M47
Why not just send back no ????
January 04 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Waz, I'm a big believer in manners and respect. I've been at work since 9am...it's 10pm now and before I go home I'm taking the time to send a reply to all the flirts and messages I've received. Yes, I'm tired, yes I'm hungry but I do believe in replying, preferably within 24 hours of receiving a message or flirt. I'm sure there are many women out there like me...well maybe not quite so dedicated to being in the office for 13 hours (or nuts) but lots of rhp women do appreciate the rhp men. There are already templates available for replying to messages. Keep persisting and you're sure to hit the jackpot. It is a numbers game and while the guys have to put more work into chasing, I believe the women also need to put the same amount of work into responding! Hugs, Ms Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
It happens all the time.... if someone sends a msg we always reply ... with a basic msg to know if they are really interested or not .. and about 40% we never hear back from .... We then think .... have they bothered to read our profile and know what we are about, or just sending a msg to see if they will get a response... No dam idea.Yes women will complain that they are bombarded with msgs and winks... but hey that is what these sites are for, isnt it? But they wouldn't complain if they were paid up members and had to send msgs to the guys who were guest members.... or they would be writing the same thing as you have state HBB.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Waz, I empathise with you. It really is annoying to not receive a reply.Anumber do, with a positive or negative response. But so many dont.Its just rude. One example i had a few days ago, was i came across a profile that was very basic.Little or no info. Its a bit hard to write much of a message, so i thought i would send a flirt.I got a "Ive got some free time please message me response, which i did. You think i got an answer..NO.Was the message read..YES. Ive tried to make my profile interesting with some stuff about myself.Ive actually asked some of the ladies on RHP to critique it for me, and all have come up with a good response. I usually try and send a nice message, but it can be hard at times. Its not all complaints by the way.Lots have replied, and ive met some great people..but i wish more would. Ms Saturn well done!! Keep up the replys..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Waz, The number of men on RHP way outweigh the number of woman, and they are being inundated with flirts and messages. I think if you read profiles properly and send messages to those whos criteria you match would be a good start. (damn i should take my own advice). And i can only assume that women prefer a message that at least says hello, how are you? before you tell them what you want to do to them and how your going to do it. (Ladies correct me if im wrong lol). So keep plugging away (no pun intended lol), keep smiling and be patient. Cheers Scott
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RHP User
16 years ago
there are a lot of people on here with no manners or standards it seems.. but we figure if they dont even know what common courtesy is, what are their hygiene and for-play skills going to be like? The same!! hopeless So we just figure people who cant answer are just rude pricks and probably no good at adventures any way no loss...block them and move on to fun people with manners Neo
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RHP User
16 years ago
If its clear by either your message or your profile that you havent bothered to read my profile....then should I really be obliged to send you a "no" reply???If you had read it you would already know that you're not what Im looking for.I think my profile is pretty clear about what Im after....but some still choose to ignore it and send me shit.If I get a nice polite, well written message....for the most part....I will reply.Just my opinion....BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
NeoAndBlaze, all i can say is you have just hit the nail right on the head, what you said was perfect, and could not of been said any better.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with Miss BJ about those who haven't bothered to read my profile but send a flirt anyway is frustrating but I would still try to send a reply of 'thanks but no thanks'....most of the time. I tend not to respond to the ones that say "just wanted to say i loved your profile"...seems a bit arrogant to shoot off a No response to a compliment??? Having said that, and even after declined politely, you still get multiple additional flirts from the same guy so what is the point in having taken the time to say no when they don't take it on board? Give me a well thought out, articulate and interesting email anyday...as opposed to a generic and bland flirt that shows nothing of their personality. Kit
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RHP User
16 years ago
while i have been in the process of finding myself...yeah, it's a bugga i know...especially as i am finding new hiding possies...hehei have been guilty...oh so guilty...of sending really crass emails...and flirts to women not totally matching what i was looking for...and so was not surprised to not receive a reply...heyy...those were my early days...now that i am feeling more comfortable with myself...i only make contact with someone whomakes me feel like i want to be their friend...hmmm...not really sure if that makes sense...Now...to all you guys who send flirts and emails and get no replies...are you sure you are sending them to the right sort of women...how well do you match....and you have to understand....if you think a girl is hot...then probably a thousand other men do as well....so, if you don't get a reply, don't think she's a bitch...she is probably so inundated, that it can be quite overwhelming...let me cite you one case from a woman i know but is not on this site anymore...she joined and received nearly 300 emails in 3 days !!!!!....not to mention the flirts...chat requests...friend requests...her profile was viewed over 1000 times in those 3 days...!!!....so while you might think WOW!!...she went URRRKKKK...and said goodbye to rhp...do you get the idea now?...cheersjose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Its just plain rude Waz.. good riddance to bad rubbish I say... you should thank yrouself lucky that they aren't playing you for a fool. HUgs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thanks for the response guys yes i think the over all view is its rude not to reply to a well thought out well mannered email. I dont really send flirts any more as i found it was a waste of time even if the lady did respond no details can be exchanged i just use them to say liked your profile etc.neoand blaze too true lol Jose i understand your friend had heaps of email etc but use the template and block if you have to easy fix.missbj and kitty i understand guys not looking at your profile again but block template etc Scott i do that its the forst line hi how are you etc a quick intro still no reply 70% of the time but i will keep pluggingThe other point i forgot to mention and im sure most will agree, not getting replies effects what you write to other people i have been guilty of writing shorter or more to the point messages even rude ones because im not sure if im gonna receive a reply. Also why do people say ill fill this in later and never do what are you ment to write to them about ??Oh well ill put my soap box away for the night and try and find a nice lady who will respond. then maybe plug her lol cheerswaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
It is amazing how bad some peoples manners are.... We do our best to be polite to all those who have taken the trouble to send us a message. (Not that we expect or get many..) In some cases we have sent messages back saying "Thanks, but no thanks." and even had a reply back saying thank you for replying. This ended up with us exchanging more messages and becoming chat friends.... lol.. So, from our perspective... Politeness, honesty and openness does pay off... Oh, and to those rude people who send nothing but abuse... their loss as that is what blocking is all about. Good luck to you all and may the good manners and politeness your mothers taught you pay off.. Mr & Mrs Av. xoxo
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RHP User
16 years ago
I always reply to messages (not so good on the flirts)....as I would in real life if I was spoken to. Sometimes the entire message is "how are you?" and my reply is simply "great thanks". The messages that hike my interest are the ones that don't presume or pressure me. A message that says "Lets chat" makes me back off, but one that invites me to chat "if you would like to chat", makes me think twice...and I go back and look at the profile again. Just my thoughts...
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RHP User
16 years ago
the ladies who send YOU a friend request, as well as adding you to their hotlist, and STILL don't reply?? haha. Strange cattle... I call it the "Facebook Disease". Whoever has the most friends is king...
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RHP User
16 years ago
i don't know. i don't think there are any hard and fast rules here... Like if ur out in a bar and somebody who ur not interested in/attracted to approaches u to have a chat, or propositions u etc....are u really gonna be bothered to engage these ppl in conversation? And would your willingness to converse with such ppl diminish if u had 20-30+ of these ppl trying to approach u on the regular? I know i wouldn't be bothered....hell, i know i haven't replied to every single msg i have received here...and believe me if i've been on the other end of a "non-reply" heaps more times....i just don't feel there is an obligation to respond to somebody just cos they msgd u... Just accept their silence to mean "no"...don't get cut about it...and man-up.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Exactly Ridge... I've had long legged women chasing me all around the forum for months, flirting with me... adding me as their contact.... sending me flirts and messages that I scarcely ever reply to, and when push comes to shove... they'll say I'm just not their type... Well.... it's not like I'm here for sex anyway... so I could have told them that right from the out! hehe. Let's face it, women like to have some spare men on a string to entertain them and make them feel sexy. Hornybigboy... you've got to decide what type of man are you? The type to get all worked up because women take advantage of your caring nature? Or the type that says "fuck you, biatch".... and then does exactly that. You have to choose a team mate. You and me Ridge. There's no way we are going to have too many friends on here... because you've got your account locked.. and I'm a married narccicist with "baggage". hehe. Hugs Stalky<<< thinks Spankkrock is kewl too.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I know mate... Those same long legged ladies have been chasing me too! They all want a bit of Stalky/Ridge action...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yeah.. all of them begging for a bit of Ridge/Stalky tag team play, I'd say Ridge...... or spit roasted.. or DP... same ol' same ol' same hole. Just once I'd love a woman to ask me to do something unique for a change. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
and spank...ya always spot on...cheersjose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Waz Good post although this post keeps appearing. Aussie you have it in a nutshell, depending on the profile is dependant whether you are going to receive a response or not. Be smart!!!!! Be smart in sending any msg or flirt to the applicable person/profile...hence you will receive a smart/polite response in return whether it be in the negative or positive. You can tell by reading certain profiles whether you are going to get a response. Hope that makes sense. Having said that, I do believe in honesty and manners. To everyone! it's not hard to click a return flirt or write a return flirt/msg, heck if it is too hard just type back. Just a click but always be kind. My theory. xxxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Maybe some of the Generic Flirt criteria needs to be tweeked. I tend to think that a 'flirt' is the way to start the ball rolling. The chance for the other party to size up what you've got on offer then let you know if theres a connection or a spark there. Lets face it, first impressions count whether its sight or tactile contact in a bar/club scenario, .....or your skills (or sometimes lack there of) in presenting an appropriate RHP profile. Maybe an easy, but compulsory Flirt Reply button/tab. A flat out No Thanks.... or a Yes(or similar) with a drop down field of assorted replies. Unfortuantely, I possess a penis so I dont get innundated. I do however sit on the side of the fence that most flirts i send remain unrequited.....oh woah is moi
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