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Why are we here?
March 17 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
So why am I here? After coming out of a long-term relationship, that was without any physical intimacy the last year, I wanted to go out, meet men and have fun. However, I soon discovered that dating was just too much work, and what I really wanted was casual, but mindblowing sex. I Googled adult websites, and liked what I saw. The six months I been here so far have been amazing.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Unfulfilling marriage ... divorce ...I tried a vanilla dating site first but soon realised that I wasn't after a long term relationship and most of the men were. I had visions of myself running and screaming into the hills. And to be really honest the men that I met and chatted with were a bit weird (and from me that means REALLY weird). This included the one who said that I sound stupid when I giggle. So I went looking for those who would enjoy my giggle and not necessarily want a relationship. I stumbled on RHP and started reading the forums. Hallelujah!!! Like minded and my kind of crazy peeps. The rest of a the wild crazy shit I've been up to is a result of meeting great people and just falling into (or onto!) things really. I never had any expectations and boy .... I've definitely not been disappointed!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Same, same.
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
We are here because we want to be...... My husband asked me if I would be interested in looking at a swingers site as he had thought about the idea and thought it may be fun for us to try.... Of course at first I was very sceptical n alittle afraid and then we met some of the most incredible people - both who we had play dates with and ppl we become friends with.... It is not for everyone and you will not meet your ideal couple or single or group over night - well not in all cases anyway - it takes time and it takes maturity.... One partner might be in it more then the other, one partner may be more open to trying new things or be more social..... But if someone isn't happy on this site - then get off it and don't waste people's time n energy...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hey OP, my earlier post was a bit glib...I'm still not entirely sure why I'm here. The environmental factors that lead me to create an account (with too many syllables for the average punter) are very similar to Ms D, Paintme and other singletons... but why here? For what am I looking?In part, its information... an opportunity to reflect. To find out if there are others who share my own brand of normal. The fees are cheaper than a therapist, and the sex better (hush, don't tell the medical board).I have done lots of reflecting, and it - to date - the sex was actually better with the therapist. Not sure of the answers yet, but I feel more comfortable that there are at least some with shared experiences. Shared experiences and fabulous asses and outstanding norks.OP, if your reasons are to pursue your fantasies, without your wife who doesn't share them, and you haven't realised them, are you asking the question because you're questioning your purpose (here) or questioning the method?
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RHP User
13 years ago
that became flat and boring.. No intamacy in the last 2 years of the relationship and never looking likely.. Now' Im happy being myself ' not looking for a relationship. I dont need that again. Puts me offside with some of the girls here but thats just the way it is.. I like meeting someone with the same way of thinking.. Have fun with me when it suits you or when it suits me and I'm happy.. A friend with benefits seems to fit.. Doesnt mean I'm a ' wham bang thank you ma mm' type of guy. Far from it .. Once I become your friend , its real.. but dont expect ties.. Im pretty fussy but there's a lady here I feel confident we will click once we come face to face. she's probably sitting reading this wondering if its her... ? lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Mr OP.5 years?!For nil 'result'?I am not seeking to be a smart arse in asking this...... merely applying some logic to your comments.... ...but did it ever occur to you to try a different approach?!DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'paintme' Unfulfilling marriage ... divorce ...I tried a vanilla dating site first but soon realised that I wasn't after a long term relationship and most of the men were. I had visions of myself running and screaming into the hills. And to be really honest the men that I met and chatted with were a bit weird (and from me that means REALLY weird). This included the one who said that I sound stupid when I giggle. So I went looking for those who would enjoy my giggle and not necessarily want a relationship. I stumbled on RHP and started reading the forums. Hallelujah!!! Like minded and my kind of crazy peeps. The rest of a the wild crazy shit I've been up to is a result of meeting great people and just falling into (or onto!) things really. I never had any expectations and boy .... I've definitely not been disappointed!!! We enjoy your giggles and your boobies LOL.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Because it's refreshing the perspectives I see from people who are from all walks of life. If my situation was different I still don't really know how much in the way of sexual experiences I would get from this site from reading between the lines.I do however know one thing, I just had a message that made what has been a shitfull day so much better and to me that is worth being here.Whatever anyone saysI am the young wild olive treeDripping radiant dewCold dropletsTransparent rainFrom my every branchKenji Miyazawa, Japanese Poet
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Araps' Quoting 'paintme' Unfulfilling marriage ... divorce ...I tried a vanilla dating site first but soon realised that I wasn't after a long term relationship and most of the men were. I had visions of myself running and screaming into the hills. And to be really honest the men that I met and chatted with were a bit weird (and from me that means REALLY weird). This included the one who said that I sound stupid when I giggle. So I went looking for those who would enjoy my giggle and not necessarily want a relationship. I stumbled on RHP and started reading the forums. Hallelujah!!! Like minded and my kind of crazy peeps. The rest of a the wild crazy shit I've been up to is a result of meeting great people and just falling into (or onto!) things really. I never had any expectations and boy .... I've definitely not been disappointed!!! We enjoy your giggles and your boobies LOL. That's a bit sweet!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I haven't had any intimacy in my last relationship either. In fact, it causes me less stress to think about my ex as a mummy's girl who only cares about her kids and her parents. I just didn't factor into the equation. I like being able to express myself. Someone asked me to be honest about my sex life recently and I found it made me happy to be able to speak about my desires with no consequence. That's been mostly my fault. I should have done so ages ago.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Im pretty fussy but there's a lady here I feel confident we will click once we come face to face. she's probably sitting reading this wondering if its her... ? lol Nah, carry on. Only kidding, nothing else. ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Because we enjoy meeting likeminded couples for nice, flirty, fun times. We're both comfortable with the swinging lifestyle and are not out there to "rack up" the score card, but to enjoy nice genuine couples who enjoy us..And hopefully make some long term friends along the way we that we can enjoy outside of the bedroom as well... ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'sunshine_man' I haven't had any intimacy in my last relationship either. In fact, it causes me less stress to think about my ex as a mummy's girl who only cares about her kids and her parents. I just didn't factor into the equation. I like being able to express myself. Someone asked me to be honest about my sex life recently and I found it made me happy to be able to speak about my desires with no consequence. That's been mostly my fault. I should have done so ages ago. Just need to emphasise (not emphasise) with this bit but please prove me wrong....
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RHP User
13 years ago
(empathise) ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
After coming out of a looong marriage where we had sex pretty much every day, i knew being single was going to dramatically decrease my sex life :-( There was no way i was prepared to live a celibate life, or waiting and hoping...... I was in no way ready to enter into another relationship, i was on a regular dating site and found that the guys fell into two categories. 1: seeking a relationship despite reassurances to the contrary. 2: Not upfront and confident about their sexual desires ie that they were just looking for a FWB's and the type of sex they wanted/liked. I happened upon RHP when i was online one day and it seemed like a solution to my potential problem. I thought this environment would at least be a little more direct and honest.
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Playful2looking
13 years ago
For sex and friendship. We are married and are looking for a couple to have a regular affair with as well as meeting new couples. Our relatioship is good we want to enjoy sex with other people. both of us enjoy watching our partner play. Generally have same room sex unless. we feel ilike seperate rooms at the time. this could happen if we have played with the couple on regular basis.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Either you need them to change your life or you're the one that will change theirs.
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RHP User
13 years ago
We love all the comments and topics, they are sooo interesting. We are just the normal couple that are deeply in love and in control of our selves. RHP, is as we say, it's just like walking into any shop. You go loooking for some thing and you never know what you may come out with and what service you may receive while your inside, true, and how exciting is that. Some say yes, others say no.!!!! Well, We stumbled across RHP via good old google, one raunchy night looking to forfil a fantasy of mine too have another female share with me. And, i must say, All the dreams have come true and it has been a wonderful journey, with only a few minor, what do you say, hiccups, in between. In closing, that is why we are here, to forfill my fantasy and to meet some of the most amazing people. congratulations to RHP and all comments and great times and friend we have found.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Threesomes. I came here for threesomes. I'm not even joking. I had some long-standing fantasies that I wanted to pursue so I joined and sought out similar minded couples to explore them with, as it wasn't something I could easily do in 'vanilla life'. Since I was primarily seeking 'couples' and was already having the occasional dalliance with 'women' in real life, the latter was added to my 'looking for' almost an afterthought.Of course, I was spectacularly unsuccessful going down the couples path. Fortunately, somewhere along the way I discovered the forums, made some friends, and, being neither entirely repulsive nor taking myself entirely seriously, managed to attract the attention of the occasional very sensational lady.These days, as my work and social arrangements are quite different to when I joined RHP, it's currently suiting my lifestyle far more than I had anticipated. Which has been nice. Broad wink.
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RHP User
13 years ago
These days I stay for the crazy wild sex with the stunning tantric nymphomaniacal sex goddesses and the hedonistic threesomes and foursomes that increasingly make me want to pack it all in and become a porn director. My first step would be to ban names like "Pack it All In #7".
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm incredibly commitment-shy and found old-fashioned straight dating simply too exhausting and time-consuming, when really all I wanted was some back-arching, hands-clutching-sheets fun with someone who I got along with really well. While I had had a MFM threesome before I joined the site, they were individuals who I hadn't met prior to that and while the evening was enjoyable, it lacked an intimacy that would have been present had I gotten to know them on at least a friendly level. At that stage I had never considered being sexually involved with a woman.I joined the site as a hetero girl, looking for man pals that were willing to both partake in dangerous flirtations in dark corners and occasionally have the vanilla night out watching a new release.... and then my life went topsy-turvey in the one evening, where I became a 'unicorn' where my modus operandi has been couples with bi-sexual ladies, and I've not engaged with a single male off the site since I joined a year ago.Go figure.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift' Since I was primarily seeking 'couples' and was already having the occasional dalliance with 'women' in real life, the latter was added to my 'looking for' almost an afterthought. I now realise how ambiguously hilarious (or hilariously ambiguous) having dalliances with 'women' in inverted commas is. Feel free to ignore that. I'm not having a coherent night.
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RHP User
13 years ago
And I love rolling jaffas down the aisle :-P
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RHP User
13 years ago
After I started thinking about relationships and sex again I looked and joined the GOOD SITES. I got scammed, yaa I know how stupid can one be and I got blackmailed or say someone tried to blackmail me. Pff lucky there I learned a bit more and I went to the police this time. So I was fed up with all this good site, they take my money and can’t screen the dickhead come one. Now I think was just part of my learning to find my niche. Then one day I talked to a client and he told me about RHP and bingo here I am 2 year later, still here. So after coming from a sad place I found RHP. Oh and still I had to learn a bit more my head was in the clouds for the first 3 month and each time I med one I was shit scared. Hahahha all past now I defined my search I know what I like I express it I ask for it. I have found wonderful, wonderful friends and I have med my two lovers on here. I am not the adventures kinky babe, and it blows my mind still when I read there is a fuck bucket list for some. Lol Hey I think is this real? A Fuck bucket list? However I am happy, happy, happy to be on here, I have what I ask for and the men I meet know what I stand for, so all are winning. I say happy sexing to all
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'amuse_bouche'I joined the site as a hetero girl, looking for man pals that were willing to both partake in dangerous flirtations in dark corners and occasionally have the vanilla night out watching a new release.... and then my life went topsy-turvey in the one evening, where I became a 'unicorn' where my modus operandi has been couples with bi-sexual ladies, and I've not engaged with a single male off the site since I joined a year ago. I find it highly amusing (pun unintended) that our reasons for coming here and trajectories have more or less been the inverse of each other! We should probably meet up somewhere along the way to swap... erm... notes.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Wait, ehhh... Quoting Ms D , Quoting 'Jay_Me' Im pretty fussy but there's a lady here I feel confident we will click once we come face to face. she's probably sitting reading this wondering if its her... ? lol Nah, carry on. Only kidding, nothing else. ;-)Of course you are, kidding that is.. so..... < right back at ya... Anyway's the fem in question will read this and still be unsure if it's her or not...?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'amuse_bouche'I'm incredibly commitment-shy and found old-fashioned straight dating simply too exhausting and time-consuming, when really all I wanted was some back-arching, hands-clutching-sheets fun with someone who I got along with really well. And man, did I find it!
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RHP User
13 years ago
... " It could be you" ... what a great show... dont ya just love a good mystery... ?This will drive her crazy wondering '' caus SHE loves to be in control... hehe aint that right ?
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RHP User
13 years ago
i to have the same problem no one seems to be intersted in just a guy for a threesome. feels a bit rejectd after while of constant knock backs
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