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Why bother?

December 13 2011

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As a regular forum visitor and participant, I simply find it unbeliveable what I am reading in some of the recent forum posts regarding the difficulty some people have had in meeting other people. I knew it was difficult but not as difficult as it seems to be. I have read about people not turning up for arranged meetings, people coming up with last minute excuses as to why they cannot show up to a meeting and people meeting then having no further contact for no apparent reason.It seems to be happening to people of all ages, body types and personalities. I appreciate that there is an element of risk in meeting people on an online dating site where the only initial contact you have with them is a profile, some pics whih could be false and maybe a few conversations on the phone. I am probably going to get shot down in flames here, but curiosity has got the better of meand I have to ask the question and get everyone's opionion. If you are not prepared to take the risk and meet people, then why bother to join an adult dating site in the first place?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I know what you mean ChrisJM... I am currently stalking a super gorgeous hunk of a spunk, I mean he is like an angel... I swear I can almost see a HALO ROUND HIS HEAD! And you know I send him messages and he ignores me. Not even a get lost you are punching above your weight sweetheart... nothing. xxMeeka

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' I know what you mean ChrisJM... I am currently stalking a super gorgeous hunk of a spunk, I mean he is like an angel... I swear I can almost see a HALO ROUND HIS HEAD! And you know I send him messages and he ignores me. Not even a get lost you are punching above your weight sweetheart... nothing. xxMeeka

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    It wasn't always this way, "back in my day" the internet was certainly a different landscape, and sites like this were a whole lot better. Then things started changing, Scumbag Steve Jobs made computers 'cool', and MySpace came along, only to be eclipsed by Facebook.Before all that happened, I was getting all sorts of ass, and it wasn't too hard either, you'd send a heap of generic messages out along the lines of: "Hey, i liked your profile and . Don't suppose you wanted to chat sometime? My msn address is:....."I would say that around 2008 things began to get more difficults online and steadily got worse and worse, I think because online dating isn't frowned like it used to be, now 'Joe Everyman' uses it, and all of a sudden "Sorry but I don't think you're my type" has become another way of saying "You must have some nerve to think you're good enough for me...".I guess it's not too bad, I don't care any more and much better at deciding when some people simply aren't worth the effort...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' I know what you mean ChrisJM... I am currently stalking a super gorgeous hunk of a spunk, I mean he is like an angel... I swear I can almost see a HALO ROUND HIS HEAD! And you know I send him messages and he ignores me. Not even a get lost you are punching above your weight sweetheart... nothing. xxMeeka There must be some sort of glitch in the messaging system....I haven't received anything at all!You are talking about me, aren't you?!?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Whilst those that are prepared to meet get no where.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Oops... that looked funnier last night. RCflyer you never respond to all the girls! ChrisJM, to answer the question I think people do have good intentions when they join but they chicken out at the last minute. Conducting a flirt or liaison online is easy... meeting up is the nerve racking hard part. I also think there is a large number of people who join just for a bit of fun and don't really have any intention of meeting up with people. They just like to have cyber sex. xxMeeka

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Are you sure this is a 100% dating site? As we imagine there are members just here for the forums, instant chat, looking at pictures, cybersex who are meeting up with like minded people via cyber space!, not reality.   Not all are looking to swap partners for sex!..... (we thought it was a swingers site ...but ea to their own)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    that it is all about the thrill of the chase...the on line tease and flirt. Some probably even see us as not being real people.....I mean what happens on line is not real...is it? I had one real life vanilla friend ask me when I was going to stop messing around with on line people and find someone real. I replied that he sure felt real to me last night...lol.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I really don't think everyone gets into this being completely ready to get naked with a stranger. When I decided to join my first site I was apprehensive about privacy, possibility of meeting axe murderers/clingers/country music fans, and whether or not the skills I had honed over more than a decade with the one person would carry over to a new person.For me, the response I got was an overwhelmingly positive one and within an hour or two of joining (ride that wave of beginner's luck! lol) I was meeting a super lovely, sexy and genuinely fucking nice guy so the experience was really enjoyable and prompted me to have a little faith in my own judgement and be aware of exactly what qualities were essential in the people I decided to meet and what other qualities would just be a bonus.However, had I not gone to meet him and continued talking to the other person I started chatting to that day but didn't meet because something just felt a bit 'off'~ who ended up sending me creepy texts all week begging me to meet and fuck him in a deserted carpark after dark and growing increasingly insulting when I declined ~ I think it would have prompted me to look harder for my 'perfect' fuck buddy match but probably never work up the guts to meet anyone, cos nobody's perfect, and holding on to the hope of finding perfection could leave you sexless for life ;)That being said, the first 2 guys I went to meet sent me 'thanks' messages but never accepted my offer to contact me to play again. *shrug* I learned from that experience that regular NSA doesn't come handed to you on a platter. There are hits and misses and you can always change your mind once you've had a taste, never commit to regular meets with someone before you've played with them the first time.xx Sarah

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    that people who are Guilty of this practice are actually going to post here and admit their reasons ... then everyone would know their handle and no one would respond to their fictitious messages .. What you will get is the assumptions of why they don't meet .. from the people who have been stood up ...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Sorry Meeks i have just replied to all your messages   Great Rack by the way

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' Oops... that looked funnier last night. RCflyer you never respond to all the girls! xxMeeka I only respond to the special ones. (of course, "special" means anyone who even glances at me sideways..)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Wowwow you reply with the nicest emails too... and you usually get straight to the point. I want to ask you. What ever happened to foreplay?? hehehexxMeeka

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    RCFlyer, you are too nice... you got treat them mean, like you couldn't give a rat's fat ass and then the girls will come running come fly with me.......xxMeeka

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    when you look like you do ... i just want to get naked and Fuck .. we can talk later

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Some great comments from everyone, but Meeks you are 100% correct in what you said in your first post. I couldn't have put it better myself. However I cannot believe that any man would be stupid enough to ignore a message from you. What hope is there for the rest of us if women like you are being ignored. I think that this post should give people a lot of heart and help them to understand that although that are unable to meet anyone on sites such as this, the reasons behind it are not always personal and it's just people getting scared at the last minute. They should keep on trying, one day their luck may change.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Well..... 2012 is around the corner... Another year to look forward too

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' RCFlyer, you are too nice... you got treat them mean, like you couldn't give a rat's fat ass and then the girls will come running come fly with me.......xxMeeka "Alright ladies, don't message me or send flirts, OK? I'm just gonna ignore y'all from now on, anyways!"Something like that?(now we'll see the messages rolling in, BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA! And they can't read this 'cos it's in brackets! I'm soooooo clever!)

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