by choosing when to give her what she wants or by allowing her to take what she wants.Got to say i love watching a woman onto grinding and moving to what makes her feel best and all she cares about ^_^But i guess that's a very weak form of dominance against me, i seem to automatically fall into being the dominant one. Oddly enough for me the more she tries to gain dominance the more i'm turned on and challenge her :PAs for Sophie that kind of vortex of desire sounds a bit like a personal desire of yours and if you're still waiting for it to happen i wish you all the best of luck that you find someone that can provide such a deep relationship :DCheers, HH
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sophie once again you speak your magnificent words of wisdom! I am just suprised you didn't quote Latin agian! On the other side of the equation being dominant requires the very highest level of trust and in fact consent and of course control. A sub , or a bottom ,you choose the wording, must trust you implicitly to know what is your limits ..... test them, tease them, but know you will know when to stop. It demands a massive amount of respect on both sides. Sophie is right on the money, it is never, in my most humble opinion, mindless violence. In the right frame the your partner will ask for more. It is never about denigrating another person! For both parties , I know I will get smashed for saying this but it can be so much more exilerating than run of the mill vanilla sex. Yes yes horses for courses. We enjoy both and play with people that are not submissive at all and have enormous fun! There is something on a cerebral level that pushes the Dom , Sub relationship to another another place. The more you play with it the more the intensity and desire the more as soph put it the vortex spins. The entire point being you must all be enjoying this for it to work. The disclaimer...... This is merely the mild mannered opinion of the humble writer. No real person was portrayed in the writing of this post. No small furry aniamls were harmed in the production of this post. This post may contain traces of peanuts or other tree nuts! This post has been carbon offset. The writer apologies for any serious offence caused to anyone including humpback whales.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Oh my... I love staring at Sister Mary Sophie's bottom when she talks like that. :p Hugs Gazza <<<< becomes self conscious of licking his lips. Puts hand down shorts.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I did a post response to this that did not get through so I will rework it :) Dominance is not really about doninance it is about power exchanges. In this sort of relationship it is actually the submissive that has all the power...it is after all theirs to give. It is a game of sorts where you both set the rules. Some time the play is as much about roles as it is anything else. The dominant assumes a role of some one who has power over the submissive. The very nature of those roles will mean some one has a level of control over the other. Submission is not always about being spanked or doing what your dominant partner want. A lot of the time the fun can be from not doing what is wanted as well. Mind you a good spanking is sometimes needed too :) I love this sort of dominant role play it is probably not the version of dominance and submission you are thinking of master_g. There are so many variation on this and so many things you can include. Mike
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thanks looking2try3 & Gaz as always for your compliments... me thinks I may have taken this post a little too seriously but it's a subject Miss Sophie is a bit passionate about... :P Yes, it's fun and yes, there are many levels of enjoyment under the very very broad heading of D/s.... The key is mutual enjoyment and satisfaction.... It's about choosing where and how far you want to go.... Me? I'm submissive by nature, a slave by choice :P
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RHP User
16 years ago
some call it a game, roleplay, whatever. for me its my way of life that makes sense to me. the only way i can live a sane life. of course as sophie implies, a submissive/bottom must choose very wisely who to give their ownership to. the results are potentially disasterous at the very least if a bad decision is made or a hasty decision. but, these kinds of relationships WORK when things are RIGHT. no power struggles and the fights these turn into. actually, i have NEVER had an argument or fight with anyone when in a D/s relationship. its peaceful, much more communicative and fulfilling on both sides. do i like to be Dominated by a man? FUCK YES I DO. BUT! only by a REAL DOM, none of these fakers out there... there are WAY too many of those, TRUE Dominance can be spotted a mile away by a submissive who has had some experience. the way you speak, the things you say, your body language, your appearance, EVERYTHING about you radiates that IRRESISTABLE DOMINANCE that i crave, and will have me on my knees begging to be made your fucktoy in no time at all.in what ways to i like to be Dominated.... well, ideally, EVERY way possible. lol. sexually, physically, mentally. i have a lot to give to the right person. love jemma
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
Domination and submission is so often confused with violence that it worries a lot of people...most b& d....is simply role play.....nothing less and nothing more than exploring sex with a bit of added pain. Firstly I believe it is dangerous for anyone to give controll of their mind to another human.....your just asking for corruption, just look at religion and politics.........but some people would believe that is the last step of total submission....?......which is probably ok if the dom isn't making bad decisions and controlling the sub in a negitave way....so one would have to be very clear on who they trust......? Having said all that, I believe someone can be taken to full submission by someone who respects, or even loves them !.....Its as simple as one person likes to dominate, and one likes to be dominated, And like everything else, some people are better than others in both roles ! Violence is wrong......Dominance isn't violence because the sub wants it to happen....and a sub should allways be able to end the encounter whenever they want, with no resitance from the dom......But a good dom will know and sense the boundries whithout being told. I like being dominant......But I'm never violent in a b&d situation Tam xo
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RHP User
16 years ago
I weill just read and happily absorb information here kisses sweetpetite41
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Mr_Invisible
16 years ago
Theres nothing like a sweet service submissive happy to pleaseDominance comes in so many formsEven a word or a look or the tone of a voiceOr a sound spanking for a naughty girlI like being me :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
well said people
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RHP User
16 years ago
I love a dominate man in the bedroom, I like my sex hard and rough, with hair pulling, lots of biting and him pushing me around...(dont know why) lol I prefer tall, older, dominate men. First of all because I am only 5'4 any guy over 6 foot makes me feel small and submissive :p second older guys just seem to have that dominating nature and know how to dominate properly and third im not really dominate person at all and cant imagine trying to push a guy around lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
...You are some kind of angel.Wx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sophie thanks for the site ref ! Great site easy to understand. We have never come across it before! Gaz! .....yup and what a great game it is....... ( I'd rather watch that than rugby any day!) although gaz we are starting to think watching you play anything may be fun.............! Tam...... agree Violence NEVER tolerable......agree dominance and violence are in fact in contrast to each other. Wrongdong............ she maybe............ but we imagine she's got a devilish side! Thanks to the original poster not sure its completely what you asked but great post tar!
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RHP User
16 years ago
personally, I love a woman, who has a dominant side, who loves to be in control, to surrender to her wishes and demands and to be her pleasure toy...I think is is sexy, a part of a fetish for me may be, and i am sure there are plenty of men, who have roles in there day to day life, who love to submit themselves secretly to a female...Always tried to live out this fantasy, and I just hope to meet the right woman one day, who would like to introduce me to this..
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RHP User
16 years ago
RHP's Terms of Use has a tab at the bottom of the page... we won't say anymore due to a desire to appear moderate...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thanks Mrs. P.... all is clear to Miss Sophie now xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
There's nothing more sexier than been dominated by a guy in the bedroom...I'm a bit of a freak so I won't list all my fetishes, but I love to be controlled, having someone whisper in my ear what they're going to do to me, hands tight around my throat, slaps on the arse...God, I love it.
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