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Why are women so hung up on looks?
December 11 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Give me a sense of humour, intelligence and personality every time over looks - its the person that counts. Pusscat PS - You are Cute!
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RHP User
16 years ago
But good looks fade quick enough if the person..doesn't have a playful sense of humor to tickle my funny bone ..lolintelligence...to rev my brain and personality ....good traitesxoxoxheymumma
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RHP User
16 years ago
...and the same could be said that most men are after that gorgeous tight toned barbie body and supermodel good looks too. By the way....sculpted bodies don't do it for me and Bratt Pitt? Ewwww! George Clooney on the other hand...mmmmmm ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Some one can be really nice looking but have the personality of a sack of shit and be full of themselves and bullshit and lead ppl on....Met one of them recently!! I wouldnt say that looks dont count, but athletic over buffed bods and pretty boys do nothing for me, I prefer comfort, a good sense of humour, and above all good mental connection.
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RHP User
16 years ago
seriously have you ever seen a post in here about guys needing to be this or that.... Cause I haven't now have a look at all the criteria we are supposed to meet!!! I mean there is a post on what womens calves should look like. Its enough to make me want to bury myself.. too much pressure about looks on all fronts is my guess Guys yes we need chemistry but it is about way more than looks, ability to hold a conversation, a sense of humour and a love for life are the biggest turn ons. I am just sorry that my experience ion here is turning into a rather negative one due to the battering my self esteem is taking
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RHP User
16 years ago
There's another fella on RHP that has a thing about women being hung up on 6 packs etc lolol...As for me, a person comes as a package and I consider the wrapping just a part of the whole... it's what's on the inside that interests me more! That's where true beauty begins... I can't be the only one who has ever noticed how much more attractive a smiling person is compared to a scowling one...Cheers... Mrs P
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RHP User
16 years ago
that beauty is in the eye of the beholder
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RHP User
16 years ago
Spare me the Barbie Doll Glamours, most are pretentious, and Princesses! to be avoided at all costs. give me nice normal looking women please! Unfortunately with the attraction thing if your not attractive enough to get noticed, then it won't matter how much of a great person you are, until the beer goggles go on...lol ....and well that aint allways a good thing either!.Happy weekend all you lucky buggers who don't have to work!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
Have been on for 2 months and really...I think most swingers are too stiff and need to loosen up a bit.:))
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RHP User
16 years ago
Our weekend has already begun... have a good one! hehehe Mrs P'
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RHP User
16 years ago
Now if you mentioned Vin Deisel...to me he's got it goin on..and the sexy deep voice...lol Most guys are no different....when comes to the barbie doll image.Nev..most. but not all...of the so called beautiful people that i'v met in my field of work tend to be up themselves..thinking their gods gift...and look down their noses at those that arnt " perfect" and their attitudes arnt nice either.xoxoxG
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RHP User
16 years ago
Aussiecharmer, I have found the opposite actually. Whilst a lot of gals here to talk incessently about 6packs etc, at least they are being honest about it and can say it. Unfortunately if a guy expresses a criteria he is often labelled shallow. I have found women tend to accept a guy as a total package, both what he looks like and what his personality is like and tend to be more realistic in their goals. Unfortunately the same can't be said for a lot of males of the species who still think they can pull some young slim lass and won't even look at anything else whilst ignoring their own beergut etc. Women are a lot more realistic in the way their perceive themselves too. As the wise Homer J Simpson once said: "When a woman looks in a mirror, she sees the bits she doesn't want to see. When a man looks in a mirror, he only sees what he wants" The best I have heard is: "When a man and woman meet, the man wants to find out what the woman is like under her clothes, the woman wants to find out what is in the guys head". I think that is true for the majority!
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RHP User
16 years ago
and guys aint? cmon man guys are worse than chicks i suppose when it comes too a one nighter thing looks are what EVERYONE looks for first
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RHP User
16 years ago
u have to be somewhat attracted to the person ! if u were not i think all the dating and relationship problems wud be solved bcoz everyone wud be dating everyone!...but in saying that i wud NOT date a totally drop dead gorjuz guy who had an absolute shit personality and was full of himself..i do agree that the average looking guy who can make a girl laugh in comparrison to a drop dead gorjuz spunk with a shit personality wud deff hav my vote over his!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
we cud ask the males the same question!
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RHP User
16 years ago
It goes both ways you males are just as bad ..So no laying blame at our feet I reakon we had good teachers on what we want after all we put up with it from men HAHAHAHAHA Paybacks a bitch at times LMFAO TIT
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RHP User
16 years ago
What about an average looking guy with a cracking personality vs an insanely good looking guy with an average personality?Guys are just as bad as girls, if not worse in my opinion - I wouldn't want to sleep with someone I didn't find attractive if I could help it, but then it depends how desparate I was.
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RHP User
16 years ago
It goes both ways... too many are superficial... they have to be pleasing to the eye before anything can happen.... when they dont even get to know a person.You will find quite a few (older) women who only want the young 6pack hunk and will not go beyond that... and I think guys would do the same... forgetting what they look like (their own personal body shape).Its not the majority like that .. but the minority. Also if you look at what they seek.. its the hollywood guy .. rather than your down to earth male. Each to their own... just remembering.. we all age.. we all get wrinkles and a bit of flab here and there... so appreciate each person for who they are (the whole person ....)
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RHP User
16 years ago
On sites like these it is easy for the women to be picky. That's why so many guys don't get a look in, there are simply hundreds of others for them to check out that may not have that one thing that the woman is unsure of. Sure guys are picky too, sometimes. Isn't that why they invented beer/alcohol. So that guys would sleep with ugly women, and women would put up with guys that are jerks.
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RHP User
16 years ago
a 10 model with no personality does the job.. because honestly after we cum its like a total wake up call we think to ourselves how the hell did we come to be in this situation and predicament.. guys agree with me? its a full moment of clarity like being on drugs and finally coming down.. but more instantaneous. a hot chick with nothin between her shoulders still serves her job for what we need em for.. because no offence but when that moment of clarity kicks in we realise just how boring most if not all girls are and just wana get the fuck outta there, but when the need for pussy comes back the chase starts again and its like being on drugs all over again... the most boring chick still seems fun if shes leading on in some kinda way :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hmmmm....just to paraphrase your post - Irrespective of how they look, most if not all women are boring and all we're needed for is to serve our job of getting your end wet. Oooooookay....good luck in life mate!
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RHP User
16 years ago
ahhh, I couldn't tell if there was sarcasm involved in your post, but I think perhaps youre a bit over the line in saying "we realise how boring most if not all girls are". Perhaps keep your opinions based on yourself, and dont make the rest of us men look like morons. reminds me of someone else who posts garbage on a regular basis... but to the question, Yes i think women do place too much emphasis on looks, but so do men, and why shouldnt we? Afterall, everyones opinion on what is attractive is different, and there must be attraction in the relationship for it to work. Now there are different forms on attraction, but for me personally, physical attraction to the way someone looks usually comes first! Then attraction to their personality etc grows. If theres no attraction for me to anthing beyond the physical, things dont last long and I move on. Casually_casual - I would DEFINATELY go for an average looking person with amazing personality over a really physically attractive girl with an average personality. However, it may just take me longer to realise the attraction! - H
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RHP User
16 years ago
please dont tell me that u wud actualli date a girl with no personality...
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RHP User
16 years ago
AussieCharmer....I put it back on you.....what are you looking for ? Do you look at attractive girls ? Do you look at girls who are a little over weight or very thin or not classically beautiful ? Or are you seeking someone "hot" ? Do you even consider girls who dont look like HotazIce in a bikini ? I don't think you can have your cake and eat it too...guys all too often complain that they can't get girls to like them because they dont have a 6pack or look like someone out of Ocean's Eleven but how high have you set the bar ? Beauty is and always has been in the eye of the beholder.....beautiful body ? beautiful person ? beautiful smile ? beautiful personality ? We're all beautiful in our own way....hell even the rough Ol' Dog scrbs up alright at times !! Might I respectfully suggest to everyone here that you seek the inner beauty of a person first and foremost ? After all, how do you really know how hot someone is until you meet them ?...and contentment comes from compatibility with someone...their ideas, thoughts, ideologies....not just their looks.....so in posing this question you need to be sre that you don't fall into the trap you have set yourself....I hope you look at every profile with an open mind ? Do you ? Or do you just look at the hot pics or possibly unattainable women and wonder why they dont respond to your messages.... Just my opinion....good luck in your search man. Doggy.
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RHP User
16 years ago
personality matters when im in a relationship...doesnt mean shit all when im hooking up with some guy i wont see again, i aint afraid too shout it out lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
who dates these days?
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RHP User
16 years ago
i've had the same problem since i was 17.. i reckon your better off chasing women from the country or Perth. they'e the only women i've met who are down to earth and don't care about a blokes apperance or how much he earn.. unlike the big city women who have higher standards due to having rich parents.. and if this doesn't work for you.. go after the tourists and backpackers..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Your on the money badbad dog. It is all about connection, phsyical or mental (prefferably not pyscho though). If I was 18 I would be wanting the guy with the six pack, but then I grew up, there is so much more to a person than how many hours they spend in the gym or in most new age guys cases the mirror. Would you consider seeing someone older, younger, poorer, richer, (scrap that one,we all would), thinner, fatter, fitter.... unfortunatly this is not something the Beautiful ppl ask themselvs as it is all about them. OR should this not even be a thought process as it is connection that counts? Cheers Mrs 2into2
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ah ha...Well said Dog! supraa...to answer your question, most people who don't lack maturity 'date these days'
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thats plain weird. Theres quite a few Homer Simpson types out there who actually label themselves attractive or very attractive and i do a double take and privately laugh - but theres nothing wrong with your looks that i can see from your picture at all!! When i was only 19 or 20 and like 25 kilos slimmer, very flat tummy etc and sporty, not slim (size 6-10) i used to like very cuddly guys. I still dont mind red/auburn haired guys. Im only 5"2 and my mum and sisters even shorter and so back then i found 6' and over guys TOO tall, i didnt wear high heels. These days i have since dated guys around 6' and even taller (i stopped being prejudiced against them) and also guys who arent very cuddly (as i used to have a thing for) I dont fancy George Clooney myself anyway, his media's attitude to kids, having them (or not) is a real TURN off. Someone or some people have turned you down and of course you may feel hurt or dissapointed - rejection does that but you have to dust off and keep on going. Patience - and not feeling bad about yourself - will all help. Chin up. Simone
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RHP User
16 years ago
When i was 19 or 20 i loved/ still do very cuddly guys, most of them between 5"3- 5"10 and wasnt worried about tall as im only 5"2. That was when i was 25-30 kilos lighter and had flat tummy, long honey-blonde hair etc. I grew from ugly duckling child to suddenly desireable, whoa that was weird. I didnt look for typical handsome guys. Maybe the ladies you are chasing are really super attractive, super desirable types that a LOT LOT of guys are replying to, chasing, trying to impress her. They may have looks or money or own expensive property etc but if thats the case, do you really want someone shallow anyway? Is it just for sexual pleasure or to find that special someone? I know that you wouldnt go for me the way my looks are now and im not talking age difference here. I could almost bet money on it. If im wrong, at all, then sorry but have a good long think about this or youll stay hurt, get depressed and continue low self esteem, theres nothing wrong with the way you look that i can see.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'AussieCharmer76'Is it just me or are women so hung up on looks that unless you're sporting a steroid sculpted body, are over 6 foot, and are an exact replica of George Clooney or Brad Pitt you have no chance?no, go down to your local shopping centre and have a look around - I guarantee you'll see plenty of sub-6 foot, non-six-packed (more likely sporting a keg), blokes who aren't that great looking, but are still wandering around town with a girl on their arm.Now, the girls on their arm may or may not be likely to win Miss Universe should they ever enter, but, it demonstrates that women in general aren't going to shun you if you don't look ultra hot.Perhaps you mean, "why don't super hot girls want to go out with less attractive guys?"
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RHP User
16 years ago
Mate. For every Jack there is a Jill. :p Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho41' Mate. For every Jack there is a Jill. :p Gaz there must be a surplus, cause i've seen jills that are also Jacks... (if you meant my post, then you may have missed the key "may OR may not" get-out-of-jail-free card I included thar)
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De0cypher
16 years ago
A little unfair to group all women and men into one big melting pot of wants and desires... we're all attracted by something specific. Whether that be a super toned body, hair colour, weight, age, the lyricism of someone's profile, the smile on that one face pic or even the photograph of an anonymous semi-naked body; these are in the end what we as individuals find attractive. Not really for us to judge; you can only have a go and take it from there. Personally, I dont always find pictures of strange penises or breasts, six packs or a half naked well-toned body, incentive enough to intrigue me... its usually a wicked smile or a wry creativity expressed through a well-penned profile that will grab my attention. To my mind..
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RHP User
16 years ago
It aint all about the looks.Shit, i'm bout as good looking as a bucketfull of assholes, and married to the most stunning woman to walk the face of this earth. You just got to find a decent woman, and they ARE out there. Problem is that majority of the guys are thinking with the wrong head and go for the airhead princesses, wearing next to nothing, as a lure to reel the dumb blokes in. If you stay sober long enough and scope the place out, you will find some very attractive women who don't feel the need to flash flesh in order to compensate for their lack of inteligence. Failing this find a cute short sighted girl
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RHP User
16 years ago
'Hot' is boring without a great personality to back it up.. that goes for either side of the fence xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
The acid test is when they don't want to be seen in public on your arm...
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think looks do matter...the only person who can say that they dont is a blind person...but...the degree of importance placed on looks depends deeply on the individual..beauty is in the eye of the beholder..and what is attractive to one person may not be to someone eles..thats the beauty of life!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Enlightened_one........to true Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
There is in each of us a shallow spot but physical looks seems to be a common one. I call it trophy fucking, you go out to fuck some oe you wnat to be seen fucking... I am never a trophy hunter, I never have been. To me I like interesting people. Next time you make contact with some one on this site dont do the pic thing or the cam thing just try chatting. Good old fashioned getting to know a person. Get on msn and have a discussion about life, your belief the meaning of life. Be flirty have some fun, use some sexualy inuendo...once the person gets inside you mind and they have you kooked then do the looks things and see if it matters at all. In the past I have to admit (when i was much younger) there were women I would not walk across a bar to meet because of physical aspects...I realise now that I have probably missed out on some good friendships and good times. In a direct response tho to your question I find most of the women on this site really are not that overly focused on rugged good looks ... They talk to me so they cant be LOL. As it has been said above too that beauty in individual what is attractive to one is not to others. At times it is hard to convince people that you think they are beautiful. LC
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RHP User
16 years ago
it is proven that looks play a big part in a way a human responds to another...most people wont go to the next level of getting to know someone if they are not first drawn to that person by looks.but on saying that the internet has helped this quite a bit and so have angled photographsh ahahha... u see there one good photo get to know them and woah u are attractedtechnology has helpedx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think more than half the people looking for other people on the internet don't know what they want. Seriously, I have found this line so often "GOSH (Great sense of humor) is a must. Now come on ladies, what do you want? a joker? I think every person has some sense of humor, it just depends on the receiving person how great the sense of humor is. I think i gotta good sense of humor, but I have met people who don't or dislike my wicked sense of humor and some loved it. Now coming to looks part, would you screw a HOT HOT HOT looking model who has tiny dick which is as small as a peanut? or would you be able to screw a HOT HOT looking model who has dick which is 18 inches? its gonna tear you apart. Well, all these things apply to men as well, would you be able to screw hot hot looking chic who has no imagination? or who jus lays on bed without moving during the sexual intercourse? I think what matters is, a beautiful mind. Imagination is very important, and I feel that a lot of people lack imagination. Looks and appearance only helps. People are picky, its mostly because they don't want a bad experience. But more than half the people who are picky end up having a bad experience, its because they tend to miss out on important information that they should know, before meeting the person. Because they just have a fixed criteria and if that person meets those criteria, he gets the ticket. I am not saying that you should go on meeting everyone, but there are more things than looks.Anyways, the gist is that, experience is what matters at the end of the day. Good or bad, you just learn new things. And Looks can be decieving, I heard that a serial rapist/killer got caught last month and he was damn hot looking. Not trying to scare ya, but yeah this is just life.have fun ppl ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
lol no just sayn that to get attention!! looks are a great package if you are into it for a relationship or need to connect, personally if some hot hot hot bodied guy came up to me l wouldnt trust him, but then everyones got a differnet type of hot hot hot!!! 6 packs are a sign of an active lifestyle or an oversize ego!!! not every woman dreams of a 6 pack. theres nothing wrong with wanting looks but if its only for fun, chemistry is all thats needed, a great sense of humour and a healthy bit of respect go along way, no matter who or what the womans doing or being!!! if he cant do that it dosnt matter if he looks like a movie star or joe blow down the road, he wont get far.... ! smile, smile and smile, there s a big turn on for most women right there!! dont be bitter or twisted or sour, not attractive!! attractive to me is someone who s happy, funny, naughty, and respectful, so go figure!!! l did have certain requirements when l was 18-20 but now lm finding attraction in other areas!! good luck!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think it is important to have a balance of both the physical, and the mental....You need to have that certain physical chemistry and if you are not physically attracted to a person that will not exist, it does not matter how nice and intelligent you are or what you have in common, you must have the lust factor. This does not mean that a man needs to look like a "Brad Pitt" or "George Clooney". What i find sexy in a man is how he holds himself, how confident he is and if he looks after himself i.e no hairy neck or untamed nether regions!!! etc.......if you hold yourself well, are confident, and look after yourself you will generally exude sex appeal anyway and this makes a man very very sexy!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm 6'6, not a steroid shaped body, i play rugby so i think i'm pretty fit, i don't have model looks, i've always been a big bloke, and because of my looks, i've never had a girlfriend, and i'm 28 years old, to me women are only after one or two things, good looks and a six pack. What i find funny is when he turns into an asshole they whinge about not finding a nice bloke, well just have a look at the type of guy your continuly chose to go out with. No one ever gives the big blokes a go!! I mean i perfer cats over dogs, i'm gentle caring but no one gives a shit about those quality's anymore....
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RHP User
16 years ago
Guys are hung up on looks too!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Beauty is just a light switch away!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Will the ETS really cut emissions? If your standards are to high, just lower them!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I dont goto the gym every day so that I can end up fucking some guy who sits aroudn doing nothing but dinking beers. If a guy looks after himself, he look safter his women too. I put in a certain amount of work to look the way i do, i dont see why I cant ask that of my partner.
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RHP User
16 years ago
" If a guy looks after himself, he look safter his women too."Mannn that is a statement and a half....are you serious!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
AussieCharmer76 -- just do what I do. Insist that you do in fact have the looks of both George Clooney and Brad Pitt. Sure they're skeptical at first, but you know what girls are like, just keeping saying it with a straight face and in no time they'll start to wonder whether it's really true! Either that or they'll be so horny from thinking about George Clooney and Brad Pitt that they'll shag the nearest man (make sure that's you). So the moral of the story is, don't be jealous of George Clooney, Brad Pitt, or myself. Just think proactive and work it to your advantage!
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RHP User
16 years ago
In my opinion each to their own everyone here finds differant qualities in a potential partner and attraction dosnt always for some come down to looks. I,ve never been into the six packs and shaved backs etc etc as long as im treated right and they are happy. whats important for me is that im happy in myself I work out everyday to maintain my body but wouldnt put that pressure on a partner as long as they arent super overweight where, clean shaven, clean teeth and smell nice and have a nice smile. x chilla13
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RHP User
16 years ago
Women have been subjected to this kind of bullshit for decades if not centuries. Finally, men get a taste of what it's like to be scritunised for every flaw. Not nice is it?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Chilla13, You hit the nail on the head,lol. I entirely aggree with your excellent comments. A person with a nice smile who is friendly, interesting and attentive to their partners needs and prepared to try new things that your partner might like to do, wiith some surprises thrown in, keeps the passion alive, along with good personal hygene, fitness and humour can make for a very enjoyable experience for all concerned. When can we catch up and put this to the test, mmmmn. Keep on smiling Don xxxxxxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Some of us have the looks and the body, but our best quality is our great personality ...... but for some women out there... its still not enough!! So I'm not really sure what they are looking for?? Maybe women are confused in this modern society? So guys who are not necessarily blessed with good looks, don't be disheartened as its a more complicated topic than meets the eye, so to speak. lol ?? I do admit that initial attraction for both sexes is a turn on, but if its not accompanied by a healthy mature attitude and inner beauty, then the looks as they say can be only "skin deep", and the relationship will not pass the "test of time". Bye the way, some women can afraid of the good looking guy and I can vouch for that! My package is there for the taking and yet I still find myself single... lol.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Looks most definitely help when it comes to the initial spark when people make contact, but without a great personality to match, then it doesn't really count for much! As a man, I go for the whole package in a woman, but chemistry is essential! Now the X-factor can be elusive to find.. lol. I have met some beautiful women on the physical side, but have disappointed me with their "head issues", mind-sets, closed attitudes and pre-conceived ideas .... that I don't see their outer beauty anymore! People that have the looks have an advantage from the outset, but if its not supported by an open-mindset, inner beauty, inner smile and warmth, then the looks can only be "skin-deep"! If males or females take the time to get to know the person and their inner qualities, then the real beauty is over-looked.
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RHP User
16 years ago
im sorry but all you women are full of crap, i ahve been dateless and single and sexless for most of my life, i am fun to be around, love chatting , have many interests and not one fukin woman will talk to me on a dating site or even respond to me messages, and if per lucky chance someone does .. maybe3 women in a year, they look at my pic and they dont talk to me again. I AM NOT EXAGERATING. and i am not ugly or fat. so i do not get it. you say all this crap about how much you like a nice guy but im sick and tired of the rejections from women who dont even talk to me but can somehow tell im just not their type. sorry to be blunt but ffs you got no idea what i have gone thru as a single male. im treated like a fukin lepper and god forbid i try and talk about sex.
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