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Why in this day and age, are some women still apprehensive of the Asian male?
July 21 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Seems everyone has their prejudices. For example, I'm often attracted to muscular Lebonese men but seems they rarely go for shy blonde aussie surfer type guys. Your friends list is hawt. So, Love2move ~ You wanna root? Hugs Gaz Spread the love, bebe.
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RHP User
16 years ago
.... because of THAT one stereotype about Asian guys. Oh c'mon, you know which one. And doesn't matter if its 2009 or 2020, there will always be narrow minded people =) Heres hoping that they've become the minority by then!~ oh btw on a side note I think its just human nature to group with your own kind, people just do it unconsciously. The problem starts when you start doing it consciously though (e.g being exclusive ).
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playfulminx
16 years ago
I think there are a lot of misconceptions based on not just race but everything! Some girls will write guys off based on where they are located (too bogan, too flash, too industrial) and their occupation etc. It's just very annoying when assumptions are made based on race. Some girls probably do think the way kevinmario mentioned but they probably also think every single black man is well endowed (they're not...). Some have misguided notions about cultural differences and think that Asian guys are going to expect women to behave a particular way or crash their Hondas into a tree (cos you know, we're such shit drivers...). I think therefore the issue is trying to communicate the idea that you're culturally Aussie so there's no need to dig out the stereotypes. People are just going to have prejudices not matter how you try so write them off and move on I say :) Oh - to finish - It happens to girls too and it pisses us off big time. I'm as Aussie as they come but just mention being Asian and... yikes... I'm serving them tea and giggling. Like f%$k! As a result I don't discuss my race on RHP and as soon as a guy asks, deal breaker!
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RHP User
16 years ago
love2move i know what you mean, I actually wasn't born here, but am aussie as they come, just yellow on the outside haha. As for being any different elsewhere, honestly brissy, sydney melbourne, its all about the same, most just won't want anythin to do with ya coz u look like a tourist lol. Some even show genuine surprise when I open my mouth coz of my completely aussie accent and personality... So yea unfortunately I think its just a part of life that a good percentage of aussie girls just don't want anythin to do with asian guys, no matter who they are, other than to be friends....... but they are entitled to their choices, just that choice sucks balls sometimes lol!!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Over-hearing an Oriental friend trying his luck with the ladies; "It's like a chili ....the smaller it is, the hotter it is" Size is not important if you can lick your eye-brows.
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RHP User
16 years ago
lol playfulminx i m surprise that u felt that way and i always thought asian ladies are popular amount Aussie man?? but its true from most i have heard that Aussie man have certain expection of asian ladies such as caring and soft type and yes not all black man r well endowed ~ been to few parties and met a few , saw them in action and just like aussie ~ not all r well endowed (but majorities r i suppose) by the way, i do know a japanese guy who is 40+ , bit of between thin and average built and about 7 '3~5 but he's got a 9 inch :) so there you go, some asian r gifted too ~
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RHP User
16 years ago
L2M it has nothing to do with you being Asian!! Look beyond the whole "must be" attractive hot and gawgus type that you go for....try a real woman for a change :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
easy my friend, u r making yourself wide open and vulnerable for others see you soft here. i feel your pain but there r actually fair bit of caucasian ladies likes asian male and the age actually gets younger and younger ;) probably just looking at the wrong place i think , double the effort for nothing ~ i m going to work in parts of asia soon and travel ait. i m sure i will find alot of caucasian ladies in asia who happen to be there for a reason and attracted to asian male ;) less effort and more chance to meet the right one ~
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RHP User
16 years ago
It's all those international students that walk around dressed as mangas that is ruining it for the rest of you. Asian guys are seen as shy skinny little nerds with no sexual appeal.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Maybe you have so many talents you are just too intimidating for the average woman lol While that was very well written, it was a bit intense and some may consider u too into urself...Im not sure whether it will be positive or negative for you... good luck
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RHP User
16 years ago
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manga --> have a read, I can't stand it when people trying to be smart and use foreign terms incorrectly. As I happened to be one of those "international students" that you described on your last post, honestly I hardly see that happening much around my area (asian guys walk around dressed as "mangas" ) - maybe they only do it around areas where skinny narrow minded guys like you live ?
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think mangos are the most erotic fruit around personally. I mean, they're so juicy... and fleshy.. and I love to smear them into my face one by one or all together .... yum. Mango.... good enough to fuck. Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
And I know I used it incorrectly. I was just trying to sound like an ignorant westener.
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RHP User
16 years ago
You are not alone mate .... I am anglo and Sydney women just don't even want to talk to you ... I mean certainly have no tacky pick up lines and the last one was a short sharp ... "Fuck off" I was shocked!!! I recently went to Newcastle and found the women there to be totally opposite and very happy just to chat to you. Oh well .... Thats Sydney for you .. The getting keep getting and the got none get forgotten.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well after travelling around this country many imes, Im sad to report its JUST SYDNEY - theres such an attitude there! I was kind of hoping my first impressions in the early 1980's might have been wrong, but nope, Sydeny people think the world revolves around them and that anything outside of Sydney doesnt count, Narciscism and ego's aound everywhere there! Sad but true.....Im happy to report the rest of the country is a lot friendlier!! :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Stop bagging Sydney! You just caught up with the wrong type of Sydney people. What you have to look for whne in Sydney are counrty people that now reside in Sydney. It's that simple! Warm Wet Hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
Wow an i was gonna move to sydney,wont bother now.i just want to let all those asian guys out there know that there are exceptions to the norm,i myself have dated only asian males for the last 7 years....and i prefer it that way,so just when you think all is lost,its not there are girls out there like me,just look a little harder.
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RHP User
16 years ago
@luve2movequite some time ago, billy connely said he thought australians were racist but he thought they'd get over it with time. maybe your grand kids will have better luck. we still cling to our engish class ties pretty hard here and they can be a pretty xenophobic bunch. it's not wonder the most significant thing on our flag is the british one.LRE (off to share the love)
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am attracted to the person...I dont care what their race is...and sorry to say it...but going by what you have written....you come across a bit up yourself."My tastes in women are broad, but with some similar traits. Attractive, Anglo or Euro decent, but not a must, just hot and gorgeous, I won't accept anything less."Dont you like Asian girls?? Wont accept anything less than hot and gorgeous?? Yet you get offended that some girls dont like Asian men?? Get over yourself honey.And you dare to stereotype Sydney women?? Im sure there are some lovely gals in Sydney....just like Im sure there are some total farkin bitches in other cities.It really irks me that people complain about being judge while they themselves are judging. Hypocrite!Just my opinion...BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have male asian friends that do well with woman, better than most. they have their own style your never see them eyes down thinking their not as good as us aussies, you need to reinvent yourself get some confidence and be proud of what you are,stand up for fuck sakes...when you approach a woman the first 10 second is all you have, make it count girls love confidence they can allmost smell it,it wont matter what race you are,your just one sexy mother fucker..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Firstly there's likes and dislikes and prejudices in all of us, anyone who says they are 100% accepting is kidding themselves. Mrs Pup is eurasian and as such has been to Aussie for the Asians and too Asian for the Aussies. I get a headache thinking about the number of times I'm asked where she's from..goes something like this:Where's your hot wife from?SydneyYeah but where's she really from?Sydney AustraliaYeah but you know where'd she come from?(this goes on and on depending on how playful or bored I feel)Well her Father is from country NSW and his father and I think before that there was some irish convict offspring.Oh I guess you're interested in where her mother is from?YesWell she came from Thailand around 30 years ago and no she wasn't a bar girl even though Mrs Pup does a great Thai Bar Girl "bored out of my mind" pole dance take off - has me in stitches!Ok enough of my bull, theres plenty of girls that like asian boys but in reading Love2move's post me thinks he may have so high an opinion of himself that few girls asian or not would live up to his wish list! Just my opinion of how it reads.As for Sydney bashing, sorry lovely Sydney folk and there are plenty of those but to generalise Sydney as a persona does have an overly arrogant opinion of itself (Love2move should be fitting in very well). Like any small town there are a lot of people in Sydney that have never jumped in a car and taken a drive outside their little domain and they can be quite insular. Go the well traveled and the country people they know there's another world out there.Oh another little convo I had with some asian mates (2 girls and 2 guys) talking about why my lovely wife would date (at that stage) a bozzo like me:Insert some mindless banter in here then...Me: ....and everyone knows that once you go asian you'll never go back!Asian girls: giggle, giggle, blush, giggleAsian guys: puff chest out and give knowing nods to each otherMe: oh guys I think you missed the point, once a guy goes asian he never goes backMe: holding little finger like in the speeding ad...it doesn't work the other way roundAsian guys: chest immediately deflates and give knowing nods to each other!OK so I do deserve some flaming for this but was an actual conversation and there were laughs all around. Contrary to some beliefs asians can have a wicked sense of humour, they still can't drive their Hondas well though.Arrrgh get me outta hereDisclaimer: Attempted harmless humour here, apologies to all I've offended but please be lenient poor me comes from 100% convict stock so I'm doing the best I can!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm in agreement with Miss BJ - arrogance is the biggest turn off
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RHP User
16 years ago
to judge is 2b judge (only minor pun intended :P) 2B :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
U r 2 Funny . 2b :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
For a start Gaz, Mango's are the best fruit but bloody expensive right now, but I do love how their juices explode and run across your hand when you're preparing them... oh god that's so gay (not that there's anything wrong with that) As for Asian men, what’s wrong with asian women dude? I have no idea why you would want to shag a white woman especially those ones haunting these forums likes ghosts! With their soft pale skin ... oh oaky they are pretty hot. Xxx ladies. I love Asian women stick with them, but then again mixed children are very good looking. GOd it's a hard one, perhaps if you stopped seeing colour and beyond the fact you think they are being anti-asian-ist-ism it might just be they just arn't into you. Perhaps you're conversation isn't good enough, perhaps you're wearing Lynx. So this reminds me of two things. Which might or might not help you out - both events happened to me in London. One night I was working and having a smoke by the van with a co-worker. Two black youths approached us and asked us to bum a ciggy. We both declined, for one thing they were too young and secondly I don't just give away my smokes to strangers. They young men walked off, tutting to themselves and announced 'Racist'. Now his colour meant nothing to me. but that was the first conclusion he came to. He looked for something and found it. My co-worker was pretty pissed off by this and said 'that's a pretty big accusation you're throwing out there young man.' Now I don't know, but I could be barking under the wrong tree... but I know my truth :P I've had my load of sex these past few months with Sal and co. But alone, single guy I'm exactly the same as you, great sense of humour, great body, nice ... nice... BUT I’ve never in my life been able to pick up a woman at a club. I've never had a one night stand off my own back, I've done it (heaps) with Sal. My usual way before Sal of meeting ladies is befriending them at work, not so much these days. But a few years ago, I was working in an office in the UK where I had slept with two of the gils I worked with. Felt up my other flatmate and snogged/felt up the admin girl. THis wasn't a one day event on all levels, this was a gradual and although seemingly intentional process on my part, wasn’t. Each woman was treated nicely by me, I would have lunch with them, watch TV with them, chat to them about gilrly stuff. Then fancied the all a in their own way. What I'm trying to say is this. Don't go looking for racism when it might not be there, you might be a caring sensitive guy, but perhaps you're like me, perhaps the clubs aren’t for you., perhaps you need to take up a hobby or join the gym. Anyway what's wrong with Asian girls. I shagged this hot Asian/Chinese girl for a time and she had this great body, intelligent and she knew how to please big scary western man (that's a semi quote from Family Guy) Be colour blind for a while and eat more mangos for the cause. I am. Andy
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RHP User
16 years ago
Woohoo Stranded! I was just about to say you need to come to Newcastle instead LOL I think its 'many' Sydney women who come across like that..not all, before everyone jumps down my throat yet again! :) As for the 'asian' syndrome, I personally don't find asian men attractive regardless of job, shape etc. And I have to agree with MissBJ as far as you coming across as very hypercritical....not to mention arrogant! You come across as classing yourself as 'gods gift to all women'....I don't think its your race thats hindering your progress with women its your attitude!! Cheers Elljae x
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RHP User
16 years ago
Pretty touchy subject, probably the scope of which extends far beyond a site like RHP. Asian Americans deal with the same prejudices, no different to what first generation Italian migrant children would have faced growing up in Australia fifty years ago.At the heart of it is the historical asexualisation of Asian men in western culture. The penis-size thing is one aspect to this. The other is that women from Anglo-Saxon and European cultures are brought up in a world where media and the arts don't really portray Asian men as particularly masculine or as sexual objects, if they even appear at all in television shows or movies.Things are slowly changing, with guys like Chow Yun Fat and Bruce Lee before him, but attitudes in mainstream society will always be slow to catch up.Love2move: you sound like you're coming off incredibly needy and desperate to please. You seem to have got it into your head that sex with white women is the goal and you've shaped your whole life around achieving this. Perhaps take pride and reach a level of comfort within your own skin so that you can approach white women without this inbuilt-defensiveness, otherwise all your endeavours will simply be an extension of this need to validate yourself.I'm in the same boat (excuse the pun), I am primarily attracted to Anglo and European women. Only in the last five or so years have I developed an attraction for East Asian and Indian women that I didn't used to have; so attitudes can change in people, and they can change quickly. I previously dated an Italian girl for 3.5 years and I've always got on pretty well with Italian & Greek girls even though most wouldn't ordinarily be interested in Asian guys.Ultimately you can either choose to carry this chip on your shoulder for the rest of your life or you can learn to accept things for what they are, believe in yourself for who you are, know yourself well enough to have the confidence to put your own doubts aside and accept yourself unconditionally. Stop trying to figure out what Sydney women want and just be yourself, live your own life and be your own person.Or if you really do think Sydney is that bad, consider moving to Melbourne or California, both cities where there seem to be better integration between the local Asian diasporas and the wider community.Best of luck with that :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
maybe you should lower them gorgeous and hot pffffft all women are gorgeous in thier own way just see them for who they are and not what they are mate they arent a smorgasbord for you to choose from they are people and need to be treated as such maybe then you will find one that will talk to you Im no oil painting and as such i talk to anybody I have no set type of girl yet I have never been one to be told to fuck off and I find sydney to have some of the most approachable women in australia yes smaller country towns have alot more grounded people in them but depends where you are trying to pick up being a pub and not a club man i find women are more than willing to have a chat with anyone if you're not an arrogant prick....
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RHP User
16 years ago
L2M - sounds like you are looking in the wrong places. Plenty more fish in the sea. Would you hit on you????? Probably the best thing to ask yourself if you are that bothered.
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