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Why does it still matter so much?
July 17 2019
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RHP User
6 years ago
Some people do have preferences for one demographic (I'm really struggling to find the right term) and not others. People risk being branded racist for saying such in their profile however. You're right though, it is a very rude question to ask if you state your background in your profile.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Personally we make it pretty clear in our profile .. And it has nothing to with being racist simply a matter of what she is attracted to or otherwise.. A syou say, you state that you are Asian in your profile, so people are either hoping you have changed to not being Asian anymore.. or dare I suggest it.. not actually reading your profile.. Either way, its not your problem, its theirs. But must be frustrating all the same..
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RHP User
6 years ago
Just read further down that you are Indian descent.. also.
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RHP User
6 years ago
...but only to the extent that there are people from around the world living here. For whatever reason, it does not seem to me that it is a melting pot of any sort and people tend to stay segregated by choice into isolated demographic groups for generations. This may have a fairly significant and potentially negative follow-on effect. Ask someone and see if they don't say Greek or Italian or Martian...how many say Australian? I'm a FUBAR mess with Norwegian, USA and even a dash of Central American flavour mixed in the pot. Mostly I'm me most of the time and I do like it just like that. Melted down shaken not stirred and over ice....cool baby. Best of luck mixing in a non-multicultural society! ʗɱ
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DynamicCouple36
6 years ago
Everyone has their preference Some people like Brussel sprouts, others don’t. Some people cross the racial colour line, and enjoy it, whilst others will not play with anyone of “colour” That is their choice and their preference. Does that make them racist? We think not. If they were to say, on their profile “ no Indians , blacks , Sudanese or anyone of colour “ would they be labelled as racist by some on here ? Most probably they would, which is why one seldom sees this on anyone’s profile. Accept it for what it is. We all enjoy different things.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Melbourne IS multicultural, some elements of it are not. Remember some of the people living here, including number of locals, prefer to keep to themselves, while people like myself and Mrs love to get mixed with locals and all. And then there is the fact that different cultures are attracted to certain cultures and are not attracted to others and vice versa. I dont think it’s necessarily racism, it’s more to do with chemistry. Mrs Maenad is attracted to dark skinned men but she attracts caucasians more, they find her exotic. With me it’s different, I attract lot of Spanish, Italian and other Mediterraneans. I made good friends and became lovers with women of Anglo Saxon/Celtic background but only after we met face to face, for some reason I seem to leave a far more intimidating impression online than when in person. A couple we dated told my Mrs that I am not as intimidating as they thought, I believe it all comes down to human nature, we get cautious towards what we don’t know or familiar with.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Everyone has their preferences, it isn't just based on race...They're entitled to them, for whatever reason they have them. It'd be the equivalent of someone asking 'so what's your hair colour' then when I say i'm a redhead they go silent then me being offended that they don't find me attractive because of my hair. I know people that don't find redheads attractive at all but they probably don't put it in their profile because most people are turned off by a huge list in someone's profile saying 'no X, no Y, no Z' in their profile - it doesn't look good... Miss Little xx
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Good_Bad
6 years ago
I wouldn't ask this question, but some people might just be looking for some conversation topics so ask it as a generic question (?) Could get frustrating though if you always get asked this...
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
My profile clearly states Caucasians Only and I'm frequently contacted by people who have either disregrded or not read my profile. I have seen alot of profiles that state their specific preferences like this as well.
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RHP User
6 years ago
“Caucasians only” does have a negative connotation to it.
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RHP User
6 years ago
What effort people don't make. Rejection is hard especially when u have been chatting. Sorry this keeps happening. Maybe your headline should be Read the profile But u know what it's basic to read profile. If anyone can't do that then your time is to valuable to waste on them.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Thanks everyone for ur valuable feedback. After reading all the comments, I just wanna say that I don’t have any problem with anyone’s specific requirements or likings. Offcourse u like what attracts u and there’s nothing wrong in that. The whole point of putting this question up here was just to mention that people should read others’ profiles carefully and should state their preferences in their profiles so to avoid the frustration that it brings later on. Not labelling anyone racist but to make things easier for others.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I’m curious.... If it pisses you off so much, why is it I sense, you bother replying to them?? I dunno about anyone else, but if someone asked me a question that was THAT big of a deal, they’d be ignored and moved on from....
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hi, I have worked for other,s and most were Kiwi,s white Englisch , yet we did have very few from other countrys I employed who ever I needed and I did not care so long as they could do the work that was all that mattered now I still have men and women work for me , From a sexual stand point for myself is about age I,m 71 so some one who is say under 45 I,m quite hesitaint because we have groun up young adults who are 3 of age,s from 4 to 45, and 13 grand kids age,s 25 down to 8 months . what I see is so I can relate I need some one close to my age, for some one a lot younger I get very not sure the word....so to use, I quess very uneasy, so is not where your from or born as I have many friends from all countrys , and I have many lovely friends 1/2 my age ...and are just friends nothing sexual, If people contact me I,m okay with that what I dis like is no photo of them selfs to me what are they hiding or a younger photo of them self some 20 -30 years before, ...noeleena...
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RHP User
6 years ago
sorry I,m having issues computer wise the ages are from 40 to 45 our 3 grown up,s
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Mask_007
6 years ago
Look i get that. People have they on preferences and that is part of they taste. All welli can't please everyone. But in the same token is a bit disappointing when after some nice conversation they turn you down becouse yourbody shape looks or race. Is extremely judgmental. All must unbelievably. Ps. I absolutely love redhead girls, such a turn on. And really don't care about race, shape, color or believe. We all have something interesting and special to offer. Is just about finding the right way to enjoy. Good luck.
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SSExplorer
6 years ago
Hey OP I’m wondering if you had this happening more when you had just asian as your race? This covers a whole range of looks, just as Caucasian does too.
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RHP User
6 years ago
have preferences, like dc said, someone mightn't like brussel sprouts, and you have to remember this is a voluntary, social, recreational activity that we engage in, for our enjoyment. Now if I were a paid sex worker and you were my pimp, you might have the authority to tell me who I had to fuck, but given that's mine or Joe Blogs choice according to what we like, what turns us on, it's totally inappropriate to suggest we should take one for the team to avoid being racist wouldn't you think? My contacts have been from a range of cultures, just about made my way through Europe, Canada, Texas 😍 I don't however meet Indian or Asian men, whatever, that's my choice. But you might be surprised that it's nothing to do with colour, guys from the UK are a no from me too. That might get a few hackles up here but I don't care. They are culturally not to my taste, again my choice. So I'm not sure what you expect people to do really. Did you always have that written in your profile or just Asian in the stats? Move on if they're not interested
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RHP User
6 years ago
You asked why people don't mention in their profile what they don't like. I think you know the answer to that, for fear of being called racist
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RHP User
6 years ago
Touchy.... I agree regarding the racist thing entirely....the era of PC bullshit sees that most people have killed off their sense of humour, but have killed off their abilities to expose themselves to different opinions citing racism among other things as a way to shut down debate/discussion...
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
I don't play with Indians or Pakistanis males I find them pushy and disrespectful. I don't like the way they treat their women either but they are not alone in that area. Call me racist if you like, I don't care. I also have a problem with Chinese nationals. They can't drive for shit. Thought I'd roll that one out whilst l was here. Feeling better now
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yes indeed. I did however misunderstand the sentiment of the op's post. Sorry op, the issue you appear to have is that you clearly state your race in the written part of your profile so why do they string you along? Well depending on how long you've had that written in there, if they're not reading your profile, I would assume they're fake (maybe a guy?) wasting your time just to get off. Pain in the neck people who do that. Perhaps discuss it with them straight up in the first few messages, ask if it's a problem, also a little tip from this old cougar who has had some experience filtering, be cautious of those who don't have any of many public pictures, they are quite often not who they say they are. I don't have any pictures at present but I'm not looking to play atm I did (and will again) always get them to take a new picture with a word written on a piece of paper, upload it, I would then compare that to the kther pictures they have up. You can never be to careful online, men and women, and omg you should see some of the fakes I've exposed. On a cougar site I was on, one old dude in his 70's was apparently in his 20's on his profile. So whatever but do be careful. Men are just as much at risk as women
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RHP User
6 years ago
...as I dislike virtually everyone equally on their own merit and especially those whose backgrounds are not a mirror reflection of my own. There are.....some exceptions. ʗɱ
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RHP User
6 years ago
Anti Interesting then..... that if a person says they don’t like overweight people...... which is not relevant to any race..... still gets criticism As has been stated earlier..... we like what we like, and there is never any need to justify those likes (where legal). That doesn’t mean we must outline what we DONT like.... we simply say thank you, but you’re not quite matching my preferences.
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