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Why are some girls disgusted by giving oral sex?
September 12 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
my previous lover was repulsed by a wet pussy, didn't even like touching me from the neck down with anything but his cock. even then, when I was most driest due to being so tired, emotionally and physically, he enjoyed that sex the best. and no, it wasn't a hygiene thing, I keep scrupiously clean and get checked regularly. we discussed about the oral situation and the lack of reciprocation on his part, but while he was aware he wasn't pulling his weight in the pleasuring of his partner department (he did absolutely NOTHING, if I wanted to orgasm, i'd have to go on top, or get out the vibrator, but he didn't like my toys, it made him feel uncomfortable), he just couldn't/refused to do anything about it. his solution was that i'd have to get him drunk enough or high on e's to get him to do that, and often enough so that he'd get desensetised to it. obviously I wasn't keen on that idea. he was under the impression that most women didn't like receiving oral, therefore he never did it, but that was just women his age or younger (he's 23). my solution was to go looking for another lover, he didn't like that idea (even though he was free to sleep with who he liked while we were together and did so a few times with my blessing, but he was never comfortable with me having other people, which I didn't have the opportunity until the end), so as soon as I told him I went on a date with someone, he dumped me and commenced a long distance relationship with a girl his age from the country while at the same time citing that he wanted to explore older women ( he didn't consider me older, since I look younger than him). what did i see in him, fun company, and honest despite all his failings. Just an ungenerous person/friend and lover. in other words find someone else more compatible if it's really important to you, or find someone who's cool with catering to those needs outside the current relationship.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I got no advice on this! You've stumped me. My experience has been that they just don't change their minds. When I was a teenager my gf hated it when I went down. Thought the idea was disgusting, dirty, un-natural and it made her feel uncomfortable... So I never did it again. She didn't mind anal sex though.... so we stuck with that. Maybe she eventually grew out of her inhibition but I doubt it. Some people rush to the tissue box whereas others just smear it in or lick it off. I'm a lick it off kind of guy... and tissue box people bore me in the bedroom. Hugs gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
When i was youngeri used to really detest being on the receiving end of oral...primarily because of my own self-consciousness of my body. Plus the fact that alot of guys are really terrible at it (mechanical, impatient). Maturity sorted alot of that out for me, along with a fantastic few gentlemen that really rocked my world. These days give me oral over intercourse any day! As for giving oral...I've always loved it. I read a book when I was about 17 called "the sensual woman" written by "J", and it's basically an instruction manual on how to give great oral....
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RHP User
16 years ago
We both love giving oral even more than we love receiving it!It's so intimate, sensual, sexual and damn tasty!!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
To know how to help someone overcome their dislike for oral you would have to know why they do not like it. I dare say if they detest it that much there will be no changing that. it can be very hard to overcome inhibitions like that and the person would have to be curious in some way to consider giving it a go. I know someone (male) who thinks it is disgusting and degrading and only sluts would do something so dirty. (This guy by the way is in his 20's). My response was "You may have her on her knees, but then she's got you by the balls!" A little cras but you get what I am saying :P xx Sal
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RHP User
16 years ago
I was with a girl and she didn't really do it ever. After a long time, it emerged that she didn't do it because she thought I'd think she was some sort of dirty whore cause she liked to suck cock.Silly girl. Who _wouldn't_ love a girl without gag reflex?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Got to agree with Gaz on this one. Sometimes I think it could be an age thing, well I have found that with younger guys anyway, who dont want to give oral, but as far as girls are concerned, I have no answers. I always thought it was part and parcel of the whole deal!! A few years back I had an encounter with a guy who wouldn't give me oral after i had given him it, so i just got up and walked out!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
well from my experience its a age thing the older u get the more comfortable u r to different experiences and way more comfortable with ur body ...just speaking from a womens point of veiw ...to get her intrested ud have to make sure she was totally comfortable with u ...or drunk..hehe..wish u well milfness
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RHP User
16 years ago
In my experience....it usually comes down to them being selfish. (and that selfishness isnt usually confined to the bedroom)I dont care if you dont love the taste...put some fuckin honey on it and get on with it...but at least TRY!!!Pleasing and being pleasured....trying new things...THATS what its all about.sometimes...what you hated with someone else....you will love with another.Just my opinion....BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think some people just have a phobia about it.Maybe something happened to them when they were younger, or there is an issue deep down that they were told when they were young how dirty it was and not to do it. I think a lot of our problems with sex and sexual appetite come from youth and what we perceived to be right or wrong.Myself personally , i am very selective as to who i go down on. I dont play at all much, so i really cant speak that much on the subject.But other than, god dam i love sucking my guys cocks and it really turns me on.I love it when someone goes down on me, it is hot and horny and a real turn on. But i am selective at that too.I think if there is a problem for someone giving oral, maybe talk about it, and dont be shy to help them achieve it by talking and slowly getting to the point of how wonderful it can be and how horny it can be.Maybe you can help them step past the boundaries or issues he/she has as a couple and make it a really horny night, by exploring eachothers bodies slowly and together.Hope that helps and hope i didnt rabbit on too much.Back to my head job now..lolLeesa
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RHP User
16 years ago
Desserts.. great reaction to the non reciprocating partner lol, i love it, might give it a try... Gaz.. thanks for nothing lol :P Leesa... interesting point you made me realise, i too am selective, i never really thought about it, 'cause i usually like giving oral so much :) but there are some partners i've had that i just dont have the urge as much to go down on. Maybe it's a vibe from them, a lack of confidence or comfort on their behalf as meanderingcouple mentioned about some of her earlier experiences. The particular individual i had in mind when posting this topic is a little younger than me, not usually my style but she's so damn cute!. One of my greatest desires for older women is derived from their confidence and relaxed nature in regards to their own body, and them not being surprised about where i want to put parts of mine :P
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RHP User
16 years ago
If he or she is disgusted by giving or recieving oral. Then not much you can do to change that..Would take lot of patience and time. Try and give her a few wines, candles and simulating voice with candles? Just a thought..Your words when caressing her feeling her body always can help to relax. I had a wonderful Scotsman that did this for me when we did anal for my first and numerous times with him..LOL mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Oral...I luv it..giving and recieving...OH YUM!
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RHP User
16 years ago
But from the point of view of someone who at one time couldn't stand the thought of putting a cock any where near her mouth who now gets an enormous amount of pleasure knowing how good I can make a fella feel, not pushing the point (no pun intended lol) is imperative!Lol, change is always possible... but if it is to be, it is up to me hehehehehehehe
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RHP User
16 years ago
My best friend and i share everything togetherAnd one day while chatting she told me she hated giving head for the simple fact that (direct quote!) 'wee comes out of their dicks' She can't put that thought out of her mind and she is incapable of giving (and mostly receiving) oral sex.She's only ever done it completely smashed.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Reminds me of the line from a Mafia movie (Goodfellas? perhaps) Where the husband wants a wife to be prim and proper and a mistress who is dirty and adventurous because he does not want a mouth that has sucked him off kissing his children. Any hypocracy can be justified.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Lolz Tool88 ~ I remember thinking the same thing about pussy at some stage. Some people seem to have the attitude that genitals are "dirty" (inhibitions are learnt fears) and start gagging at the thought of having genitalia in their mouths and this makes for lousy oral intercourse. It's so hot knowing that your lover is loving doing it. Chances are your friend will grow out of that attitude ... maybe for instance when she is up to her elbows in dirty nappies, pickin' baby spew out of her hair... hehe. There surely comes a time when you think, wtf... you find yourself scraping baby poo off your clothes with your fingernails... hehe. (Gawd I hate kids ~ they take over your life for years) Anyway guys find it extraordinarily difficult to piss with an erection... so maybe a little knowledge and experience goes a long way towards losing sexual inhibitions too. It's interesting isn't it. No amount of talking will convince your friend. She has to grow out of it. Obviously some people never do. Hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho41'(Gawd I hate kids ~ they take over your life for years) AND THEN... they go and have kids of their own hehehehe... it's just grand...
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RHP User
16 years ago
p.s Gazza she is about to become a nurseyou think she would have gotten her fair share of piss and shit wouldnt you?? hahaWho knows what goes through girls minds! I for one love giving head! as long as they are neat and tidy im willing to work my magic ;)xx
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