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Why the fixation ...
July 07 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree, and I find it quite hypocritical when all the of the men who have a go at these 'self-advertisers' do exactly the same thing themselves, just because they're not doing a separate post about it doesn't make it any less obvious. And we women self-advertise as well, all the time. I know I do. And really, aren't most of us on here - at least in part - to be noticed? So that people will contact us and want to have sex with us? I haven't noticed that many shy, retiring types in the forums lately, knocking back any attention that they get from other forum posters.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nothing to add to what Lucky and TWW said. I agree
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't advertise so that people will want to have sex with me though LuckDragon. I think I must just be an exhibitionist I guess, a bragger? I am not sure but I know I love to talk about it... I am sure a psychiatrist could explain it to me. Lol. I know some people view me as a pain in the butt ... And not because of my strapon. :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
Please introduce me to this strap on Meeks. Apparently I have a butt that begs for it. Well that's what I was told recently by a lady friend of mine :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
If a guy advertises, well I will be happy to answer the thread I think it helps them not to just advertise their goodies. for women the goodies are all the men want me thinks so a few pictures does that for men they need to add a bit more for women to want them funny how when women complain we are bitches...that shits me to tears I complain because a want to, and it has nothing to do with my cunt its just about me being a cunt!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't comment much in the forums but it is a way of getting noticed I have heard.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I confess I haven't noticed these criticisms, but surely the short answer is that most, if not all, posts are at least in part a means of putting the poster, and his/her attributes, in the marketplace. What could be wrong with that?
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RHP User
13 years ago
If the mods let the advertisements through, then good for the person writing it. And indeed, men cutting down others while blatanly declaring how they posses all the secrets on how to engage a woman's mind and body, annoys the crap out of me. You know who you are. *Goes to tend to another nosebleed*
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On_Safari
13 years ago
I still think we're all within our rights to freely express ourselves and post topics about whatever we choose BUT just lately has anyone noticed how repetitive some of the topics have become? Yes yes I know (and still encourage) the newbs to post, ask questions and even do some self-promoting but maybe RHP could develop some kind of one page induction that opens straight after creating the profile that lists the most common/repetitive forum topics/questions like How to give oral male/female, blowjob do's and dont's, Anal....is it in or out?, Age Limitations and other Myths? Yes there's the frequently asked questions newbs etc section in the sidebar but maybe if they were inducted into Forum Ettiquette and shown where to go to get those answers there'd be fewer repetitive topics. (Sigh) just sayin'. BTW nice boa Lady T :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
....sandwiched between a few ego statements. Like when a guy pipes up and say's, (albeit in his own convoluted way)........"I have a dick so why aren't I getting laid?!!!" A lot of the posts you describe about men "cutting other men down" are often just attempts to educate these guys that just because you've hung your dick out in the breeze doesn't mean women are going to automatically fall on it? ...........You need more skills than that! There are some regular males posters here who are genuinely, and in their own way, educating other males about what women want. Sometimes, there is be a bit of chest beating thrown in. They are men after all.From the experienced to the less experienced (or even deluded), back in the day they called it "A biff under the earhole!" and it worked. Now it's not allowed. It has to be all "PC", politically correct, but look how that's working for everyone?Quite frankly, even society is screaming out for more than that.deepbluesomething *hanging her balls out there*
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RHP User
13 years ago
That comment is the same old same old comment that I have being seeing for three years too. I think for all the regulars when it becomes so painful and you find yourself getting annoyed at all the repetition, it is time for a break. Well for me anyway... I start getting narky and frustrated, so I know its time for a time out!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I don't advertise so that people will want to have sex with me though LuckDragon. I think I must just be an exhibitionist I guess, a bragger? I am not sure but I know I love to talk about it... I am sure a psychiatrist could explain it to me. Lol. I know some people view me as a pain in the butt ... And not because of my strapon. :p Oh yes I know everyone has their own reasons for posting, not all are here to get sex, but I freely admit that one of my reasons is to be noticed, hopefully by people that I could one day meet and have some fun with (of course that fun doesn't necessarily always have to be sexual in nature). Living up here I need all the help I can get . And I think I could say that for a good proportion of the people on here (that one of their reasons for posting is to meet like-minded people for play, not that they need all the help they can get ). What is one of the things we always say to new people; "Post on the forums, it's a good way to get noticed." I therefore think it's silly to berate people when they do post to get noticed, and may be another thing that confuses and scares away new posters. I think it's great that you like to talk about all the stuff you do, and that you are so open Meeka. You've given me a hell of a lot of stuff to think about - not to mention ideas for things I now want to try out myself - and I'm sure many others on here would say that as well!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
:-) DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
Firstly:Advertising is typically an annoyance. It rarely has anything informational or interesting to say, it is all about the product. Boring.Smarter sellers are much less direct. Create some interesting content and wait for the buyers to come. If you are doing it right you are contributing to the community along the way. Not boring.Secondly:It's a competitive market. There are a lot more men here than women. If you are going to advertise, you have to expect some push back from the competition. You can't just run more ads here to win, so the next best thing is to discredit the competition instead.Thirdly:The push back is often effective, unlike the advertising. In the more obvious examples the advertiser typically is goaded into revealing they are a bit of a dick.It's all inevitable I'm afraid. It does get a bit boring, particularly when the response is to call the OP out for advertising without adding anything of value in the process. Hey Pot, this is Kettle, you're black.Mr C.(now available in three convenient sizes, and lasts longer than ever)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' If the mods let the advertisements through, then good for the person writing it. And indeed, men cutting down others while blatanly declaring how they posses all the secrets on how to engage a woman's mind and body, annoys the crap out of me. You know who you are. *Goes to tend to another nosebleed* Annoys the crap out of us too....
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am all for talking up the UNION ... we back baby!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Education is only education if it's an act of service, without ego or judgment or superiority. I'm afraid I disagree with you. I find the kind of cutting down some men, and even some women, do, serves no other purpose than to belittle the poster. Sure, the poster might be a wanker with no hope of getting laid, but he has a right to post whatever he wants (eg to advertise) and he'll find out soon enough that his advertisement has fallen flat when people ignore it. If people want to help others, then help - say something like "hey man, it can get frustrating in here sometimes. Read through the forums, learn what you can, improve what you can and hopefully your luck will change. All the best." That's education. Saying things like "another pathetic advertiser" or whatever it might be, is nasty. Saying something like that and then espousing your wisdoms from on high about how to be a real man is just bloody immature. Just my opinion, I accept others might not share it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am over and out of the forums for a while. I am actually over all the winging on here and in particular the snide remarks about the regulars.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'TongueCramps' Quoting 'Mesmerised' If the mods let the advertisements through, then good for the person writing it. And indeed, men cutting down others while blatanly declaring how they posses all the secrets on how to engage a woman's mind and body, annoys the crap out of me. You know who you are. *Goes to tend to another nosebleed* Annoys the crap out of us too.... hmmmm i wonder who shes talking about......lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' :-) DG ....currently leading the league in the egomaniac stakes.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I chat to many women on here or via facebook and get told about the guys. Most women worry about hurting a mans ego and don't want to tell him he is not up to scratch. I say forget the hurt crap and tell him as that is the only way he will improve as most guys wont know unless told or as I say why tell me I was not the guy....LOL It seems honesty is lost I also blame the guys for what happened to communication So many gay-bi and married men are on here and not telling the woman and that is wrong.. I do have a good laugh when guys contact me even though im straight.. The ones that show pics of there cock must think the ladies or I are fish so they dangle there worms.. LMAO
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RHP User
13 years ago
Funny She did a bitchy about bitchy
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RHP User
13 years ago
To be honest, I see it from a lot of people, not just one. From regulars and newbies. From men and women. Everyone's entitled to an opinion, of course. It's the cut downs and meanness I object to. I think they detract from the forums rather than add to them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Parachute: Used once, never opened. $300 ono.
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RHP User
13 years ago
so they can go and sort out their own shit without the women looking over their shoulder.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree with deep blue mostly, but i will further it by adding, long gone are the days when you could call a spade a spade, without sterilising your opinion to acknowledge all angles of a discussion. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
13 years ago
But I'm with you 3 Wise Words, if you have nothing constructive or nice to say, say nothing at all. I revisited Mrs Splicey's thread lastnight and was disappointed at how the interaction became a slinging match. :( I'm no angel, fair enough; but if I may, don't you guys feel that you are letting yourselves down when you slip into "mudsling" mode? For the most part I believe the regulars here are pretty decent, insightful, accepting and dare I say "genuine" people. It kinda bursts my deluded bubble when I see some of the vicious, yes ladies and gents; vicious diatribe that is directed at others to berate, demean or invalidate them for daring to have or share thier opinion. Come on team, I want to keep thinking of the forums as an "inclusive and fair" society not a biased powertripping judgemental censurious one. Now, let's all say sorry to each other for past lapses in decorum, huddle in closer and have a virtual group hug. Play nice peeps it's so much more fun for everyone, even just the readers. Peacekeeping Indy.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'deepbluesumthing'I think the men could do with their own 'Secret Men's Business' thread... so they can go and sort out their own shit without the women looking over their shoulder. The guys do have their own forum just like the gals do Blue
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RHP User
13 years ago
It was a forum set up not so long ago by RHP that I was very thankful for. I thought it would give the newbies a plce to be safe from bored, narky forumites and so it has been mostly. I was pleased to see a new thread yesterday by a RHPer who has left and returned to RHP under a new name etc. The OP was well wriiten, self-effacing, respectful and simply saying hi,The first three comments were in my opinion, just plain rude, obnoxious and unnecessary. The next three posts, all by regulars, were no fuss and simply welcoming. (Sorry Paintme, I wasn't at all sure what you were trying to put across with your post). Brilliant post mostly I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E, some of it I don't entirely agree with though. I thought Mrs Splicey's thread had maintained a slinging mud atmosphere right from the word go, but with some beautiful pearls of wisdom in among the dross. Despite not putting across what I wanted to say in the best way, I feel like I have opened up something of a dialogue with Mrs Splicey which has made my day, I hope to get get back there later. I'd like to think some of what I've said has been positive. Wasn't it you offering to shoot someone the other day Ms Peacekeeper? The thing I've been most aware of over the weekend is that none of us are perfect AND I think we all have our good points! xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
it's a tad hypocritical to pick on D.G....in amongst what he says...and really he doesn't actually say a lot...there is some good advice...I don't always agree with what he has to say but will defend his right to say it. Life is not always about nice,and sometimes when people say negative things, it actually says more about them than the person their comments are directed towards.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Some people responded to my post, and do want to point out I said men, not man. Yes, I think DG is one of those men, but definitely not the only one.
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RHP User
13 years ago
The returning newbie thread you refer to is the exact thread that prompted my OP. I thought the thread started in a pretty laid back, harmless way, and then three posters jumped on the poor bloke completely unnecessarily. Freya, I agree it's not nice to pick on someone here. If I have a particular beef with a particular person, I usually take it up with them directly. My thread was never meant to target particular people.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'll struggle on..... D and G
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RHP User
13 years ago
You can call a spade whatever you want. Life is all about choices and consequences. If you want to be an asshole, be one. But be prepared for people around you to react - either in kind, or by calling out that you're an asshole (or petty, or snide, or full of bs, or whatever it may be) and suggesting that you reconsider your approach. The freedom to call a spade a spade without consequence is effectively anarchy. Fortunately crowds are great levellers - when people step of of line crowds tend to pull them back in, or eject them completely. At its biological and social core, this mechanism protects the survival of the species. So, go for it, be who you want to be and how you want to be. Good luck with that ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Three_Wise_Words' To be honest, I see it from a lot of people, not just one. From regulars and newbies. From men and women. Everyone's entitled to an opinion, of course. It's the cut downs and meanness I object to. I think they detract from the forums rather than add to them. I was actually referring to Mesmerised's comment OP, it wasnt directed at you, i dont know who you are referring to, but i have a fair idea who she was
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' So many gay-bi and married men are on here and not telling the woman and that is wrong.. Not telling me you're married, is cheating. Not telling me you're bi, is cheating me! But seriously, I agree with the married bit.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Get a grip. Bold and red. Like a Beaujolais. It's not that hard.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPyre' It was a forum set up not so long ago by RHP that I was very thankful for. I thought it would give the newbies a plce to be safe from bored, narky forumites and so it has been mostly. I was pleased to see a new thread yesterday by a RHPer who has left and returned to RHP under a new name etc. The OP was well wriiten, self-effacing, respectful and simply saying hi,The first three comments were in my opinion, just plain rude, obnoxious and unnecessary. The next three posts, all by regulars, were no fuss and simply welcoming. (Sorry Paintme, I wasn't at all sure what you were trying to put across with your post). Brilliant post mostly I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E, some of it I don't entirely agree with though. I thought Mrs Splicey's thread had maintained a slinging mud atmosphere right from the word go, but with some beautiful pearls of wisdom in among the dross. Despite not putting across what I wanted to say in the best way, I feel like I have opened up something of a dialogue with Mrs Splicey which has made my day, I hope to get get back there later. I'd like to think some of what I've said has been positive. Wasn't it you offering to shoot someone the other day Ms Peacekeeper? The thing I've been most aware of over the weekend is that none of us are perfect AND I think we all have our good points! xxx I was referring to to cold reception he received. The amount of chilly comments sometimes mean that we could all do with some warming up sometimes. Sometimes I just talk shit.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'paintme' I was referring to to cold reception he received. The amount of chilly comments sometimes mean that we could all do with some warming up sometimes. Sometimes I just talk shit. Gotcha Paintme, I wasn't too sure, thanks for taking the time to explain, I was pretty what you meant was in that vein. ... n don't we all talk shit sometimes.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Lol yes I did suggest shooting someone, sometimes peacekeeping actually requires harsher action to drive the nail home. I wasn't naming names or singling anyone out and I even said I was no Angel. Agree with you about the pearls of wisdom to be found everywhere. ~insert thumbs up~ all good the dross ebbs and flows. PaintMe I love you, I feel like facepainting Lol ~you can kick me up the bum when we meet!!!~ Haha hope you get better offers today. (BIG smile!!) Indy xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
There's a gun called a peacemaker xXx
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madotara69
12 years ago
Firstly, and foremost Is my lovely wife Tara, and she will read anything I might say, so it certainly does me no favors if I fuck up. For example Three wise words, Now this is only a thought, yet may be seen as a delinquent level when measured to any form of intelligent type intelligibly, and it is known that I am one half of another wit,but you girls got him, spruced him up, yes miss T, then he has become to sexual induced frenzy, I fear trapped in the dungeons and used as just another sex object by you, sorry those women with just sex on the agenda. And For the pure courage to hold strength, especially to be of the stature youngens look up to for guidance with admiration, the ship and crews First Mate. I for one believe will rise to the occasions and find the energy with spirit to not be fucked to the death, and you, sorry you all post as so innocent and caring, thoughtful and so so unselfish girly girls.Now back to example three wise words! when I look at your poster pic, all I can think is how cool it would be to fuck you, and you fuck us, and we fuck you for ever and on into the universe we would fuck, because you are just that sexy. But that is only what I sorry we think, and If I said it people maybe you, might say or think! That I have been rude to say such things and only see you as a sex object, and to be expected. But that is the way us men become to allured and taken to the desires of woman and their woman.It is so obvious that you three wise words are one of the woman in this woman thing, because innocent girl's just do not look so hot and seductive to induce such impulsive obsessive fixations.Now I and maybe some others may be interested to see whether, Me for the example said, and the spoken sort of said, All I think for right now, is how passionate would sex be with you, if that photo expresses what you need to be satisfied completely. Then we could touch on things like knowing stuff about each other. But the picture says pure sensual intensity for orgasms the priority and that the measures to be in favour, to whether you lose control with control and fall into uncontrollable full body orgasms, How I eg, think or feel as a man sits much further down on that list woman have.Yes I expect you will be supported strongly by your woman's woman, for what you all may think I thought,and tell me what they and likely you think about that.. But I can not be just half of a wit, and it is all in the history back in the early pages of the, yes Man and manly way men can do things in premenition and preparation, for preservation. The big bang. and Knowing men are going to be right, you woman, not girlys, will be stubborn to feeding these sexual desires and fixate with passion, just so you can have your way with men, taking no responsibility for the physical and mental condition of well-being state once exhausted an considered to be of no further use and dis-guarded to be hobo on some park bench.At least a Lady will feed their man while having her way with him, thus a gentleman can have honor to provide the womanly desires the lady so needs, and must have. If not Valium seems to be the vice to be in complicated times,even discombobulated or woman moments with the time factored as tender if emotions are flowing.Sorry but this is no laughing matter, and three wise words, you asked the question armed and ready to indulge upon the naive men who may fall into the ad-gender set by the woman's woman.bet you were not expecting to get this factual and accurate statement, just some jokes. But you are delectable and have me first mate which is no bargain, give him back and I will sit with just what I thought, without configuring the facts within. Up to youMado
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RHP User
12 years ago
you my friend, are indeed a National Treasure
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RHP User
12 years ago
The bitching, snide remarks, grandstanding, the rude, the crude, the dumb arses and the pseudo intellectuals.Says more than an A4 profile.Why coach a dipshit to write the perfect profile ?Some see meat, some see poison or blue cheese, raspberries and Belgian beer.Bring it on.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think maybe your post was awesome/funny/cool/thought provoking :) But I'm not sure. Freya, any chance you could interpret for me?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mado is just riffing,kinda like an old beatnik with bongos...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I forgot to say TWW....I think Mado was hitting on you
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya73' I forgot to say TWW....I think Mado was hitting on you I have needed to clench the cold teaspoon and give this painful erection a couple at least good firm whacks.But my loyalties are still to my first mate, and other half of a wit, that is being craftily avoided. I am no good to him if falling into this man cave you are holding all the victims seduced. So the tea spoon is my shield, protecting my sword,, and soothing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Once upon a time there was a Poster named Mado who had the uncanny, somewhat amusing but normally long manner of carefully, but craftily writing immensely long, but detailed - verb filled sentences designed to put you to.....Zzzzzzzzzz
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'tickled_kink' Once upon a time there was a Poster named Mado who had the uncanny, somewhat amusing but normally long manner of carefully, but craftily writing immensely long, but detailed - verb filled sentences designed to put you to.....Zzzzzzzzzz I also have put my thoughts as creative and less for the logical Mr Zzzzzzzzzz. And you write with a stutter, and need to stop and think and try to give a thought to think and thanks to you but back to kink. Vitamin B and lots of zink may help your energy to not sleep so deeply-... .Mado
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