Why is it??

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  Paradisepair

  13 years ago

  You can't attract/have what you feel you lack in your life. Once you stop looking or hoping 3 buses cum at once :)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  if we all got what we wanted?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  It's almost impossible to find perfect matches by viewing profiles. Messaging and finding out more can bring those maybes to the mix- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I always wanted a tall blond man and ended up with a dark haired tall hairy man.I think we make this picture in our minds and think that's it.I know exactly what you say.Over time the taste changes and we change, but still this ideal is running around in our mind.And then I believe one day it makes bum and this love thing hits us on the head and we look at the person and think NOO WAY NOT HIM, lol but yes its him.Strange things happen.

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  wingman2014

  13 years ago

  You have to kiss a lot of frogs until eventually your prince comes along. Hard frustrating and demoralising But it makes you so much more appreciative when it finally does happen .- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Is true of everything in life I think. Even as kids, we all (i'm sure) wanted the things that were just out of our reach for whatever reason. I guess the broader questions though are does that matter and does that preclude us from enjoying what we can have? I say this easily though because I accidentally found the man of my dreams 19 years ago (albeit he was just supposed to be my summer shag lol), but that doesn't stop me (or him) lusting after other folk. There's this family we know and what I wouldn't give to have a few hours naked with them both... But they have a more traditional partnership and so it remains in fantasy land. And I'm okay with that lol. I guess I may have different views if I wasn't already married to Mr IAT though. I'm sure your Mr Right will find you when you're least expecting it! Mrs IAT- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  if your with the rite person and therein lies the trick   But OP who knows the answer to this age old question   We want someone, they dont want us and vice versa   The heart dictates what the head cant even get itself around...   We love who we love..we are attracted to who we are attracted to ...end of story - without this..we wouldnt have all the tragic plays, beautiful love songs, tearful operas, great movies etc if it did all work out in the end and everyone got who they wanted...   Think Casablanca ....would that have been the great love story film it was, is she hadnt gotten on the plane ??? (Um did I just blow the ending ??...oops...) ...Think Scarlett woke up and smelt the coffee after Rhett ditched her cause he had enough of her mooning over Ashley ??? - nope..thats why the stories ended where they did............sometimes it just doesnt work out...     Our heart yearns.........unrequited love.............all you can do is love from afar...and take comfort in the fact that while you are yearning..perhaps someone is yearning for you in return !!   Abre los ojos !!!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Relationships aren't hard... people are hard. Hard to judge, hard to read, hard to believe. (or if you're lucky, just hard ;) )   So why is it that so often, those who want us we don't want and those we want don't want us? Maybe it is because we think someone is too good to be true or we have an altered vision of life because of a rough past causing a massive blind spot.   Too many reasons/options and not enough Ouzo to list them.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Apply: Resist ~ Persist Theory on this one. Consider, what you resist...persists. The amount of energy, deliberation and time spent analysing another, puts them, it, you and others all busy focusing on some aspect of someone, when...in time...when you meet another more suited to you, all that pushing and pulling and indecision won't be necessary.......and you'll wonder - Why the hell did you spend so much time resisting and persisting with other people in the past?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  come down to our own expectations.   I find humans (most often) to be an incredibly arrogant species, most are never happy with what they/we CAN have, we mostly think pretty highly of ourselves and so often that leads to us missing out on the true beauty of what life DOES offer us.   Some will die completely alone and unloved because they refused to accept that person who adored them, refused to show humility and investigate that person further and see the beauty behind the less than ideal exterior.   Who knows what might have been if they'd gotten over themselves, perhaps true love may have grown within them, perhaps they'd have known the fulfilment their life was and had always lacked.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  "Gnashes teeth" ....... ;) Ok... I'll bite..... :) Sometimes, we are so concerned with studying our lifetimes collection of navel fluff that we can't see who's sitting next to us....... And to think I normally don't bite unless asked, and here I am giving it away lol.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  My tastes and variety changes all the time....Its like a cycle I get into...I push my boundaries and jump outside my box...try and be open-minded to others and support them....I think sometimes we can't control things or others...I think that plays an issue with not getting what we want...the pursue or the chase maybe??...they want me, I don't want them, then I want them, then they don't want me, then they want me... arggggh so I give up thinking its all too hard! Foxy

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Since my divorce I've been in two relationships. It seems that in both I did a lot of heavy lifting, to either get the relationship happening, or in the other to keep it happening (the make up sex was to die for in that one ;)   Can I change ? I know I can, but would that be me ? Would I be happy if I wasn't putting in, if I was holding back a part of me ? Probably not....... So back to selection criteria....   hp xo

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